Erotica's aren't the most accurate portrayal of sex for either guys or girls, it's basically meant for the readers to use as a fantasy, so basically I don't think reading raunchy stories would enhances the expectations but surely it's fantasy food, a delight for minds
It's a really interesting question. When you go exploring you are bound to learn something new, the big question is do you have a partner that also has a curiousity? If not it could lead to disappointment as their interests lie in other pursuits than the pleasures of the flesh. While partners need not be compatable in all areas, one must have an open mind and sex is a biggie.
I've pondered this a time or two, more like hundreds of times, over the years because I've been reading these types of stories for a long time. Yes, I'm older than a lot of you here but not dead. Nonetheless, erotica is more about fantasy in my opinion. Yes, some things that are written are true but some of the details and descriptions have been, shall we say, over blown for the sake of the story. There are times you can tell what's fact or fiction in the stories we read.
Yes, there are things to learn from these stories and I've always loved to apply or try new things I've learned. But that doesn't mean every time I have sex there's a story to be told. Also, when you've had that sexual that can be made a story, its fun to put it together and see if anyone else likes it.
Fantasies are great, aren't they? It's always interesting to read erotica because in truth, it's someone's mind that is telling the story, not their body or their looks. It's a mental thing...
I don't see erotica as pure fantasy... I see it as pure 'potential' when you are with the right partner.
It also serves to highlight the importance of sexual compatibility between a couple... you can really push the boundaries and limits when you have the right connection and are similarly open-minded.
In my humble opinion the stories enhance real life experiences, although there is no way 99% of the story scenarios will ever play out. But when you write, you don't write about the mundane. You write about the exceptional!
if you read and enjoy within context it should be enhancing in your sex life....it is more about fantasy than reality...I may fantasize about getting gangbanged but in reality I doubt I would do it...but the idea sure excites me...leading to other pleasures
Some authors write stories that are based on their own experiences or those of someone they do know, some are just fantasy, some are actual stories. Have expectations that are aspirations. Experiment! Make your sex life absolutely great! The best way is to find a partner with whom you can push your sex life to its maximum.
i totally found enhancement in my real sex life from lush for a really long time. Go Lush!
a little of both for me. but I think if anything, the porn industry is to blame for unrealistic sexual expectations. although, you can also gain some sexual knowledge and tips from watching it.
I suppose like anything; we each have our expectations ...as we each also have our limitations. And although we might consider something we have seen, read or heard, I wonder if it would create unrealistic expectations??!
I suppose it would depend largely on the limitations our partners have or have set and whether or not that would impact on our "expectations" ...and if that were the case; would it be unreasonable to conclude that we then choose partners for sexual gratification alone?
I think not! ...my personal opinion.
Hmm perhaps a bit of both. I think there is potential for some of the stories and scenarios that are played out in erotica to set one up for a bit of disappointment but at the same time, I think it also has tremendous potential to dramatically enhance one's sexual experiences. I think the key factors in how either of these scenarios play out is how open and willing your partner(s) is and especially how open and willing YOU are.
Some people are just prone to being dissatisfied, so when they view porn or read stories, they become prone to blaming their partner for the fact that their sex life doesn't match up with their ideal. They might even be tempted to go looking for better. But in general, people are realistic enough to understand that better is the enemy of good enough and that what they can learn from erotica is useful for helping them get to good enough.
I haven't had an issue with having high expectations after watching porn, or reading stories then having sex. I think as long as both parties are open minded and willing to try new things it's always going to be fun. I know that a lot of stories aren't true. Or sugar coated to make readers want to keep reading when a lot of them are not close to being true. Even the ones that are written from real life experiences. I like the true real stories. Something that makes me tingle knowing it actually happen! Nothing over the top.
I was married 26 years and my sex life was never what I thought it should be. I realize that people have different levels of drive.
