And since we're discussing this at all, I've also been playing with the idea of writing a story where an established couple acts out a fantasy. The fact that it's a roleplay (and consent has been given) will be clearly emphasized at the beginning of the story, but the sex will be incredibly rough and demeaning to the submissive. Moreover, no safe word will be used-- and this is a mutual decision by both characters-- so the sex will, for all intents and purposes, come across as . It just, y'know, won't be, and at the end the couple will be fine.
Will I be allowed to submit something like that?
Celtic Woman. Particularly Walking in the Air and The Voice.
Creamed corn.
An awesome shopping spree or a romantic weekend away.
Agreed. Unless you know beforehand that it's alright, it's kind of rude.
Massages can sometimes be better than sex.
Guess we're moving forwards again.
Hard to Explain - The Strokes
Crawling Towards the Sun - The Hush Sound
As a joke (because I truly don't think the guy was serious)? I think it's hilarious. I would have laughed if my husband said that to me.
This Mess We're In - P.J. Harvey ft. Thom Yorke
Enter Sandman - Metallica
There Goes My Outfit - The Dears
A gentleman, huh? Do those even exist anymore?
I suppose my definition of a gentleman would be someone who's courteous, attentive, honest, loyal, and sincere. Bonus if he's a romantic at heart (double bonus if he's not, but tries to be anyway). I don't need some guy to open doors for me and pay for every outing we have-- I can do all that by myself, thanks. I just want a guy who knows how to listen and pay attention and who tries to do the right thing (even if he sometimes gets it wrong). Someone who's willing to be open and who genuinely cares about me AND our relationship. A guy who doesn't lie or cheat or manipulate, and who'll always respect me, even if I suggest we try freaky stuff in the bedroom.
That's a real gentleman in my eyes. =p
I would never tell my partner that he couldn't masturbate just because he was with me. Why? Because I'd never allow some guy to tell me I couldn't masturbate while I was with him.
Mutual masturbation would be a real turn on, though, to be honest. And I would totally get off on watching a partner jerk off if he'd let me.
So yeah, I'm all for it.
I tried to come up with alternatives for the male-equivalent for 'cougar' (that I've heard/seen) but all I could come up with was cradle-robber, dirty old man, , child molester, pervert, sicko, daddy, etc...you get the idea.
To be honest, I think the guys get the short end of the stick in regards to liking younger women (and the names they're called for it). "Cougars", at least, are generally considered to be older, sexy women with a bit of a wild side (at least that's the impression I always got, though correct me if I'm wrong). Guys are just considered perverts. :/ Or "Daddy", which is kind of weird. If I were an older woman I'd be grossed out a younger guy/girl I was interested in tried to call me "Mommy", so I wonder how men who don't have that particular kink must feel about it.
I'm very attracted to older men (generally late 20s to early 50s), but I personally wouldn't be able to date someone older than 35, I don't think. Not unless there was amazing chemistry between us, anyway. As for younger guys...18 (and therefore not jail bait) is definitely the youngest I'd go for, and he'd have to both act and look mature. I wouldn't be interested otherwise.
Other people can date whoever they want, though. As long as the relationship is consensual and both parties are of legal age, I don't think there's a problem. I mean, age so rarely determines one's level of maturity, and to me that's what matters most. I know people who are pushing 40 who still act like they're in high school, so obviously I don't put much weight in the so-called correlation between age and maturity.
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