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Quote by sprite


while i believe that yes, some of the 'lesbians' here are guys (why they do that, i have no freaking idea) i think that it's pretty easy to sort them out if it's someone you spend a little time getting to know. now, if you're just after a quickie cyber, then it's a different deal. *shrugs*


Do you suppose they figure as pretend dykes they'll be accepted into the magic circle, whatever they conceive that to be?

Or perhapse they are concerned that The Lesbian Conspiracy is about to make its move and they should prepare.

Just a thought. Or two.
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free members may receive PMs but do not have the ability to send. hope that helps and sorry about that. when you first joined, you got a free bronze membership for 90 days and could send PMs, but now that it's expired, yeah, you lost the ability.


I have been here 15 days, not 90. I think I'm hitting a daaily limit. I have no idea what that limit is, nor if it is based on membership level. I did not know PMs would cut off completely with my teemporary membership.I'll need to find extra work I guess.
Quote by sprite


free members may receive PMs but do not have the ability to send. hope that helps and sorry about that. when you first joined, you got a free bronze membership for 90 days and could send PMs, but now that it's expired, yeah, you lost the ability.


I have been here 15 days, not 90. I think I'm hitting a daaily limit. I have no idea what that limit is, nor if it is based on membership level. I did not know PMs would cut off completely with my teemporary membership.I'll need to find extra work I guess.
Quote by 69Kisses96
One of the first signs that you have achieved wisdom is to acknowledge your ignorance.


Wisdom, like freedom, is something we aspire to but never fully attain.
Quote by Beffer
While self-reflection is usually a good thing, if you came out as a lesbian 40 years ago, it's probably a little late to be questioning your orientation, let alone your gender. By Occam's Razor, the simplest explanation is usually the correct one, so if you've felt like a lesbian all these years, and you don't have a penis, you're probably a lesbian. I've never questioned my gender identity, as I have no androgynous ambiguity at all, and my bi-sexuality is so ingrained, I've never had any doubts about my orientation, but I've always been so sexually free and, well... promiscuous, for lack of a nicer word, people have suggested I have a man's personality in a woman's body. I tend to not ascribe stereotypical gender role expectations for members of either sex, so I don't worry much about being different from most women personality-wise. I've always felt confidently bi-sexual, but at certain periods in my life, I've been much more lesbian than other times, moreso because of situational opportunities than changes in personal preference. So I'm curious why at this late stage you are having doubts about your sexuality.


I wrote this post with tongue firmly in cheek, but centred around the serious I believe proposition that most of the lesbians on Lush are really men.

I don't see a penis, but what if it is. What if I've been bamboozled into thinking it's a clitoris somehow. After all, these lesbians who are really men have to come from somewhere!

In truth, from "straight" to "bi" to "les"I have been a tart. I like sex. I can live without it, as I have for nearly 2 decades, but if it's on offer and meets certain criteria I'll take it. For 40 years one of those criterium has been no penis. Except my husband, for 2 years.

Promiscuous is a nicer term, but it's a lot more letters. Besides, when people want to denigrate me they are more likely to say "fucking tart" than "promiscuous bitch." If I accept I'm a tart it's harder for some asshole to hurt me.

A man's personality in a woman's body is I believe crap. We are both women, you are more butch than I. I tend towards femme. If these terms are no longer in common or accepted usage I appologise. Maybe dominant and submissive are better fits now. I have so much to learn

Mrs
Quote by 69Kisses96
BTW, most of the things I have learned about pleasing women came from women, some of whom identify as lesbians. Accept yourself.


Who better than a woman to teach a man about women. Of course the man has to have a feminine side to pay attention, not be all "If I keep pounding away she'll cum, and if she doesn't that's on her." Good for you for paying attention. For a man you aren't bad.
Quote by 69Kisses96
I am a straight male, while at the same time I am fully believing that whatever form love takes, it is still love. We were never meant to be clones of each other. Each and every one of us is a full fledged human being and entitled to respect. Be who you are. If folks don't like it, fuck them.


We are, as you say, full fledged human beings and entitled to respect.

Personally I prefer to fuck the ones who like it.
Quote by Pixie_Hoffmann
I have a hormonal problem which meant I stopped developing in many ways after the age of 12, so I am always getting asked where my mother is, and whether she knows I am a out alone. I am 30, but only 4'10", so my main difficulty around 'was I a woman' was to do with convincing people that I am an adult - my ID card needs replacing annually, lol. But, having gone through a phase when I wished I had bigger breasts (well tbh, any visible growth) and fuller hips and was more 'womanly', I came to accept I am the way I am, and that includes not finding men in the slightest bit sexually attractive. It may have something to do with finding older women of a submissive bent, immensely attractive (ehem).


Pix my Dear, I will get back to you when the Lush gods allow.
Quote by monica3
I have never considered myself anything other than a lesbian. I dont know how a man feels in himself but I have always felt womanly, feminine and utterly happy in my own body. Maybe the test is if you feel that you are in the wrong body then you may well be. Isn't that what a lot of trans people feel, that they are trapped in the wrong corporeal identity?

I reckon you're a woman, Mrs W smile


In some ways I envey women who know right from the starting gate, in others I'm glad I spent over a decade being a tart. Through it all I always wanted to be a woman. My only question was who with.

Trans can be a horrible burden, even with support. We can choose our partners, but not our bodies. Not without a lot of hassle.
Quote by Sirene_Jaune
It doesn't matter what gender you are attracted to. I find females are gorgeous and males handsome. I do identify as straight but I have kissed and been heavy with females before. It was all in fun.


I notice you have claimed bi-curious in your profile. Good to see you are not limiting your options. And remember, a steamy romp with another woman does not make you a lesbian. You get to decide who you are still.

Of course if you suddenly realise you can't go more than a day without a woman in your arms that's a different matter.
I wrote messages to the three of you who responded so far, and Lush promptly threw them in the trash. I suffer from CRAFT disease, so I've no idea what I said. I'll try ty come up with something once my mail privileges are restored.

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Was Jesus a woman? Is L Ron Hubbard in permanent orbit around the earth? Is Vladimir Putin a cross-dresser? We can be fairly certain the answer to the third question is ‘no’, but the jury is still out on questions 1 and 2. According the writings of the 14th century English mystic Julian of Norwich, God is both our mother and our father; and Jesus, she averred, is like a mother who is wise, loving and merciful.

I’m a committed lesbian. Since arriving here on Lush in early July, I’ve found this site to be a wonderfully safe haven for sexy fun and serious chat. So please can I take up a few minutes of your time (eliciting a reply too, I hope) with the latter?

I was probably born a lesbian – although it took me a long time to accept that I was one. In my adolescent years I tried to conform to the norm – if ‘tart’ can be considered the norm for a female. I was very popular with the men. I came out about 40 years ago, though that did not stop me from marrying the last decent man on earth. Apparently, I am still a woman, and therefore still a lesbian. I am sure I will die a lesbian. There are lots of lesbians here on Lush – and why not? Lush is a safe and friendly place for us, as it is for bi women, gay and bi-men.

I have heard it posited that most lesbians on here are really men. I don't know about that, one way or the other. I don't understand it if it's true. Why, when you have the chance to be who you really are, something you can't always do elswhere, would you want to be someone else? Are there really that many men who want to be lesbians? Thinking about it though, maybe there are. I sure as hell don't want to be a man, why should they.

I am not a man and wasn’t born a man. Nor will I die as a man. But my nagging concern is: What if I’m not a lesbian after all? What if I’m not even a woman? What if I’m a man! How would I know if I’m a man? What clues might I have missed? Would a search warrant be required or even a physical examination? Is this, perhaps, part of some great Global Anti-Lesbian Conspiracy? Dear old Alfred Kinsey, 70 years ago in his ground-breaking report, introduced the world to The Kinsey Scale. Our sexuality, sexual feelings and sexual attractions, he posited, can fluctuate in our adult life. Mine most certainly have.

So how do I tell if I’m a man? I don’t want to be one, I’m very happy being a lesbian. But if I’m not a lesbian I really need to know immediately.

Mrs
Night, you are sweet, But I'll take my chances below
Night, I think you'll find Spank E is actually spelled Spanky, as in Spanky and Our Gang.

Having said that, Spank E
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I Am happily drinking Red Bull


Never had Red Bull. too expensive to gamble on. what's it like?
kiss above. and your below.

Snatch a kiss, and vice versa.
I'm not normally (as in never) a spankee, but dammit I want your attention. I may be in love.

be spanked.
It never does, but I still have a jug of iced tea here. May I pour you a glass?
slip in. may I snuggle and nap? it's been a long day.

oops. that was for E. I'm Mrs. I think I'll slip out and talk to you when you have clothes on.