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[CENTER][B]So, you wanna write SEX?
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The easiest way to plot an Erotic Story is to decide on what you want for your climactic sex scene – then build a story and characters around it to make it VITAL for that scene to happen. Once you know who and roughly what you want to happen… Then what?

HOW do you get what's in your imagination down on Paper?

Writing Sex is easier than you might think because it's formulaic. I don't mean the story plots, I mean the sexual actions themselves:

[B][I] Action A > triggers Reaction B, which triggers > Reaction C... [/I][/B]

Once you know what you want to happen, the rest is practically Plug & Play.

[CENTER][B]Where do you get the actual Gymnastics to put on paper?
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Research my lovelies, RESEARCH.

[B]Porn[/B]
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I recommend watching porn -- real porn, as in, live-action movies with people actually doing it. NOT anime porn! While extremely pretty, anime leaves out a LOT of important details such as what’s actually getting wet (sweat, drool, other fluids…) when and how lube is used, and the actual physical reactions that occur, (shudders, flinches, goose-bumps, moans, writhing…)

Be CHOOSY about what you watch. Some of that stuff is NASTY…!

[B]Erotica[/B]
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An easier though less accurate method is by digging out your favorite erotic stories and highlighting the sex scenes you liked best.

Once you have your favorite scenes highlighted, break down what happened and how, then rewrite the whole scene in your own words. You don’t ever want to use exactly the same words, especially not the dialogue, that’s plagiarism. Paraphrasing, on the other hand, is perfectly acceptable.

[B][I]However…![/I][/B]
-- Be aware that the authors you are borrowing from may have missed something or gotten something totally WRONG. This is especially true if you are borrowing from Fan-fiction. A little back-up research on using that particular position or toy might turn out to be physically impossible or might reveal a few exciting tidbits you can use.

[I][B]My Recommendations:[/B][/I]
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[B]Porn: [/B]
-- Anything by Ninn Workx (Google is your friend!) The participants are actually attractive, the sets are very high class, and their genre selections go from sweet & sensual all the way to hard-core kink.

[B]For Het Erotica:[/B]
-- Books by Angela Knight & Laurell K. Hamilton. They write detailed sex that doesn’t make you wanna hurl.

[B]Slash/Gay/Yaoi:[/B]
Go to: [B][I]Minatour's Sex Tips for Slash Writers[/I][/B]
-- Google is your friend!

[CENTER][B]On Anal Sex & LUBE
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- From: [B][I]Minatour's Sex Tips for Slash Writers[/I][/B].
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-- [I]If lube is [B]not used[/B], how much pain there really is? Could it come to real injuries, as in requiring medical treatment?[/I]
-- Madwoman
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"Well, it depends on the guy (or girl) and the circumstances. If the catcher is experienced, and relaxed, it can actually be possible to have non-lubricated anal sex without too much damage or pain. There would probably be some tearing of the anal ring tissue, and some bleeding, but not so much as to require medical attention. On the other hand, if the pitcher is rough, or the catcher inexperienced (or the situation is non-consensual), there could be substantial bleeding requiring a trip to the ER and maybe some stitches (though I don't actually know if stitches would be the best treatment for a tear in that area).

The real danger in anal sex is the possibility of tearing the inner membrane of the anal canal, which can lead to peritonitis, but that is VERY rare in normal sex. It's more likely to happen from or inexperienced fisters (fingernails can be sharp).

For the most part, [B]non-lubed anal sex is a no-go[/B]. The catcher wouldn't be able to stand the pain, though there are guys who are able to relax the muscles enough to do it.
-- Minotaur
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[B][I]In Short:[/I][/B]
-- If the receiver is extremely excited and EXPERIENCED enough to know how to relax their muscles voluntarily enough to allow comfortable penetration, then lube isn't needed. If they're not that experienced then Lube is definitely a necessity.

[B][CENTER]Okay, so now that you know what you want to happen
How do you Write it?
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Writing Sex is easy because it's formulaic - not the stories, the way the sex scenes are written.

[CENTER][B]SEX Scene = ACTION Scene[/B][/CENTER]
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A sex scene is nothing more than an ACTION Scene, with emotional bits tossed in for flavor, and all Action sequences MUST be written in the Order in which they happen - Chronologically! If you want the reader to SEE the actions that you are trying to portray as a movie in their minds, Chronological Order is the ONLY way to do it.

[CENTER][B]ACTION Scenes = Chronological Order
ACTION then REACTION[/B]

Something happens TO the character -- starting a
[B]CHAIN of REACTIONS[/B].[/CENTER]

1. The Character knee-jerk REACTS - Physically...
2. AND they feel the physical sensations of the Happening -- suffering a Physical Reaction.
3. AND THEN they have an Emotional Reaction reflected in their Thoughts and/or Dialogue about what just happened.
4. AND THEN they Do Something in Retaliation.

This Retaliation Action incites the Other character to do something NEW -- starting the whole Chain of Reactions again.

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Violating Chronological Order is Bad.
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[B]Incorrect:[/B]
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The flash of pain exploded in my cheek as her hand lashed out to slap me.
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[B]Correct:[/B]
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Her hand lashed out in a slap. [action]
My cheek exploded with a flash of pain. [reaction]
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[CENTER][B]WHY is Reversing the Actions Bad?
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If you knock the actions out of order, the Reader's Mental Movie STOPS and the Reader has to STOP READING to mentally rearrange what they just read into the correct order to get the movie back. Do it too many times and reading become a chore rather than a pleasure. Never forget, if your story is too hard to read, the reader can always find another story.

[I]Watch out for the Evil [/I]'[B]AS[/B]'.
-- Nine times out of ten, ‘as’ in a sentence means that your Actions and Reactions have been reversed.

-- [I][B]Quick Test[/B][/I]: Replace the word ‘[B]as[/B]’ with the word ‘[B]and[/B]’. If ‘[B]and[/B]’ doesn’t read right in the sentence, you can pretty much guarantee that it’s because your Reactions came before the Action that caused it.

[CENTER][B]WRITING Sex
[I]The Magic Formula![/I]
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[I]Stimulus > Reaction > Perception > Emotion > Response[/I][/B]
[I](> = leads to...)[/I][/CENTER]

1. [B]Stimulus[/B] - Something happened TO the main POV character
2. [B]Reaction[/B] - Their immediate physical reaction (jerk, twitch, kick, punch, groan, shout...) >
3. [B] Perception[/B] - What they sensed physically (saw, smelled, tasted, felt, heard) >
4. [B]Emotion[/B] - How they felt Emotionally >
5. [B]Response[/B] - What they Did or Said* because of what just happened. (*Dialogue is an ACTION!) >

[CENTER][B]In Detail![/B][/CENTER]

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External Action
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1. Physical Act/ what was done TO the main POV character >

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Viewpoint Character’s Reaction
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2. Physical Reaction / Did they: shudder? flinch? writhe? Shout? Kick? Punch? >
3. Sensory Reaction / What it felt like physically >
4. Emotional Reaction / Internal dialogue or Vocal Comment >
5. Deliberate Reaction / What they did or said in retaliation >

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External Reaction
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6. Next Character’s Physical Action and/or Dialogue. > (No Internal Narration! Putting Internal Narration here means you’ve just head-hopped!)

Begin whole thing again:

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Viewpoint Character’s Reaction
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1. Physical Reaction / Did they shudder? flinch? writhe? >
2. Sensory Reaction / What it felt like >
3. Emotional Reaction / Internal dialogue or Vocal Comment >
4. Deliberate Reaction / What they did or said in retaliation >

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Partner’s (External) Reaction
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5. Physical Action/Action or dialogue or Action & then Dialogue. >

Begin whole thing again.
-- Are we having fun yet?

[CENTER][B]In ACTION![/B][/CENTER]
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Partner’s External Action
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[I]Physical Act/ what was done > [/I]
-- In a sudden rush, Sam grabbed Rina's wrist and shoved her back against the wall. His lips came down and covered Rina's.

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Viewpoint Character’s Reaction
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[I]Physical Reaction / Did they shudder? flinch? writhe? >[/I]
-- Rina stiffened in shock.

[I]Sensory Reaction / What it felt like > [/I]
-- The firm lips covering her mouth were surprisingly soft, and moist. She could feel a tongue sweeping against her bottom lip.

[I]Emotional Reaction/ Internal or Vocal Comment > [/I]
-- Sam was kissing her? Sam was kissing her? Sam was kissing her!

[I]Deliberate Reaction / What they did or said in retaliation > [/I]
-- She closed her eyes tight and tried to pull back, but the wall was right against the back of her head. Sam's arms blocked her from moving to either side. Her wrist was trapped, pinned by Sam's hand, so she couldn’t punch some sense into him either. She opened his mouth to shout at the big brute.

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Partner’s External Reaction
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[I]Physical Action/Action or dialogue or Action & then Dialogue. > [/I]
-- Sam's tongue swept into Rina's open mouth to engage Rina's tongue in a warm wet duel.


[I][B]On the Page... [/B][/I]
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In a sudden rush, Sam grabbed Rina's wrist and shoved her back against the wall. His lips came down and covered Rina's.

Rina stiffened in shock. The firm lips covering her mouth were surprisingly soft, and moist. She could feel a tongue sweeping against her bottom lip. Sam was [I]kissing[/I] her? [I]Sam[/I] was kissing her? Sam was kissing [I]her[/I]! She closed her eyes tight and tried to pull back, but the wall was right against the back of her head. Sam's arms blocked her from moving to either side. Her wrist was trapped, pinned by Sam's hand, so she couldn’t punch some sense into him either. She opened her mouth to shout at the big brute.

Sam's tongue swept into Rina's open mouth and engaged Rina's tongue in a warm wet duel.
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[B][CENTER]Grammar Keys:
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[B]ACTION goes BEFORE Thoughts & Comments. [/B]
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-- The body reacts faster than thought. Ask any martial artist. On the other hand, a reactionary comment such as "Ouch!" can go first as it plays the part of an ACTION, rather than a thought.

It has been brought to my attention that someone has been telling the Internet writers that Dialogue always comes before Actions in a paragraph, that paragraphs should Begin with dialogue. This is WRONG. Not one grammar book I own supports this in any way. I also brought this little ‘rule’ to two of my publication editors. They laughed their butts off, then told me that if they ever caught me doing it, they’d kick my ass.

[B]Watch for the Evil 'AS'. [/B]
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-- Nine times out of ten, if you see the word 'As' you've reversed your Actions with your Reactions.

[B]ONE Point of View per Scene! [/B]
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-- Or it gets really confusing as to who is feeling & doing what.

[B]NO SHARING!
-- Separate each character’s actions & dialogue from the next.[/B]
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-- Characters do NOT share Sentences or Paragraphs - EVER. Having two people doing stuff in one paragraph makes the Reader's visuals muddy. The Reader's mental movie - your story - comes to a screeching halt while they try to figure out what the hell just happened.

Put each individual character’s Actions -- AND the Dialogue that goes with those actions -- in a new Paragraph**. It may look choppy on the page, but the reader has absolutely no doubt as to who is doing what. The Reader's perceptions are more important than whether or not your type looks tidy.

**[I](Yes, the dialogue AND the Actions of one character go in the SAME paragraph TOGETHER.)[/I]

When describing Sensations & Emotions, [B]Adjectives are your Friend. [/B]
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-- THIS is where you use all your purple prose. Make every adjective highly opinionated to get the reader right into the action as though THEY are feeling it.

[I][B]In Conclusion:[/B][/I]
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AFTER figuring all this out the hard way, I discovered that this whole routine (Action / Reaction) is explained in exquisite detail in the [I]Writer’s Digest[/I] book: [I][B]Scene and Structure[/B][/I] by Jack Bickham.

Enjoy!

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[B]DISCLAIMER:[/B] [I]As with all advice, take what you can use and throw out the rest. As a multi-published author, I have been taught some fairly rigid rules on what is publishable and what is not. If my rather straight-laced (and occasionally snotty,) advice does not suit your creative style, by all means, IGNORE IT. [/I]
Morgan Hawke
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Purveyor of fine Smut.
Morgan Hawke's DarkErotica ~ My Website
DarkErotica Blog ~ My Writers' blog

"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough."
Albert Einstein
Hi Morgan...I read with interest your article on writing about sex. In it you recommend watching porn as part of your research.

My question is, since you are a professional erotica writer...does that make porn tax deductible?

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Quote by DirtyMartini
Hi Morgan...I read with interest your article on writing about sex. In it you recommend watching porn as part of your research. My question is, since you are a professional erotica writer...does that make porn tax deductible?


YES. This works especially well if you hand the tax guy the receipts and Don't Elaborate on what you actually bought. "This is for research material."
Morgan Hawke
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Purveyor of fine Smut.
Morgan Hawke's DarkErotica ~ My Website
DarkErotica Blog ~ My Writers' blog

"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough."
Albert Einstein
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Quote by DirtyMartini
Hi Morgan...I read with interest your article on writing about sex. In it you recommend watching porn as part of your research. My question is, since you are a professional erotica writer...does that make porn tax deductible?


YES. This works especially well if you hand the tax guy the receipts and Don't Elaborate on what you actually bought. "This is for research material."


Wow, I know what I want to be when I grow up...

Why didn't my high school guidance counselor ever tell me about this job???

You know you want it, you know you need it bad...get it now on Amazon.com...
Lush Erotica, an Anthology of Award Winning Sex Stories
Quote by DirtyMartini
Wow, I know what I want to be when I grow up... Why didn't my high school guidance counselor ever tell me about this job???


Mine didn't either. I lucked into it by being published before I left high school. However, it took almost 18 more years to get published again. By then, though I had learned a great many things about the writing craft and had the life experience to write from.
Morgan Hawke
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Purveyor of fine Smut.
Morgan Hawke's DarkErotica ~ My Website
DarkErotica Blog ~ My Writers' blog

"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough."
Albert Einstein
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Quote by DirtyMartini
Wow, I know what I want to be when I grow up... Why didn't my high school guidance counselor ever tell me about this job???


Mine didn't either. I lucked into it by being published before I left high school. However, it took almost 18 more years to get published again. By then, though I had learned a great many things about the writing craft and had the life experience to write from.


Are you implying that sexual virgins cannot craft decently believable erotic fiction, right out of the chute? Or is it possible to hope that eventually 'they' might get most everything right with healthy doses of online sex chat or web-cam horsing around?

I personally believe it might be difficult to visually discern pupils dilating, nostrils flaring and beads of sweat forming atop your partner's skin (unless you were actually on-site to witness).

Perhaps, as part of their research, they simply gaze into a mirror and watch their own physical reactions as they furiously masturbate?

Welcome to Lush, Morgan
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
If you write erotica in the same way porn sex plays out then why would we read erotica? I would watch porn for that.

Look, I consider myself the deuce of spades in the online deck of cards of erotica authors. WMM maybe a 7 of clubs? But he's right. Virgins will not learn sex from porn. I think that's what he meant with his post anyway.

This guide to erotica seems misguided to me. Centering your story around the sex act reminds me of a micheal bay movie. He centers the plot around the action. Maybe if someone uses it they can let us know so we can see how good your story turned out?

I think you'll find that some of the hottest stories on this site aren't even about the sex but the psychology behind it.

Blah.
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If you write erotica in the same way porn sex plays out then why would we read erotica? I would watch porn for that.

Look, I consider myself the deuce of spades in the online deck of cards of erotica authors. WMM maybe a 7 of clubs? But he's right. Virgins will not learn sex from porn. I think that's what he meant with his post anyway.

This guide to erotica seems misguided to me. Centering your story around the sex act reminds me of a micheal bay movie. He centers the plot around the action. Maybe if someone uses it they can let us know so we can see how good your story turned out?

I think you'll find that some of the hottest stories on this site aren't even about the sex but the psychology behind it.

Blah.


Meh, I read through Morgan's guide. It's basically common sense, observation and then owning a decent command of the language. I was merely poking some fun @ a few stray treys in the deck, around here.

I've read enough stories (back when I was story verifying for Nicola) to recognize dreck from 'Hey, this is pretty good' within 100 words. Many of us who read a lot, can.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
Quote by WellMadeMale
Are you implying that sexual virgins cannot craft decently believable erotic fiction, right out of the chute?


I'm Not implying it, I'm stating it as a Fact. Virgins cannot write decent sex because they don't know what they're writing about.

Quote by WellMadeMale
Or is it possible to hope that eventually 'they' might get most everything right with healthy doses of online sex chat or web-cam horsing around?


IF the writer does serious research involving books and in-depth interviews that ask the right questions, they might actually fool the average reader and/or the sexually inexperienced reader. They won't fool someone with real sexual experience, especially not someone that enjoys sex. They certainly won't fool a professional writer -or editor- with real sexual experience.

Someone who only horses around on web cams and chat lines will never fool anyone.

Quote by WellMadeMale
I personally believe it might be difficult to visually discern pupils dilating, nostrils flaring and beads of sweat forming atop your partner's skin (unless you were actually on-site to witness). Perhaps, as part of their research, they simply gaze into a mirror and watch their own physical reactions as they furiously masturbate?


Actually, they CAN get the descriptions right. Any high quality porn movie will show all those details. What's missed are the FEELINGS and the SENSATIONS. If you've never had sex, how do you describe an orgasm? How about accurately describing the flavor of Semen or vaginal liquid? How about accurately describing the differences between an anal orgasm, a vaginal orgasm or a masturbation orgasm? They are all Orgasms, but where they begin, where they occur, and what they feel like are vastly Different.

Nipples on a woman have a different Texture from a man's nipples. Having a cock in your ass does NOT feel the same as a cock in your pussy. A man having a cock in his ass does NOT feel the same as a woman having one in hers because a man's g-spot is in there. (A woman doesn't have a Prostate.)

Virgins rarely have any clue about the interior g-spot in a woman or a man. Those take physical exploration to find -- and usually by a second party. A virginal woman can't even access hers because the hymen is in the way. Nor does the sensation from such a g-spot feel anything like what one gets from rubbing the cock or the clit.

And that's just scratching the surface of what's commonly missed.

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Welcome to Lush, Morgan


Thank you so much!
Morgan Hawke
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Purveyor of fine Smut.
Morgan Hawke's DarkErotica ~ My Website
DarkErotica Blog ~ My Writers' blog

"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough."
Albert Einstein
Quote by Magical_felix
If you write erotica in the same way porn sex plays out then why would we read erotica? I would watch porn for that.


Actually, I agree 100%. We read erotica for the details we Cannot get in porn; mental, emotional and physical.

Quote by Magical_felix
Virgins will not learn sex from porn.


I think you missed something completely here. This guide was Not meant for virgins. This IS an 'over 18 only' site yes?

I said "watch porn" because when one is sexually experienced, one knows what it feels like, but one doesn't always know what it LOOKS like.

Quote by Magical_felix
This guide to erotica seems misguided to me. Centering your story around the sex act reminds me of a micheal bay movie. He centers the plot around the action. Maybe if someone uses it they can let us know so we can see how good your story turned out?


I think you've missed the point of an erotica story. If sex isn't what makes the story happen it's not Erotica, it's something else.

Edo Von Belkom:
"If you can remove the erotic from the erotica story and still have a viable story in another genre, you did it WRONG."

This is paraphrased from Issac Azimov:
"If you can remove the science from the science-fiction and still have a viable story in another genre, you did it WRONG."

In fact, if sex isn't what makes the story happen, the sex doesn't need to be there. NOTHING that doesn't Do Something, Show Something, or Make something Happen, needs to be in there and Should be CUT.

Quote by Magical_felix
I think you'll find that some of the hottest stories on this site aren't even about the sex but the psychology behind it.


Ah! But that psychology you're so fond of happened BECAUSE of the Sex, therefore those stories ARE centered around sex making them Erotica.
Morgan Hawke
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Purveyor of fine Smut.
Morgan Hawke's DarkErotica ~ My Website
DarkErotica Blog ~ My Writers' blog

"If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough."
Albert Einstein