Friendly Helpful Advice to Lush Newbies
Hey there newbies!! Especially those of you who may not be familiar with chat sites and "cybering".
May I offer some advice? I do want you to have a good time here at Lush, we all do, but I think some of you are going about it the wrong way. To tell the truth, some of our new members on Lush behave like they do not understand how chatting works.
First of all "cybering" and "chatting" often mean the same thing, a conversation done for direct sexual pleasure. There are basically two types of sexual chats: those intended to please one partner while the other types, and those intended to please both partners (if possible), and in which both partners type, often taking turns, and often engaging in a mutual sexual fantasy. Here are some tips to make your experiences here at Lush more memorable.
First, don't make your chat partners guess what you want. That is very time consuming and frustrating. So, go ahead and let your chat partner know at the start that you want to cyber (if you do), and suggest roles for the two of you. You might want to be a submissive female slave -- well, say so up front. An excellent way to attract the kind of chatters you want is to describe yourself (and your wants) in your profile. Something like this perhaps:
"24 year old male from a small country town, bored with TV and wanting to have friends to discuss sex with. Interested in and especially stories about father/daughter and father/son. Mostly straight but I am curious about sex with another guy."
If there's something else folks should know, say it. If English is your second language, say so. Go ahead and give what location you live in. The point is, the more open you are about who you are, the more likely you are to get requests to be your friend.
Next, it's really polite to use the "online message" to ask somebody if they are free to chat, before you open a chat window. They may already be chatting with someone else. Be polite. If they don't answer your "online message" -- it's okay. Wait ten minutes and ask again.
It's also nice to ask someone to be your friend before you chat them. Many of our members do not like to chat with a total stranger, dropping in unannounced. Use the chat rooms for that.
The secret to having lots of friends and lots of good sexy chats at Lush is to send "private messages" or PM. If you like someone's story, or you enjoyed a chat with them, PM them a short message. Thank them or tell them you liked it and maybe tell them your favorite part of the story or chat.
For example, if you liked an story of theirs, PM something like:
"Hello. I really loved your story, Daddy Kissed My Boner. My favorite part was where you described how the father pushed his son on the bed and got him aroused by showing him porn. Thanks."
Next, SHARE the chat with your partner. Be courteous. If they answer your questions, then you answer their questions. If you ignore your partner's questions, it makes you look selfish and childish. Unless agreed upon in advance, the chat is not automatically just for your sexual pleasure.
Last, in a sexy chat, don't ask silly questions that interrupt the chat. Asking for the size of someone's underwear, or how tanned they are, is silly. Use your imagination. Chats are usually typed by one person while the other reads and pleasures themself, and says things that GUIDE the chat. If your partner is typing the story, you should say things like:
"that's hot!", "more!", "that makes me so wet", In this way, you give hints and clues to the story-teller of where to go next and how much detail to use. And it lets your partner know they are doing a good job and entertaining you!
Or ask questions to point the story-teller in another direction, like:
"so did you cum then?", "how about her sister?", "so what happened when you got to his house?" In this way, you nudge your partner to push ahead in the story or describe it from a different viewpoint. Sometimes this is necessary if your chat partner gets bogged down in details that are not interesting or erotic.
Or type responses that forward the action the way you think you or your partner would enjoy, like:
"Yeah, and after the father cums in the daughter, then her BROTHER comes in the room and gets naked."
When you're ready to stop, say that you have to go and thank your partner. Don't just disappear -- that's rude.
Oh, one more thing. If you really, REALLY enjoyed the chat, send your partner a PM and tell them so. In a sentence or three, describe your favorite part of the chat. Perhaps you want to suggest a topic for the next chat. In this way, your partner is more likely to remember you, and more likely to start chats with you in the future.