It's funny that on a site that's supposed to be about sex and exploration and fun, some people still go to huge lengths to be as traditional and conservative as humanly possible. Somehow it still comes down to marriage and and commitment and monogamy and rules.
Having said that - it's really no different than any other kind of role-playing, so if holding a cyber-bouquet and having a make-believe ceremony really floats your boat, go for it. But please god - no angsty barrage of wailing divorce poems when your cyber-spouse hits the 'delete account' button one day.
The tea tree oil sounds great! I've used the Proactiv mask to dab on if I get the odd breakout, but it really only works for overnight. Great product but it's not something you can go out in public with. I've heard white toothpaste works as well but have never tried it.
I kind of see it as a tongue-in-cheek term, so it doesn't offend me if it's said by someone I'm involved with, if its part of dirty talk or a friend saying it in jest.
If it's some creepy guy, licking his chops and leering at me in a serious way, saying "mmm mmm... aren't you a hot piece of ass" - yeah, it's not something that would go over well. Then again, there's very little that a lecherous creepy guy *could* say that would go over well.
In general, it doesn't bother me much though. Worst case scenario I'd probably just roll my eyes or tell the person to fuck off.
Don't do it. At least not the way it's been spelled out so far.
First - you need to be aware of his existence in ways other than . You need to know his full name, his facebook, where he works - verify that this guy exists - see that he has friends and family and that other human beings think of him favourably. If all you know right now is the fantasy he's spun for you, then you don't know him nearly well enough yet.
Then, if you want to meet - do it on neutral territory. He picks up the tab for flight and hotel. You both meet in some city in between, or a place where there's lots of people around. Let's say a hotel in New York. He pays for two rooms. You then get to meet in person, hang out in public places etc and if things click - you can have sex etc but if turns out to be a lecherous old man or a psycho, you have your own room key and a plane ticket back home. If you hit things off, you can always schedule a trip to Texas later - once you're more comfortable with him and have spent time with him in person.
Other than that, make him come to your town and decide from there. You, as the female, should *always* have the upper hand and safety reassurances when it comes to a sex-arrangement or booty call situation.
Either. I really don't give much thought to lighting.
I like the hands-on browsing as well. I bought my first one from a small boutique-style sex shop that was geared toward being 'female friendly' and non-intimidating. I went in with a university friend (female). Actually, I'd say most of my sex toy shopping has been done with female friends during random shopping outings or spontaneously at night after a few drinks and some sex-oriented conversations. I've browsed/bought a few times with a boyfriend (but mostly this involved trying stuff on, not vibrators etc) or just on my own if there's something specific I want, but I tend to do the girl's shopping thing more often than not. It's fun.
Nope. I've only ever been legit disappointed by dick size once and it was just a short-term vacation fling so he was not 'my man'. I did mention it (eventually) to a friend or two during random gossipy sex talks over drinks, but that's about it. And... I don't think I could ever tell a guy that his dick was too small - it just seems cruel.
Another way to look at it is how certain words that have historically been seen as negative, have been turned around and embraced in our urban culture, based on consensual use, context and/or role-play.
Traditionally anti-feminist words like slut and whore and bitch can still be used as insults, but over time - and depending on context - they have different meanings and implications. Some women like to refer to themselves as a bitch and see it as a source of empowerment. Words like 'slut' and 'whore', when used as part of dirty talk, puts them in touch with their more primal 'raw' dirty selves.
The same can be said of the words 'slave' and 'master', which are used liberally and consensually in BDSM and yet have very heavy ugly historical connotations that many might find similarly offensive. ie. 'how can you want to be called a slave? do you even know what slavery was about?'
There are many other 'controversial words' that have been embraced by the gay community or hip-hop culture that historically would have been seen as offensive or degrading to the very people using them.
Some words just take on different meanings over time and - depending on context and how they are used - they don't have the same bite as they used to.
Dark berry-pink. No lace or frills.
For those of you that have them - what's your favourite LELO toy or which kind do you covet the most?
Feel free to share opinions on what you like or don't like about the ones you've tried or looked into as potential purchases!
Everyone fantasizes and looks - just don't be doing it in such a blatant way that it's obvious to your partner when you're with them. Master the art of discretion. Wear some dark shades to hide where your eyes are going. Be subtle about it. Look but then don't fixate on the same girl over and over again. I think when people get pissed off about their significant other getting caught 'looking' it's because it has the potential to feel disrespectful when your girl is standing there right next to you and you're making it really obvious. It can make them feel inferior and if the object-of-ogling recognizes it, it can also feel embarrassing. I tend to feel sorry for the female when her man is constantly staring and she's just standing there quietly, looking insecure and frustrated. It's like his wife/GF becomes 'invisible'. If you keep it discreet, no harm done. And if you're on a guy's night or she's not with you, then you don't have to worry about keeping things in check (visually, anyway). But yeah, we all look and fantasize - it's just how you do it if you have a partner that's sensitive to it.
btw, to add to that, a certain kinky girl took the idea and ran with it, introducing me to sticking it on a mirror, first just a small hand held one, then the full length wall one, it's fun to to watch yourself - well, it feels dirty, which is fun. 
