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Quote by johnnypow
i work also..........but since shes 8 years younger than me she has more energy......i cut the grass....take my sons paint balling....play video games....give her orgasm's.....watch sports......and upload pictures for all to enjoy
See this is where a woman's place should be......
Note: Not saying you look anything like that. I imagine since you only would, what say, mow the lawn once or twice a month, and the rest of the time sitting on your behind, that you would look more like this
hmmmm why would I want you gone? I love these times we spend together
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actually....i neither took the photos nor did i pose for them....but if you must direct your anger.....please go ahead and vent
FYI.....married 21 years and still going strong.....shes worked the entire time...while raising me and two sons and now two puppys
she makes way more money than me....cooks dinner, cleans yada yada yada......and takes sword class
Just a question. What exactly did you do while this super woman worked, raised your kids, cooked and clean yada yada yada???
Sorry if that seems too personal, it's just that I was just thinking that you should be worshiping the ground she walks on, rather than be on here being constantly rude to members and degrading women.
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Quote by johnnypow
i could reply......with an appropriate pic or comment....but as many times as i have been suspended...i decline
Oh please do respond, johnny. If I remember correctly, you had one previously before I suspended you, so that makes two - so that means a third one is bye bye, so yes, please do comment
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Quote by PersonalAssistant
well, law is changed by people who see a need to change it, and challenge the existing laws and get those laws amended.
for me, when I first read this .... Ultimate RolePlaying ... like the majority of people on Lush, who enjoy roleplaying as it is outside, perhaps, their normal life roles ..... I thought, cool ... go for it.
But ... then, so many other people have questions about the validity of it. I am not a lawyer, nor am I involved in the process of changes to law ..... but I am of the opinion, if it feels good and it's not harming anyone .... go for it!
I still stick to my opinion that this is a RolePlaying Adventure into Marriage Online - not affecting Real Life, but Lush Life.
Hope my bluntness does not offend anyone ..... should you have exceptions to my comments, feel free to PM me ....
Best regards, Beck .... and to everyone else who has an opinion.
PA
here, here
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Quote by ChrizC
I'm 18, and I measure up at about 5 inches long, and 1.5 inches thick... is this boring?
Unless she is falling asleep or reading the latest edition of Cleo during the deed, or unless you are a hopeless fuck, I can't see where or why size matters and if it's boring???. If you are really, really concerned, you could always buy a strap-on that has a hallow dildo that will add inches on top of yours
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I'm only a little older than you - sounds better saying a little than a few years lol - and have a physical disability myself. I have never let it get me down (other things yes, but this, no 
) and I try to have fun with it and include it into my lifestyle by wearing gas masks. When the time comes that I need to be on full time oxygen, I will just attach the tube to the gas mask, whip on my strap-on and thrust away
I personally don't think it would hinder or be a major issue for anyone with a disability, be that with, or looking after and handling them. Believe it or not, we are a caring group, even the ones that are into the extreme side of bdsm and any concerns should always be discussed before and it is just a matter of searching for the right person - and going by experience, there are plenty of them out there.
) and I try to have fun with it and include it into my lifestyle by wearing gas masks. When the time comes that I need to be on full time oxygen, I will just attach the tube to the gas mask, whip on my strap-on and thrust away I personally don't think it would hinder or be a major issue for anyone with a disability, be that with, or looking after and handling them. Believe it or not, we are a caring group, even the ones that are into the extreme side of bdsm and any concerns should always be discussed before and it is just a matter of searching for the right person - and going by experience, there are plenty of them out there.
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Quote by Mazza
He's not been outed - he PMd all of his friends to tell them exactly what had happened - explained that he had the two accounts going and why...
FltMale is obviously a fan and genuinely wanted everyone to know... His original post quoted Ima's PM to his friends...
Yes, but that was to all his friends in a private message, not for all of lush to read.
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I don't think this is fair
- that he is leaving, I know it's his choosing, but he is a very good writer and will be missed by many
- that this is being made public. If the roles were reversed and we outed a mod who had another account and fooled many, we would be suspended or banned.... not fair, sorry.
- that he is leaving, I know it's his choosing, but he is a very good writer and will be missed by many
- that this is being made public. If the roles were reversed and we outed a mod who had another account and fooled many, we would be suspended or banned.... not fair, sorry.
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While I wouldn't allow this to happen to me, and yes, it would creep me out a bit, I don't understand what all the fuss is about - even telling the member to quit??? - because he has stated again and again that she has given him permission and for all we know it could be HER fantasy!
He is not alone in passed out fantasies etc. Go to any porn site and you will find drunk, passed out videos - all or a majority are most likely staged, but what I am trying to say is that there are people who are into it, and who are we to judge if it is consensual and between a married couple?
Then comment - maybe because I have heard it said before for anything that isn't vanilla, but I can even understand that.
HighDesert - I would say to you, if you are unsure, I would suggest maybe restraining her legs, arms and gagging her, while she is awake to see if this is to your (and hers) liking and then proceed or not proceed from there.
He is not alone in passed out fantasies etc. Go to any porn site and you will find drunk, passed out videos - all or a majority are most likely staged, but what I am trying to say is that there are people who are into it, and who are we to judge if it is consensual and between a married couple?
Then comment - maybe because I have heard it said before for anything that isn't vanilla, but I can even understand that.
HighDesert - I would say to you, if you are unsure, I would suggest maybe restraining her legs, arms and gagging her, while she is awake to see if this is to your (and hers) liking and then proceed or not proceed from there.
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Quote by MistressS
I must admit I agree with most of what latexia, however, I don't want this thread to turn to arguments about the lifestyle. If people disagree with anything I or others have said, please message them privately.
I meant you no disrespect MistressS. I wrote my post, not to cause an argument, but to give my opinion about chastity restraints and sexual/non-sexual punishments.
As WmCutterBlack said "Just some of my thoughts...as always, your mileage may vary."
and you may chose to not read mine, and I respect that, but I believe all opinions should be discussed (not argued of course). The more discussions, more the knowledge.
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I agree with most of the other posters. Punishment should "fit the crime" (like The Executioner's song in the Mikado by Gilbert and Sullivan) and also fit the person. The worst punishment for a committed submissive is often their own feelings of disappointing their Dom/Domme/Master/Mistress. Since the object of the punishment is to "learn a lesson", the process is very much a "carrot and stick" situation with reward for "good behavior" in future. Such emotional punishment, however, should include "after-care", reassuring the sub and supporting their ego so that they do not hit a downward spiral of feeling like they are "worthless" for disappointing their Dom/Domme. Sadly, that can often happen.
One thing I see often, and do not approve of (just my opinion) is "punishment" like spanking or humiliation that leads directly to sex. It can spur a sub to want the so-called punishment and thereby takes away the whole idea of being actually punished for doing something wrong.
Time out or temporary "no contact" punishment is also an effective means, but only if the sub is committed. I'm not so sure about "orgasm denial" or "forced chastity" as a good punishment because the sub knows beforehand that eventually they will be released and the eventual orgasm (i.e. make up sex?) will be powerful. Physical punishment, if carried to extremes (and this includes physically restrained chastity) can result in nerve or vascular damage and loss of sensitivity (and who wants that!).
Just some of my thoughts...as always, your mileage may vary.
I must say that whilst I agree with your first part of your post, I really then have to say that I don't agree with the rest of it.
Anyone who knows me and have read any previous posts regarding bdsm, knows that I am very adamant that people should be aware that fear and bdsm do not belong together, yet I am very disappointed by all the very vanilla responses - there is no in-between. The picture threads are just art threads and do not represent the bdsm world (yes, they are nice but a collar and chain/ropes is just fancy dress), and anyone more interested in just nipple clamps and vibrators, are considered too harsh, non-caring and extreme. Sorry, if that sounds offensive, it is not meant to be, but that is just my opinion as I am more a moderate to 'extreme'.
My concern is that I think that many miss what the definition of Bdsm actually is.
BDSM is an erotic preference and a form of personal relationship involving the consensual use of restraint, intense sensory stimulation, and fantasy power role play.
Because I am not a believer that bdsm is just about getting a sub to satisfy you sexually, or to boss around, I do believe that 'punishment' is another word for session. For me, session = punishment = consensual from both parties = bdsm. My sessions are not made of 'fuck me' or 'suck my dick', they are about power play and restraints. My sub gets sexually excited being restrained, punished and controlled, but it is not conclusive that he will get an erection or have sexual intercourse. I get sexually excited fulfilling his desires, and am completely satisfied with the final result, no matter if it is sexual or not, as is the sub.
While I am not into intense pain, light whipping of the penis, be that with a whip or crop, is not painful and is erotic - It is exactly the same as pussy slapping. I myself do believe it is very effective, as is 'no contact' punishment. Sorry to repeat myself, but it does NOT mean at all that this punishment leads directly to sex - in my case, it rarely does.
While it is not for everyone, humiliation is another big thing in the bdsm world. It is not about degrading a person, but pushing the person to the uncomfortable zone (like alcohol, it allows the sub to do what he or she normally wouldn't do) - and must be discussed and approved by both parties prior to doing this, of course and must be part of the contract.
Orgasm denial and 'forced' (I don't like this term because if it is forced, it is an abusive relationship, not a consensual bdsm relationship that they both agreed to prior to entering the relationship, so from now on, I will just say restraint) chastity - Both of these are often practiced in the bdsm world and does not mean the session will end with sex, nor is it extreme. In fact, a chastity restraint is considered either a teasing sexual device or another form of a collar - some even refer to it as a wedding ring. Many men are proud to wear their restraint as it is comfortable and can be worn for many days without any medical proven nerve damage or loss of sensitivity. Orgasm denial also has no proven medical problems - think vasectomies (and we are talking denial sessions, not life term). If the sub wore his restraint for a whole year, maybe then it would have some effect, maybe - I have yet to hear of a case where this has happened.
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Welcome to Lush, southerncock78 and welcome to our part of the world. A good topic to read is from MistressS BDSM-101 will also give you a good idea what to expect.
I'm not quite sure if you are talking about an internet, or real life relationship, so I will just give you a small example of my relationship, as there are many types and forms of bdsm. I'll try to be brief so I do not bore you lol.
- My pet must wear a collar at all times except for when he is working. For that, he has dog tags which I had inscribed 'owned by my Mistress' which can be tucked in his shirt.
- While at work or away from me, he must wear a plastic locked chastity belt (yes, he can still take a whiz whilst wearing it.)
- If he has misbehaved, I have him wear a butt plug until I say that it can be removed.
- I don't allow him to have erections unless I have given him permission. If he does have a involuntary one during our sessions, I use a very light cat-o-nine tales and give his penis a slight whip or two. I also punish him by making him wear a chastity pant which has buckles which keeps the penis in an upright position and then I have some personal fun and tease him to an erection - very frustrating for him.
- I won't go into detail here about the sexual side, so I won't tell you about where I use low burning candles, neck-wrist restraints, my fetishes, electric nipple clamps for him (not me) and I won't be telling you about my strap-on, etc
- I demand respect from my pet, and he must call me Mistress and nothing else. He must report to me every morning with a wake up call. He must basically do everything that I request him to do, sexual and non-sexual. But I do respect him, and I would never ask him to do anything that I know he is uncomfortable with. Respect and trust, is to me, the number one rule in any bdsm relationship.
So, that is just a small example and like I said every relationship is different. You may want to start by just having a Mistress that tells you what she needs sexually and you must abide. When you feel comfortable, you may wish then to add toys, bondage gear and punishments etc. After that, the sky is the limit.
I'm not quite sure if you are talking about an internet, or real life relationship, so I will just give you a small example of my relationship, as there are many types and forms of bdsm. I'll try to be brief so I do not bore you lol.
- My pet must wear a collar at all times except for when he is working. For that, he has dog tags which I had inscribed 'owned by my Mistress' which can be tucked in his shirt.
- While at work or away from me, he must wear a plastic locked chastity belt (yes, he can still take a whiz whilst wearing it.)
- If he has misbehaved, I have him wear a butt plug until I say that it can be removed.
- I don't allow him to have erections unless I have given him permission. If he does have a involuntary one during our sessions, I use a very light cat-o-nine tales and give his penis a slight whip or two. I also punish him by making him wear a chastity pant which has buckles which keeps the penis in an upright position and then I have some personal fun and tease him to an erection - very frustrating for him.
- I won't go into detail here about the sexual side, so I won't tell you about where I use low burning candles, neck-wrist restraints, my fetishes, electric nipple clamps for him (not me) and I won't be telling you about my strap-on, etc
- I demand respect from my pet, and he must call me Mistress and nothing else. He must report to me every morning with a wake up call. He must basically do everything that I request him to do, sexual and non-sexual. But I do respect him, and I would never ask him to do anything that I know he is uncomfortable with. Respect and trust, is to me, the number one rule in any bdsm relationship.
So, that is just a small example and like I said every relationship is different. You may want to start by just having a Mistress that tells you what she needs sexually and you must abide. When you feel comfortable, you may wish then to add toys, bondage gear and punishments etc. After that, the sky is the limit.
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I have very simple voting tatics.
Any story or poem that is written by Frank_Lee gets an automatic 5 - I don't think it is even possible for him to write a 4 or below
Everyone else gets a 1 - only because they are not Frank_Lee.
lol, only joking, I think it can be checked that I have never voted under a 4 or 3.
A story does not have to make me cum all over my seat or make me squirt across the room for it to deserve a 5. A well written story - and yes, mistakes included - that has me glued to the chair, is what gets voted a 5. Mistakes are often overlooked and I do (as do the hard working lush story verifiers), allow at least 5 to slip through before voting less than a 5 (yet to happen). Sometimes there can be a misspelling that word etc does not pick up, sometimes it could be a simple software format error, so I do not lower the score for that very reason.
A story that is slightly unbelievable like having a 16 inch penis and people that cum instantly together or on demand, but is well written, (as long as I don't have to say to myself 'WTF' more than once) will get a 4 or maybe a 5, but most likely a 4.
A story that is totally unbelievable like a sub for example ordering her Master around or being a defiant just to get punished (both more than 1 'WTF' moment) will get a 3. But I don't think I have yet to score one, as most were read when I was verifying and I just let it be rather than low score.
I saw many stories that deserved a one or a two as a verifier, but they were rejected. I have yet to find one myself that deserves a low score - I am not saying they aren't out there, but as they say, each to their own and your one might be a 5 to me.
Any story or poem that is written by Frank_Lee gets an automatic 5 - I don't think it is even possible for him to write a 4 or below
Everyone else gets a 1 - only because they are not Frank_Lee.
lol, only joking, I think it can be checked that I have never voted under a 4 or 3. A story does not have to make me cum all over my seat or make me squirt across the room for it to deserve a 5. A well written story - and yes, mistakes included - that has me glued to the chair, is what gets voted a 5. Mistakes are often overlooked and I do (as do the hard working lush story verifiers), allow at least 5 to slip through before voting less than a 5 (yet to happen). Sometimes there can be a misspelling that word etc does not pick up, sometimes it could be a simple software format error, so I do not lower the score for that very reason.
A story that is slightly unbelievable like having a 16 inch penis and people that cum instantly together or on demand, but is well written, (as long as I don't have to say to myself 'WTF' more than once) will get a 4 or maybe a 5, but most likely a 4.
A story that is totally unbelievable like a sub for example ordering her Master around or being a defiant just to get punished (both more than 1 'WTF' moment) will get a 3. But I don't think I have yet to score one, as most were read when I was verifying and I just let it be rather than low score.
I saw many stories that deserved a one or a two as a verifier, but they were rejected. I have yet to find one myself that deserves a low score - I am not saying they aren't out there, but as they say, each to their own and your one might be a 5 to me.
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*Sigh* Ok, I'll play along (this time) and condense a few of the judgmental comments for you in this thread:
- "gross, yuck, barf, gag"
- "many of you need to cease any sexual activity and retake Sex 101"
- "jeez, what is the deal in the forums here for people to think it's ok to (do this)"
- "Seriously I feel like I just lost precious minutes of my life reading some of the idiotic responses"
- *GAGGGGGGINNNG*
Apply any of those comments to a thread on BDSM or watersports or any other sexual kink, and maybe you'll see how it might dissuade people who do it from posting on the forums - something that two other people already noted before I even posted. Hopefully that clears up the confusion for you.
I'm not saying all this to get a response from you, but if you feel it is a game, then I can't stop you feeling that way, because I am not playing one.
But, I am glad that my fight to have any member to have a self opinionated thought on here without being responded to with personal attacks/replies, is getting through. So thank you DD for coming on board 
- "gross, yuck, barf, gag" I would say that is just a self opinionated response on how they feel on the matter and that it was not directed at those that practice it.
- "many of you need to cease any sexual activity and retake Sex 101" I say this was because of the safe sex debate and again not directed at any member but the issue of safety.
- "jeez, what is the deal in the forums here for people to think it's ok to (do this)" see above
- "Seriously I feel like I just lost precious minutes of my life reading some of the idiotic responses" see above
- *GAGGGGGGINNNG* see first response.
Maybe one more coffee and I will be less confused LOL.
Please note: Just so we can be clear, I would do this myself - but only if the guy was wearing a condom first and removed it prior to inserting into my mouth. I am not against the act, just the health side of it.
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As you know I'm all for giving opinions, as I was giving mine too. I felt that in this particular thread, the ass-to-mouth people were being unfairly ganged up on and I wanted to defend the underdogs.
That way everyone feels comfortable giving their opinions without fearing their sexual practices or kinks will be condemned or judged, as was happening earlier in the thread if you read through the entire thing.
I think if you read back, you will see that many were voicing their concerns at the 'claims' that a simple douche was enough to consider this practice safe - we never condemned or judged as you said, we voiced that we wouldn't do it personally but we, I admit, did focus on the claims it is clean.
Defend??? I don't think the ass-to-mouth were unfairly ganged up upon at all and would never consider them nor you an underdog (mind you, I do love that word - you have probably seen it on my profile LOL) Questioned yes, ganged up no.
What you may have missed is that none of the safe crowd bothered to get personal and called us things like 'paranoid germ-a-phobes' - rather than something like people who are concerned about safe sex. How is someone supposed to feel comfortable about giving their opinions after reading something like that?
Just asking.
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I had no idea there were so many paranoid germ-a-phobes on the site... lol
I think it's great that we all have a varying difference of opinions. Some say yes, it is safe even without a condom - some say, FFS a simple burst of water is not going to kill germs. This is not about being a paranoid germ-a phobe, but concerns.
I like the fact that we can all state our opinion. I like to think that someone that is less experienced or even totally innocent with an inquiring mind will come in here and get all the facts before adventuring or considering something like this. If they read all opinions, and if they still had any concerns/questions, they can explore the matter further on the net or even ask their doctor (as I have and was told, no condom is a no-no) if it is considered safe or not. If we ALL came in here and said yes - be that for the truth, or to look good, then that could give the wrong impression.
We shouldn't be afraid to state our concerns - after all, this is what makes Lush special lol.
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Overall, he controlled when she could spend time with her other Master. He also had to follow the rules set by her main Master. So would that make him a submissive as well?
I wouldn't call this person a Master at all! Sounds as though he is a submissive, but has been awarded with his own little pet and been given limited authoritative to deal out punishments/sex - still wouldn't be classed as a Master though, just being rewarded.
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I guess if you have no control of your sub, why be their Master? Just thinking out loud lol
My thoughts exactly!
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Very good question, and will be very interested in the replies.
Real life, I only have and want one. The internet, well sky is the limit, and two or more is totally acceptable as I can explore my varying inner darkest desires with no limitations with each and every one.
As for the subs, I would have a rule that they only have one Master/Mistress. I haven't met or spoken to many Dom's on here and other sites that are willing to share, so yes, how does that work?
Real life, I only have and want one. The internet, well sky is the limit, and two or more is totally acceptable as I can explore my varying inner darkest desires with no limitations with each and every one.
As for the subs, I would have a rule that they only have one Master/Mistress. I haven't met or spoken to many Dom's on here and other sites that are willing to share, so yes, how does that work?
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I would have to say 50%, maybe more, much more LOL
I know there are a lot of genuine members, but due to privacy issues, change a few things here and there.
I know there are a lot of fakes. I know of one member who created another account as a religious sex pot causing mayhem in the forums just for an experiment LOL - what I am saying, it is all in fun, real or fake.
I know there are a lot of genuine members, but due to privacy issues, change a few things here and there.
I know there are a lot of fakes. I know of one member who created another account as a religious sex pot causing mayhem in the forums just for an experiment
LOL - what I am saying, it is all in fun, real or fake. 
