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I hate to have to say this, because usually im firmly behind natural beauty, but breasts are the one area where natural may not always be the best. Its not so much about size, big boobs are a bonus rather than a requisite in my eyes, and unless the girl literally has a chest like an ironing board, you wouldn't hear me complaining, im more of an ass man, so would take ass over tits any day. What i am thinking though, is how beasts can deteriorate over the years, sagging breasts are, i hate to say it, very unattractive, and theres no way to remedy that without surgery. Ive heard stories about women who have breast fed, and it has totally ruined their boobs, im sure these cases are uncommon, but certainly not unheard of. Not only have i heard of womens breasts sagging after breast feeding, but its also known that if both breasts are not supplied to the baby equally, you can end up with one breast bigger/smaller than the other. Whether a fake breast looks good or not depends on how its done, ive seen some that look great, even almost natural (at least when the girl is stationary lol), but ive also seen some awful ones, where the implant is clearly visable, or the shape of the breast is distorted horribly, so it really just comes down to who's got what implants how and when.....So breast enhancement simply to have bigger tits, not necessarly better, but breast enhancement as corrective surgery to detriorating breasts, absolutely better, almost a must if you want to stay at the top of your game!
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Fight it, Pretend your something you think you are not, it does work believe me. Reinvent yourself, do things you normally wouldnt, everybody can change, I understand you've had a tough time, but its on you, theres nothing more important than being happy, so imagine, at least for a while, that you are not you, your cool, confident, sexy, funny, laid back, and easy going. You are not a fixed person, nobody is, theres just convince themselves of something, are refuse to let it go, even dwell and wallow in it. Everybody is capable of change, its not that theres anything wrong with you, but you need a new lease of life. Picture somebody you idolise, what would they do? Think of Fight Club and the issues that film addesses, its so true, be you, but be a better version of you. Dont worry about trust, just chill, relax, and imagine your a laid back, happy go lucky person, trust will come mutually. Be a greater version of you, talk yourself UP, see youself as you want to be, and have the courage to run with it
If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten.
If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always gotten.
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Not only do I not have any pictures up, but I,m from London and live in Newcastle. There are a lot of people living in those two cities.
Yeah there are alot of people from the North East on here, but to be fair, its a huge place.
The chances of somebody on this site knowing who you are, are slim to zero, but still, Country Durham in NE England is as specific as i feel is necessary. ; )
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Ha well heres one for you. My mate went out around Bondi wearing one of the girls dresses from the hostel, just for a laugh, and actually pulled in it in the local nightclub! Could'nt believe it, so he wore it again a few weeks later to a club in Oxford street, low and behold, he pulled once again! Hows that, 100% record, in a dress! He actually kept the dress too, he still has it, it hasnt made a reappearence yet, but the 100% record still stands. Thing is, i know my mate, hes so outrageous, its wont be the dress that will have made him pull, its his humor and attitude, but still, gotta give him credit! : )
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Ok....some dirty laundry....
A few years ago i met this chick in my home town, i was only 19, she was 27, despite the fact she was concerned about the age difference, i convinced her it wasnt a problem, and we hit it off. One night i ended up back at her place after being around town, we slept together but didnt have sex, she was adamant she needed to get to know me better. Unfortantely at the time i was young and immature, i hung around with a group of mates you could describe as the "wrong crowd", it was forever reputation and being a "man" with them lot, i didnt like it, but at the time, i didnt have many other options for friends.
They knew i was with the girl that night, so they quizzed me about if i had sex with her, knowing i would be given a hard time from them if i said no, i lied, and told them i did. What a immature thing to do, good thing ive grown alot now.
The girl in question found out very shortly, that i'd said i'd slept with her when i didnt, and rightly, she said she didnt want to see me anymore, and that i'd proved she was too old of me after all (Im getting images of Brian from family guy and the milf haha).
Anyways, that was that, until a few years passed and we saw each other again out round the town. At this stage she had a boyfriend (about the same age as me surpisingly), but after a few drinks and some catching up, we started to get really friendly again, we had some great conversation and she said i'd grown up alot. What happened next is a bit hazy, as we were both pretty drunk at this stage, im sure she initiated it, but to be honest what does it matter. At the time, my grandma who i lived with, was in hospital getting a knee replacement, so we took the oppertunity and went to my house. I remember we had great sex, although it was a long while ago now, i do remember it being great (and also shes the only girl ive ever taken back to my old house). She went the next morning and forged a cover story for a boyfriend.
Fuck knows how, but via the grapevine, he managed to find out that we slept together, she didnt tell him, so i guess some blabber mouth must have seen us together, god knows how i didnt get a punch when he cornered me in the pub a few weeks later, he was a bit of prick, but to be honest, i respect him for have the control not to smash face in, maybe i deserved it, but it does take two to tango, she convinced him that it was her fault, and she had been the one who initiated it, whether thats exactly true, im not sure, but she saved me from getting a kicking anyway.
When i next saw the girl, it wasnt what i expected, it wasnt awkward, she wasnt angry or dispondent, she walked over to me, and said as plainly and flatly as possible that she had fallen in love with me that night, and that, despite the fact she was happy with her boyfriend, she ultimately would do anything to be with me. I was blown sideways, because thats the first person in my life whos ever said that to me in that way, i didnt see it coming. I told her she shouldnt break up with her boyfriend, and despite the fact we had a fantastic night, we were a thing of the past, she took it well, maybe even expected it, i had been making alot of plans for Australia at the time. So she did, she stayed with her boyfriend, and they are engaged now, "happy" apparently, but she said if ever i did feel the same way, she would leave him and come running, honestly i dont think i ever will get those same feelings, and her boyfriend has no idea about how she feels about me, he thought it was just random drunken shag. So close to my hometime in England, theres a now engaged 30 year old woman, who thinks she should be with me.
So in hindsight, i think i could safely say this is sombody i should never have slept with.
A few years ago i met this chick in my home town, i was only 19, she was 27, despite the fact she was concerned about the age difference, i convinced her it wasnt a problem, and we hit it off. One night i ended up back at her place after being around town, we slept together but didnt have sex, she was adamant she needed to get to know me better. Unfortantely at the time i was young and immature, i hung around with a group of mates you could describe as the "wrong crowd", it was forever reputation and being a "man" with them lot, i didnt like it, but at the time, i didnt have many other options for friends.
They knew i was with the girl that night, so they quizzed me about if i had sex with her, knowing i would be given a hard time from them if i said no, i lied, and told them i did. What a immature thing to do, good thing ive grown alot now.
The girl in question found out very shortly, that i'd said i'd slept with her when i didnt, and rightly, she said she didnt want to see me anymore, and that i'd proved she was too old of me after all (Im getting images of Brian from family guy and the milf haha).
Anyways, that was that, until a few years passed and we saw each other again out round the town. At this stage she had a boyfriend (about the same age as me surpisingly), but after a few drinks and some catching up, we started to get really friendly again, we had some great conversation and she said i'd grown up alot. What happened next is a bit hazy, as we were both pretty drunk at this stage, im sure she initiated it, but to be honest what does it matter. At the time, my grandma who i lived with, was in hospital getting a knee replacement, so we took the oppertunity and went to my house. I remember we had great sex, although it was a long while ago now, i do remember it being great (and also shes the only girl ive ever taken back to my old house). She went the next morning and forged a cover story for a boyfriend.
Fuck knows how, but via the grapevine, he managed to find out that we slept together, she didnt tell him, so i guess some blabber mouth must have seen us together, god knows how i didnt get a punch when he cornered me in the pub a few weeks later, he was a bit of prick, but to be honest, i respect him for have the control not to smash face in, maybe i deserved it, but it does take two to tango, she convinced him that it was her fault, and she had been the one who initiated it, whether thats exactly true, im not sure, but she saved me from getting a kicking anyway.
When i next saw the girl, it wasnt what i expected, it wasnt awkward, she wasnt angry or dispondent, she walked over to me, and said as plainly and flatly as possible that she had fallen in love with me that night, and that, despite the fact she was happy with her boyfriend, she ultimately would do anything to be with me. I was blown sideways, because thats the first person in my life whos ever said that to me in that way, i didnt see it coming. I told her she shouldnt break up with her boyfriend, and despite the fact we had a fantastic night, we were a thing of the past, she took it well, maybe even expected it, i had been making alot of plans for Australia at the time. So she did, she stayed with her boyfriend, and they are engaged now, "happy" apparently, but she said if ever i did feel the same way, she would leave him and come running, honestly i dont think i ever will get those same feelings, and her boyfriend has no idea about how she feels about me, he thought it was just random drunken shag. So close to my hometime in England, theres a now engaged 30 year old woman, who thinks she should be with me.
So in hindsight, i think i could safely say this is sombody i should never have slept with.
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Meh this ones catch 22, theres no right answer here.
Im sure that here, just like every adult forum/site, there are going to be men who will pester, creep and generally try to exploit themselves on other women, but obviously, all men here cant be labeled as that, because that not only unfair, its simply untrue. Ive been a member of lush now since last before last xmas, ive never come across any girl who has given me abuse, told me to back off, or given me any other bad press. Im sure there may be one or two girls who havent accepted my friend request, and i dont even question their reasons, theres no need to. So why do I have such an easy time here?
Well i show respect, I read bios, If i chat, i get to know the person first with some lighthearted banter, i try to treat everybody as individuals, and through that, you understand that different people are looking for different things here. Some people are here to just read stories, others like myself, enjoy getting involved on the forum, some like to meet new people and make new friends, others just want to get down to the kinky stuff and have their desires fulfilled. What the reason, its a valid reason, and everybody is entitled to do as, or not do, whatever they like.
An example would be, if you scroll up, you will see the profile of "blazestcyr". Ive read her bio and she seems like an intresting person, but it states that doesnt want to add men under the age of 27, a shame for me as im only 24, but i havent friend requested her because i respect what she wants, and like i said before, its her business.
Personally I dont like requesting people who dont have bios, i like to read bios, i find them intresting, I also dont request people who dont have Avatars, but if somebody doesnt want to have one or either, thats their business, its not for me to question it. On the flip side, it is kind of irritating if you see somebody who looks intresting, and when you view their profile the first thing you see is "no guys" in block capitals. I mean, should we have such dramatic division of orientation? I'm as straight as they come, but if you view my profile, nowhere on there will it say "no guys". And although i dont have any guy friends on here, i have had request from guys, nothing more, but i usually reject guys, not from homophobia, but more because i couldnt see any point in having them. If there was a guy on here who seemed like a "good bloke" and we got on well, i would probably add him under "mates" pretences.
Its ok saying that, many of the girls with "no guys" are probably guys themselves conning the system, but i'd bet it be fewer than most people think, we do have a reasonable size community with same sex orientation. Its no big deal if you are gay or lesbian, but i can read a profile, and i will. I can see if you are lesbian, you dont need to smash a sentence of block capitals saying "no men!" in my face for me to understand that.
But them again, im sure we have alot of blokes on here that run around like a dog with two dicks, sends friend requests, spunk mail, and generally perverted messages, left right and centre. As a girl, lesbian or otherwise, how would you combat this problem, other than to make a pre-emptive strike on your profile page stating your position, you can hardly blame them, it must get fuckin' annoying if it happens as much as it sounds.
Basically, i think its best to just judge everybody as the individual they are, and by taking a little step back and using your brains, you find those people who you can approach, and those you cant, its mind over matter. Overall, it sounds like the few spoiling it for the many, but you can do is just be yourself, allow others to be themselves, and respect everybodys entitlements and reasons.
Im sure that here, just like every adult forum/site, there are going to be men who will pester, creep and generally try to exploit themselves on other women, but obviously, all men here cant be labeled as that, because that not only unfair, its simply untrue. Ive been a member of lush now since last before last xmas, ive never come across any girl who has given me abuse, told me to back off, or given me any other bad press. Im sure there may be one or two girls who havent accepted my friend request, and i dont even question their reasons, theres no need to. So why do I have such an easy time here?
Well i show respect, I read bios, If i chat, i get to know the person first with some lighthearted banter, i try to treat everybody as individuals, and through that, you understand that different people are looking for different things here. Some people are here to just read stories, others like myself, enjoy getting involved on the forum, some like to meet new people and make new friends, others just want to get down to the kinky stuff and have their desires fulfilled. What the reason, its a valid reason, and everybody is entitled to do as, or not do, whatever they like.
An example would be, if you scroll up, you will see the profile of "blazestcyr". Ive read her bio and she seems like an intresting person, but it states that doesnt want to add men under the age of 27, a shame for me as im only 24, but i havent friend requested her because i respect what she wants, and like i said before, its her business.
Personally I dont like requesting people who dont have bios, i like to read bios, i find them intresting, I also dont request people who dont have Avatars, but if somebody doesnt want to have one or either, thats their business, its not for me to question it. On the flip side, it is kind of irritating if you see somebody who looks intresting, and when you view their profile the first thing you see is "no guys" in block capitals. I mean, should we have such dramatic division of orientation? I'm as straight as they come, but if you view my profile, nowhere on there will it say "no guys". And although i dont have any guy friends on here, i have had request from guys, nothing more, but i usually reject guys, not from homophobia, but more because i couldnt see any point in having them. If there was a guy on here who seemed like a "good bloke" and we got on well, i would probably add him under "mates" pretences.
Its ok saying that, many of the girls with "no guys" are probably guys themselves conning the system, but i'd bet it be fewer than most people think, we do have a reasonable size community with same sex orientation. Its no big deal if you are gay or lesbian, but i can read a profile, and i will. I can see if you are lesbian, you dont need to smash a sentence of block capitals saying "no men!" in my face for me to understand that.
But them again, im sure we have alot of blokes on here that run around like a dog with two dicks, sends friend requests, spunk mail, and generally perverted messages, left right and centre. As a girl, lesbian or otherwise, how would you combat this problem, other than to make a pre-emptive strike on your profile page stating your position, you can hardly blame them, it must get fuckin' annoying if it happens as much as it sounds.
Basically, i think its best to just judge everybody as the individual they are, and by taking a little step back and using your brains, you find those people who you can approach, and those you cant, its mind over matter. Overall, it sounds like the few spoiling it for the many, but you can do is just be yourself, allow others to be themselves, and respect everybodys entitlements and reasons.
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Try a swingers party, definately...........
have another threesome with two girls (I had one with two swedish girls at a hostel at Bondi Beach, but one of the girls was at that time of the month, so i didnt actally fuck her, still great fun though)...............
would maybe like to try being both a dom, and a sub, as ive never done any roleplay like that, im intriuged by it, but im not sure how comfortable i'd actually be when it came to it.....
Mile high club....
An orgy, at least six, preferably equal number of sexes (MFMFMF).
be given a BJ whilest driving....
Double penetrate a girl, either me and a rampant rabbit, or maybe with some other random bloke, who cares so long as she enjoys it...
Have sex with a ballerina or gymnast.........imagine the crazy positions.... : )
Meet/date/fuck somebody i'd met on lush/internet (never happened to me believe it or not)
fuck a pornstar........Phoenix Marie, Asa Akira, Jynx Maze or Cytherea would do....
Stay in bed with a girl and have sex all day, stopping only for food, drink and ciggarettes....
Fuck all scandinavian nationalities (have swedish already), also Japanese, German, American and South American are flags i'd like to have on the bedpost....
Fuck a pregnant woman......(I know...wierd huh?)
Have a girl masturbate in front of me while i sit back and relax.....
Have sex in the bedroom whilest fully chlothed (happened in public, but for some reason i think in the bedroom it would be hotter).
and my biggest ambition, have sex whilest at work!
have another threesome with two girls (I had one with two swedish girls at a hostel at Bondi Beach, but one of the girls was at that time of the month, so i didnt actally fuck her, still great fun though)...............
would maybe like to try being both a dom, and a sub, as ive never done any roleplay like that, im intriuged by it, but im not sure how comfortable i'd actually be when it came to it.....
Mile high club....
An orgy, at least six, preferably equal number of sexes (MFMFMF).
be given a BJ whilest driving....
Double penetrate a girl, either me and a rampant rabbit, or maybe with some other random bloke, who cares so long as she enjoys it...
Have sex with a ballerina or gymnast.........imagine the crazy positions.... : )
Meet/date/fuck somebody i'd met on lush/internet (never happened to me believe it or not)
fuck a pornstar........Phoenix Marie, Asa Akira, Jynx Maze or Cytherea would do....
Stay in bed with a girl and have sex all day, stopping only for food, drink and ciggarettes....
Fuck all scandinavian nationalities (have swedish already), also Japanese, German, American and South American are flags i'd like to have on the bedpost....
Fuck a pregnant woman......(I know...wierd huh?)
Have a girl masturbate in front of me while i sit back and relax.....
Have sex in the bedroom whilest fully chlothed (happened in public, but for some reason i think in the bedroom it would be hotter).
and my biggest ambition, have sex whilest at work!
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I've never heard this myth at all, in fact the opposite, ive heard the are several different ways to make a woman climax, and each orgasm is different. From what i heard, clit stimulation is the easiest way to make a woman orgasm, and takes the least time, but its also the least intense, whereas i've heard that stimulation of the G-spot (located on the front wall of the vagina about an inch or two in) with a couple of well educated fingers, is the way to give the woman her most intense orgasm, and is the most likely way of inducting a "squirting" climax (which is definately the holy grail of all sexual experiences btw), but it also takes the most time, and requires the most technique. Im not sure about where deep penetration is on the richter scale, but probably inbetween clit and g-spot for intensity, and i'm sure there are a couple of other ways too, but i can remember what they were now....
Sorry, i know this is the gals section, but i though this answer may help the discussion...
Sorry, i know this is the gals section, but i though this answer may help the discussion...
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lol I think you know, but you want it written for you in black and white. Just because you dont love him emotionally as you think is necessary for a relationship, doesnt mean you want to share him with somebody else, or even for him to move onto somebody else entirely. Its a typically selfish situation, one that ive found myself in a number of times. Ive had several 'fuck buddies' in the past, and while it was 'no strings attached' and the sex was great, when one of them slept with another person while we were 'fuck buddies', i ended the arrangement. I dont know why i did it exactly, sometimes you just dont want to share people, even if you dont want a relationship with them yourself. Also, i wonder if my pride (and yours) had been dented.
How would he have felt if you had called it off instead, because you had met somebody you wanted more, or maybe he wants more, and has clocked that you dont, thus he feels better off out if it. I think circumstance has as much to do with it as occurence, i've had girls that i slept with, who i was never really crazy about, they were just there, and i was happy for the casual sex, but never wanted more, if i'd have ended it, i doubt i would have cared, but because they ended it, i felt annoyed and rejected, as if it was me that wasnt good enough.
We want the best of both worlds, we want people to want us, and find us attractive, and even need us, and we want to put some energy into giving a little back, yet ultimately, we want to pick and chose who we have relations with, without the emotional baggage, or the strings of not having freedom of you want to get with, when you want to get with them.
It sounds like the guy is a sensational fuck, and that what you really want for him, because despite the fact you are not in love with him, nobody makes you feel the way he does, and thats what you 'need'. I think the only answer i can ever give is, let it go and move on, you had your fun, in the long run, its going nowhere, because deep down, you know you dont want it to.
How would he have felt if you had called it off instead, because you had met somebody you wanted more, or maybe he wants more, and has clocked that you dont, thus he feels better off out if it. I think circumstance has as much to do with it as occurence, i've had girls that i slept with, who i was never really crazy about, they were just there, and i was happy for the casual sex, but never wanted more, if i'd have ended it, i doubt i would have cared, but because they ended it, i felt annoyed and rejected, as if it was me that wasnt good enough.
We want the best of both worlds, we want people to want us, and find us attractive, and even need us, and we want to put some energy into giving a little back, yet ultimately, we want to pick and chose who we have relations with, without the emotional baggage, or the strings of not having freedom of you want to get with, when you want to get with them.
It sounds like the guy is a sensational fuck, and that what you really want for him, because despite the fact you are not in love with him, nobody makes you feel the way he does, and thats what you 'need'. I think the only answer i can ever give is, let it go and move on, you had your fun, in the long run, its going nowhere, because deep down, you know you dont want it to.
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Some really good answers here.
Yeah something along the lines of, I hope shes enjoying this as much as I am, often i look in her eyes alot, as they hold all the secrets of how shes feeling, but facial expression and body language means alot too i guess. Then theres a little bit of concentration in my head too, trying to keep good motion and rhythm and focus on not getting too excited. Then on a more humorous side, the child in me sometimes thinks "Im having sex! I cant believe it. Hee-hee" lol When i cum, mmm i dunno what i think...."this is f**kin awesome?"
Yeah something along the lines of, I hope shes enjoying this as much as I am, often i look in her eyes alot, as they hold all the secrets of how shes feeling, but facial expression and body language means alot too i guess. Then theres a little bit of concentration in my head too, trying to keep good motion and rhythm and focus on not getting too excited. Then on a more humorous side, the child in me sometimes thinks "Im having sex! I cant believe it. Hee-hee" lol When i cum, mmm i dunno what i think...."this is f**kin awesome?"
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I figured. I wouldn't stop watching porn if my partner thought it was weird or gross. Im a regular visutor to most of the free porn sites like pornhub, youporn, keez, just wondering if there's a really good one I haven't cone across. One of my favs is hardsextube has a movies I can't find anywhere else.
Fapdu.com, its brilliant if you ask me. Also yeah i find it very intruiging when a girl watches porn, its a turn on that she gets off on it
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I dont think theres such a thing as average to be honest, everybody is different right? I've heard its about 5-1/2 inches erect, im not sure about girth, but i think girth is definately more important 100%. Im sure it depends on race too, not necessarly black vs white, but countries and ethinicty does matter, im pretty sure it was chinese that had the lowest average size, and asians in general who have on average, the smallest manhoods, but i suppose conversley, asain girls are typically small and petit, and dont require a big manhood to orgasm. This is probably a vague answer, im sure there are asians out there just as well endowed as anybody else. But i really dont believe in 'averages' in topics such as this, it obaying 'averages' can be dis-spiriting to alot of people, and cause them to be insecure for no reason, because its all preference.
