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AngelHeart01
Over 90 days ago
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Quote by lafayettemister
I guess this is the part that I struggle with. Me leaving the marriage for whatever reason is like me saying that my kids are better off without me in their lives on a daily basis. I cannot agree to that. For me to say that me leaving would make their development better is just not something that works in my head. It is illogical to me. I try to be open minded about most issues. Being told my kids are better off seeing me 4 days a month is a bitter pill.
In answer to the question: Is it okay to cheat? No. I don't think it's really okay to cheat anytime. I'm not saying it doesn't happen all the time and people can forgive. I personally think, you have choices (always). If you want something else .. get out of what you're in. I wouldn't judge anyone for it ... I'm not in their shoes. I may be someone who makes the wrong choice (according to me) one day, you never know.
As far as your situation .... you have to do what you feel is best. But just remember ... it may be the wrong thing in the long run. Working with youth, and having conversations with those from broken families .. it's never easy. Sometimes there is resentment at the time (blaming one parent, more then the other).. but it seems the people I have spoken to, and who have actually experienced it .. all say it was horrible when the parents stayed together for the sake of them. We all were kids once .. think of yourself. Didn't you know what was going down with your parents? I am fortunate to have parents who love each other .. and actually like one another as well. My friends think it is more rare then the norm... I don't know, but my parents fight too. I remember fights, but I remember the respect (mutual) and genuine love even during those times.
Don't under estimate your kids. Plus, it does influence them in their own relationships to come. Its better for them to see two parents who love one another .. and if you can't give them that .. how about parents who respect each other enough to care about the whole picture.
I know your situation .. and you have a few obstacles that do affect the whole situation .. and it's not so cut and dry. Something worth thinking about though.
