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Quote by Bermuda4t
starting to get some momentum now. There's a website called strap-ons.com. They certainly look like they work.


I read something in wiki that suggests most women don't have the kegel muscle strength to keep them in place, but maybe with the anal addition that might be less of a problem. There's a tumblr photo of a woman using her panties slung underneath to hold it up. I would think that holding it against the mons would be important.
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I'm struggling with this right at this moment, because my latest series is getting few views and few comments. Votes are almost irrelevant and I'm thinking of turning them back off. I only turned them on because of the VIP contest. I didn't know what impact having the votes turned off would have on that. The comments, especially from respected authors, feed my ego the most. The views I get are low for a number of reasons that I understand, but I like to see enough views to justify the effort that I put into writing something other than a quick wank story. Having over 2K of views would, I think, be impressive for a novel written by a not very well-established guy.
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It's normal for me, lad. If you know how to do a thing well, why not? I average at achieving it between 30-40 seconds, but have done it in about 20 before (yes, I timed it, I was bored). I even wrote a little story explaining how to do it for other peopleto try it out.


A very funny story as I recall.
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What pisses me off is the people who say "I'm a live and let live type of person" but then have no problem using their vote to try get the government to force others to serve their purposes. That is hypocrisy.
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To add an update: I would just like to let everyone know that we have decided not to open the relationship. We found that we both felt a little "weird" about the idea of being with someone else. I'm sure that even if the opportunity arose that I could actually sleep with someone else. Its just one of those things where we are comfortable and happy with what we have that we aren't willing to risk the consequences of our actions.


Congrats for thinking about it, discussing it, exploring the possibility of it, and coming to a mutual decision about it. That combination probably strengthened your bond. It probably even enhanced your sex life because now you're more committed to each other.
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I don't think that's healthy and I certainly wouldn't try it at my age. A pump that has a closed discharge valve could blow a seal.
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I don't know the boob size of the girl who took my virginity. She was around 22 years old and already saggy, but not saggy huge, just droopy. I would guess her at 36 D. She had the biggest boobs I've personally enjoyed. The rest were As - Cs in the 34 - 36 in. range.
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I've heard that many women can't come while standing, so if you haven't tried it while sitting down in the shower, that could be why.
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I should also add that my wife admits to fantasizing about other men and that doesn't bother me a bit. Mainly certain actors, but also scenes from porn vids.
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We've been married over 25 years. In all that time, I've had a lot of women via fantasy who weren't my wife. I've even fantasized about green women from Star Trek episodes. smile
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Perfect is the enemy of good enough. For that matter, so is Better.
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I built a drill powered fucking machine to experiment with anal.
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I would do it, but it would have to be with another woman first and I honestly think just hearing her ask would signal the death of the relationship.
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Actually, the question was answered. He asked if intelligence was intimidating. Most of the men here have stated that they would love being with a woman smarter than themselves. If this were intimidating, they wouldn't desire it.


Many of the answers did not address the "smarter than themselves" aspect and only stated that intelligence was desired.
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Sexy Lush Correspondent (SLC): I see that you just finished another serial story. Is this your new favorite?

1ball: Yes, it is. It's my most ambitious story yet and I really enjoyed writing it. It's called Immune To My Beauty and it starts here:

Immune To My Beauty -- Chapter 1

SLC: What first inspired you to write this particular story?

1ball: The knowledge, gained through personal experience and from the life stories of friends, that humbling experiences can make someone not just a better person, but also a happier person. Mentors can help with this and I guess this is a tribute to one of my mentors, a former Miss Tennessee whose premature death a few years ago left a void in my life, but who enriched my life by sharing her philosophy with me.

SLC: How did you come up with these characters?

1ball: A new friend here on Lush inspired a new archetype for me. She is a beautiful twenty-something and the archetype is a similar woman of such remarkable beauty that she receives preferential treatment, but unlike many beautiful women that I've met, she doesn't feel entitled to it and that makes her someone I can respect. I have another archetype from the "disco queen" era of 1975 - 1980, who was rude, vain and conceited, but who got away with it because she was beautiful and manipulative. I thought about what it would take to cause a transition from the old to the new in a short period of time, from June of 2005 to December of 2006. I needed to imagine a man who could inspire it and he had to be sufficiently immune to her beauty. The causes for his immunity had to be elements of the story and one of those, Allene Tuesday, is a character inspired by my late mentor, Brin Hendrix.

SLC: How does it differ from some of your other stories?

1ball: I've never written anything like it, but the main difference is the creation of a male lead role with no significant basis in my life. I've also used foreign languages to a much greater extent than ever before. Google Translate is a wonderful tool.

SLC: What was the most challenging thing about writing this piece?

1ball: Making the male character credible was the big challenge. The mystery of what made him different enough to become a mentor had to be revealed slowly, because of his complexity.

SLC: Anything else you want to tell us about it?

1ball: This story gripped me and took me places I didn't expect. I really hope that absence of predictablity is enjoyed by the readers.

SLC: Good luck with the votes and views and thanks for your time, XO.

1ball: Thank you and you're welcome and thanks, also, for this opportunity. It was a pleasure to see you again.
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An awful lot of people have ignored the fullness of the question asked. The question is about whether you would be intimidated when you feel she is more intelligent than you. Imagine all the stimulation conversations that a brilliant conversationalist could have with a caveman [/sarcasm] and then imagine a woman who is significantly smarter than you and think about your answer then.
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I've never had the desire and I've always had a hangup about anyone knowing I masturbate. I would guess it is a desire to share something sexual with men, so therefore homoerotic desires or tendencies, but not necessarily exclusively.
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Ahhh, but you see a meeting of eyes & a smile is more than just sitting there looking pretty! It can be so many things!


Agreed. The mystery of why a guy would hold back after the initial spark was something few of the women I met would be curious enough about to take a step, not even to see if it would result in a counter-step. The ones who did gained instant respect, and respect is something I like to have for a lover. It seems that the flowers wanted "nothing ventured, satisfaction gained". That made them easy to reject.
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I have to say that I LOVE sucking his cock... Especially if he's not fully erect. There's nothing better than the feeling of being able to take it fully into my mouth and feeling it stiffen as I lick and suck it.

I love watching him as I do it, it turns me on to see him gazing at me, telling me how good it feels and involuntarily closing his eyes and gasping as I get him fully hard.

I love to be between his legs, feeling his thighs tighten around me and his hands guiding my head and he gently thrusts against me... Hearing him gasp and moan as I gently graze my fingernails over his balls, while the other hand grasps his shaft, working in tandem with my mouth...

Fuck...


Um. that was uplifting. ;)
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While it may in fact be a complete double standard, I expect more from the guy than to just sit there looking pretty. I get enough attention doing that myself to barely notice the quiet wallflower unless he put himself out. As for me, I put myself out enough when I'm out by dressing up showing some skin/nice heels that I've already got your attention. Now it the guys turn to attract my interest.

Yes, I am quicker to try to seduce a woman. For the same reasons mentioned. She has already attracted my attention.


So, if you are representative of much of your gender, it seems little progress has occurred.

In my case, back when I was on the market, I would walk away from a woman who wouldn't meet me half way. It would start with shy smiles and would continue with glances and cautious steps toward each other (sometimes literally in an "across the room" situation). If her steps stopped before we were at what I considered to be half way, I rejected her. Little ventured, little lost. The women that I met this way were easier to treat as equals, something I find to be sexy. They were also very rare. Plenty of flowers waiting for bees, not many women who honestly showed interest where it existed. Maybe I just didn't do it for them or maybe they just didn't have the whatever to not be flowers.
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I'm cut and I think it might be a disadvantage in "staying power". The head is very sensitive and I think it gets more stimulation as a result of not having a sheath to decrease friction with vaginal walls. I could be wrong and I can't think of a way to test this theory.
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I wouldn't want to feel like a flower. Waaay too fragile, too delicate, I like to think that I'm a lot tougher than that. If he's approaching me just because he thinks I'm "hot" then he's probably just after a quick hook-up and that's not something I do.


I think you're making a little too much out of the metaphor, It's just about sitting and using only appearance to attract. But you said you might approach a guy if he gave you a shy smile, and that if he's approaching you just because he thinks you're "hot" then he's probably just after a quick hook-up. Shouldn't he think the same of you if all you're doing is approaching him after getting a smile? And are you saying you would respect him more if he didn't approach you until you at least gave him something other than your appearance to draw him to you? If both are the case, then maybe some progress has been made, but do you think that's become true of women in general, that they prefer having the exact same standard applied to them that they apply to men?
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Attractiveness is a factor, but it's not the only thing.
Picture the scene:
I'm at a bar with a few friends, just unwinding, not necessarily looking for a guy.
If I see a cute guy standing across the room, I shrug and go "hmm, cute."
He looks up and something about the way he smiles is creepy as hell, I am not going to approach him and if he approaches me, I won't be rude, but I'll be clear that I'm not interested.
I see a different guy, sorta cute and he shoots me a shy smile or something that makes him seem adorable to me, I'll go up to him and start a conversation, I won't wait for him to come to me.
If he's simply "hot" with nothing else that draws me to him, I won't leave my seat.


Fair enough. So it's the body language that does it for you, but look again at your "I won't leave my seat" case. Would you prefer that he also doesn't leave his? Or do you want to feel like a flower? And if you want to feel like a flower, would you think less of him if he did the same after deciding you were "hot" with nothing else that draws him to you?
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I think you're missing my point. A lot of women have no trouble going up to the man and being the pursuer, but most of the women I know (myself included) need a reason to do that. If I don't want to pursue a guy, I don't want him to try to pursue me.


But it seems like you're saying that being attractive from afar isn't a reason. Am I wrong about that? And is that a different standard than you would hold him to? In other words, to get you to pursue him he has to be more than attractive but assuming he is merely attractive, you would want him to pursue a connection with you based on attraction alone? Do I have that right?
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That's soooo not true! Quite a few people on here are now talking about Gingas! Before I joined, nobody knew what they were (gingerbread men).


Well, you've been pretty bold here, but I get the impression we would both still be wallflowers at a real life party (assuming I was single).
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That's not what I'm saying. Just describing your looks isn't enough. Even if you're super hot, there has to be something about you that draws me in and attracts me to you before I go up to you and try to seduce you. If I want to talk to a guy, I'm not going to sit there and wait for him to come to me, I'll go up to him and strike up a conversation, but there has to be something about you that makes me want to do that.


But all you know about the guy across the room is his looks plus maybe a little bit of body language. That's all he knows about you. Let's forget the word seduce for a moment and say it's "pursue the possibility of a connection". Let's also assume that all is presumed equal except for gender. Let's assume that both want to feel worthy of pursuit. Is there something that makes the woman more deserving of pursuit than the man? Has there been no progress in shedding that sense of entitlement since the invention of The Pill?
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Most are confident enough, but there has to be something about the guy that draws the woman in. Unless you're desperate and looking for a quick hook-up, there needs to be something about a guy that makes you WANT to seduce him. Just standing there looking all pretty doesn't really make me want to seduce you



So does this mean that if he's standing there looking pretty enough as opposed to not pretty enough you'll go talk to him? That's basically what a lot of women expect from guys. The wait to see if they will be the flower and he will be the bee, even if they really like what they see. Am I wrong about that?
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Sorry, some of us are going backwards and are currently stuck in the Victorian era.


LOL! Nothing to be sorry about. Us shy people are not the trend setters. But I've recently read threads asking why guys like older women, MILFS, etc. I can't help but think there might be some relationship between a lack of pursuit from younger women and an attraction to older women who don't wait to be pursued. The younger women might think "I'm just not that desperate yet" while the guys might be thinking "she's just too 'full of herself' still".
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Pussyismypleasure: it was an interesting social question you asked, honestly worded to get an honest answer. It would have been worth the effort if the question was taken and answered as honestly. There was a real chance for real insight, unfortunately the opportunity was squandered. Would have been real interesting to get some different takes from the lady's because we know there are some assertive women here that don't mind telling a man what they want and how they want it and are not afraid of societal norms that restrict their freedoms. "guest" brought a good point out too that bares some exploring as well.
Alas, was not to be.


So, what exactly can we take away from this? Did the women refuse to provide direct answers because they didn't like his self-description? Were they saying he wasn't worth seducing? Or were they saying they just aren't confident enough to seduce? Or what?

I can believe that women of my generation, in general, aren't confident enough to seduce. It matches my experience with them. But I'm at least one generation older than most women here. I would have hoped they would have made more progress.
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