Curious to what you people on Lush think. I met a wonderful sexy man here and I never expected to want to be exclusive but once I started chatting with him I realized he was all I need. I thought I was all he needed too. Recently, I found he created a new account. When I confronted him he said it wasn't him, the account disappeared however he still remains on Lush with yet another account thinking I don't know it's him. I try my best to fulfill all his needs and he claims that I do. Should I think of this as cheating or just an outlet for his fantasies?
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Hmmm... did he tell you that you were all he needed too, or were you assuming this based on how you were feeling and how well you felt that you were connecting.
I know instant connections happen, but just noticing on your profile that you've only been on Lush for two weeks, it might be a little early to start thinking about exclusivity when it comes to a cyber-lover? Maybe he just enjoys multiple-account chatting, but if you notice that these accounts were only set up since you started talking to him, chances are he's feeling a little smothered.
Maybe take a step back and let him pursue you more... Or you can just ask him about the other accounts. Keep in mind that if these suspected accounts aren't actually him, you will basically start appearing stalkerish.
My vote goes for scaling things back and giving him the benefit of the doubt for whatever he's wanting to do online and let him set the pace of how things go between you for the next little while.
I know instant connections happen, but just noticing on your profile that you've only been on Lush for two weeks, it might be a little early to start thinking about exclusivity when it comes to a cyber-lover? Maybe he just enjoys multiple-account chatting, but if you notice that these accounts were only set up since you started talking to him, chances are he's feeling a little smothered.
Maybe take a step back and let him pursue you more... Or you can just ask him about the other accounts. Keep in mind that if these suspected accounts aren't actually him, you will basically start appearing stalkerish.
My vote goes for scaling things back and giving him the benefit of the doubt for whatever he's wanting to do online and let him set the pace of how things go between you for the next little while.
We have been talking for a few months. I canceled my original account when he did. I opened a new one so I can watch the chat rooms. Yes, he says he loves me, (he said it first) I'm all he needs and speaks to me every night and text. We are planning on meeting in a few days. I know we all came here because of our sexual interests and I don't want to deny him of that and I told him so. Regarding his profiles - as much as he tries to hide his identity he says the same things regarding interest ect. I just want to understand that if even you are there for your man 110% why does he still want to play? Is it just play or should I think he is playing me?
I came to lush and never vowed to chat let alone begin a relationship with a man online that like myself was also married. A year together filled with ups and downs and highs and lows, I gave him all I had but only to realize I was not enough to satisfy is sexual appetite. He craved the attention of others that one was not enough for him. When your being told it's just you that your the real deal and there is an emotional attachment that only the two of you share then yes it feels like you have been betrayed and deceived when you come to learn there are others. On the other hand the relationship was an online affair on an adult site, what can we really expect, a fairy tale ending? I feel your pain and truthfully found it very hard to connect with others here even to the extent of sabotaging current friendships because my trust had been broken. Stay true to yourself and dont sacrifice your wants and needs. This shall pass.
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Hmmm... did he tell you that you were all he needed too, or were you assuming this based on how you were feeling and how well you felt that you were connecting.
I know instant connections happen, but just noticing on your profile that you've only been on Lush for two weeks, it might be a little early to start thinking about exclusivity when it comes to a cyber-lover? Maybe he just enjoys multiple-account chatting, but if you notice that these accounts were only set up since you started talking to him, chances are he's feeling a little smothered.
Maybe take a step back and let him pursue you more... Or you can just ask him about the other accounts. Keep in mind that if these suspected accounts aren't actually him, you will basically start appearing stalkerish.
My vote goes for scaling things back and giving him the benefit of the doubt for whatever he's wanting to do online and let him set the pace of how things go between you for the next little while.
correct! i think you will know the guy sincerity when you meet him in person, you must assess carefully before you called it exclusivity it easy to tell story, to act as if you're very much interested to the person but in fact not you want something to her or vice verse particularly on the net.
know him deeply as him personal question, start with basic like and dislike, hobby etc... you may say your compatible or he is the one maybe in terms of sex but behind that must be the same.
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Your title question is general but your post is personal, so I'm going to comment on both.
Personally - unless exclusivity is discussed and agreed upon, it doesn't exist in an online relationship. It cannot be assumed. Like others, I think you can judge better for yourself when you meet him in person, but if he's hiding accounts from you maybe he's feeling crowded.
Generally speaking- What Lush is depends on how one uses it. If you come to read stories, chat a little, participate in forums, it's an outlet. If you come expecting to start sexy chat times and set up meets, it may be cheating.
Personally - unless exclusivity is discussed and agreed upon, it doesn't exist in an online relationship. It cannot be assumed. Like others, I think you can judge better for yourself when you meet him in person, but if he's hiding accounts from you maybe he's feeling crowded.
Generally speaking- What Lush is depends on how one uses it. If you come to read stories, chat a little, participate in forums, it's an outlet. If you come expecting to start sexy chat times and set up meets, it may be cheating.
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Tell him he can do whatever he would like on his account and the multiple account issue will be solved.
Just do not forget you really mean it.
Just do not forget you really mean it.
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Curious to what you people on Lush think. I met a wonderful sexy man here and I never expected to want to be exclusive but once I started chatting with him I realized he was all I need. I thought I was all he needed too. Recently, I found he created a new account. When I confronted him he said it wasn't him, the account disappeared however he still remains on Lush with yet another account thinking I don't know it's him. I try my best to fulfill all his needs and he claims that I do. Should I think of this as cheating or just an outlet for his fantasies?
I dont consider chatting or PMing on here cheating. As long as nothing happens.6um4vbRCE9vZ2jv6