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Archadia
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 37
United Kingdom
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I tried it a couple of times, i have to say, its pretty poor. I only really did it because I was staying with my uncle and he had so little download allowance i couldn't go on porn vids lol. Good stories are way better, and even without them, i'd rather have an honest chat with somebody intresting, that turns flirty/naughty. At least it feels real and your getting to know the person on some level.
Cyber sex is just so damn dull, i dont understanding how people can be entertained by it, the experience could persuade a glass-eye to go sleep.
Utilising the internet for Cyber sex is the equivalent for phoning your favourite Chinese take-away and ordering just the Prawn Crackers...
Cyber sex is just so damn dull, i dont understanding how people can be entertained by it, the experience could persuade a glass-eye to go sleep.
Utilising the internet for Cyber sex is the equivalent for phoning your favourite Chinese take-away and ordering just the Prawn Crackers...
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Man, this is bad, and i personally think this relationship is on borrowed time. I could not be in a sexless relationship, but thats just me, but tell me, if you're not having sex, to me, your not in "love". Heres simple, whats the difference between loving each other, and just being very close friends? Sex, right? I have friends, im not "in love" with them, but i do love them, you know...i a siblingy sort of way, how is this different? Your not having sex, which is my mind is the phsysical act of being in love (others are welcome to dismiss this as, this is on my own view point on "in love"...), this fizz has gone, so now, to all intents and perposes, your just two very good friends, who show light emotional connections, and happen to live together...i could say the same about friends that i've never had sex with at all....
Ok, solutions, i reckon this is tricky, very tricky, you might not even want to hear about it....So....the worst case scenario...move on? Stay friends, strike up a new love with somebody else. Sounds heartless in essense, but, your already being fair to her as you are, but....are you being fair to yourself? You deserve to be happy. It also sounds quite awful, that your masturbation sessions have to be kept on the low down, i think her self-esteem could be to blame, but really, is it fair that you have to carry the emotion burden for two people? Ironic that you masturbating, makes her guilty for knowing thats the only option of fulfilment you have available, which in turn, makes you feel guilty for making her feel guilty.....c'mon she's backing you into a corner and you're running out of choices.
I understand if you confirmed to stay with this woman, the breaking up is definately not an option, if thats what you have decided, which leaves, convincing her to become sexally active again (which is sounds as if all effort on that score has already been exhausted), or having sex with somebody else while staying emotionally in love with her (a very risky path...)
I think you need to sit down together and really dig into this problem, be firm but fair, dont try to force anything from her, but, do make sure that she knows down to a T, exactly how you feel. Tell her that you swore to defend your honour in marriage, but that untimately, the full picture of the relationship at present, does not meet your needs. I think from your post, you wont be keen on having sex with somebody else, which means, your commiting to unfulfilment with your current wife unless she changes her stance, then, unless you are prepared to move on, your going to be doomed to your once-every-six-months-no-foreplay-dull-as-hell sex session.
Its such a bad state of affairs, i really feel for you man, because i know i would hate, and couldn't personally, be in your situation. Its on you, but i only see a couple of choices (because you've already tried counselling). a)Move on and try to stay friends b) Stay emotionally involved and married, but have another sexual partner c) Do everything in your power to make her sexually active again, and make sure she is aware your marriage is at stake, and, encourage her to masturbate when you aren't there (you could even buy her some lingerie or a sex toy). I cannot, by principle, give you advice to encourage you to stop neededing sex, we have instincts and requirements which should not be hindered, in fact they should be encouraged, to me, a sex life is as important as eating and sleeping, therefore, it is against my every fibre, to tell you to stop needing sex, i just dont roll that way.....
So, its on you, are you going to commit and stay doomed, or change something....?
Ok, solutions, i reckon this is tricky, very tricky, you might not even want to hear about it....So....the worst case scenario...move on? Stay friends, strike up a new love with somebody else. Sounds heartless in essense, but, your already being fair to her as you are, but....are you being fair to yourself? You deserve to be happy. It also sounds quite awful, that your masturbation sessions have to be kept on the low down, i think her self-esteem could be to blame, but really, is it fair that you have to carry the emotion burden for two people? Ironic that you masturbating, makes her guilty for knowing thats the only option of fulfilment you have available, which in turn, makes you feel guilty for making her feel guilty.....c'mon she's backing you into a corner and you're running out of choices.
I understand if you confirmed to stay with this woman, the breaking up is definately not an option, if thats what you have decided, which leaves, convincing her to become sexally active again (which is sounds as if all effort on that score has already been exhausted), or having sex with somebody else while staying emotionally in love with her (a very risky path...)
I think you need to sit down together and really dig into this problem, be firm but fair, dont try to force anything from her, but, do make sure that she knows down to a T, exactly how you feel. Tell her that you swore to defend your honour in marriage, but that untimately, the full picture of the relationship at present, does not meet your needs. I think from your post, you wont be keen on having sex with somebody else, which means, your commiting to unfulfilment with your current wife unless she changes her stance, then, unless you are prepared to move on, your going to be doomed to your once-every-six-months-no-foreplay-dull-as-hell sex session.
Its such a bad state of affairs, i really feel for you man, because i know i would hate, and couldn't personally, be in your situation. Its on you, but i only see a couple of choices (because you've already tried counselling). a)Move on and try to stay friends b) Stay emotionally involved and married, but have another sexual partner c) Do everything in your power to make her sexually active again, and make sure she is aware your marriage is at stake, and, encourage her to masturbate when you aren't there (you could even buy her some lingerie or a sex toy). I cannot, by principle, give you advice to encourage you to stop neededing sex, we have instincts and requirements which should not be hindered, in fact they should be encouraged, to me, a sex life is as important as eating and sleeping, therefore, it is against my every fibre, to tell you to stop needing sex, i just dont roll that way.....
So, its on you, are you going to commit and stay doomed, or change something....?
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Liberating and frustrating in equal proportions lol. SO many beautiful girls that im never going to meet, but so fulfilling when you just wanna chat, get real life and helpful info, or just let of steam. But being a guy i have to deal with the annoying stigma of being unable to make friends with perfectly likeable people, because of what previous tactless cringeworthy men have said/done before us. There are guys on lush who do have manners and respect, and who are interested in other stuff than just how big your tits are, or what you like to do to me. The minority of men absolutely ruin it for the rest of us nice guys...
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Cunt is a pretty obvious one, its not sexy or attractive, just vulgar and cringeworthy. Also Spunk and Minge sound pretty vulgar, and scientific words like penis or vagina or semen make me feel sick. Stick to mainstream words and dont deviate from them. Sperm is passible guess, but mostly cum, dick, cock, pussy, fanny, are the best way to go. Convieniently, they also sound the naughtiest ;)
Personally i find 'juice' for cum or 'kitty' for pussy, playfully horny, but thats just me.
Also, not a fan of calling girls, or even worse, girls calling themselves, whore, slag, bitch ect...just not attractive. Weirdly though, slut can have a horny edge when used in a positive context.
Personally i find 'juice' for cum or 'kitty' for pussy, playfully horny, but thats just me.
Also, not a fan of calling girls, or even worse, girls calling themselves, whore, slag, bitch ect...just not attractive. Weirdly though, slut can have a horny edge when used in a positive context.
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Quote by Dudealicious
You are a 20 year old single guy. THAT is why you are horny all of the time.......
Talk about hitting the nail on the head...lol
Quote by lover_not_fucker77
Lately I feel too horny. I am 20 old guy and single. Its probably out of stress, but the thing is I wasn't like this before. I feel like watching porn all the time and sometimes masturbate more than once a day. Is it ok to masturbate everyday? Moreover is there anyway I can reduce stress without thinking about sex?
This sounds like the most normal thing on earth, im honestly more worried about what you were like before this....ha >.<
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Quote by Leena00
Nope...I have actually sold them for a lota money. lol. Guess again.
I say yours is...#4 is the lie.
Omg ive just realised.....oh this is embarressing.....ive written 4 truths......wtf am i doing.....
No.4 was suppost to be false one yes, but ive worded it totally wrong. I think #FacePalm is necessary here.
Even though ive had a semi-serious relationship, it was one that i didnt want to be in, and she took it way more seriously that I did, which is why i got out, but to save face, i'll just say no.4 is the lie, some may say it sort of is, but i dont count it as one. I think i'd better try again.
1. Ive never been fired from a job.
2. I used to be a Ballet dancer.
3. I spent $600 on a Prostitute.
4. I met Prince Edward.
Ok got it right this time. Try again : )
chgolf im gonna say number 2 is the lie.
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This is difficult, as i dont know anything about you, mmm.....
For some reason, im actually leaning towards #2 Leena....but i've a feeling i'm wrong?
OK....
1. I had a threesome with two Swedish girls in a hostel at Bondi Beach.
2. I once got so drunk, i fell down the stairs and fractured my Collarbone in two places.
3. I have never been diagnosed with a sexually transmitted infection.
4. I have never had a serious relationship.
Mmm lets see how this goes : )
For some reason, im actually leaning towards #2 Leena....but i've a feeling i'm wrong?
OK....
1. I had a threesome with two Swedish girls in a hostel at Bondi Beach.
2. I once got so drunk, i fell down the stairs and fractured my Collarbone in two places.
3. I have never been diagnosed with a sexually transmitted infection.
4. I have never had a serious relationship.
Mmm lets see how this goes : )
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To answer ur question Archadia, everywoman at some point in life discovers that she likes to be dominated in sex, & the alpha male thing is really a turn on well at least for me it is.
& I like nice guys to an extent who turn into bad boys who tell me when I've crossed the line or give me that certain look that says ur ass is gonna get it tonight, I like a gentleman in public & a Alpha in bed. I find it incredibly sexy when the alpha peeks out at me every now and then in everyday life such a huge turn on lol. But as far as having a total bad boy I think not in my experience being a rag doll/doormat isn't fun there has to be a balance.
Yeah, i can understand this, but i think it changes the equation somewhat. I think most nice guys, can be Alpha in bed, i know that i am. I tend to think of myself as a nice guy, and good person, but im not nicey nice or soppy, im still Alpha and masculine, and in the bedroom, the majority of the time, i like to take charge and be in control. So i think nice guy in life, Alpha in the bedroom, is definately the best way to be, works for me anyway. I think most girls find guys who are too nice, slightly cringeworth, or feminine, doesnt have to be the case, but theres generally being a good person, and then, like i say, theres being "nice". I think in reality, Romeo and Juliette, for most people, doesnt work in reality.
Anyways i digress, it still doesnt get us away from the fact that some women, are attracted to men, who are always Alpha, and rarely nice, not even good people, or men with good personalies. The kind of men who are always in fights, getting in trouble with the law, or are just generally exsist to make trouble for themselves in other. Its that attraction women have to those guys, that i cant understand. So when you say, rag doll/doormat, isnt a something a woman should go though, why do so many put themselves through it, when its blatantly obvious from the offset, what kind of man he is.....
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Im sorry, but the British version is un-fucking-touchable! Ok, series 5 and 6 were dog toffee, but 1 to 4 were awesome, truly awesome, i cant see any reason whatsoever why America needed to remake it, but i think censorship has something to do with, because, although ive not seen much of the USA version, its so diluted, all the drug taking and sex scenes are so limited and tame, its ridiculous. What is it with USA and censorship.....Somebody said to me that it was changed because the Americans "didnt get it", (same with Shameless) but i cant see whats not to get. If its not broken dont fix it, it was brilliant just as it was. If the Americans like their version then fine, whatever, but dont tar the British one with the same brush, its too good for that.
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I have to ask, what is it with the bad boy thing? Why is it such a turn on? Do some women like the challenge of trying to change them, or is it just the Alpha male thing and "treat em' mean, keep em' keen" attitude? I never understand what makes womens minds tick. I always try to be nice, that doesnt mean i dont have a bad boy side, but generally I like to be a good person and be nice to people, but it seems like at least, some girls must have this subconcious need or desire, to be treated like shit....i just dont get it. I've had mates that ive really liked and got on with, but ive noticed how the've treated their girls like shit, especially in front of other mates, i've always wondered how the hell they get away with it, if i was a girl, would i fuck put up with that. It seems like some lads need to show off and impress their mates in that way, yet the girl never walks away, she just accepts it, deals with it, and comes crawling back, as if everything is totally normal. I just cant understand what it is that makes girls attracted to guys who are basically total cunts. Anyone?
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Quote by RumpleForeskin
Way back when, I got a broken nose while playing chess. Goes without saying that in those days, when we checked, we checked good and hard.
This made me lol ha
I met Prince Edward at 17, had an interview on ITV news at 13, and also appeared in the Daily Mail newspaper at 14, and now at 24 im Travelling in Australia. : )
Really trivial? OK......when i was 4 years old, i tried to put my cat in the microwave......... >.<
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Somebody who i 'couldn't' have, no i wouldn't say so, but somebody who I wanted but who didnt feel the same, yes, probably more than once. Maybe not in love, but definately smitten to the point where i cant get that person out of my head. I dont think love counts as love, unless its returned, love is mutual, otherwise its just compassion, lust, obession etc...