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Quote by Meggsy
I asked my girlfriend the same question after reading the replies here.
She told me she agreed to have sex with a guy a couple of years older than her when she was at college. (He was not a student). She said she liked him and believed she would enjoy it - and did.
When she came back from the shower he was gone and there was $100 on the bedside table. That made her feel dirty as she felt that made her akin to a prostitute.
Yes, Meggsy, that is something a spineless man would do, IMHO. He turned a lovely evening for her into a major insult to her values and integrity.
Of course some women would not mind being paid, but she did not say that is the way it was with her! Is he too little of a man that he can't show a girl, a little sweet on him, some real thanks by choosing a way that would make her happy she did it with him? Maybe all she wanted
was a few simple words like "Thank you baby, we make such good music together," and just kiss her as meaningfully as she just showed him with her very own body. There are some very honest posts here I applaud, but reading of a poor excuse for a man, doing that to a lady, is just upsetting to me. MUTUAL respect is a bare minimum, I think. I could write a book about this topic. Men should respect the women they a blessed to know.
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Quote by TheSensualLady
Save The Best For Last - by Vanessa Williams
I Love that song!!
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Trinket likes to use the disguise in her avatar to get dance troupes in southern Spain to accept her as a Flamenco dancer with a battered twist.
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Yes, like The Sixth Element.
Would you like to learn to do the Latin dances?
Would you like to learn to do the Latin dances?
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Quote by danielle03
I am listening to Barry White and Marvin Gaye right now.. omg this two knows how to seduced a woman.. so damn sexy
Oh yes they certainly did!! But they also had so many other talents.
Look at their songs like Marvin's "Sitting on the Dock of a Bay." That song captivated you, and made you so aware of the brevity of things.
The Barry White's dancing with his father, as a man, hit me right in the heart because my father was a very loving giving man who literally taught us all to dance.
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Quote by BethanyFrasier
On a warm, tropical beach. Something we don't have in Ohio
That is such a pity Bethany, as I have been to Ohio many times, especially the southern tier and there are a lot of really fine women there!
I should think it would be required that the states in our union be required to provide such "necessities" to its fine citizens.
If I could move a beach there, I would place it right outside your door.
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I once would have said yes to this. But I have since learned that may not be possible or wise for me anymore.
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Quote by stephanie
I read this and feel you.
All I can say is this.
To LOVE once means that YOU CAN LOVE.
And THAT means you can love again.
Dark days follow a broken heart.
Brighter days follow still. Honest.
xx Steph
Thank you my good man. I could feel your journey too in what you said.
I am very moved by your saying that "To LOVE once means that YOU CAN LOVE."
To be honest, that is all I've ever wanted in life: to know that what I am and do/not do, matters authentically to someone else.
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Quote by stephanie
Well, that's a question we've all asked ourselves. It's brave and honest of you to ask it here.
This is what I think.
If you truly love someone, that never, EVER goes away. But of course sometimes THEY do and in that distance things change, people change. You do, they do... We change as people every single day, and if you've got a pretty special relationship with a partner both can accommodate those changes and even move closer in experiencing them.
But with a lost lover, that doesn't happen. Put quite simply, the person you loved, (still love?) doesn't really exist anymore except inside your head and your heart. What we truly mean when we say, "I still love Him/Her" is that we love OUR MEMORY of that person and that love.
I've been there once or twice. It's fucking tough, isn't it?
After a while I think, (it took me nearly two years to get over the last one!) we can come to terms with the fact that what we have, what we are left with, is the Memory and the Experience of having loved someone very special to us and hopefully the memory of being loved in return.
But that isn't the real thing and we all know it.
And there are TOO MANY people who don't even have such memories to look fondly back upon. People who CAN'T say, "Hell, I WAS truly loved, I loved someone and it WAS real and it can happen again..."
You know, two years ago, (almost) I quit Facebook for the very reasons you hint at... Prompted by your post I think maybe it's time for me to get over it properly and visit there again.
Best of luck, You.
xx Steph
Steph, I did not know whether to quote you or dpw on this. I do think that we remember the love we shared with a special someone, and we love that memory, and the person you share/shared it with.
It is likely the person you loved then, no longer exists. People grow and change...heck, while you are with them you can see changes in the other person and yourself.
Yes, it is very painful to have loved and lost. For me anyway, it is almost unimaginably painful. Could that be the reason why we break into the cold sweats when we fall in love? We know all too well that this relationship could make or break you.
There is a song I love to sing at what we call here where I live 'The Hunger Concert." It is for the benefit of the soup kitchens here. The song is an old Russian Romany song called "Ochii Chorniye" or "Dark Eyes." It tells of a man who falls so deeply in love with a woman that he loves her, and he fears her. It means that a man falls so hard that he knows his fate is really no longer in his hands, but hers. He loves her with all he is but he also knows that because that is true, at any moment, she can break him like a twig.
So I believe that when two people are in love, they get so tightly bound up with each other that they can't tell who is who anymore, and like the loving woman who has lost her husband to death, she may soon follow.
I have been in one relationship like that in my life. I am broken and
must accept myself now for who the new me is. The man with the scar, or the limp, whatever.
I still love my Fate. "Amor Fati, I love my Fate, and my Fate loves me."
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There are safe ways to shave her pussy in most cases. I say most cases because some women have larger inner labia (labia minoris) that stand out past her outer labia. Then it is a lot more difficult, but still do-able. To me it is a sacred privilege she is offering me, and of course I love her to bits for being so trusting with me.
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Love her for having such a vivid imagination, and try to sense what she would like me to do, even get lost for a bit. But that doesn't guarantee I'm going to get what she wants from me right!
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Yes, of course. There are lots of people I'd like to meet in real life here.
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Quote by Liz
Microwave popcorn.
OMG Liz!!! Now that is funny, and a great idea too I'll bet!!!
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Quote by TheUprightMan
Not at all. It's no less hot to watch a lady masturbate with my cock in her than without ;) I realize that most women can't come just from penetration, so unless she's done coming for the evening, one of us should probably be playing with her clit while I'm inside her.
That is my understanding too.
Besides, seeing her do that shows me she is really "into it."
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No. I don't know how guys can send erotic pics of themselves to others. Maybe I am crazy, but I honestly think it would offend any woman I'd be interested in. Wouldn't it? How would I know??? I've never been asked to. That's what I have to go on.