Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
Yes, Dancing_Doll really did say it best. What makes me cringe the most is to see people make public spectacles of themselves and jump from e-relationship to e-relationship. And then it goes sour and friendships become divided and it's all a big mess.
This happens especially in chat, from what I've observed directly. Not picking on the BDSM community, but I see new subs being 'owned' and masters switching subs faster than you can blink. It has to be the biggest humiliation to just have all your 'feelings' displayed so publicly, only to realize that something's off or not meant to be.
That's actually why I always question the authenticity of such public displays. I get being proud to be with someone, but when you try too hard, I almost always think you're overcompensating. It makes me cringe because I know in just a short time that's all gonna fade away and you're left, quite publicly, to pick up the pieces. I mean it can be just the same in real life with bad relationships, but online, everyone knows, and the words follow you everywhere.
But yeah, it sucks having your emotions fucked with. And not to take sides or anything, but being that this is Lush and just the internet in general, people may get involved in something thinking it's casual...and then a strong emotional attachment develops that you really don't reciprocate, so I understand cutting things short when they reach that point. But don't continue to egg something on when you know you don't feel the same. That's just fucked.
In total agreement. And then you see rage cage binge posts airing all the dirty laundry. Then, 2 months later, the whole process starts again for the same person. I guess that's what I don't understand when it keeps happening to the same individual over and over. Obviously, they're missing signals somewhere along the way. I understand the "euphoria" of being in a new relationship, but a little self preservation goes a long way. No one likes having their emotions played with, so it's a good idea to be very protective of them, especially online when it's so easy to lie and manipulate. If a guy says he "loves" you here and wants to be in a relationship with you, then you should be able to contact him in the real world as well. Just makes sense.
Like Doll, I've gotten very close to one guy I connected with on Lush and more than 2 years later we are still extremely close. However, our friendship moved to the real world, and we seldom interact on Lush at all anymore. I have a few other Lush friends who made it into my real life, but it was not a quick process, because I was/am pretty guarded with what I'm willing to share.
