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BigRod
Over 90 days ago
Male, 77
United States
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Hmmmm.. a simple question made complicated by the inconsistencies of human nature.. men are territorial.. and most of us picture ourselves as Alpha Dogs.. a man can sit on the sidelines and watch a group of women by themselves.. but let another man enter the picture and the competition begins.. we don't have a choice.. it's how we are made.. we like to think of ourselves as open and honest and sensual and sexual and more importantly.. confident in our ability to satisfy our women sexually.. when Alpha Dogs enter a room the first things that enter our minds is.. "what if he is better than me in bed?" and "God.. those are great shoes.. I wonder where he got 'em?"... needless to say we don't have the same things in our minds when another woman walks into the room.. we think "Whoa.. she digs me!" and "God what I wouldn't give to have her in bed with me and pumpkin tonight!".. by our standards that portion of your body beyond the length of a tongue belongs to us.. therefore another man is trespassing without permission.. which sets up a a whole laundry list of questions which amount to a salvaging of our egos.. "Is he bigger than me?".. "Did he make you cum more than me?".. "Do you want to see him again?".. "Where did he get his shoes?".. our minds are like a funnel.. you throw crap in at the top and it circles around and oozes out at the bottom.. no heavy machinery involved.. just a set of genes that have morphed throughout the evolutionary process and the best you can say is.. we're still a work in progress.. so given the prospect that as carbon-based lifeforms whose sole focus is on the level of pleasure we can feel with our sexual organs.. and the fact that humans are given 5 senses for the purpose of facilitating responses designed for attraction to other humans.. I would suggest this simple rule.. "There are people you make love to.. and people you just fuck.. don't confuse them"... 'nuff said..
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sensuality can be found in the way a cup of coffee is poured.. fully clothed.. or standing in line.. or even in the way you say "hi" on the phone.. you don't have to be beautiful to have it.. or handsome to recognize it.. but you do have to have desire.. and it doesn't come with an on-off switch.. it's constant...
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Do not be insecure.. being swollen and aroused is the most sensual and sexual presentation that you can give someone.. it sounds as if your ex wasn't very skilled.. personally I extend foreplay until the swelling is at the maximum.. there is an art in urging a sexual ache and it sounds like you already respond to it.. be proud to expose yourself that way.. seriously.. it is a privilege and an honor to be rewarded in that manner...