Some great advice here and from reading the posts it would seem communication with eachother is the most important factor.
If you are swinging, that's one thing... If he is just watching you get pleasured by other men, that's something else - my opinion. Hyapatia Lee starred in a porn flick 30 years or more ago that explored this issue... In the film (and in a story here on Lush recently), the one getting all the pleasure, far more than had been experienced previously with the spouse, eventually is ready to leave the spouse.
Of course, there are other games. What if your husband says, well, you've had all this fun, now it's my turn. What do you do? How do you feel?
My wife and I talked about this for a long time and she finally ask how far can see go And I told her as far as she wanted. Seeing her with another guy was the most turn on there is, but, again we talked about for a long time.
The wife and had threesome and I have enjoyed watching here enjoying herself. Before we started I have told her how I felt and she told me how she felt and we both enjoyed it.
I would suggest you try a foursome. Then he can set the pace and you can follow. That way you will know how far he wants you to go. Seems there is already another guy in the scene - he may have a woman prepared to go the same distance. It is and can be great fun.
You seriously need to talk this out. Open marriage is something easy to start but hard to stop. It requires absolute trust. Once you walk through that door your lives will be forever changed.
We have always lived the Open Relationship Life. But I know many who have tried it and had a disaster. So be careful and communicate, communicate, communicate.
The turn on is tremendous, but so it the risk if things go wrong.
One day he may say" I did not mean for you to go that far."
He may throw that event in your face at every disagreement as long as you are together.
So be sure you are in agreement.
Discuss it and discuss it some more before you go there. Then discuss it one more time.
My husband loves it and has brought guys home strickly for me on any number of events.
What you decide, have fun and good luck.
I'm new here to Lush. But want to say thank you to every person who posted a comment. My husband is pushing for me to do another man, and he wants to watch. I'm willing, but don't want to end a marriage. So it sounds like "communication" is the key.
Obviously the two of you should talk about it (preferably when you aren't sexually turned on) and logically decide what you are BOTH comfortable with doing. Unless you both agree it wouldn't be a good idea to do anything more...
A 4 year old post and the original poster hasn't logged on in over a year.
Maybe getting pregnant would be too far.
Bringing extra people into a relationship, whether permanently or temporarily, has an amplification effect. If things are good, they will get better. If things are bad, they will get worse.
It kind of sounds like you are on pretty solid footing and both of you are on board with it. If that is really the case, I’d say go for it.
As your husband is there with you you need to make the third party aware of a safe word. If one of you use it the action stops there. At that stage you begin to discuss how far is too far.
For gods sake talk about it. He enjoys watching you give handjobs so I think he may want to see more. He’s not watching the guy as suggested above. My Hubby loves watching and he’s as straight as. Before we began our journey a lot of discussion took place so go talk.
