Is Cybering Cheating?

9 Mar 2009

Not sure if anyone has covered this before, but I was curious what people think. If you are in a relationship, is it cheating to cyber with someone?

9 Mar 2009

That's a real good question. hiding

I predict some good debate here.

9 Mar 2009

To me it's cheating if your partner isn't aware and you're keeping it from them because you know they wouldn't approve.

10 Mar 2009

Sounds right to me SE.

10 Mar 2009

Quote by sweet_escape
To me it's cheating if your partner isn't aware and you're keeping it from them because you know they wouldn't approve.

well articulated, and my position exactly.

10 Mar 2009

I disagree.. Chatting to someone by email/mssenger probably over great
distances is a harmless piece of self entertaiment between 2 people.

10 Mar 2009

Quote by lexylove
Quote by sweet_escape
To me it's cheating if your partner isn't aware and you're keeping it from them because you know they wouldn't approve.

well articulated, and my position exactly.

I agree!

11 Mar 2009

I agree Sweet, Lexy and Ali.

If you're hiding - ask your self why.

Bat

12 Mar 2009

I agree! It's definitely cheating if you are keeping it a secret.

12 Mar 2009

And if it isn't with your partner doesn't that signify that something is missing??? and if that isn't fixed so much as you have to cyber with someone how long would it be before you were cheating for real because the cyber wasn't enough?

14 Mar 2009

exactly orion.....how long before you cheat for real?

14 Mar 2009

ain't that the truth, my ex was like that. it started on line and went over into real life.

14 Mar 2009

jebru, you already know my answer to this ;) I agree with sweet_escape, it's cheating (or at least unfaithful) if you're doing it behind your partner's back.

15 Mar 2009

I thought most people would anser yes to this, but I'm surprised there aren't more people who think its just a healthy form of fantasy.

16 Mar 2009

Chatting/email/messenger...all harmless in my mind. But cybering is different in my opinion. If you are having sex with someone, even if it is via computer, it's still sex. If your partner knows, that is one thing, but if they don't, that's cheating. Just my thoughts,

Private Show - A man and his wife ditch a public performance in favor of a private one in this microfiction piece.

Perfectly Imperfect - where love and sex collide and a man knows his wife better than she knows herself.

The Naughty Babysitter - Part Three - Katie gives up control of her body.

Boardrooms & Boudoirs Part Fourteen - Chapters 53-56 - Grace deals with feeling out of sorts.

16 Mar 2009

Cybering is not cheating. All you are doing is masturbating; and all guys do that...(well 95% admit to it) I don't know about women. Women do have a much lower sex drive by all surveys I have seen. They force us to meet our needs through masturbation.

I had better duck now. I can already see the shoes headed towards my head.....LOL boxing

16 Mar 2009

I think you're reading the wrong surveys.

16 Mar 2009

Quote by techgoddess
Chatting/email/messenger...all harmless in my mind. But cybering is different in my opinion. If you are having sex with someone, even if it is via computer, it's still sex. If your partner knows, that is one thing, but if they don't, that's cheating. Just my thoughts,

Exactly what Tech said. As long as all people involved know about it and are cool with it then no big deal. It becomes a problem when you have to hide about it

16 Mar 2009

Yeah, otherwise why hide?

16 Mar 2009

Quote by baker992009
Cybering is not cheating. All you are doing is masturbating; and all guys do that...(well 95% admit to it) I don't know about women. Women do have a much lower sex drive by all surveys I have seen. They force us to meet our needs through masturbation.

I had better duck now. I can already see the shoes headed towards my head.....LOL

*throws a shoe* icon_smile

So it wouldn't bother you if you found out your partner was regularly cybering with another man and keeping it from you? I'd be pretty annoyed if that happened to me.

16 Mar 2009

Quote by sweet_escape
Quote by baker992009
Cybering is not cheating. All you are doing is masturbating; and all guys do that...(well 95% admit to it) I don't know about women. Women do have a much lower sex drive by all surveys I have seen. They force us to meet our needs through masturbation.

I had better duck now. I can already see the shoes headed towards my head.....LOL

*throws a shoe*

So it wouldn't bother you if you found out your partner was regularly cybering with another man and keeping it from you? I'd be pretty annoyed if that happened to me.

If I caught my hubby cybering with another man I would be more than annoyed! cussing

17 Mar 2009

Quote by ali2teaseu

If I caught my hubby cybering with another man I would be more than annoyed!

Even if he believes he was cybering with a woman, he most likely was cybering with another man.

18 Mar 2009

CYBERING IS CHEATING if it is kept a secret, whether it is with a man or a woman. If you and your significant other both agree to it then so be it .

------------>throwing a big shoe at baker jerk

LOL

21 Mar 2009

Throws a big shoe with my good hand!

Private Show - A man and his wife ditch a public performance in favor of a private one in this microfiction piece.

Perfectly Imperfect - where love and sex collide and a man knows his wife better than she knows herself.

The Naughty Babysitter - Part Three - Katie gives up control of her body.

Boardrooms & Boudoirs Part Fourteen - Chapters 53-56 - Grace deals with feeling out of sorts.

22 Mar 2009

Good for you Tech! Glad to see you!

25 Mar 2009

Quote by fystee
CYBERING IS CHEATING if it is kept a secret, whether it is with a man or a woman. If you and your significant other both agree to it then so be it .

------------>throwing a big shoe at baker LOL

AMEN!

Private Show - A man and his wife ditch a public performance in favor of a private one in this microfiction piece.

Perfectly Imperfect - where love and sex collide and a man knows his wife better than she knows herself.

The Naughty Babysitter - Part Three - Katie gives up control of her body.

Boardrooms & Boudoirs Part Fourteen - Chapters 53-56 - Grace deals with feeling out of sorts.

25 Mar 2009

Quote by fystee
Good for you Tech! Glad to see you!

Thanks!

Private Show - A man and his wife ditch a public performance in favor of a private one in this microfiction piece.

Perfectly Imperfect - where love and sex collide and a man knows his wife better than she knows herself.

The Naughty Babysitter - Part Three - Katie gives up control of her body.

Boardrooms & Boudoirs Part Fourteen - Chapters 53-56 - Grace deals with feeling out of sorts.

26 Mar 2009

unfortunately, I think cheating is defined however your spouse/significant other would define it- at least practically speaking.

7 Mar 2010

if you are just entertaining yourself and not hurting either of the partners you are with, how can it be cheating. do you tell them every time you fantise while masterbating? is there ready muich of the difference?

10 Mar 2010

Quote by baker992009
Cybering is not cheating. All you are doing is masturbating; and all guys do that...(well 95% admit to it) I don't know about women. Women do have a much lower sex drive by all surveys I have seen. They force us to meet our needs through masturbation.

I had better duck now. I can already see the shoes headed towards my head.....LOL

Damn, straight, buster... boxing

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One goes... WHACK... DARN!!!

the other: DAAAAAARRRRRNNNNN..... WHACK... *Bloody red stain on the ground*