Imagine this scenerio: a husband has an affair with a woman. After a while cheating on his wife, he decides to leave his wife and marry the lover.
It looks like a bad start for the new relationship. Can the new wife be sure that what she did wont be done to her in the future? And what if the man has kids from the previous marriage, do you think it will make the new wife more eager to have kids with him so she can claim some "rights" and make the whole thing look more legitimate?
Do you think the guy will feel guilty about what he did to his former wife, or about the kids he abandoned?
Of course each person is different, and each scenario unique, but what do you think about it?
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The lover (the "other"), becomes the wife?
Wild at Heart
I think all these questions would be easier to answer if we knew the degree of hotness of the new new wife.
Like is she a 10?
Also is the husband wealthy? That has a lot to do with it too...
Like is she a 10?
Also is the husband wealthy? That has a lot to do with it too...
Wise Ass
I think the circumstance of the divorce also would play a role in this whole equation.
Did the former wife stop having sex with her husband and that is why he decided to stray?
Have they fallen out of love with each other?
Are they in a bad financial situation and the stress has overwhelmed the two?
As Felix said is the new lover a Victoria's Secret supermodel?
Does the new lover want kids, or are the ones that she is "inheriting" enough for her?
There will always be a level of guilt associated when a partner cheats, but as I had asked before what are the reasons for his actions?
Did the former wife stop having sex with her husband and that is why he decided to stray?
Have they fallen out of love with each other?
Are they in a bad financial situation and the stress has overwhelmed the two?
As Felix said is the new lover a Victoria's Secret supermodel?
Does the new lover want kids, or are the ones that she is "inheriting" enough for her?
There will always be a level of guilt associated when a partner cheats, but as I had asked before what are the reasons for his actions?
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Alpha Blonde
Here are the issues with this situation.
1. He stayed in a relationship where he wasn't happy enough to stay honest/faithful but wasn't unhappy enough to leave (so in essence he is playing both women until he can figure out what he wants).
2. Instead of leaving that relationship to be single for a while and sort himself out before making another commitment, he jumped from one relationship directly into another relationship (fear of being alone).
3. When things start sliding in his primary relationship, he's already has a trend or habit of looking for a new upgrade, and doesn't have an issue with carrying on at least two emotional/sexual relationships at the same time without much guilt (he's good at rationalizing his betrayals).
4. While you might be that upgrade right now, how likely is it that your relationship will never enter the complacency of point #1 at some point in the future thereby making you the old model that he is looking to trade in?
Yes... it will happen again.
1. He stayed in a relationship where he wasn't happy enough to stay honest/faithful but wasn't unhappy enough to leave (so in essence he is playing both women until he can figure out what he wants).
2. Instead of leaving that relationship to be single for a while and sort himself out before making another commitment, he jumped from one relationship directly into another relationship (fear of being alone).
3. When things start sliding in his primary relationship, he's already has a trend or habit of looking for a new upgrade, and doesn't have an issue with carrying on at least two emotional/sexual relationships at the same time without much guilt (he's good at rationalizing his betrayals).
4. While you might be that upgrade right now, how likely is it that your relationship will never enter the complacency of point #1 at some point in the future thereby making you the old model that he is looking to trade in?
Yes... it will happen again.
Wild at Heart
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Here are the issues with this situation.
1. He stayed in a relationship where he wasn't happy enough to stay honest/faithful but wasn't unhappy enough to leave (so in essence he is playing both women until he can figure out what he wants).
2. Instead of leaving that relationship to be single for a while and sort himself out before making another commitment, he jumped from one relationship directly into another relationship (fear of being alone).
3. When things start sliding in his primary relationship, he's already has a trend or habit of looking for a new upgrade, and doesn't have an issue with carrying on at least two emotional/sexual relationships at the same time without much guilt (he's good at rationalizing his betrayals).
4. While you might be that upgrade right now, how likely is it that your relationship will never enter the complacency of point #1 at some point in the future thereby making you the old model that he is looking to trade in?
Yes... it will happen again.
Jesus... This is scary accurate.
Quote by Magical_felix
I think all these questions would be easier to answer if we new the degree of hotness of the new new wife.
Like is she a 10?
Also is the husband wealthy? That has a lot to do with it too...
The new wife looks okay, but she is pregnant of her second baby with the guy. (she got pregnant again just 3 months after delivering her first baby), so she will look less okay soon.
The guy is not a millionaire, but owns his own company, (or at least owned, I heard he's having some problems now with the financial crisis) so I guess he is a bit above average on that department , he's a bit of a "self-made man", he emigrated from Ecuador to Spain and in a few years he got his company, car, house, and married the woman of my life, who happens to be the first wife.
I know it sounds like lame drama...what can I do, but can´t get her out of my head, it's like a slow acting poison.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by Magical_felixQuote by Dancing_Doll
Here are the issues with this situation.
1. He stayed in a relationship where he wasn't happy enough to stay honest/faithful but wasn't unhappy enough to leave (so in essence he is playing both women until he can figure out what he wants).
2. Instead of leaving that relationship to be single for a while and sort himself out before making another commitment, he jumped from one relationship directly into another relationship (fear of being alone).
3. When things start sliding in his primary relationship, he's already has a trend or habit of looking for a new upgrade, and doesn't have an issue with carrying on at least two emotional/sexual relationships at the same time without much guilt (he's good at rationalizing his betrayals).
4. While you might be that upgrade right now, how likely is it that your relationship will never enter the complacency of point #1 at some point in the future thereby making you the old model that he is looking to trade in?
Yes... it will happen again.
Jesus... This is scary accurate.
Yeah, I have a bit of experience with this...
I would be quite wary if a guy even wanted to go out with me whilst cheating on his other half, let alone marry me. Whats to say he wouldnt do exactly the same to me?? When things get rough its better to either work it out, or end it and work yourself out before just jumping straight to the next woman without sorting out your issues. I would have to say either break up with her first, or end it with me, he cant have both.
Like DD said, sounds like a case of being afraid of being alone and just wanting it all without giving anything back.
Like DD said, sounds like a case of being afraid of being alone and just wanting it all without giving anything back.
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I would have to say either break up with her first, or end it with me, he cant have both.
Like DD said, sounds like a case of being afraid of being alone and just wanting it all without giving anything back.
Agreed. If you're willing to take the risks, then maybe there's a hope in high hell.....but if the male in question is indecisive, and most likely fickle, the decision making process will likely come crumbling down around his ears within the next six months.
You never know, the new wife might realise how selfish the guy is and dump his ass anyway...It COULD happen.
Best course of action...stay the hell out of it, you don't wanna be involved when something bad happens because there's a reason it's usually an innocent party that gets harmed in a domestic dispute call out.
It's nice to be nice, but it's smarter in the long term to protect yourself (emotionally and physically) by bowing out.
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Wild at Heart
Quote by javierQuote by Magical_felix
I think all these questions would be easier to answer if we new the degree of hotness of the new new wife.
Like is she a 10?
Also is the husband wealthy? That has a lot to do with it too...
The new wife looks okay, but she is pregnant of her second baby with the guy. (she got pregnant again just 3 months after delivering her first baby), so she will look less okay soon.
The guy is not a millionaire, but owns his own company, (or at least owned, I heard he's having some problems now with the financial crisis) so I guess he is a bit above average on that department , he's a bit of a "self-made man", he emigrated from Ecuador to Spain and in a few years he got his company, car, house, and married the woman of my life, who happens to be the first wife.
I know it sounds like lame drama...what can I do, but can´t get her out of my head, it's like a slow acting poison.
Wait, wait, wait.... The first wife is your dream girl?
Well then this must be good news... What you waiting for playa?
Quote by Magical_felixQuote by javierQuote by Magical_felix
I think all these questions would be easier to answer if we new the degree of hotness of the new new wife.
Like is she a 10?
Also is the husband wealthy? That has a lot to do with it too...
The new wife looks okay, but she is pregnant of her second baby with the guy. (she got pregnant again just 3 months after delivering her first baby), so she will look less okay soon.
The guy is not a millionaire, but owns his own company, (or at least owned, I heard he's having some problems now with the financial crisis) so I guess he is a bit above average on that department , he's a bit of a "self-made man", he emigrated from Ecuador to Spain and in a few years he got his company, car, house, and married the woman of my life, who happens to be the first wife.
I know it sounds like lame drama...what can I do, but can´t get her out of my head, it's like a slow acting poison.
Wait, wait, wait.... The first wife is your dream girl?
Well then this must be good news... What you waiting for playa?
Not so easy, she doesn´t want anything with me now, she just wants to forget about men and enjoy life and her kids. She's back in Ecuador, and I am here in Barcelona. But the whole divorce thing hurt her, so let's hope that she heels and let's see what the future has in store.
I know I should forget about the guy, but that situation really pisses me off, I feel like going to his house and kick the hell out of him, but that would mean just more problems and she told me to stay out of it.
Wild at Heart
Quote by javierQuote by Magical_felixQuote by javierQuote by Magical_felix
I think all these questions would be easier to answer if we new the degree of hotness of the new new wife.
Like is she a 10?
Also is the husband wealthy? That has a lot to do with it too...
The new wife looks okay, but she is pregnant of her second baby with the guy. (she got pregnant again just 3 months after delivering her first baby), so she will look less okay soon.
The guy is not a millionaire, but owns his own company, (or at least owned, I heard he's having some problems now with the financial crisis) so I guess he is a bit above average on that department , he's a bit of a "self-made man", he emigrated from Ecuador to Spain and in a few years he got his company, car, house, and married the woman of my life, who happens to be the first wife.
I know it sounds like lame drama...what can I do, but can´t get her out of my head, it's like a slow acting poison.
Wait, wait, wait.... The first wife is your dream girl?
Well then this must be good news... What you waiting for playa?
Not so easy, she doesn´t want anything with me now, she just wants to forget about men and enjoy life and her kids. She's back in Ecuador, and I am here in Barcelona. But the whole divorce thing hurt her, so let's hope that she heels and let's see what the future has in store.
I know I should forget about the guy, but that situation really pisses me off, I feel like going to his house and kick the hell out of him, but that would mean just more problems and she told me to stay out of it.
You're smart to stay out of it. I did hear Ecuador is nice and warm this time of the year though......
Vaya con Dios Javier.
I saw this happen in my brother in laws marriage. He left his first wife (and three kids) for a "newer" version. Now she is 10 years older, 3 kids bigger, and he is just as unhappy as he was in the first place...
Incidentally, the 2nd wife is a totally hottie, which may explain why he still keeps her..dickwad.
Incidentally, the 2nd wife is a totally hottie, which may explain why he still keeps her..dickwad.