Hi,

You sound really young, with all the expectations of the young.

You say she's in school and working, at what is a new job? That's a lot on her plate. No wonder she's not the best at responding. I can tell you some of the people I normally talked to regularly, haven't heard from me in ages due to school/work/time issues. Even my very best friend frequently feels neglected. I simply don't have the time or energy to get involved with things that aren't directly school/work. Ive been pursued by guys who don't respect the schedule I am on, and very few things can make me more annoyed, chase me away faster.

I've used the "I called" line when I really wanted to have some time to myself. You say you wanted to "hang out" after work. I can tell you as a working student, there are few things I'd like to do less then "hang out" after work with someone. For her to have entertained the idea even remotely suggests you have a chance with her- IF you haven't screwed it up by being a pushy douche.

Go back and read Felix's advice. A girl in school and work? you need to pique her interest, offer her something besides a chance to "hang out." I hear "hang out" and what that says to me is, "wasting time you should be studying." and go with the advice to make a date on a non work day once she is out of school.

Going to school and working is hard, and depending on her class load, it might be all consuming. Listen to her, she told you she was busy, and you kept pushing. Instead of enticing her with something she would like, you are chasing her with temper tantrums.

On the flipside, if I were her, I would not go out with someone who couldnt respect the fact that I am busy with school and work.

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