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Dancing_Doll
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Alpha Blonde
I have no subscriptions and don't read many magazine unless I'm in the airport traveling or at the hair salon (so I mainly use magazines as a distraction).
But... in terms of what I go for usually, it's more of the trashy celebrity magazine like USWeekly or trendy beauty ones like InStyle or Vogue.
So I guess based on these choices, one might say that I'm gossipy, fashionable and fabulous? Sounds spot on!
But... in terms of what I go for usually, it's more of the trashy celebrity magazine like USWeekly or trendy beauty ones like InStyle or Vogue.
So I guess based on these choices, one might say that I'm gossipy, fashionable and fabulous? Sounds spot on!
Alpha Blonde
Question A: For me, it's a 'No'. I can't just swap my guy for another if I'm horny. If I'm having sex, there's more involved than just a sum of parts. I'd rather just use a sex toy if I'm randomly horny if there is no guy that I'm interested in available. Once an actual human being is involved in the equation, there has to be some kind of connection or sexual attraction. I'm not someone who would feel horny and just go for any miscellaneous or random guy.
Question B: I am always horny, therefore if I initiate sex, I'm going to want some orgasms. If you're talking about the idea of a new partners, then no, I would not initiate sex with the hopes that the guy is/will/one day fall in love with me. Love isn't a byproduct of sex, but sex can be a byproduct of love.
Question B: I am always horny, therefore if I initiate sex, I'm going to want some orgasms. If you're talking about the idea of a new partners, then no, I would not initiate sex with the hopes that the guy is/will/one day fall in love with me. Love isn't a byproduct of sex, but sex can be a byproduct of love.
Alpha Blonde
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It is amazing what a little "experience" can bring to the moment.
He was almost thirty years old when I had sex with him, and from what I'd heard, very well experienced. It's not just the virgins or frat boys that have these issues. I have no idea if it's a situational thing or if these guys are just doomed to a lifetime of PE frustration.
Alpha Blonde
I prefer him to shoot thick ropes of cum in a counter-clockwise direction....
Alpha Blonde
Quote by Jason9035Quote by Dancing_Doll
Things could always be worse. I once had a brief relationship with a 30 second man.
Yeh...well...that's at least 20 seconds longer that I would last with you...can't believe DD that you didn't factor in the "hotness factor"...OMG
Yeah, that's the excuse he used, actually. I did offer to put a paper bag over my head if it would help...
He didn't really take well to my suggestion though...
(true story)
Alpha Blonde
It seems like she must have had other red flags about him prior to this incident because it sounds like she was testing him. If I saw my boyfriend walking down the street, I would probably just call his cell and see if he wanted to grab a coffee or drink if he wasn't busy. I wouldn't call and ask "where are you right now?" unless I already had suspicions.
There's a fine line between not wanting to get played, and being full-blown paranoid.
There's a fine line between not wanting to get played, and being full-blown paranoid.
Alpha Blonde
"If" he's telling the truth (and I highly doubt that he is), then having to get drunk to meet you just screams loser.
And if he cancelled on you already, he probably isn't that into it anyway.
The possibility of him having a girlfriend should be the least of your concerns.
Don't waste your time on this one.
And if he cancelled on you already, he probably isn't that into it anyway.
The possibility of him having a girlfriend should be the least of your concerns.
Don't waste your time on this one.
Alpha Blonde
Have you thought about looking into support groups for those with similar chronic illnesses and maybe meeting some people that way. CFS definitely takes a toll on the energy level, and meeting someone similar who is always dealing with the same frustrations might allow for some common bonding and understanding that could be a good foundation for a relationship.
Several guys I have been involved with have had one illness (of varying severity) or another, although nothing really debilitating or incapacitating when I was with them. It does seem more and more common these days though.
I do have a very strong nurturing instinct that kicks in (it's just the way I've always been), and if I feel a strong connection with someone, I'm not the type to turn away or see it as a deal breaker. We are all vulnerable to serious illness in life. I had my own personal experience with it at one point as well, so it definitely humbles you.
Being abandoned by the people we love (that goes for friends as well as love interests) can be worse than the illness itself, but it's important not to shut yourself out and be defeated by it. The way you handle illness and fight back can be done in a positive way. And people like being around other positive people. Our vulnerabilities shouldn't define us. Let them see you , before they see the illness (if that makes sense).
Several guys I have been involved with have had one illness (of varying severity) or another, although nothing really debilitating or incapacitating when I was with them. It does seem more and more common these days though.
I do have a very strong nurturing instinct that kicks in (it's just the way I've always been), and if I feel a strong connection with someone, I'm not the type to turn away or see it as a deal breaker. We are all vulnerable to serious illness in life. I had my own personal experience with it at one point as well, so it definitely humbles you.
Being abandoned by the people we love (that goes for friends as well as love interests) can be worse than the illness itself, but it's important not to shut yourself out and be defeated by it. The way you handle illness and fight back can be done in a positive way. And people like being around other positive people. Our vulnerabilities shouldn't define us. Let them see you , before they see the illness (if that makes sense).
Alpha Blonde
I'm not into overly big, fat men, or even overly muscled/meathead men. I generally prefer a more athletic frame. Maybe this is because I'm a small girl myself, and I just find that too much of a size difference doesn't work for a lot of the sexual dynamics I enjoy. I'm also a bit of a health nut, and prefer someone that is into that kind of lifestyle to some degree. It's more about health than looks though for me, and excess weight is never a good thing with that regard. But everyone is attracted to different shapes and sizes. Some people might think that I'm too thin for their tastes. It's just different preferences. I still think that trying to keep yourself (and your loved ones) within a healthy range should still be the ideal goal for everyone though.
Alpha Blonde
Things could always be worse. I once had a brief relationship with a 30 second man.
Alpha Blonde
OK, want my honest opinion?
I think all of you people are wimps... lol... You're making swallowing cum sound like a freak episode of Fear Factor.
It's not like you're swallowing a gallon of it at a time.
It's body fluid... it's not supposed to taste like maple syrup or a strawberry milkshake.
Personally I have not come across any truly funky spunk, but if I did... it's only in your mouth for a short while. Just swallow it and move on.
I think all of you people are wimps... lol... You're making swallowing cum sound like a freak episode of Fear Factor.
It's not like you're swallowing a gallon of it at a time.
It's body fluid... it's not supposed to taste like maple syrup or a strawberry milkshake.
Personally I have not come across any truly funky spunk, but if I did... it's only in your mouth for a short while. Just swallow it and move on.
Alpha Blonde
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Not unless it's bad sex.
even then... well, i like my desserts, but we ARE talking SEX here!
Are you sure about that?
Alpha Blonde
There's always MTV and reality shows like The Real World. These are often some extreme examples of the teenage and college scene, but they aren't that far from some of the things she might end up going through at some point.
I can't think of any good books along these lines, but maybe some other Lushies that are already parents have better advice.
I can't think of any good books along these lines, but maybe some other Lushies that are already parents have better advice.
Alpha Blonde
I say... have a couple of tequila shots, grab a fun girlfriend and go into that sex toy store and check things out in person.
They aren't seedy or scary places.
I have always bought in person rather than online because I like to see, touch, and feel before purchase. I have even had male salespeople assisting me with picking out a toy and showing me all the features and gadgets. It can actually be an entertaining experience when you're in the right mood. Watching a guy keep a straight face while he points out the hand-painted veining on a dildo or sets that vibrator on power-buzz and lays it in your hand is ultra amusing every time!
They aren't seedy or scary places.
I have always bought in person rather than online because I like to see, touch, and feel before purchase. I have even had male salespeople assisting me with picking out a toy and showing me all the features and gadgets. It can actually be an entertaining experience when you're in the right mood. Watching a guy keep a straight face while he points out the hand-painted veining on a dildo or sets that vibrator on power-buzz and lays it in your hand is ultra amusing every time!
Alpha Blonde
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Alpha Blonde
No.
It might be interesting as a historical read that sparked the second wave of feminism and an entertaining look at Freud's idiotic theories, but I don't think it's going to help you understand your daughter. There are too many generations in between, and things have changed.
I think the key to remember is that marriage/babies may not be the answer to her fulfillment in life, and if they are, it may come much later in life as she may prefer to spend her twenties establishing her career and on a path of self-discovery. Not every woman is born with those traditional urges, and a lot of women are choosing to remain unmarried. Just support her in whatever she wants to do, because ultimately once she is grown up it will be her choice anyway. I think most girls just want a parental unit that is supportive, understanding, and aware of the modern pressures that affect them. And also ones that will let them make their own mistakes (within reason) and learn from them. As much as you might want to protect and steer her in the right direction, she needs to make her own choices, even when you may not agree with them.
I'm much more in favour of direct communication instead of books or self-help guides when it comes to understanding our loved ones. It's usually more personal that way, and why should we spend our time guessing and analyzing when we can just ask, discuss and enjoy a more intimate dialogue.
Plus I find a lot of those books to be super dumbed down and corny. LOL
Just my thoughts... From what I see of your thoughtful forum posts and style, I think that you're already way ahead of the game in terms of being a great dad.
It might be interesting as a historical read that sparked the second wave of feminism and an entertaining look at Freud's idiotic theories, but I don't think it's going to help you understand your daughter. There are too many generations in between, and things have changed.
I think the key to remember is that marriage/babies may not be the answer to her fulfillment in life, and if they are, it may come much later in life as she may prefer to spend her twenties establishing her career and on a path of self-discovery. Not every woman is born with those traditional urges, and a lot of women are choosing to remain unmarried. Just support her in whatever she wants to do, because ultimately once she is grown up it will be her choice anyway. I think most girls just want a parental unit that is supportive, understanding, and aware of the modern pressures that affect them. And also ones that will let them make their own mistakes (within reason) and learn from them. As much as you might want to protect and steer her in the right direction, she needs to make her own choices, even when you may not agree with them.
I'm much more in favour of direct communication instead of books or self-help guides when it comes to understanding our loved ones. It's usually more personal that way, and why should we spend our time guessing and analyzing when we can just ask, discuss and enjoy a more intimate dialogue.
Plus I find a lot of those books to be super dumbed down and corny. LOL
Just my thoughts... From what I see of your thoughtful forum posts and style, I think that you're already way ahead of the game in terms of being a great dad.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by WellMadeMaleQuote by Dancing_Doll
If he's having success by picking up and dating women from the gym (and not just succeeding in random conversation because let's face it, we are always going to be basically friendly to these guys because there's nowhere to escape when you're in the middle of a workout), then more power to him. He obviously has that rare magnetic appeal. I was just commenting on that approach in general and indulging in some mild threadjacking.
Heheh...you were a lot more humane (here) than I was thinking of being, just a few moments ago.
I was giving 'the friend' the benefit of the doubt that he was actually able to collect digits (that weren't wrong numbers) from these girls. Who knows, maybe this exceptional and much fabled gym lothario exists out there, and it isn't just defensive stalker chit-chat by a cornered girl.
I'm sure Jebru knows the difference.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by Nikki703Quote by VanGoghQuote by Dancing_DollQuote by oohlala2303
the Lelo Soraya looks good, but a little pricey. It is on my wish list though, and if it as good as you say it is I just might invest in it.
Last weekend, I had 12 well spaced and full-blown orgasms with the Soraya in one day, with each being just as powerful as the first. Of course, I don't usually masturbate all day (this was more of a project with a purpose... don't ask.. LOL) but anyway, it's just to let you know how impressive this vibe is. I can't think of another vibe in my toy-box that could do the same. And yes, this one definitely is way pricey but it's a good one to consider if you're looking to make an investment in one really brilliant toy.
I ask ... oh I ask!!! tell us (ok ... in a story will do!) more about this 12 orgasms (for whatever purpose)!! and 12 in a day?? OMG .... I think the challenge is now out there .... [future thread - how many orgasms can you give yourself in one day]
DD .... you INSPIRE me!
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I have given myself a lot of orgasms in one day, but not sure I ever did 12! But now I have a goal!!! BTW, I have a friend who has the Lelo Soraya and she raves about it.
Wouldnt that make a great Olympic Sport? How many orgasms can you have in 12 hours? Or they can break it down to different events, from like the 1 hr sprint to the 12 hr marathon. And even have 2 or 3 girl relays. It beats the hell out of synchronized swimming. Im sure the TV ratings would skyrocket.
Oh my god, I would so love to represent Canada in the Orgasm Olympics. I think I could bring home the gold medal for sure. And the training would be a whole lot of fun!
12 in one day is not something to be attempted by amateurs, ya know...
Yeah, the reason for my O-frenzy that day would definitely make an interesting story.
I took little breaks in between each one but by the end of it my legs were like jello and I was kind of dehydrated.
If it were an Olympic sport, it would have to be in a ring, with the coach squirting water into your mouth in between rounds (like boxing).
I definitely have to give credit to Lelo Soraya though. That is one helluva sex toy!
Alpha Blonde
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Thanks Morgan, I've already been published.
Congratulations! So what's holding you back from writing another one if that's what your subconscious really wants to do?
There's nothing really holding me back other than time/focus, but I have a couple of projects in the works, so all is well on that front.
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In the meantime, I do enjoy the short story format when it comes to the erotica genre in particular, so I will just work on the ruthless idea-editing bit. It definitely seems to get easier with more practice.
Ruthless editing is all well and fine, but what if the story Should be novel-length? Some stories really do need to be long to reveal their true potential. If you already have a publisher, why not just send it to them, then write a fresh short? (My novels make me far better money than my shorts.)
The story that should be novel length is being turned into a novel as per the publisher's request. I agree that sometimes you can hit on something that resonates better with a longer tale.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by Jebru
I didn't mention him as a suggestion for guys of what to do. It works for him, more because of his confidence, charisma, and the fact he seems to have an innate ability to read what approach will work with a girl. I was mentioning him because he is an extreme, and therefore very clear example of male behaviour, which the thread was asking about. A demonstration that guys will try and talk to girls they are interested in, and if they are serious, they will talk more, and also listen.
If he's having success by picking up and dating women from the gym (and not just succeeding in random conversation because let's face it, we are always going to be basically friendly to these guys because there's nowhere to escape when you're in the middle of a workout), then more power to him. He obviously has that 'rare magnetic appeal'. I was commenting on that approach in general and indulging in some mild threadjacking.
I agree that yes, talking to a girl is a good signal of interest.
Alpha Blonde
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. The second situation, he saw a woman doing stretches, specifically the splits. His training for hurdles includes a lot of flexibility training, so he walked over, and jokingly challenged her to see who could do the splits further.
Your friend sounds like a damn cocksmith! Last time I tried some shit like that I got the 'let me exercise in peace you fucking creep watching me stretch look'. I was embarrassed and ashamed.
Sorry about that Felix, I don't like it when guys stare at my ass when I'm stretching... Can't a girl wear tight white yoga pants rolled down below the hip bone to the gym anymore? Jeez...
Seriously though... I do not recommend your friend's tactics Jebru. I am actually one of those girls that gets super annoyed when guys bug me at the gym with dumb comments like that. That's why I have my ipod buds in my ear at all times and try not to make eye contact with anyone when I'm working out. There is always some guy that thinks the gym is a social free for all, and it's a total turn off. Talking to a girl as she's leaving is fine, but I would discourage any males out there from hitting on women when they are in workout mode or even worse, adjusting your own work-out so that you can stalk her through the gym and stare creepily at her from afar no matter where she is. It's not cool.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by MorganHawke
Hey Ashleigh,
-- If you want to write a Novel -- WRITE ONE. Lush isn't the only place that takes Erotica. There are publishers too. A quick visit to your local bookstore's erotica section should give you a whole pile of publishers to choose from. Just make sure you find their sites on-line and read their posted Submission Guidelines carefully.
Thanks Morgan, I've already been published.
I am also working on expanding and continuing a popular story I have posted on various online sites (only two chapters in) into a full-length novel after getting some interest from one of the publishers that I liaison with, so that will feed my penchant for spinning a longer wordy tale.
In the meantime, I do enjoy the short story format when it comes to the erotica genre in particular, so I will just work on the ruthless idea-editing bit. It definitely seems to get easier with more practice.
Alpha Blonde
The hardest thing for me is to avoid overcomplicating a plot for a short story. I think my mind tends to think of storylines in more of a novel length and complexity, so condensing and editing what is necessary to turn the idea into a "short" story is always the most challenging aspect for me. I have an endless array of unique sex situations and ideas bouncing around in my head all the time, but sometimes I feel like too many ideas can convolute the original premise of the story, because I tend to want to do way too much.
The natural solution would be to create chapters, but I hate breaking things out for the purpose of online posting because it requires having a strong sex scene for each chapter and sometimes that doesn't quite work with the kind of plot progression I want to use. I far prefer stand-alone pieces or a series format where each instalment works on its own. So... it usually just involves me having to do some ruthless editing of what I think is important to the story and what isn't. It's a process that can be frustrating, especially when I see myself getting close to that 10,000 word limit.
Contrary to a lot of the other posts in this thread, creating and writing the sex scenes is my favourite part...
The natural solution would be to create chapters, but I hate breaking things out for the purpose of online posting because it requires having a strong sex scene for each chapter and sometimes that doesn't quite work with the kind of plot progression I want to use. I far prefer stand-alone pieces or a series format where each instalment works on its own. So... it usually just involves me having to do some ruthless editing of what I think is important to the story and what isn't. It's a process that can be frustrating, especially when I see myself getting close to that 10,000 word limit.
Contrary to a lot of the other posts in this thread, creating and writing the sex scenes is my favourite part...
Alpha Blonde
I like moaning, hearing the variations in breathing as I hit those sweet spots, and some urgent and intense dirty talk (the dirtier the better) from guys.
I've never really come across a screamer, but I'm not into constant yelling/screaming/grunting during sex. Even some porn is way over the top that way, and it ruins the whole thing.
If a guy is totally silent and just doing his thing, it's actually a turn off for me. My mind starts to wander and I can lose interest that way.
I've never really come across a screamer, but I'm not into constant yelling/screaming/grunting during sex. Even some porn is way over the top that way, and it ruins the whole thing.
If a guy is totally silent and just doing his thing, it's actually a turn off for me. My mind starts to wander and I can lose interest that way.