[I toyed with putting this in the Relationships section, but decided against it. If someone disagrees with my decision and has the power to do so, feel free to move it.]
Fairly open topic: tell us what you think about marriage proposals.
How would you like to be proposed to? How have you proposed in the past? What are the worst ways to propose?
Ideal locations? In a crowd (strangers or friends/family) or in private? Four simple words or a love poem? On bended knee?
Should women propose to men? Should there always be a ring? Thoughts on seeking the father's permission first?
Well, what do you think?
Whatever you do, don't wait too long to do it. I think most women want to know they aren't wasting their time with you. They need to be reassured that you're serious and aren't waiting for something better.
I think the way you propose doesn't matter all that much unless you ask while taking a shit or something extremely lame like that. I don't know many women that would get influenced to say no because the way you asked wasn't exactly the way she wanted you to. And if she does well then maybe you're dodging a bullet.
To answer your question have I done it - yes...I thought it was prefectly planned and then it decided to fuckin rain that day so I improvised and made it happen that day (no where close to what I had planned)
I am lucky to have a woman in my life that I want to spend the rest of my life with and have a completely different proposal planned from my first.
I think it depends on your significant other and their personality..Like Felix said, don't hesitate and be like Nike and..."Just do it!"
I proposed and she said yes. We went to an Italian restaurant we frequent that has very private booths. It was a Friday night. I did not want to do it at some real super expensive posh place because that would have given it away. I had the ring. I actually first started saving for one years ago before we broke up the first time, kept the account open and eventually had quite a lot of money in it as I kept adding to it. I had the ring in the box. After dinner I just put the little ring box on the table and said something like, "This is for you why don't you open that?" Her inhale almost sucked the glass out of the window. She picked it up opened it and screamed, jumped up and grabbed me yelling, "Yes! yes! yes!" Then she cried.
She wanted to call and text all of her friends that night but I would not let her because we were going to see them all in the morning to go tailgate in Athens and go to the Georgia Bulldogs football game. We did have to go to her parents after dinner and show them. She showed the ring to all of our friends the next day at the tailgate party. I had to get hugs from a few dozen people. And there were so many toasts that i was staggering by game time.
It was something that our friends had been expecting to happen for years, even though we broke up a few times.
People should just do what they feel is natural for them as for as a proposal.
Marriage to me isn't one of those "must do" things in life. I personally believe true love is not made from and extends past a piece of paper and a ring. With that being said I am all for marriage. As a man I do not care if the woman decides to ask or not. One or the other has to ask so who cares who it is. If I had to propose then I would like the permission of her family.(call me old fashioned) I prefer not to enter into a family that does not approve of me.
As for what I would do I would set aside an entire day of events that remind her of our love before I shower her with affection and ask those magical words.
I have never proposed to anyone as of yet.(still waiting to find that special one)
The ring to me ins't as neccessary as proclaiming your love, which should be sufficient enough.
Ideal location would be in a romantic setting surrounded by friends and family.
To each their own whether on bended knee or not.
As for the worst proposals, here are my top ten:
Being pressured after finding out she's pregnant.
Sending her a video tape of the proposal along with the ring and not doing it in person.
At a heavy metal concert where neither of you can hear the other.
While floating on a piece of wood in the middle of the ocean after your ship sank.
While watching a sports game and then asking her to get you another beer.
In the middle of having sex. (Never a good idea)
Correspondense via mail because one or both of you is in prison.
Asking just so you can get laid, then retracting the proposal after.
After walking in on her as she is doing the "landscaping".
While being chased by the cops or her father.
The decisions we make dictate the life we have.
Follow your dreams, for those that do not will only try to discourage others.
Yahtzee you should sell your story or write a script for a Lifetime TV story....
Very interesting and intriguing.
I don't understand the stalkers. I guess the male stalkers are more physically dangerous usually. But the female stalkers are bad too. Why can't they take NO for an answer and move on?
Callum I guess I really didn't post any answers to your questions so I am taking my best shot...
How would you like to be proposed to? I always thought as a guy I should do this myself, but really that doesn't matter, if someone really loves someone else and thinks that they are their lifelong match just go for it in whatever way feels best.
How have you proposed in the past? Yes, once.
What are the worst ways to propose? In public. Especially at sporting events in front of a large crowd or using banners pulled by airplanes over large stadiums.
Ideal locations? In a crowd (strangers or friends/family) or in private? Four simple words or a love poem? On bended knee? Not in the crowd...in private or semi-private setting. Nothing at all wrong with a poem. Bended knee seems like a good idea (though I didn't do that.)
Should women propose to men? Sure!
Should there always be a ring? I did, it makes it seem more genuine. But whatever.
Thoughts on seeking the father's permission first? No. (though her dad was very pleased, I just feel that this is not necessary in the 21st century.)
Well, what do you think? As Bugs Bunny says, "That's all folks!"
If I was ever to propose I'd just do it randomly, perhaps whilst watching TV and say something along the lines of "wanna marry me?" I'd probably get a slap, but it'd be worth it.
Marriage proposals should be avoided at all costs!
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates Marriage and marriage proposals are over rated. Have no desire ever.
I dont think i need to say what my answer was.
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