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Dating as a single parent

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I'm new to the site (hi!) and was wondering whether there are any single parents out there?

I have a three-year-old little boy, split up with my ex-husband 18 months ago and, what with being a full-time working single mum, dating has been horrendous to the point of non-existence, excluding a rebound one night stand on a rare night out last year.

Any advice or experience welcome as I'm really struggling.
simplyjohn
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Any good friends or relatives that live close to you that could babysit sometimes so that you can go out? Perhaps not the same but perhaps you could date at home?... by that I mean have someone over for dinner... presumably your son is in bed fairly early.

Dating sites?

Perhaps non-starters if you need to met someone new.

There must be lots of single parents here so hopefully you will get some good advice. smile
Ls63563
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Im not a single parent so I may not have the proper perspective on this at all, but here goes. If in 18 months you aren't finding dates, I think you must be doing something wrong. How many times have you been oUT for an evening with friends? Do the people you work with know you are single? Seems to me if you were interacting with adulots much at all, you would be meeting a few people who might want to get to know you.
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I think dating after you have become a parent is extremely difficult. It becomes so much less about if the person you are dating is good for right now and more about how they will be. I think that when single parents date they can sometimes impose stricter thoughts on the relationship.

So my advice is to kind of keep that in check. While of course you don't want to parade a line of people in front of your child, I also don't think you will scar them by showing them you don't have to settle. Dating is fun and new. Put it out there and you will get it back eventually.
Magical_felix
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Single moms are my favorite, hit me up.
simplyjohn
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Quote by Magical_felix
Single moms are my favorite, hit me up.


So I saw that you had posted here and thought oh lets see what great advice Jack has presented this time.

So disappointing...

Lol.
Magical_felix
Wild at Heart
Quote by simplyjohn


So I saw that you had posted here and thought oh lets see what great advice Jack has presented this time.

So disappointing...

Lol.



Sorry bud.
black1
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Whilst obvious priority should be given to your little boy. That doesn't mean mums social life has to come to an end. Just wondering if there are any grand parents in the background that can help out when push comes to shove? There are some single mums in our circle of friends and it is difficult but not impossible provided that you really want it to happen of course . As well as the grand parents is there an amicable arrangement with your ex to do his fare share of looking after the little one? The main thing if you can is to get yourself out there and perhaps consider online dating as well ? You will find that your not alone in your situation. Best of luck
Olderfemalepredator4
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Single mom here and getting back into dating myself. Luckily for me my kids are older than yours. 14 daughter and 17 son. They are both cool with me dating and I’ve only brought home two guys to the house. Usually if I see things are getting more serious I will introduce the kids to him at a dinner out somewhere or something like that. I’m always up front with whoever I’m dating that I have a very busy lifestyle, work, and two teenagers so they know up front what to expect.
GMOFLEISURE
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One of my employees was a single mom, in between multiple husbands. She and another husband deficient woman developed a close friendship where they shared a lot of child rearing responsibilities. It took planning and communication but they were able to cover for each other in a lot of situations, including dating. They leaned on each other during pregnancy and were birth coaches for several of their children.
doctorlove
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The struggle is real. People depend on divorce leading them to greener pastures. Life is hard no matter who you share your bed with. Difficult to make another first in your life when your child's father is not or wasn't ever.
Meagananne1986
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Divorced women with a child or children are in for a rough time, especially if they are younger. Not many single men are ready to step into a ready-made family not of their making. Women always get the short shrift when it comes to custody of children of a marriage unfortunately. Even joint custody doesn't solve the problem. The problem, as I said earlier, that many single men aren't ready to date a woman with children. Other divorced men, on the other hand, are often looking for another wife to replace their ex. Especially if they have a child or children as well. They're looking for a fast track wife rather than let nature take its course.
Ls63563
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Are you looking for a fun date or a long term relationship from day one? The second is likely to be a problem. Date and enjoy each others company, then see if something long term is in the cards.