Alpha Blonde
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Dancing_Doll
Over 90 days ago
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Alpha Blonde
OK, I'm going to leave traditional romance out of my answer and go straight for the good stuff... 
Have you considered trying a threesome or going to a swingers party or fetish club. You don't have to do anything at the latter two suggestions but just being in a heightened sexual environment might stir things up between you. At the very least, getting dressed for something that like together and talking about what "might" happen or what you might see could be exciting.
You could also try sharing fantasies. Maybe you each choose a sex story that particularly turns you on (and might surprise your lover with its content) and on a Friday night, you have some wine together and reach the story aloud to each other. Or trade the stories and have each other read it aloud. Or just read it in silence... whatever level of comfort you're at. You can do the same with porn... each pick a favourite porn movie and then watch it together, and then act it out.
You can talk about involving other people in your sex life without even going to that level in reality through dirty talk with each other, or even cybering or flirting with another person as a couple. You can put on a wig and dress up as though you are a different person and even have him call you by another name (role play a whole different persona). Maybe he comes home and on that friday night you are "Candy the Slut" in a blonde wig and a tight red dress. Have him seduce you and fuck you as though you are a different woman and he is "cheating" on his wife. You can even start a scenario like this in a public place, like a bar. Or you can have him pick you up somewhere dressed up like this and you can role-play that you are an escort/prostitute.
You can also try sex in public. Maybe in the backseat of your car again when the mood strikes or during a moment where you might 'get caught'. Or perhaps a public bathroom at a bar (look for the hand-capped stalls), or the dressing room at a store.
How about trying some new sex toys together? Go to the sex shop together and buy some new things. Maybe a sex-swing, some body butter, numbing balm, or heated oils. You could buy a vibrator (The WE-Vibe is a great new couples vibrator on the market that is meant to be worn and enjoyed during sex). Or maybe get some toys for him. Have you explored ass play or anal sex? Maybe buy something to stimulate his prostate with a small anal vibe. Try some creative "Better Sex" videos to maybe explore new positions or new sex techniques.
Anyway, those are just a few ideas to get your started... I'm not sure what your sexual interests are, or what you're comfortable with, but there is always lots to explore within the sexual realm as long as you're open to re-creating that spark. Good luck!
Have you considered trying a threesome or going to a swingers party or fetish club. You don't have to do anything at the latter two suggestions but just being in a heightened sexual environment might stir things up between you. At the very least, getting dressed for something that like together and talking about what "might" happen or what you might see could be exciting.
You could also try sharing fantasies. Maybe you each choose a sex story that particularly turns you on (and might surprise your lover with its content) and on a Friday night, you have some wine together and reach the story aloud to each other. Or trade the stories and have each other read it aloud. Or just read it in silence... whatever level of comfort you're at. You can do the same with porn... each pick a favourite porn movie and then watch it together, and then act it out.
You can talk about involving other people in your sex life without even going to that level in reality through dirty talk with each other, or even cybering or flirting with another person as a couple. You can put on a wig and dress up as though you are a different person and even have him call you by another name (role play a whole different persona). Maybe he comes home and on that friday night you are "Candy the Slut" in a blonde wig and a tight red dress. Have him seduce you and fuck you as though you are a different woman and he is "cheating" on his wife. You can even start a scenario like this in a public place, like a bar. Or you can have him pick you up somewhere dressed up like this and you can role-play that you are an escort/prostitute.
You can also try sex in public. Maybe in the backseat of your car again when the mood strikes or during a moment where you might 'get caught'. Or perhaps a public bathroom at a bar (look for the hand-capped stalls), or the dressing room at a store.
How about trying some new sex toys together? Go to the sex shop together and buy some new things. Maybe a sex-swing, some body butter, numbing balm, or heated oils. You could buy a vibrator (The WE-Vibe is a great new couples vibrator on the market that is meant to be worn and enjoyed during sex). Or maybe get some toys for him. Have you explored ass play or anal sex? Maybe buy something to stimulate his prostate with a small anal vibe. Try some creative "Better Sex" videos to maybe explore new positions or new sex techniques.
Anyway, those are just a few ideas to get your started... I'm not sure what your sexual interests are, or what you're comfortable with, but there is always lots to explore within the sexual realm as long as you're open to re-creating that spark. Good luck!
Alpha Blonde
I think every guy has a different definition of "really hard"...
My general feeling is that squeezing, sucking, and/or teething my nipples is good.
Yanking, crushing, or sawing on my nipples with your teeth is bad. I have had bruises resulting from overly rough breast play before and it's not a good feeling, either during, or the next day when you see the sore reminders. But maybe I'm more sensitive this way.
I'm still not sure about breast slapping. In the right moment, it's not necessarily a bad thing, but I prefer ass-slapping and hair-pulling far more.
My general feeling is that squeezing, sucking, and/or teething my nipples is good.
Yanking, crushing, or sawing on my nipples with your teeth is bad. I have had bruises resulting from overly rough breast play before and it's not a good feeling, either during, or the next day when you see the sore reminders. But maybe I'm more sensitive this way.
I'm still not sure about breast slapping. In the right moment, it's not necessarily a bad thing, but I prefer ass-slapping and hair-pulling far more.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by Magical_felixQuote by Dancing_Doll
Yes, I have wet dreams, and I do have orgasms while sleeping... and they always wake me up. It's not a weekly thing though. When I do wake up I am usually laying on my back, and there is no manual stimulation involved. But I can also cum with no hands while awake using just kegals and dirty thoughts, so I think I'm a rarity with that anyway.
Good lord... What a scene. You in front of your computer kegaling away while your fingers furiosly hit the keys.
You should have seen me in the classroom at school. Sometimes staring at the blackboard with my eyes glazed over, I didn't even realize that class had ended...
Alpha Blonde
Yes, I have wet dreams, and I do have orgasms while sleeping... and they always wake me up. It's not a weekly thing though. When I do wake up I am usually laying on my back, and there is no manual stimulation involved. But I can also cum with no hands while awake using just kegals and dirty thoughts, so I think I'm a rarity with that anyway.
Alpha Blonde
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Yes ! I would most definately fuck the beautiful person above me; she is a goddess incarnate....Ooops ! Wrong thread.
Alpha Blonde
Lightning
"You come and you go. You don't mind if people don't like you, it won't change who you are. You come off strong and aggressive. You are quick-witted and love to be right. You are a strong and independent."
"You come and you go. You don't mind if people don't like you, it won't change who you are. You come off strong and aggressive. You are quick-witted and love to be right. You are a strong and independent."
Alpha Blonde
Quote by WickedShadsQuote by Dancing_Doll
If anyone is trying to avoid caffeine or coffee, I have a great Starbucks treat to suggest: Try a non-fat, no-foam, green tea latte, half sweetened with sugar-free hazelnut. It's extremely low calorie, little to no caffeine, and tastes like a dessert (rich and delicious). You just have to get over the fear of sounding high-maintenance when you order it.
Even more than high-maintenance I think I'd have to get over the fear of the barista questioning the presence of testicles in my trousers ordering that one....
Just tell her that you're ordering it for your girlfriend and then roll your eyes...
Alpha Blonde
If anyone is trying to avoid caffeine or coffee, I have a great Starbucks treat to suggest: Try a non-fat, no-foam, green tea latte, half sweetened with sugar-free hazelnut. It's extremely low calorie, little to no caffeine, and tastes like a dessert (rich and delicious). You just have to get over the fear of sounding high-maintenance when you order it.
Alpha Blonde
Let me state for the record that I am not a racist. I have many friends of all colours and I fully believe in racial equality and certainly have no issue with interracial couples. But we are talking about attraction here, and not racism. As far as attraction goes, I tend to prefer caucasian. Attraction is not an all-inclusive thing. We all have certain preferences (eg. fat/thin, tall/short, blonde/brunette, young/old). It doesn't make anyone morally more reprehensible than the other. We all have our preferences... and they are just that... preferences... If I did find myself developing an attraction to someone of another race though, I would have no issue with it.
Alpha Blonde
It really depends on how much I like the person. A first date snuggler or casual dating hyper-cuddler can stress me out a bit. Mainly because I find it an intimate thing to do, and need a connection there for me to really get into it and want to do it all the time. Having said that, if I'm really into someone, and connecting with them, then I love physical contact as often as I can get it. I just usually have to work my way up to that point, or else I can sometimes feel a bit smothered and run the other way. Needless to say, cuddling with a fuckbuddy or on a one night stand is not my thing.
When the vibe is right or I'm in a relationship, I love it any time of the day and night, *except* during REM sleep where I like to have my space on the bed. I am a big fan of spooning to end and start the day. But... I especially dislike long periods of time in the cuddling position that a lot of guys seem to favour which is my head on his chest, and one arm and leg around him while he rests comfortably on his back. As lovely as this is after sex or just for some random afternoon cuddling, this is not a comfortable position to fall asleep in. I once was with a guy that trapped me in this position for most of the night and I hardly slept at all. The human body does not make a good pillow, and when the circulation stops in my arm because it's twisted into a weird position for a long time, it's just not romantic...
When the vibe is right or I'm in a relationship, I love it any time of the day and night, *except* during REM sleep where I like to have my space on the bed. I am a big fan of spooning to end and start the day. But... I especially dislike long periods of time in the cuddling position that a lot of guys seem to favour which is my head on his chest, and one arm and leg around him while he rests comfortably on his back. As lovely as this is after sex or just for some random afternoon cuddling, this is not a comfortable position to fall asleep in. I once was with a guy that trapped me in this position for most of the night and I hardly slept at all. The human body does not make a good pillow, and when the circulation stops in my arm because it's twisted into a weird position for a long time, it's just not romantic...
Alpha Blonde
Sadly, whenever I wake up with a bleary-eyed, head-splitting, stomach-turning morning after drinking... I never seem to have a bowl of Phở handy.
Usually I reach for a banana, a slide of wonderbread and a bottle of water and crawl back to bed. If that stays down, then I consider it a hangover success. If not, then empty contents, wait one hour and try again.
Usually I reach for a banana, a slide of wonderbread and a bottle of water and crawl back to bed. If that stays down, then I consider it a hangover success. If not, then empty contents, wait one hour and try again.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by VanGoghQuote by eviotis
"I'll stick to a greasy fry up."
AMEN sister. Holiday party was good for me, drank lots of water between my Makers shots.
By the way VAN, ever find out how the bruises got there, or any other points of interest?
Really, when I saw the Pho soupy-thing, I just about hurled! yikes!!
I have to agree with you & Lois ..... greasy fry up would have eased the pain!!
Bruises - totalled 3: top of thigh by hip, back of arm and wrist. If they were wrists bruises, I might say I had a great effing time ...... but ....
Apparently, I was highly amusing; chatting up many, trying to get a limo to take us home, and the 10 minute study of trying to get the key in the front door. I wonder though, how long did it take for me to get into my condo!! LOL
Ahh ..... 2010 Christmas Mess behind me .... Here's to next year!!
Van
But was there photographic evidence of that night? ... Cause we wanna see it!
Alpha Blonde
Slutty "Sin-derella" loses more than her shoe!
And... Sleeping Beauty... awaken her with just one fuck...
And... Sleeping Beauty... awaken her with just one fuck...
Alpha Blonde
To me, beauty is in the eyes (for both men and women). They reveal the intelligence, wit, and spirit of a person. I've seen a lot of photographs of aesthetically gorgeous human beings, but if they have those dead shark eyes or have that vacant look like there's no light on upstairs, then a great set of tits or abs of steel isn't going to do much to make them attractive to me.
Alpha Blonde
Happy Birthday Penny! Hope your birthday is dirty and delicious.... XO
Alpha Blonde
Quote by HoneyBee000Quote by myself
Quote by nicola
This bloke would look quite fit; if he slimmed down and removed all the I have a real gun in my trousers and no I wasn't pleasesd to see you LOL
Step away from the spiked eggnog Honeybee!
hehe... kidding babe.
With a full body wax, daily showers, facial hair shave, weight loss regimen, personal trainer and some extensive plastic surgery, he might not be half bad....
Alpha Blonde
Remembering loved ones that have passed away can make anyone emotional at this time of year. This is a beautiful song for those moments...
Alpha Blonde
This really depends on your partner.
I'm a verrrry dirty talker, but I've always censored myself to varying degrees based on how the guy responded when I first started talking dirty. To me, it's not fun if I'm doing all the talking and he's basically silent. There's only one person that's heard the totally uncensored version of the Dirty Doll, but only because I know he loves it and can match me just as enthusiastically. When you have the right interplay, you can really push things farther than you'd expect and there really are no limits.
I should also say that dirty talk only sounds natural when you're not "thinking" it. If you're having sex and trying to think of something dirty to say, or you want to say something but are afraid of judgement, then you're not in the right headspace to really roll with it.
I just think it comes down to really knowing your partner and what their kinks are, so I'd suggest talking about sexual fantasies and likes and dislikes. A good way to start might be for a couple to each pick their top three favourite porn scenes (or sex stories) and exchange them. Maybe you might be surprised that your girl likes rough sex with humiliation. Or a girl might not realize her man wants to be dominated in bed. This might help give you more confidence with talking dirty if you know what their 'sexual style' is and what will turn your partner on. As Vance mentions, he's worried that comment will offend a woman. To me, it would be a huge turn on, but another girl might feel like it's too degrading. You just have to know what your partner likes and what their limits are (if they have any).
I'm a verrrry dirty talker, but I've always censored myself to varying degrees based on how the guy responded when I first started talking dirty. To me, it's not fun if I'm doing all the talking and he's basically silent. There's only one person that's heard the totally uncensored version of the Dirty Doll, but only because I know he loves it and can match me just as enthusiastically. When you have the right interplay, you can really push things farther than you'd expect and there really are no limits.
I should also say that dirty talk only sounds natural when you're not "thinking" it. If you're having sex and trying to think of something dirty to say, or you want to say something but are afraid of judgement, then you're not in the right headspace to really roll with it.
I just think it comes down to really knowing your partner and what their kinks are, so I'd suggest talking about sexual fantasies and likes and dislikes. A good way to start might be for a couple to each pick their top three favourite porn scenes (or sex stories) and exchange them. Maybe you might be surprised that your girl likes rough sex with humiliation. Or a girl might not realize her man wants to be dominated in bed. This might help give you more confidence with talking dirty if you know what their 'sexual style' is and what will turn your partner on. As Vance mentions, he's worried that comment will offend a woman. To me, it would be a huge turn on, but another girl might feel like it's too degrading. You just have to know what your partner likes and what their limits are (if they have any).
Alpha Blonde
The majority of porn films being produced don't involve condoms because it ruins the fantasy.
If viewers of porn don't want to see condoms used, then I imagine readers of sex stories don't really want to read about them being used either. I'm also guessing that when people have random masturbatory fantasies on their own, condoms probably don't typically factor in either.
It's all part of the fantasy in my opinion. I think most people know that condoms should be used when having sex in real life with random strangers.
If viewers of porn don't want to see condoms used, then I imagine readers of sex stories don't really want to read about them being used either. I'm also guessing that when people have random masturbatory fantasies on their own, condoms probably don't typically factor in either.
It's all part of the fantasy in my opinion. I think most people know that condoms should be used when having sex in real life with random strangers.
Alpha Blonde
Hmm... I don't know anything about guns, so I don't know if this outcome is a good thing or a bad thing...
Looks cute though... definitely small enough to fit into my purse.
Wait... I'm Canadian... what am I doing in this thread?
Looks cute though... definitely small enough to fit into my purse.
Wait... I'm Canadian... what am I doing in this thread?