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Dancing_Doll
Over 90 days ago
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Alpha Blonde
Love these kinds of hair bands and head pieces - so pretty. The black rose one with a simple little black dress and heels would be gorgeous.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by SereneProdigy
Do you girls prefer a crew-neck or a v-neck for shirts? I always preferred crew-necks ; more comfortable and more masculine.
I don't mind either. I think it's about the level of the v-neck.
Like what you posted above and this is ok:
This level (and deeper) is not so good.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by sprite
mine's pink, actually.my apt book, i mean...
I guess technically mine is black - because it's my phone. But it's in a turquoise case at the moment, so we'll go with that.
Let's go with Tie-Me-Up Tuesday. Stroke of midnight (my time). I'll bring the cherry licorice ties this time. ;)
Alpha Blonde
Quality jeans, fitted (but not skin-tight) tees, long-sleeve tees or knits or button-down shirts. Athletic sportswear, board shorts, ski-jackets, long trenches, nice shoes, short boots, cool jackets. I guess sporty and casual-to-trendy would fit my preference best. I'm not that into the whole suit n' tux thing, unless it's required for work or special events. A guy that's got a bit of style but is still keeping it easy and casual turns my head far more than a guy in a suit.
Alpha Blonde
I find body products like soap or bodywash don't linger in extreme ways, so if he wants to fruit it up in the shower or go for the vanilla sugar-cookie bath bomb, it's all good.
I would prefer men's or unisex colognes though. I don't like musky or heavy scents, so something fresh and clean and woodsy is best.
I would prefer men's or unisex colognes though. I don't like musky or heavy scents, so something fresh and clean and woodsy is best.
Alpha Blonde
Great advice from a lot of people in this thread.
I agree that 'dating a coworker' is kind of one of those things you try to avoid unless the mutual attraction and affinity for each other is so strong that you are willing to risk going against the rules. The rules may be defined by the company (some of them frown on these kinds of relationships) or just a general concern that if/when the relationship tanks, it will be extremely awkward and uncomfortable to still have to see each other every day... Not to mention being gossip fodder for your coworkers as they watch things unfold - including managers. It's really not the best career move to be honest, even though it does happen anyway.
So, in my opinion, to go the coworker route to 'explore' a situation because you have things in common, are at similar life stages, and are friends but *maybe* feelings could develop over time is really throwing that risk:benefit ratio wayyyy out of balance. Coworker affairs and relationships (not counting drunken xmas party hook-ups never to be discussed again) are typically reserved for when the intensity is already there.
In this situation, she has already reaffirmed the 'you're such a good friend' thing. Make no mistake that when a woman says this, she's saying it with the hopes that you will 'get it' and not make things awkward by pushing the romance envelope in her direction. It's a way to avert the awkwardness she sees coming. I'm sure she enjoys talking to you and hanging out during breaks etc, but it's also important to remember that the office is kind of like a forced social bubble in a way - being friends at work, having lunch together and chatting over a cubicle wall or by email doesn't mean that person would consider doing those things with the same person on 'off-time' like weekends or after work. You mentioned that she's not even open to lunches so at this point it becomes even more clear that she's not interested. This could be that she doesn't like the idea of dating a coworker, that she's not attracted to you or the chemistry is off, or that she's just got something else going that you don't know about. You'll never really know, but I would honestly advise against continuing to push for something she clearly isn't interested in. Especially in a work environment, it can make things extremely uncomfortable. It could get to the point that she just avoids you altogether for fear of leading you on and that's probably the last thing you want to happen.
I also think perspective is important too. You're not in love with her. At this point, you're infatuated and possibly have a desire to be a white knight type figure because you perceive her to be unhappy or lonely. There's no doubt that you really like what you know about her so far, but you don't really know her enough to be in love with her in the genuine sense. Without having even gone for lunch, your interaction is limited and you might be romanticizing what you know about her to a degree because she seems to fit the prototype of what you think would be your ideal mate.
I would just relax and be casual and friendly and continue on with life. She already knows you like her (trust me), so the ball is in her court if she ever wants to get to know you more. If you didn't work together, I'd say there might be more leeway if you wanted to lay your cards on the table and get a definitive answer, but because of the situation, I'd advise to take a more cautious approach and lay low. Good luck...
I agree that 'dating a coworker' is kind of one of those things you try to avoid unless the mutual attraction and affinity for each other is so strong that you are willing to risk going against the rules. The rules may be defined by the company (some of them frown on these kinds of relationships) or just a general concern that if/when the relationship tanks, it will be extremely awkward and uncomfortable to still have to see each other every day... Not to mention being gossip fodder for your coworkers as they watch things unfold - including managers. It's really not the best career move to be honest, even though it does happen anyway.
So, in my opinion, to go the coworker route to 'explore' a situation because you have things in common, are at similar life stages, and are friends but *maybe* feelings could develop over time is really throwing that risk:benefit ratio wayyyy out of balance. Coworker affairs and relationships (not counting drunken xmas party hook-ups never to be discussed again) are typically reserved for when the intensity is already there.
In this situation, she has already reaffirmed the 'you're such a good friend' thing. Make no mistake that when a woman says this, she's saying it with the hopes that you will 'get it' and not make things awkward by pushing the romance envelope in her direction. It's a way to avert the awkwardness she sees coming. I'm sure she enjoys talking to you and hanging out during breaks etc, but it's also important to remember that the office is kind of like a forced social bubble in a way - being friends at work, having lunch together and chatting over a cubicle wall or by email doesn't mean that person would consider doing those things with the same person on 'off-time' like weekends or after work. You mentioned that she's not even open to lunches so at this point it becomes even more clear that she's not interested. This could be that she doesn't like the idea of dating a coworker, that she's not attracted to you or the chemistry is off, or that she's just got something else going that you don't know about. You'll never really know, but I would honestly advise against continuing to push for something she clearly isn't interested in. Especially in a work environment, it can make things extremely uncomfortable. It could get to the point that she just avoids you altogether for fear of leading you on and that's probably the last thing you want to happen.
I also think perspective is important too. You're not in love with her. At this point, you're infatuated and possibly have a desire to be a white knight type figure because you perceive her to be unhappy or lonely. There's no doubt that you really like what you know about her so far, but you don't really know her enough to be in love with her in the genuine sense. Without having even gone for lunch, your interaction is limited and you might be romanticizing what you know about her to a degree because she seems to fit the prototype of what you think would be your ideal mate.
I would just relax and be casual and friendly and continue on with life. She already knows you like her (trust me), so the ball is in her court if she ever wants to get to know you more. If you didn't work together, I'd say there might be more leeway if you wanted to lay your cards on the table and get a definitive answer, but because of the situation, I'd advise to take a more cautious approach and lay low. Good luck...
Alpha Blonde
Quote by slipperywhenwet2012
If you're speaking of the BDSM lifestyle as a whole, then neither.
But I'm into light BDSM as a KINK, and I enjoy both roles. But I don't play out the whole mistress/slave scene. Just one of us takes charge, I guess.
This.
It's strictly role-play and the occasional sexual power-exchange. Outside of sex, I have zero interest in either.
Alpha Blonde
To the OP - quite honestly, it's your fault for not being upfront with her and telling her that you don't believe men and women can just be friends and explaining to her that opposite sex friendship has zero value to you unless you're going to get laid.
That's pretty much what you've spelled out in your post.
Many women are under the impression that friendship has value in and of itself, regardless of gender.
It sounds like a communication fuck up, but don't blame the girl for not putting out solely because she thinks you're a fun guy to hang out with now and then.
That's pretty much what you've spelled out in your post.
Many women are under the impression that friendship has value in and of itself, regardless of gender.
It sounds like a communication fuck up, but don't blame the girl for not putting out solely because she thinks you're a fun guy to hang out with now and then.
Alpha Blonde
Happy Birthday to one of my favourite people in the entire universe!
On the day you were born, the stars were surely shining their brightest.
I hope you have a truly fantastic day and love you lots! XO
Alpha Blonde
Damn you, flu germs!! Fuck off razor-blade tonsils and fever flames! And fuck you to the douche at the gym earlier this week that was coughing, sneezing and sniffling and sweating all over the machines and not wiping them down afterward. Do you seriously need to work out when you're that fucking sick??? Your muscles will still be there next week, I promise! Stay home. Fuck!
Alpha Blonde
Quote by SereneProdigy
Hey, I was thinking about starting a thread about sunless tanning. I have a pale skin like you, and like to keep a subtle glow in the winter to look healthier and hide some flaws (dark circles, etc).
Personally I use Banana Boat Self Tanning Lotion, and mix it about 50/50 with a moisturizer cream to obtain just a subtle glow. I use it every 3 days or so (2x/week) ; I apply it before going to bed and wash it off in the morning. I only use it for my face. I tried applying it to my whole body before, but it was too much trouble for what it was worth.
I read excellent reviews about Fake Bake, but Banana Boat Self Tanning Lotion is very good too and also rated amongst the best for a cheaper alternative (no streaks, non-greasy, non-comedogenic, etc). I used to buy them in packs of 3 from Amazon, for around $25.
PS: The active ingredient in sunless tanning products, DHA (dihydroxyacetone), has a limited shelf-life of around 7-8 months before it looses its effectiveness. I bought them in bulk before and had to throw some away because of that.
Yeah, the Fake Bake said you have to use it within 10 months. I think it's more than enough to last me through til spring. I haven't tried Banana Boat but I have tried one of those 'slow-tint' lotions (can't remember the brand but it gets lots of commercials) but I thought the smell was off-putting and I didn't think there much colour pay-off. Plus I didn't think the lotion itself was very hydrating or pleasant to use.
The nice thing about Flawless is that it's very concentrated so you just need a little spritz on the mitt and you can cover an entire arm or leg, no problem, just by lightly 'buffing' it in vs a lotion that you have to smooth on for total coverage and work into the skin and then worry about line demarcations. With the mitt, as it starts to dry out, its easier to blend into your regular skin-tone - especially if you just want something like a light colour on the tops of the arms where the sun would naturally hit without doing the underside. It runs $29 so not too bad in price, but they also have travel sized bottles for $16 if someone just wanted to try it out. For me, I think it would be hard to improve on this formulation based on all the stuff I've tried in the past.
Alpha Blonde
Totally depends on the friends in question. With certain friends, our convo can get pretty raunchy sometimes, with others I keep things a little more sanitized.
If you talk about sex with these friends, I don't see the harm in a little share n' brag if you're doing it in a fun way.
ps. Congrats on the squirt!
If you talk about sex with these friends, I don't see the harm in a little share n' brag if you're doing it in a fun way.
ps. Congrats on the squirt!
Alpha Blonde
20 inches, with the width of an industrial vacuum hose.
Now when I queef, there's an echo.
* serious answer would be around 9 inches.
Now when I queef, there's an echo.
* serious answer would be around 9 inches.
Alpha Blonde
This is kind of skincare related in that it's good for your skin to avoid the sun and tan beds.
I recently tried this self-tanner and I think it's the best I've tried so far. The colour you get is sooo natural and the system is the best I've seen so far. I find lotions and mousses rather messy and greasy and streaky but this is a liquid... you just spray it onto this mitt that comes in the kit and then buff it onto your skin (good for body and face). It's so quick and effortless. No greasy after-affects, no staining on clothes/sheets and it actually smells pretty good too (ie. you can totally go in public if you had to and not fear you will stink like self-tanner). I put it on at night and by my morning shower I have a sun-kissed glow. Really cool system - I hate the ones that feel like you've coated your skin with cream - this just buffs the colour right in as you rub and I feel like you can control the colour more too and make it look more natural. It's buildable colour but just once a week will keep a nice healthy glow to the skin. If I don't do stuff like this, by December I will look death-bed white because I'm verrry pale naturally - but not in that pretty porcelain-white skin way. I like to at least stay flesh-coloured.
It's called 'Flawless' by Fake Bake.
I recently tried this self-tanner and I think it's the best I've tried so far. The colour you get is sooo natural and the system is the best I've seen so far. I find lotions and mousses rather messy and greasy and streaky but this is a liquid... you just spray it onto this mitt that comes in the kit and then buff it onto your skin (good for body and face). It's so quick and effortless. No greasy after-affects, no staining on clothes/sheets and it actually smells pretty good too (ie. you can totally go in public if you had to and not fear you will stink like self-tanner). I put it on at night and by my morning shower I have a sun-kissed glow. Really cool system - I hate the ones that feel like you've coated your skin with cream - this just buffs the colour right in as you rub and I feel like you can control the colour more too and make it look more natural. It's buildable colour but just once a week will keep a nice healthy glow to the skin. If I don't do stuff like this, by December I will look death-bed white because I'm verrry pale naturally - but not in that pretty porcelain-white skin way. I like to at least stay flesh-coloured.
It's called 'Flawless' by Fake Bake.
Alpha Blonde
Ooh... time to catch up on this thread.
I *was* wearing Butter London's 'British Racing Green' ...
But then I picked up NCLA's fall collection and now am wearing this truly awesome glitter called 'My Dad Invented That'. I love it!
I *was* wearing Butter London's 'British Racing Green' ...
But then I picked up NCLA's fall collection and now am wearing this truly awesome glitter called 'My Dad Invented That'. I love it!
Alpha Blonde
Yes.
I would find it more strange if people only sent naked pics of themselves to strangers on Lush.
I would find it more strange if people only sent naked pics of themselves to strangers on Lush.
Alpha Blonde
Guys showing off bits of flesh (eg. butt crack, cropped top, super deep vee-neck etc) just end up looking feminine to me. Maybe it's because I consider it more of a typically girly thing to do to get attention so seeing a guy doing it just makes him look kind of lame.
The best thing to do is go for well-fitting jeans to highlight a nice butt and the fitted (but not skin-tight) tee or shirt to show off the general shape of a guy's physique. Or a guy could go for something sleeveless if he has nice arms or shorts to show off muscular legs/calves.
Of course there are some places where you can show off a bit more (the beach, while training or at the gym, and certain clubs where being shirtless just makes you blend in with the crowd) - but for general daily activities it's best to think about a flattering fit for clothes rather than actually showing off skin.
The best thing to do is go for well-fitting jeans to highlight a nice butt and the fitted (but not skin-tight) tee or shirt to show off the general shape of a guy's physique. Or a guy could go for something sleeveless if he has nice arms or shorts to show off muscular legs/calves.
Of course there are some places where you can show off a bit more (the beach, while training or at the gym, and certain clubs where being shirtless just makes you blend in with the crowd) - but for general daily activities it's best to think about a flattering fit for clothes rather than actually showing off skin.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by apainter
It upsets him too when I relay my feelings and his response is to say well I need to protect us both so you can't come over for a while", then I feel like I am being "punished" for voicing feeling hurt.
This part is his way of saying "don't get emotionally attached to me. If this upsets you then we need to take a step back and cool things down until you have perspective again"... in a warped way, he's thinking he's protecting you from getting too attached and ultimately getting hurt by placing expectations on him and the relationship.
I suspect you probably walk on eggshells a bit with him so as to not tip him over the edge or trigger his douchey behaviour. You probably don't tell him what you want in the relationship and I'll bet you don't tell him how much you care and how invested you are in this. If you aren't saying these things, he thinks he's doing nothing wrong. From his perspective - you are totally cool with everything when you're not placing demands on him and just clearing out at his whim. This is what he will fall back on if/when this blows up. He will claim that he had no idea you were so emotionally attached in the first place and that hey, he didn't make any promises or lead you on.
Your best bet is to say what you want and what you won't tolerate and let the chips fall where they may. If he walks, then consider the benefits of not wasting anymore time with him and involving your heart more than you already have. Cause really - if he's going to walk over you saying you don't want to be treated this way, this wasn't much of a relationship to begin with. It's kind of like putting off the inevitable. It's going to hurt however it happens but at least you're doing it on your own terms.
Alpha Blonde
Ok - I just counted out of curiosity. I have 875 friends. 
A friend-cap would just be cruel.
A friend-cap would just be cruel.
Alpha Blonde
God, I don't even know how many people are on my friend list but I'm sure it's well over the 200 allotment. Personally I would rather shut off or limit my activity feed than start the mess of deleting people. I don't even look at my activity feed as it is.
Alpha Blonde
You should maybe start with a small prostate-shaped buttplug that you can use at the same time as masturbation. Or maybe the Aneros (I've heard good reviews as well as mediocre reviews on it but you can check into it). These are all hands-free.
I'm not sure what your price point is but Lelo Billy is a good anal vibe. It's not too big and vibrates as well and the quality is top notch.
Here's a demo of it:
I'm not sure what your price point is but Lelo Billy is a good anal vibe. It's not too big and vibrates as well and the quality is top notch.
Here's a demo of it:
Alpha Blonde
I barely believe in marriage as it is, so the thought of doing it twice would get a resounding no from me.
Alpha Blonde
Quote by coffeebown
Chest well toned tells it all
I agree. If the chest looks good, chances are the shoulders/arms/back are probably well toned/muscular as well. Upper body get my attention first, but strong well-shaped calves and thighs also turn me on quite a bit.
