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Can a bisexual have a trully committed relationship with someone of the same sex, or do they need bo
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Sexual orientation has nothing to do with monogamy. This is why people have the common misconception that bisexuality is your free pass to fuck any and everything you want. That is totally not the case. Sure, if you're in an open relationship, sleeping around would be fine. But being bisexual isn't just about the sex. The definition of monogamy is to stay committed to ONE individual. The sex of that individual is not the deciding factor. Bisexual people stay monogamous the same way heterosexual or homosexuals do. If you bring other people into your bedroom, then you are no longer monogamous. If you sleep with other people to satisfy a need, you are no longer monogamous. No matter how you spin it. No matter how much your partner approves it or allows it. No matter if they watch or participate. The moment a relationship is open to another, then it is no longer monogamous.
Bisexuality is not synonymous to fucking around. It just means you're attracted to both sexes, be it emotional, physical, or both. But it does not mean that you have to fuck both sexes simultaneously in order to be happy. Being bisexual and monogamous just means you've found someone you're attracted to, regardless of what is or isn't dangling between their legs, and you've decided to stay committed to them and only them. That's how monogamy works. Being bisexual doesn't redefine or change the rules of monogamy.
Keeping all of this in mind, yes, a bisexual can have a truly committed relationship. It's really up to the individual.
Bisexuality is not synonymous to fucking around. It just means you're attracted to both sexes, be it emotional, physical, or both. But it does not mean that you have to fuck both sexes simultaneously in order to be happy. Being bisexual and monogamous just means you've found someone you're attracted to, regardless of what is or isn't dangling between their legs, and you've decided to stay committed to them and only them. That's how monogamy works. Being bisexual doesn't redefine or change the rules of monogamy.
Keeping all of this in mind, yes, a bisexual can have a truly committed relationship. It's really up to the individual.
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Sexual orientation has nothing to do with monogamy. This is why people have the common misconception that bisexuality is your free pass to fuck any and everything you want. That is totally not the case. Sure, if you're in an open relationship, sleeping around would be fine. But being bisexual isn't just about the sex. The definition of monogamy is to stay committed to ONE individual. The sex of that individual is not the deciding factor. Bisexual people stay monogamous the same way heterosexual or homosexuals do. If you bring other people into your bedroom, then you are no longer monogamous. If you sleep with other people to satisfy a need, you are no longer monogamous. No matter how you spin it. No matter how much your partner approves it or allows it. No matter if they watch or participate. The moment a relationship is open to another, then it is no longer monogamous.
Bisexuality is not synonymous to fucking around. It just means you're attracted to both sexes, be it emotional, physical, or both. But it does not mean that you have to fuck both sexes simultaneously in order to be happy. Being bisexual and monogamous just means you've found someone you're attracted to, regardless of what is or isn't dangling between their legs, and you've decided to stay committed to them and only them. That's how monogamy works. Being bisexual doesn't redefine or change the rules of monogamy.
Keeping all of this in mind, yes, a bisexual can have a truly committed relationship. It's really up to the individual.
Bisexuality is not synonymous to fucking around. It just means you're attracted to both sexes, be it emotional, physical, or both. But it does not mean that you have to fuck both sexes simultaneously in order to be happy. Being bisexual and monogamous just means you've found someone you're attracted to, regardless of what is or isn't dangling between their legs, and you've decided to stay committed to them and only them. That's how monogamy works. Being bisexual doesn't redefine or change the rules of monogamy.
Keeping all of this in mind, yes, a bisexual can have a truly committed relationship. It's really up to the individual.
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Sexual orientation has nothing to do with monogamy. This is why people have the common misconception that bisexuality is your free pass to fuck any and everything you want. That is totally not the case. Sure, if you're in an open relationship, sleeping around would be fine. But being bisexual isn't just about the sex. The definition of monogamy is to stay committed to ONE individual. The sex of that individual is not the deciding factor. Bisexual people stay monogamous the same way heterosexual or homosexuals do. If you bring other people into your bedroom, then you are no longer monogamous. If you sleep with other people to satisfy a need, you are no longer monogamous. No matter how you spin it. No matter how much your partner approves it or allows it. No matter if they watch or participate. The moment a relationship is open to another, then it is no longer monogamous.
Bisexuality is not synonymous to fucking around. It just means you're attracted to both sexes, be it emotional, physical, or both. But it does not mean that you have to fuck both sexes simultaneously in order to be happy. Being bisexual and monogamous just means you've found someone you're attracted to, regardless of what is or isn't dangling between their legs, and you've decided to stay committed to them and only them. That's how monogamy works. Being bisexual doesn't redefine or change the rules of monogamy.
Keeping all of this in mind, yes, a bisexual can have a truly committed relationship. It's really up to the individual.
I think this is largely true, but you have to be willing to give up something in your sex life to make it work. Imagine being in a committed relationship but knowing your partner was never going to be able to engage in something you craved. How many of us could accept that oral sex was forever off the table? In theory, yes, for someone you loved you would, but in the back of your mind how long would that really be acceptable?
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I don't see why not. A heterosexual person can give up other men and women during marriage. No not all of them but yes many can do it and remain faithful to their spouses. It depends on your level of commitment. Yes it is hard, but you have to choose what you want in your life and how important your relationship is.
I was married for 5 years to a wonderful woman. For those 5 years I was faithful to her...no other men or women except for one brief encounter that was dictated by her in the first year of our marriage. She wanted to try a 3some and she chose one of her friends from college to experiment with. We had our 1 and only adventure outside our relationship with a girl friend of hers. My wife did not enjoy it and we never did it again.
Our relationship ended but it had nothing to do with infidelity or the sex or lack of any part.
I was married for 5 years to a wonderful woman. For those 5 years I was faithful to her...no other men or women except for one brief encounter that was dictated by her in the first year of our marriage. She wanted to try a 3some and she chose one of her friends from college to experiment with. We had our 1 and only adventure outside our relationship with a girl friend of hers. My wife did not enjoy it and we never did it again.
Our relationship ended but it had nothing to do with infidelity or the sex or lack of any part.
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I think this is largely true, but you have to be willing to give up something in your sex life to make it work.
Exactly. This is a big part of the definition of commitment. Being willing to give up certain aspects of your life be it space, time, sex, etc. to settle down with one individual. This transcends sexual orientation and has more to do with the core of the person(s) involved.
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I deliberately avoided using the term monogamy as by definition during the time of that relationship you are gay or straight. I am asking about the number of bisexual and bicurious profiles, especially guys, who wouldn't have a same sex relationship. By committed I mean a guy or girl telling the world "this is my boyfriend/girlfriend. You can have open relationships and still be committed to your partner.
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I deliberately avoided using the term monogamy as by definition during the time of that relationship you are gay or straight. I am asking about the number of bisexual and bicurious profiles, especially guys, who wouldn't have a same sex relationship. By committed I mean a guy or girl telling the world "this is my boyfriend/girlfriend. You can have open relationships and still be committed to your partner.
Well when bringing in open relationships, commitment becomes a very gray area. By saying you want to have an open relationship, you're automatically saying you'll be seeking satisfaction elsewhere. So this question then becomes moot, no?
Putting that aside, by what you've described, I don't understand how a person's sexual orientation would prevent them from being in a committed relationship. Not to sound soap boxy, but this is probably what leads to the stigma that bisexuality is synonymous with promiscuity. It's not. Just because you're attracted to both genders doesn't mean you need them simultaneously to be happy and stay committed in a relationship. And I truly believe those that think and practice otherwise are just kind of using it as a crutch to excuse and justify them wanting to screw around.
Now back to your previous point. Open relationships TO ME can be very loose commitments if you're not careful. It's like saying I'm gonna be with you and love you but we're also gonna involve other people and add them to the mix. That seems contradictory to me. Where does one even draw the line of commitment in an open relationship? I know of open relationships and even open marriages that practice this, and they make it work. I don't have much experience with this, as my last open relationship ended (mutually and on a good note, though) and I can only speak from the outside looking in. But I would wager that some serious ground rules have to be in place for something like this to work.
But it seems as if you're saying (or attempting to say) that you can only have a successful relationship with a bisexual person if the relationship is an open one, and that's just not the case at all. Despite your sexual orientation, you can be committed to a person of any sex if you're willing to be.
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I'm not implying that bisexulity=promiscuity. I'm not even talking about open relationships, that was only to steer away from monogamy. Bisexual girls seem more open to the possibility of a same sex relationships. A lot of bisexual guys only seem to want same sex sex! Why? Are they closeted deluding themselves or is there another reason that I haven't realised?