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life lessons learned from lush
Wolves and two- and four-faced people will often advise others to beware of their kind in an effort to cloak their true intentions.
If you lie to yourself about what you want and who you are, you will eventually start to believe it.
Haters are going to hate; Liars are going to lie.
Love has NOTHING to do with sex.
Nothing is perfect, and everything has value. Even the worst relationships and people can provide the greatest memories and treasures.
If you are walking through a mine and find a ruby, you pick it up and polish it. If a little while later, you find an emerald, you pick it up and polish it. If you continue and find a diamond, you pick it up and polish it. You don't compare them and toss away the ones that aren't as valuable. You keep them all and admire them for what they are and for their inherent beauty, finding them all valuable...or invaluable. And so we should treat our friends, as the priceless jewels that they are.
That being said, beware of costume jewelry.
The best diamonds in the world come from Missouri.
When you're young, you find value in the number of friends you have. When you are older, you realize that it's not the number of friends you have, but the quality. The truly wise realize the term best friend is not a designation of one person, but rather a designation of true friendship, and the more you have the luckier you are. Thank you to all my best friends who make me the luckiest woman in the world.
The most wonderful feeling in the world is having true friends, especially when that friend is the love of your life.
Don't waste your time trying to turn a toad into a princess. Just find the princess and never let go.
If you lie to yourself about what you want and who you are, you will eventually start to believe it.
Haters are going to hate; Liars are going to lie.
Love has NOTHING to do with sex.
Nothing is perfect, and everything has value. Even the worst relationships and people can provide the greatest memories and treasures.
If you are walking through a mine and find a ruby, you pick it up and polish it. If a little while later, you find an emerald, you pick it up and polish it. If you continue and find a diamond, you pick it up and polish it. You don't compare them and toss away the ones that aren't as valuable. You keep them all and admire them for what they are and for their inherent beauty, finding them all valuable...or invaluable. And so we should treat our friends, as the priceless jewels that they are.
That being said, beware of costume jewelry.
The best diamonds in the world come from Missouri.
When you're young, you find value in the number of friends you have. When you are older, you realize that it's not the number of friends you have, but the quality. The truly wise realize the term best friend is not a designation of one person, but rather a designation of true friendship, and the more you have the luckier you are. Thank you to all my best friends who make me the luckiest woman in the world.
The most wonderful feeling in the world is having true friends, especially when that friend is the love of your life.
Don't waste your time trying to turn a toad into a princess. Just find the princess and never let go.
Senior Analyst
1. Be discerning in your friendships. Being picky is not snobbery; it's self-defense.
2. Ignore what isn't interesting. There is no obligation to take anyone or anything seriously.
3. [Not learned here, but it bears repeating] Be kind. It costs nothing and means everything.
2. Ignore what isn't interesting. There is no obligation to take anyone or anything seriously.
3. [Not learned here, but it bears repeating] Be kind. It costs nothing and means everything.
Creator
Quote by CheifPussyPop
I learned when I see a woman's profile on here that's says more or less along the lines of: I'm bi but guys don't even try; or I'm not going send any of you guys pics so don't ask but to girls I'll send and receive pics. Lines like these are a dead give away that it's mostly likely a guy. It's like a business. These people want to see how women talk when among other women. I don't know why someone would want to know that type of knowledge? Or how they could profit from it? My guess is to deploy a tacit much like if you were to play two chessmasters but in fact you just pitting each master's moves against the other's. For example they use the words that a lizbow sent them on a none lizbow woman. What happens is two things: she'll thing dude is pussy and be like later bro. Or she'll think he is trying to be sensitive and being understanding to her P.O.V. This tactic only works via P.C. screen. In person it is not effective because feeling and interaction when in person words are not a replacement for action.
While I am certain you're right about there being those posing as women, you said some things that as a "Lizbow" I find a little offensive.
Some things you didn't learn on LUSH:
1. How to address the LGBTQ community without offending us
2. This is all fantasy
3. Sexuality is on a sliding scale. Many Bi-sexual women are more preferential to women, and many Bi-sexual men more into men
4. There is no such thing as a 'dead giveaway' here. Again, its all fantasy. It's not real, it's cyber
5. Lesbians do NOT like being called 'Lizbows"
6. Lesbians don't like to be hit on by men. Shock. Men don't like to be hit on men either....it's that simple (see edit below ;)
7. Some men (fortunately not most) don't respect that simple request for respect
8. Everyone, not just men like you, expect respect. It's not that difficult
9. It's easy to offend other people.
Quote by chiefpussypop
***So life lesson I learned from lush is that lizbows and gays will be taken advantage on this site by sneaky people.
WTF, lol!***
Edit: Some men do like to be hit on by other men, what the heck was I smoking, lol! Sorry
I have three famous stories, 2 recommended reads and have come in the top ten in two competitions~ Come in and make yourself at home.
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6. Lesbians don't like to be hit on by men. Shock. Men don't like to be hit on men either....it's that simple
Some men do actually.
=== Not ALL LIVES MATTER until BLACK LIVES MATTER ===
living dead girl
Quote by Simplicity
Wow Vanessa, can I just use yours, because you described mine to the T. I know one of mine are to listen more and speak less. Other than that, you have just about mentioned all of them.
Of course
its great to know others are learning a lot of the same things if not all. I'd love you to check out my latest
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/monster-sex/-summer-of-the-tentacle-.aspx
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/monster-sex/-summer-of-the-tentacle-.aspx
Active Ink Slinger
1. Deep down we all want the same things form other people, to be cared for and connect with someone.
2. True friends can come from anywhere. I've met people here i look more forward to talking to then people I know in real life.
3. Don't listen to what people say about others, if someone is your friend and has given you no reason to doubt them, then don't.
4. Sometimes the people who have your back the most can be the ones to stab you in it.
5. Your heart doesn't know it's the internet, love is love, pain is pain. Be careful what you say because words can hurt as much as make you smile.
6. If someone says they love you, it doesn't mean they want to move in so hold off on the U-haul. Sometimes it just means your important part of their internet life.
7. INTERNET IS NOT REAL LIFE!!!!!
8. You can love more then one person at a time.
9. It is still cheating if it's on the internet, cheating is a betrayal of trust not just physically fucking someone.
10. Make sure any relationship is clear and defined, don't want misunderstanding to end something before it starts.
11. Vanessa is Horror movie freak but still an amazing friend to have.
12. Even your best friends can still talk shit about you.
Last, I think the most important thing I have learned is no matter what site, no matter what she has going on in her life, for the last 9ish years xxxCassiexxx has always always been there for me and no matter what happens that girl will always have a place in my heart
2. True friends can come from anywhere. I've met people here i look more forward to talking to then people I know in real life.
3. Don't listen to what people say about others, if someone is your friend and has given you no reason to doubt them, then don't.
4. Sometimes the people who have your back the most can be the ones to stab you in it.
5. Your heart doesn't know it's the internet, love is love, pain is pain. Be careful what you say because words can hurt as much as make you smile.
6. If someone says they love you, it doesn't mean they want to move in so hold off on the U-haul. Sometimes it just means your important part of their internet life.
7. INTERNET IS NOT REAL LIFE!!!!!
8. You can love more then one person at a time.
9. It is still cheating if it's on the internet, cheating is a betrayal of trust not just physically fucking someone.
10. Make sure any relationship is clear and defined, don't want misunderstanding to end something before it starts.
11. Vanessa is Horror movie freak but still an amazing friend to have.
12. Even your best friends can still talk shit about you.
Last, I think the most important thing I have learned is no matter what site, no matter what she has going on in her life, for the last 9ish years xxxCassiexxx has always always been there for me and no matter what happens that girl will always have a place in my heart
Active Ink Slinger
Great topic Vanessa
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by Simplicity
Wow Vanessa, can I just use yours, because you described mine to the T. I know one of mine are to listen more and speak less. Other than that, you have just about mentioned all of them.
Of course
To late already have you tied up in my basement ... giggles
Active Ink Slinger
Quote by Vanessa
1. We can't always please everyone but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try as long as it doesn't include something we are uncomfortable about
2. I love to write ( I had no idea that I did until I met someone who inspired me to)
3. While lush might be full of trolls and stalkers it is also full of some really amazing people in fact some of the nicest I have ever in my life had the privilege to talk to.
4. Be seriously careful what you tell someone because they can easily find out where you live so unless you are over 1000 percent sure tread carefully
5. Loyalty still exists I had no idea until some people turned my whole life outlook around.
6. Patience
7. Cultural diversity ..lush is full of people from all around the world therefore it teaches you to be more culturally educated
8. How you see yourself is not always how others see you ( this can often be a good thing)
9. Cyber sex often has the same amount of pressure put on it as real ( who knew)
10. What real love is
11. Read carefully between the lines
12.A better understanding of human emotions
13. The strength to admit who I really am
14. Love comes in more forms than one
15. The journey is just as important as the destination
16. What's real and what's not
17. Looking at the big picture instead of freaking out about something
18. If you fight with someone or have an issue be straight forward and never to prideful to say you are sorry
19. If someone you care about vanishes for awhile ..try to remain calm but don't give up
20. Take a chance
I agree with all of that as well
Una chica rubia caliente
I'm not sure I learned any "life lessons" here. But I did learn some interesting things, like:
1. I like some of my friends here every bit as much as I like some of my friends in real life, and way more than some of my acquaintances.
2. Lush friends a half a world away from me (e.g. Trinket who lives in Antartica or Australia....one of those "A" continents) are as funny and sarcastic as my friends right here where I live.
3. I like to write stories more than I realized I would. It's fun and brings back memories.
4. I like to read stories here more than I realized I would. It's fun and brings back memories.
4a. Layla June writes good poems
5. The Mods here do a great job...this is a really good site
6. Lynnwitt likes dragons for no apparent reason, LadyAnnWest likes mirrors for all the right reasons, Vanesa26 rocks (I've said that elsewhere, but still...)
7. I'd like to host a slumber party with KatieElizabeth, GreenEyedKitty, Andrea Detroit and Guiltee and, frankly all the other girls I am friends with here, and probably some others, and play spin the bottle all night....maybe turn the straight ones.
8. I'd let my guy friends here watch us....no photos!
9. You can't always get what you want, but sometimes you can get what you need...I knew this before I heard The Stones sing it, although they sang it the year before I was born.
1. I like some of my friends here every bit as much as I like some of my friends in real life, and way more than some of my acquaintances.
2. Lush friends a half a world away from me (e.g. Trinket who lives in Antartica or Australia....one of those "A" continents) are as funny and sarcastic as my friends right here where I live.
3. I like to write stories more than I realized I would. It's fun and brings back memories.
4. I like to read stories here more than I realized I would. It's fun and brings back memories.
4a. Layla June writes good poems
5. The Mods here do a great job...this is a really good site
6. Lynnwitt likes dragons for no apparent reason, LadyAnnWest likes mirrors for all the right reasons, Vanesa26 rocks (I've said that elsewhere, but still...)
7. I'd like to host a slumber party with KatieElizabeth, GreenEyedKitty, Andrea Detroit and Guiltee and, frankly all the other girls I am friends with here, and probably some others, and play spin the bottle all night....maybe turn the straight ones.
8. I'd let my guy friends here watch us....no photos!
9. You can't always get what you want, but sometimes you can get what you need...I knew this before I heard The Stones sing it, although they sang it the year before I was born.
"insensitive prick!" – Danielle Algo
Not life lessons, but these are some of the things I learned on/through Lush:
* You can truly fall in love with someone you've never met in person.
* There are many more people into crossdressing (especially older men), BDSM and shemale porn than I would have ever thought.
* There are disconcertingly more people into than I would ever have expected.
* Many 'straight' man hang out in the Men's Room, dedicated to "Gay male and bi-sexual chat. Gay male chat and cyber."
* Many people like to give their opinion, some of whom don't want theirs questioned.
* Drama queens often have a paragraph in their bio that states how they hate drama.
* An image of a flacid penis is considered hardcore.
* You can truly fall in love with someone you've never met in person.
* There are many more people into crossdressing (especially older men), BDSM and shemale porn than I would have ever thought.
* There are disconcertingly more people into than I would ever have expected.
* Many 'straight' man hang out in the Men's Room, dedicated to "Gay male and bi-sexual chat. Gay male chat and cyber."
* Many people like to give their opinion, some of whom don't want theirs questioned.
* Drama queens often have a paragraph in their bio that states how they hate drama.
* An image of a flacid penis is considered hardcore.
=== Not ALL LIVES MATTER until BLACK LIVES MATTER ===
Active Ink Slinger
keeping an open mind especially when you know its not your thing... you can learn a lot about yourself.
Active Ink Slinger
Sex, sex sex....I have learned about sex. I can talk about it now. I have met people here and explored SEX! Yes! this is a sex site. Lovely stories, great writing but it's sex that we have in common.
I love the variety. I love hearing about people's kinks. I love that we can be open and honest ( at least online). I've learned that many men are unfulfilled in their sex lives, but love their wives. I have learned that I quite like to be spanked. I have learned that I will never again just lay next to someone and pretend to enjoy.
I love the variety. I love hearing about people's kinks. I love that we can be open and honest ( at least online). I've learned that many men are unfulfilled in their sex lives, but love their wives. I have learned that I quite like to be spanked. I have learned that I will never again just lay next to someone and pretend to enjoy.
Creator
Quote by noll
Some men do actually.
LOL! You have me there, sorry Noll!
I have three famous stories, 2 recommended reads and have come in the top ten in two competitions~ Come in and make yourself at home.
Creator
Quote by Shannon3k
7. I'd like to host a slumber party with KatieElizabeth, GreenEyedKitty, Andrea Detroit and Guiltee and, frankly all the other girls I am friends with here, and probably some others, and play spin the bottle all night....maybe turn the straight ones.
I'll email you my information so you can send my invitation! (((Giggles!))) I have some good ideas of which straight ones I'd like to turn...(subliminal message...come to our team, girls, come play with us...) hehehehehehe!
I have three famous stories, 2 recommended reads and have come in the top ten in two competitions~ Come in and make yourself at home.
English Rose
Quote by Shannon3K
7. I'd like to host a slumber party with KatieElizabeth
I'll get my PJ'S then, some wine so we can get squiffy (and for the bottle game when it's empty) and cheese and biccies for nibbles.
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/fetish/worship-my-bum.aspx
My new story has been awarded the Recommended Read. If you adore a needy bottom and fancy a short, but very naughty read...
My new story has been awarded the Recommended Read. If you adore a needy bottom and fancy a short, but very naughty read...
Active Ink Slinger
Real life needs "block" and "delete" buttons.
The Engineer
Lush helped me explore my sexuality...made me more smart about it.
met a lot of new people....
met a lot of new people....
The Engineer
Lush helped me explore my sexuality...made me more smart about it.
met a lot of new people....
met a lot of new people....
What I've learned from Lush?
* I'm a happier person when I can openly embrace sex without judging myself for it.
* Becoming an author, having success at it and making ends meet with it, has been one of the most challenging things I've ever done. At no other time in my life have i had it in me to rise to the occasion (no pun intended) save for when it comes to Erotica.
* Because of my passion for writing erotica, which started here, I have a steady income, my family-life has improved, I'm more confident as a person, I'm happier and more organized and reliable.
* And strangely, I'm strongly attracted to women only in fiction and fantasy... but cannot tolerate having female friends in real life. Strange, I know - but there it is. Explains so much.
* I'm a happier person when I can openly embrace sex without judging myself for it.
* Becoming an author, having success at it and making ends meet with it, has been one of the most challenging things I've ever done. At no other time in my life have i had it in me to rise to the occasion (no pun intended) save for when it comes to Erotica.
* Because of my passion for writing erotica, which started here, I have a steady income, my family-life has improved, I'm more confident as a person, I'm happier and more organized and reliable.
* And strangely, I'm strongly attracted to women only in fiction and fantasy... but cannot tolerate having female friends in real life. Strange, I know - but there it is. Explains so much.
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... but cannot tolerate having female friends in real life. Strange, I know - but there it is. Explains so much.
It's not strange. I can't tolerate having female friends in real life either. I don't have any, don't want any, because I tried but it just didn't work. I've never thought I could ever find such cool and wonderful female friends on lush
Fancy Schmancy
Quote by Shannon3K
I'm not sure I learned any "life lessons" here. But I did learn some interesting things, like:
4a. Layla June writes good poems
What an absolutely lovely thing to see upon returning, somewhat tentatively, to the Lush forums!! I am cheered and charmed.
I don't know that I have learned anything more on Lush than I learned elsewhere, with cybersocializing. But I have met some people I like very much; rediscovered the joy of writing, after many years; and found more happiness and optimism about the future than words can adequately express in my relationship with Verbal.
Dreamer
I am happier when able to express my sexual thoughts. It is a liberating experience.
The opinions of others do not count. If favorable they are rewarding, if unfavorable who cares. In the end, my opinion is what matters to me.
Anyone can write a story, however not all stories are worth reading. It does no one a kindness to tell them that. Better to encourage them to keep trying.
Some of the nicest people are here on Lush, that was a surprise. You can create virtual friends.
The opinions of others do not count. If favorable they are rewarding, if unfavorable who cares. In the end, my opinion is what matters to me.
Anyone can write a story, however not all stories are worth reading. It does no one a kindness to tell them that. Better to encourage them to keep trying.
Some of the nicest people are here on Lush, that was a surprise. You can create virtual friends.
Check out my Fifty-Three Recommended Reads, Three Series Awards, One Editor's Pick, Eleven Famous Stories, and Eleven Competition Top Ten finals. Go to https://www.lushstories.com/profiles/view/ChrisM/stories
Enjoy
Quote by Dani
I don't think they're all limited to Lush, but the internet or life in general.
1. Just because I have an opinion, it doesn't always need to be shared, especially with total strangers.
2. Sometimes I just don't have an opinion, so I don't need to make one up just to contribute to a conversation.
3. Telling strangers that they're ignorant/bigoted most likely won't result in changes in said strangers' attitudes, but it sure is funny as fuck to watch their blood boil when confronted with progress that they can't control.
4. People aren't entitled to any part of me, be it my time, my energy, my emotions, or my thoughts. I can choose to share or not to share any of these things in any capacity of my choosing with anyone of my choosing.
5. I am completely in control of my experience here due to lesson #4.
6. It's okay to let someone in, so do it as often as it feels right.
7. Titties are always appreciated.
You know all 7 answers could be "this dick"
Big-haired Bitch/Personality Hire
Quote by roymunson101
You know all 7 answers could be "this dick"
Fair enough.
"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
living dead girl
Quote by Simmerdownchick
I'm flawed as can be and am still learning. I do speak my mind, but I've seen a side of myself that I don't like. So, the lesson I will take from this is to turn the other cheek, or try and make lite of things. I saw myself becoming the very thing I hate the most, and that is a bully. Or "troll", if you will.
I was bullied terribly as a kid, and never wanted to be that person.
Great topic, btw! Thanks for bringing it up
Glad you liked it and thank you
and actually ditto on what you said.
I'd love you to check out my latest
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/monster-sex/-summer-of-the-tentacle-.aspx
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/monster-sex/-summer-of-the-tentacle-.aspx
living dead girl
Quote by Shannon3K
I'm not sure I learned any "life lessons" here. But I did learn some interesting things, like:
1. I like some of my friends here every bit as much as I like some of my friends in real life, and way more than some of my acquaintances.
2. Lush friends a half a world away from me (e.g. Trinket who lives in Antartica or Australia....one of those "A" continents) are as funny and sarcastic as my friends right here where I live.
3. I like to write stories more than I realized I would. It's fun and brings back memories.
4. I like to read stories here more than I realized I would. It's fun and brings back memories.
4a. Layla June writes good poems
5. The Mods here do a great job...this is a really good site
6. Lynnwitt likes dragons for no apparent reason, LadyAnnWest likes mirrors for all the right reasons, Vanesa26 rocks (I've said that elsewhere, but still...)
7. I'd like to host a slumber party with KatieElizabeth, GreenEyedKitty, Andrea Detroit and Guiltee and, frankly all the other girls I am friends with here, and probably some others, and play spin the bottle all night....maybe turn the straight ones.
8. I'd let my guy friends here watch us....no photos!
9. You can't always get what you want, but sometimes you can get what you need...I knew this before I heard The Stones sing it, although they sang it the year before I was born.
Can I bring horror movies and absolutely no clothes to the slumber party?
I'd love you to check out my latest
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/monster-sex/-summer-of-the-tentacle-.aspx
https://www.lushstories.com/stories/monster-sex/-summer-of-the-tentacle-.aspx
Quote by DaffodilFields
Wolves and two- and four-faced people will often advise others to beware of their kind in an effort to cloak their true intentions.
If you lie to yourself about what you want and who you are, you will eventually start to believe it.
Haters are going to hate; Liars are going to lie.
Love has NOTHING to do with sex.
Nothing is perfect, and everything has value. Even the worst relationships and people can provide the greatest memories and treasures.
If you are walking through a mine and find a ruby, you pick it up and polish it. If a little while later, you find an emerald, you pick it up and polish it. If you continue and find a diamond, you pick it up and polish it. You don't compare them and toss away the ones that aren't as valuable. You keep them all and admire them for what they are and for their inherent beauty, finding them all valuable...or invaluable. And so we should treat our friends, as the priceless jewels that they are.
That being said, beware of costume jewelry.
The best diamonds in the world come from Missouri.
When you're young, you find value in the number of friends you have. When you are older, you realize that it's not the number of friends you have, but the quality. The truly wise realize the term best friend is not a designation of one person, but rather a designation of true friendship, and the more you have the luckier you are. Thank you to all my best friends who make me the luckiest woman in the world.
The most wonderful feeling in the world is having true friends, especially when that friend is the love of your life.
Don't waste your time trying to turn a toad into a princess. Just find the princess and never let go.
