I see this happening a lot. I go to people's pages, and it says, "Woman only" "No fucking men allowed" "Men if you add me, or message me, I will report you and your ass will be gone from this site forever" "This is not a place for horny men" "I will not add anyone who is friends with any males" I was just wondering when did all the Man hating woman join this site. I have been around for about 2 years now *have deleted my account, but since come back* I am afraid to have any interaction with anyone, because I don't know if they are going to go after the ones I care about. When did this site come to this? Am I really the only one who notices it. Last time I checked, Lush was a Sex Stories site, Not a Man hating woman site! This place has more lesbians and man haters than anywhere else on the net. Don't get me wrong, I have a Lot of woman who are my friends, who are either bisexual, or lesbians, but none of them go THIS far! What gives?
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I've yet to notice any thing like that, but I've only been on lush for about a week *also deleted account and made a new one* I do think that is ridiculous though. If you don't want to accept men as friends on here then fine that's ur business but don't actively try to push people out of this site, just cuz u've got some emotional or psychological problem w/ males. This is suppose to be a comfortable, welcoming site. If someone honestly put that they wouldn't accept people for having males as friends that's just bullshit.
Yeah, it's there. However, at one point I had females as my avatar's. Only reason was that they were what I enjoyed aesthetically, in a woman. Guys, without looking at my profile just went for broke and messaged some pretty crude shit. I can't fault women for it.
So, I just write, and join in the banter in forums, and allow women to friend me or converse when at their leisure.
Simple answer: all men are pigs, but, some of us have something to say and have some decorum.
So, I just write, and join in the banter in forums, and allow women to friend me or converse when at their leisure.
Simple answer: all men are pigs, but, some of us have something to say and have some decorum.
You're so right Eviotis.
This is a very welcoming site to everyone. I suggest that you ignore or block the people that you're uncomfortable with and try to join in with others either in chat rooms or on the forums. I'm sure that our of the 50K plus members you will find some that think as you do and that you'll get along with.
This is a very welcoming site to everyone. I suggest that you ignore or block the people that you're uncomfortable with and try to join in with others either in chat rooms or on the forums. I'm sure that our of the 50K plus members you will find some that think as you do and that you'll get along with.
I have been here for almost two years now and yes I have gotten frustrated with issues here as well. Most of you here know I'm an okay kind of a guy. I will try to get along with all people. There is no room for prejudice or hate.
I'll let ya all in on a little story here ...
When I first arrived after a few weeks I was introduced to Gav and I was being accused of being not 'polite' well after Gav did his thing of looking into the incident. I was cleared. I was fortunate enough to have as Gav put it "I see you're a good guy and you have made friends."
Now I will admit and yes a few of you here have witnessed it I am a "Hot~Head" Because I have gotten frustrated with people being stupid. I'll end here ...
I'll let ya all in on a little story here ...
When I first arrived after a few weeks I was introduced to Gav and I was being accused of being not 'polite' well after Gav did his thing of looking into the incident. I was cleared. I was fortunate enough to have as Gav put it "I see you're a good guy and you have made friends."
Now I will admit and yes a few of you here have witnessed it I am a "Hot~Head" Because I have gotten frustrated with people being stupid. I'll end here ...
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I have no idea what could make some lovely women so vehemently opposed towards men.
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As a site grows, many different people will join. Lush has grown really fast over the last two years and of course new people and their views of life and social relations are added. It might be good to remember that the ones screaming the loudest gets noticed the most, but they are seldom the most common type of person around. Also, a persons profile stand for the person him/herself, so why not just take it for what it is -Individuals making their point clear on who they want to communicate with.
(You will see the same behaviour among some straight men and straight women.)
(You will see the same behaviour among some straight men and straight women.)
I have returned to the site under a new name and attitude after a few months away. I raised this very issue during my first tenure here, and received an amazing amount of nasty feedback from women. I even suggested that Lush could have a lesbian / women only site so the women wouldn't have to put up with any male idiots (yes there are a lot of them). I rhetorically asked if it was OK for men to put this hate language in their profiles and room descriptions. I was widely accused of being a lesbian hater or anti woman, and told to take my man-pig ass somewhere else. After a few exchanges between disagreeing members (i.e. me defending myself), the topic was shut down by a moderator.
Let's face it - at least half of the self-described lesbians or bi women are only using that descriptor to fend off the rude guys, and its our fault guys.
I agree with original poster that these anti-men statements are unnecessary.
Let's face it - at least half of the self-described lesbians or bi women are only using that descriptor to fend off the rude guys, and its our fault guys.
I agree with original poster that these anti-men statements are unnecessary.
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I am very Bisexual. I prefer women at this point in my life because of many bad experiences with men in the past. But I still love men and love sex with men too. But I totally agree that there is no reason to hate men if you prefer women just like there would be no reason for a man to hate women if he prefers men. And even if you do not want to chat with or friend men, there is no reason to be nasty about it. I ask men who want to be friends to first allow me to get to know them in the forum or in a chat room (although I rarely go in chat rooms any more). Unfortunately, 95% of the men who ask to be friends do not respect my feelings about this so I just dont add them. I would never put them down in any way.
But to be honest, I have not come across any women who have been that "militant" towards men where they will report any man who asks them to be a friend.
I do get annoyed by the guys who are crude and arrogant and think all women should bow at there feet and there are a lot if them here, but most of the guys here are really nice and some of my best friends on Lush are guys.
I have my own opinion of why there are so many man-hating "girls" here. but Ill keep that to myself. Guess it takes all kinds!!
But to be honest, I have not come across any women who have been that "militant" towards men where they will report any man who asks them to be a friend.
I do get annoyed by the guys who are crude and arrogant and think all women should bow at there feet and there are a lot if them here, but most of the guys here are really nice and some of my best friends on Lush are guys.
I have my own opinion of why there are so many man-hating "girls" here. but Ill keep that to myself. Guess it takes all kinds!!
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I don't notice very much man-hating from the 'real women' on this site.
Yes, there are a lot of annoying men that can be very crude, annoying and/or stalkerish but to be honest, they really do target certain profiles which are usually the fun/slutty, "I'm up for anything" ones that have less substance and a lot of nude pics OR seem to belong to a younger, more naive girl that might be 'nice enough' to not immediately just tell them to fuck off. Seriously girls, it's pretty easy to just ignore those PMs or IM's. It's not like you have a live man standing there ogling you in a creepy way or grabbing your arm to get your attention. Just click the button and make it disappear from your screen. It's the same as how in real life you would just roll your eyes and walk away. If you can't handle a pervey comment online, then how do you women handle men in real life? It's really not that big of a deal, and certainly nothing worthy of throwing an "I hate men" tantrum over.
A lot of the openly man-hating profiles appear to belong to flushies anyway and sure, if a guy is running a profile and pretending to be a hot female cyber-model, then he's probably going to want to avoid dealing with horny guys so putting out an aggressive "stay away" sign on the lawn is a likely tactic.
I've never heard of the "I won't be friends with anyone who has men on their friends list" before. But seriously though... why would you want to be friends with them anyway then? They are either dudes in disguise or totally neurotic headcases. Either way, let them have their own corner of the universe and enjoy your own.
Yes, there are a lot of annoying men that can be very crude, annoying and/or stalkerish but to be honest, they really do target certain profiles which are usually the fun/slutty, "I'm up for anything" ones that have less substance and a lot of nude pics OR seem to belong to a younger, more naive girl that might be 'nice enough' to not immediately just tell them to fuck off. Seriously girls, it's pretty easy to just ignore those PMs or IM's. It's not like you have a live man standing there ogling you in a creepy way or grabbing your arm to get your attention. Just click the button and make it disappear from your screen. It's the same as how in real life you would just roll your eyes and walk away. If you can't handle a pervey comment online, then how do you women handle men in real life? It's really not that big of a deal, and certainly nothing worthy of throwing an "I hate men" tantrum over.
A lot of the openly man-hating profiles appear to belong to flushies anyway and sure, if a guy is running a profile and pretending to be a hot female cyber-model, then he's probably going to want to avoid dealing with horny guys so putting out an aggressive "stay away" sign on the lawn is a likely tactic.
I've never heard of the "I won't be friends with anyone who has men on their friends list" before. But seriously though... why would you want to be friends with them anyway then? They are either dudes in disguise or totally neurotic headcases. Either way, let them have their own corner of the universe and enjoy your own.
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I don't notice very much man-hating from the 'real women' on this site.
Yes, there are a lot of annoying men that can be very crude, annoying and/or stalkerish but to be honest, they really do target certain profiles which are usually the fun/slutty, "I'm up for anything" ones that have less substance and a lot of nude pics OR seem to belong to a younger, more naive girl that might be 'nice enough' to not immediately just tell them to fuck off. Seriously girls, it's pretty easy to just ignore those PMs or IM's. It's not like you have a live man standing there ogling you in a creepy way or grabbing your arm to get your attention. Just click the button and make it disappear from your screen. It's the same as how in real life you would just roll your eyes and walk away. If you can't handle a pervey comment online, then how do you women handle men in real life? It's really not that big of a deal, and certainly nothing worthy of throwing an "I hate men" tantrum over.
A lot of the openly man-hating profiles appear to belong to flushies anyway and sure, if a guy is running a profile and pretending to be a hot female cyber-model, then he's probably going to want to avoid dealing with horny guys so putting out an aggressive "stay away" sign on the lawn is a likely tactic.
I've never heard of the "I won't be friends with anyone who has men on their friends list" before. But seriously though... why would you want to be friends with them anyway then? They are either dudes in disguise or totally neurotic headcases. Either way, let them have their own corner of the universe and enjoy your own.
Well Said!! I didnt want to acuse anyone of being an "imposter", but I think that is the main culprit here.
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well, here's the thing... some men here have (and i think there is no argument here) given the girls on the site good reason not to want to interact with members of the male species and perhaps some of the women have over reacted to that. For myself, yeah, i get the grabby, pushy, crude ones every so often, but really, everyone is an individual - i also have made some good friends with whom i chat with (just talk, mind you, not 'chat'!) quite often. yes, because of what Lush is, you're going to get 18 year olds who thing it's a sexual smorgasboard grabbing a plate and trying to shovel women onto it, but the practice of refusing to add a man a a friend kind of floors me (for the record, i have come across guys profiles and seen their friends list: 100% women! really, are guys THAT worried about being mistaken for gay that they can't even make friends were with other guys? wow).
Like Nikki, i am very bisexual, and actually, in the realm of sexual encounters lean a little bit more towards penises - sadly, i two have had enough issues with guys to put up walls very quickly and to have my warning radar on at all times. once you get thru that, though with a little bit of respect, i tend to relax considerably. I am wondering if i should do a shout out to some of the wonderful guys here now, but there's way too many and i worry about forgetting someone. that said, yeah, hopefully you know who you are.
Like Nikki, i am very bisexual, and actually, in the realm of sexual encounters lean a little bit more towards penises - sadly, i two have had enough issues with guys to put up walls very quickly and to have my warning radar on at all times. once you get thru that, though with a little bit of respect, i tend to relax considerably. I am wondering if i should do a shout out to some of the wonderful guys here now, but there's way too many and i worry about forgetting someone. that said, yeah, hopefully you know who you are.
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Dancing doll makes a good point. I wish it were not so, but I understand (no, I don't, really) that some men come on here posing, whether to entice men or women. Either way, I think it is a bit sick. And so yes, DD is likely correct in that a good portion of those militants are poseurs.
Having said that, why do women who want nothing to do with men, hang out in the main Lush chat rooms? There is usually a ladies-only room going..... If you don't like the banter or ploys, go to your own room?
Perhaps some of the ladies feel uncomfortable having others see their name in a for-girls-only room?
Or, is it that they are hoping to catch and seduce an otherwise hetero woman into something she was not looking for, and thus kind of are in the same league with the dishonest poseurs, getting a bit of a power trip?
No harm done, I guess, but women or poseurs parading as women in the main chat room who have no interest in conversations with men have been probably the most frequent source of heightened tense moments in chat.
Having said that, why do women who want nothing to do with men, hang out in the main Lush chat rooms? There is usually a ladies-only room going..... If you don't like the banter or ploys, go to your own room?
Perhaps some of the ladies feel uncomfortable having others see their name in a for-girls-only room?
Or, is it that they are hoping to catch and seduce an otherwise hetero woman into something she was not looking for, and thus kind of are in the same league with the dishonest poseurs, getting a bit of a power trip?
No harm done, I guess, but women or poseurs parading as women in the main chat room who have no interest in conversations with men have been probably the most frequent source of heightened tense moments in chat.
It is a woman's choice to be adamantly opposed to conversing with men, as it is a man's choice to be the same towards women in return. Some people come to this site because it is a safe haven of sorts. They can look and not necessarily have to communicate with everyone unless they post to the forums.
I'd chalk it up to a woman's freedom to deny and accept people that they want to.
It's a sort of power trip, they are "kings" and "queens" of the castle.
I'd chalk it up to a woman's freedom to deny and accept people that they want to.
It's a sort of power trip, they are "kings" and "queens" of the castle.
As a straight guy with a girl's name and Avatar, (long story) I've never come across this problem.... If someone says 'girls/females' only then I'm not interested and I don't contact. All my friends know I'm a guy. My profile photos kinda give me away...
That said, at least four of my firm friends on Lush are girls who love girls and we get on famously...
If you wanna engage I'm game! If not I'll have to make do with some of the other couple of thousand people on the site.
If you're a Lesbian who simply wants to talk to other women than so what? Same goes for gay guys who just wanna interact with other gay/bi/curious guys....
Nobody is 'hating' anyone per se, just not interested in explaining their interest any more than just once, in a straightforward and easy to understand profile statement.
What's the problem?
xx S
That said, at least four of my firm friends on Lush are girls who love girls and we get on famously...
If you wanna engage I'm game! If not I'll have to make do with some of the other couple of thousand people on the site.
If you're a Lesbian who simply wants to talk to other women than so what? Same goes for gay guys who just wanna interact with other gay/bi/curious guys....
Nobody is 'hating' anyone per se, just not interested in explaining their interest any more than just once, in a straightforward and easy to understand profile statement.
What's the problem?
xx S
I've been here since February so I'm fairy new. I have seen so many of those "I don't friend guys" "don't even attempt to talk to me or look at my profile or breathe if you have a dick and balls" profiles.
Most of them sound incredibly BITCHY. As a straight women who is open to being friends with everyone - it totally turns me off and I don't want to know them better.
And yes there are some creepers who give you good reason to be hesistant but so far that hasn't been my full experience on Lush. Go old ignoring them works wonders usually.
But what do I know, apparently you guys have taught me that it may be men in disguise anyway. *mind boggles*
Most of them sound incredibly BITCHY. As a straight women who is open to being friends with everyone - it totally turns me off and I don't want to know them better.
And yes there are some creepers who give you good reason to be hesistant but so far that hasn't been my full experience on Lush. Go old ignoring them works wonders usually.
But what do I know, apparently you guys have taught me that it may be men in disguise anyway. *mind boggles*
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Well, I've lived long enough to know that there are a lot of aggressive, maniacal men out there who do a lot to contribute to the man-hating attitude of a lot of women, so I understand. I was a crisis counsellor for a few years, and my partner works in the field of gender-based-violence prevention, so I've seen the worst of what men can do. I think forums like these are great for people to explore their private selves and their sexuality in a setting where they get to set boundaries, which they may not feel capable of in "real life." I usually look at profiles before I respond to games or forums, and respect the boundaries of people who post here. If a woman is into women only, so be it. If she's angry at men, assume she has good reason to be and let it go. There are plenty of fantastic women on here who don't feel that way, so don't worry about the ones who are biased against those of us born without a vagina. Let's remember what this site is about, and let's have some fun with each other. Fact is, if there weren't so many men who acted like imbecilic, violent assholes, there wouldn't be so many angry, men-hating women out there. Let it be, and let love rule.
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I don't notice very much man-hating from the 'real women' on this site.
Yes, there are a lot of annoying men that can be very crude, annoying and/or stalkerish but to be honest, they really do target certain profiles which are usually the fun/slutty, "I'm up for anything" ones that have less substance and a lot of nude pics OR seem to belong to a younger, more naive girl that might be 'nice enough' to not immediately just tell them to fuck off. Seriously girls, it's pretty easy to just ignore those PMs or IM's. It's not like you have a live man standing there ogling you in a creepy way or grabbing your arm to get your attention. Just click the button and make it disappear from your screen. It's the same as how in real life you would just roll your eyes and walk away. If you can't handle a pervey comment online, then how do you women handle men in real life? It's really not that big of a deal, and certainly nothing worthy of throwing an "I hate men" tantrum over.
A lot of the openly man-hating profiles appear to belong to flushies anyway and sure, if a guy is running a profile and pretending to be a hot female cyber-model, then he's probably going to want to avoid dealing with horny guys so putting out an aggressive "stay away" sign on the lawn is a likely tactic.
I've never heard of the "I won't be friends with anyone who has men on their friends list" before. But seriously though... why would you want to be friends with them anyway then? They are either dudes in disguise or totally neurotic headcases. Either way, let them have their own corner of the universe and enjoy your own.
Well Said!! I didnt want to acuse anyone of being an "imposter", but I think that is the main culprit here.
Yes, both of you put it perfectly.
I've encountered profiles that said "no men" so I just buggered-off. I don't want to go where I'm not wanted. Believe me, I know that women have good reason to cordon themselves off from men. We can be boorish, aggresive, violent beasts, and I fully support women who set their own boundaries on sites such as these. Let them be, and enjoy the amazing people on this site who will interact with you!
My comments if you please. I have read more then a few female profiles that make it very clear they are only interested in other woman. I have not problem with this postition. I do not understand how a woman could hate men in general, in the specific yes.
Some men a jerks and there are woman that fall into a similar group.
I wish I had found the sexual beauty two woman can have together, at an earlier time in my life, but at he same time I would never want to give up men completely either.
Those of you who think these attacks are men in mascarade as woman, may have a valid point.
Some men a jerks and there are woman that fall into a similar group.
I wish I had found the sexual beauty two woman can have together, at an earlier time in my life, but at he same time I would never want to give up men completely either.
Those of you who think these attacks are men in mascarade as woman, may have a valid point.
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A bit naughty but seems appropriate
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But as an independent observer I have noticed some of this behavior.... also noticed lots of other behaviors which I cringe at.... from both sexes......
But as an independent observer I have noticed some of this behavior.... also noticed lots of other behaviors which I cringe at.... from both sexes......
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Quote by stephanie
As a straight guy with a girl's name and Avatar, (long story) I've never come across this problem.... If someone says 'girls/females' only then I'm not interested and I don't contact. All my friends know I'm a guy. My profile photos kinda give me away...
xx S
wait... you're a... guy?!!? GOD, i hate you now! geez, and to think i... eek! gotta go scrub my mouth, umm... fingers... um... SOMETHING! *giggle* at least you're gay, so... what!?! AND you're STRAIGHT TOO!? holy F@#%!!!!!!!
You can’t truly call yourself peaceful unless you are capable of violence. If you’re not capable of violence, you’re not peaceful. You’re harmless.
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As a straight guy with a girl's name and Avatar, (long story) I've never come across this problem.... If someone says 'girls/females' only then I'm not interested and I don't contact. All my friends know I'm a guy. My profile photos kinda give me away...
xx S
wait... you're a... guy?!!? GOD, i hate you now! geez, and to think i... eek! gotta go scrub my mouth, umm... fingers... um... SOMETHING! *giggle* at least you're gay, so... what!?! AND you're STRAIGHT TOO!? holy F@#%!!!!!!!
DAMN!!!! Sprite!
I am a lesbian that has had quite a few bad experiences with men on Lush but I have also had some great experiences with men too. In my profile I say only interested in women but I do have a few men on my friend's list and they are some of the best people I've ever had the pleasure of meeting and I will name names. ImHapless, Dudelicious, LafeyetteMister, ParMach, and Wolverine. They are more than friends, they're more like big brothers. That being said that, I agree, how can anyone just hate someone beause they are a man, or a woman. My hate is for the assholes that make it hard for the truly good men here.
We don't ban people for sending messages or adding people at Lush. There is a lovely block feature to prevent people contacting one if they are persistant and don't get the message. We have a lot of people on this site. Not all of them are going to be friendly and hug carebears and shit. If you don't like their attitude don't add them or chat to them. They are obviously drama llamas. Where is that drama llama emoticon? I ask people not to chat with me and that is everyone(men and female alike) as I've had many bad experiences with people on chat.
