Quote by LASARDaddy
A quickie can be fun but the real enjoyment is in the intimacy. I've done a couple wham-bam-thank-you-mam's and I much prefer to take my time. Knowing what each likes and wants makes it so much better. It's all about trust. I want there to be a long time between, "Hi." and "Where's my panties?"
We are all slaves to our feelings and emotions but I don't think they're instincts. They're a learned thing and we have the power to change them if we try. I look at mine as my ego and I have a big one. Very demanding but I'm in control, not him. I do see it as a separate "Being?", I don't know, I just know that I do not allow most of the things he wants.
I learned to control it a long time ago.
The "where's my panties?" line is a classic - well said.
I was conceptualizing emotions as different from instincts. I suppose this is all open to debate and everyone's subjective perspective and how they define these ideas. But I was using instinct more in the traditional biological sense. As in one might have an instinct to fuck or eat or socialize.
I'm tempted to agree with you that the ego has some willpower but I suppose I subscribe to the "Jungian" worldview that there are bigger things out there than the ego. Are you familiar with Analytical Psychology? I feel like the difference you're getting at between your ego and something else, could be the Ego - Shadow axis or Ego - "Self" axis.
I'm also tempted to point out that people tend to use the word identity as a definition or synonym for ego, so one generalizing thing a person could say is ego = I. So when you say "[you're] in control, not him" you'd technically be getting at something outside yourself/ego.
If you found anything I said interesting, I'd suggest looking into the books "The I and the Not-I" and/or "Psychic Energy: Its origin and transformation" both by Mary Esther Harding. I feel like both works touch on the subject that we brought up.
