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Keeping Your Mouth Shut or Speaking what is on your mind.

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Dancewithme
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Speaking for myself, amen sister!
NymphWriter
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I need to learn to keep my big mouth shut. When I speak my mind... all too often it bites me in the ass and can cost me things I love & enjoy.
ChuckEPoo
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I need to learn to keep my big mouth shut. When I speak my mind... all too often it bits me in the ass and can cost me things I love & enjoy.


I agree. That is probably why my mom kept telling me, "that is why you have two ears and one mouth."

My biggest blunder came when I saw some friends I hadn't seen for awhile. I knew they were desperately trying to have a child. Then when I greeted them at the door and I saw she had a full round belly, I said, "Congratulations!"

She gave me an icy stare and said, "I'm NOT pregnant."

Major foot in mouth moment.
Leesi
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Being lazy, so I'll just rinse and repeat.....


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My friends know I'm brutally honest, and I guess they don't mind because they always ask for advice. If you ask me, I will give you an honest answer, like it or not, and it's gotten me in trouble, but at least you know where I stand.
NymphWriter
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I agree. That is probably why my mom kept telling me, "that is why you have two ears and one mouth."

My biggest blunder came when I saw some friends I hadn't seen for awhile. I knew they were desperately trying to have a child. Then when I greeted them at the door and I saw she had a full round belly, I said, "Congratulations!"

She gave me an icy stare and said, "I'm NOT pregnant."

Major foot in mouth moment.


Been there done that on both sides. As a kid I asked a woman how far along she was... she wasn't pregnant.

My 1st teaching job... several parents asked how far along I was. They had me confused with the teacher who was pregnant. I'll admit... I'm overweight (fat) but I haven't been pregnant in over 21 years.

As for what I had said earlier... well... you know what that's about Chuck. That wound is still healing.
ChuckEPoo
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Been there done that on both sides. As a kid I asked a woman how far along she was... she wasn't pregnant.

My 1st teaching job... several parents asked how far along I was. They had me confused with the teacher who was pregnant. I'll admit... I'm overweight (fat) but I haven't been pregnant in over 21 years.

As for what I had said earlier... well... you know what that's about Chuck. That wound is still healing.


Words are like bullets. Once you pull the trigger it is hard to get them back. Especially if they weren't meant to hurt. I think we have all said something glib in jest that was thought offensive to someone. How we react to someone when we are on the receiving end of a hurtful comment, speaks as much to our character as much as it is to theirs. If you apologize and they seek retribution, it shows as poorly on them as it does on you. Maybe more so.
Simplicity
Just me
Time and place for everything..
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LaylaJune
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Time and place for everything..


I second this.
Verbal
Gravelly-Voiced Fucker
I err on the side of keeping my mouth shut. Perhaps to a fault.
Dani
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I err on the side of keeping my mouth shut. Perhaps to a fault.


I used to be that way. But my livelihood/career path kinda demands that I don't do that. I've really had to learn to step outside of myself and just tell people that some shit just isn't okay. And I've learned to incorporate that into other aspects of my life. It's uncomfortable, and it can be very mentally/emotionally taxing, especially for someone like me who would just rather shut down in the face of conflict, but it's definitely worth it.

I have also learned to pick my battles. If all it's gonna do is waste time and energy that could be spent elsewhere, then it's really not worth it.

And if I find myself in a situation where I have to ignore the battle for the time being, I just bide my time until I know I'll win the war. It all comes out eventually. And when it does, you'll regret not saying anything.

I just stick to my guns, and I never let anyone dictate how a circumstance should make me feel or convince me that their own feelings in regards to a situation are more valid than my own. If that requires speaking up, I do so. And if it requires shutting up, I do that too.

"What is the quality of your intent?" - Thurgood Marshall
sundancer2004
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If I kept my mouth shut I wouldnt have had to put out so many fires.
NymphWriter
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If I kept my mouth shut I wouldnt have had to put out so many fires.


I second this one as well! However... if nothing else... we learn from our mistakes.
NymphWriter
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Saw this on Facebook... wish I had seen it sooner.
Simplicity
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Saw this on Facebook... wish I had seen it sooner.



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Magical_felix
Wild at Heart
Most of the time I'm just holding back.
Simplicity
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Saw this on Facebook... wish I had seen it sooner.



Still agree with this.
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NymphWriter
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Still agree with this.


Me too. Thank for agreeing with me (even if it's something as silly as this. )
Simplicity
Just me
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I need to learn to keep my big mouth shut. When I speak my mind... all too often it bites me in the ass and can cost me things I love & enjoy.


Time and place for everything.. But as time goes on,I realize it is better to just be quiet and let karma take over.
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NymphWriter
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Time and place for everything.. But as time goes on,I realize it is better to just be quiet and let karma take over.


Yes... Karma is my homegirl. More than once I've been privileged to see her take care of shit for me. She took care of my ex-husband in a way I never saw coming (ironically, neither did he.) Yes, I need to remember to let her take care of things for me.
curvygalore
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Time and place for everything.. But as time goes on,I realize it is better to just be quiet and let karma take over.


I couldn't agree more. In the past few years I have been in some very volatile situations with different groups of friends. If I had reacted in anyway it would have been disastrous. Sometimes, shutting up and stepping back can save a whole load of grief, despite not that being an easy option at the time...
apptobebad
Unfuckwithable
Sometimes you just need to speak your mind. However, there is a time and a place for it. Its always best to think about it first and plan. If you open your mouth and just vent, you run the risk of saying the wrong thing or in the wrong way.

The again. i usually bottle things up. sad

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MarinaC
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I tend to bottle things up and am normally too polite to speak my mind because I never want to offend anyone. I'm not saying that's a good thing or advocating it, just stating a fact. But the down side is, when you bottle things up, occasionally you pop your top and you end up regretting it, beating yourself up and basically feeling awful.
Guest
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It depends upon the situation. Things that are MILDLY irksome I bite my tongue, for a while... once a certain point is reached I see no reason to continue with that and proceed to be blunt and to the point. Some major is another matter, I'm neither backwards nor bashful.
Jinxy
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Always speak your mind, no one else is going to do it for you
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Guest
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I always try biting my tongue but it's so hard sometimes
Simplicity
Just me
Leaned it is better just to be quiet ,and lets the others keep Talking...
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Simplicity
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Leaned it is better just to be quiet ,and lets the others keep Talking...


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I'm outspoken. So speaking my mind
Simplicity
Just me
Time and place for everything,but as a rule,keeping my mouth shut in most circumstances.Karma takes care of the rest.
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