I had waited 15 days before I decided to pull it. Happened a few months ago on my first story here, but that one had a lot of punctuation errors (my worst). This last one was thoroughly edited. I found myself getting frustrated waiting for it and decided it was better to just forget it for a while. Not sure what I’m doing at this point. Taking a break I guess.

I was just starting to feel good about my writing here and seemed to be getting good reader interaction and followers. If the mods are that overwhelmed, I think they need a break from the writers. I volunteered.

You’re all right. There is nothing anyone can do, so we shouldn’t even try. I don’t know what I was thinking.

The only ones even reading this forum post (except for admins) aren’t the people who should be. I guess if you are on an erotic stories website to find someone to submit to, you probably have bigger things to worry about. I will reduce my presence going forward.

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And how do you propose to do that equitably and fairly on a site with a BDSM forum and that publishes BDSM stories? An author who is dominant and writes stories from that perspective, for instance, should be able to use a name that reflects that without attracting extra scrutiny. That lifestyle faces discrimination from some quarters as it is. This site should not be contributing to that discrimination but provide a space where they can express their sexuality like we all can. So no to this. Report th spammers and scammers and do not target people just based on their choice of username.

Not easy, I understand. Also probably easy to avoid for abusers. However, the name itself can be “monitored” without affecting the actual user, by the message profile. Simple having the name “XXXDominatrix” (my apologies if that is an actual user name) can alert an algorithm without the user ever seeing an affect, as long as the next step in the algorithm is to monitor number of unsolicited outgoing messages, especially to new users.

Perhaps the solution goes back to the broad brush of everyone being limited to number of outgoing unsolicited messages. A normal user limited to 20, 30, or 50 unsolicited outgoing messages per month (for example) would probably never notice or reach that threshold, whereas a bot or other predator, might be discouraged if the have to pay for numerous accounts to reach the wide range of potential victims they can currently.

Next question might be: Why should LS care? Shouldn’t it be the user’s responsibility to protect themself?

My answer is that the user must ALSO protect themself, but getting this type of harassment gives the user the feel of walking through a seedy, downtown back alley. I have not paid for a silver or gold membership yet because I am still feeling out the site. I have written on other sites and dropped several for how I perceived both the readers and other contributors. I had hoped by making my profile blatantly clear, I could be spared the annoyance. That didn’t work. That’s a bad sign.

I don’t begrudge anyone their (within legal limits) lifestyle and don’t want the BDSM lifestyle singled out for writings by any means. But it seems blatantly obvious that a user attracted to the sub side of that style could use more added protection than the rest of us.

Interesting… I never bother to hear their stories. My response is simply, “I am not interested in being anyone’s sub, never mind a random stranger. Have a nice life.” Only once or twice have they pursued me further.

It didn’t bother me at first. But when the questions, the profiles, and pictures all started to repeat over and over, it raised a red flag to me. I’m a suspicious person to begin with, so I refuse to put myself at risk with random, anonymous strangers and recommend others to be aware and cautious - hence my reason for posting on this forum.

FYI I have reported the more blatant duplicative messages I have received, but am not impressed with any response. These “people” or bots, are like creepy old men hanging out by playgrounds looking for “easy marks”.

What do I want LS to do about it? First, I would like LS to monitor any members who excessively send messages, if that is possible. Second, be aggressive in responding to accounts who receive reports regarding their behavior. Third, and this is controversial at least, monitor those names that speak “dominance” carefully. I would also like to see restrictions on using AI created photos because that immediately projects dishonesty.

I get three or four messages every week from self-proclaimed “mistresses looking for subs”. In itself, it might seem innocuous. However, when I view their profile, their profiles are remarkably similar, sometimes word-for-word. Their pictures are often very similar as well. At least three different ones have used very similar pictures using tattooed women. Upon closer inspection, the tattoos will show some variation (suggesting the photos are AI), such as ink on right leg in one photo, left leg in another, or details in one photo which are missing in another.

I have changed my profile to read CLEARLY that I am not interested in becoming anyone’s sub, yet that almost seemed to increase the frequency of the messages. I suspect that the mere mention of the word “sub” in a profile was picked up by AI algorithms, hence, the increase in attempts.

A dominant/sub relationship is one that leaves the sub extremely vulnerable to manipulation and scams. I seriously think this is going on.

Since I started this thread I have seen a big change. I guess my timing wasn’t good for my first attempt. It indeed took more than two weeks, but since then all my stories have been reviewed much more quickly. Thank you all for straightening out my ignorance and teaching me how the process works. I have a new appreciation for what volunteer moderators do. My first attempt may have taken so long because of my loose editing/proofreading, as quite a few punctuation errors were caught by the mod. Other stories have also seen corrections. It’s taught me to be much more thorough before I hit that send button. Actually quite amazing the work that is done here. Thank you.

Thanks for your input. I’ll check it out and see.

I find true stories to be more interesting than fiction and definitely more interesting to write. However, some of my best stories to do not end up with the characters having earth-shattering orgasms, or sometimes not even sex. Sometimes I will take one of those stories and embellish or add on to try to make the action more sexual, but I am rarely satisfied with the result. There’s ten million stories that “end the same”, but not very many that match real life.

I posted one such story as my first piece (as in no explicit sex), and have two or three others that don’t end traditionally. That first piece received pretty good grades but was a very short story. The others are a bit more involved. Should I save those stories for more traditional writing sites? Or is it ok on here?

I see that. As my first story is part of a series, I already have the next two installments done. One waiting in “drafts”. But have decided to heed the requests of the mods. As such, I will hold on submitting for a few weeks.

I am happy to see my story was finally posted. I did indeed post the story the day I joined, having been a non-member reader previously. In researching times to publish (not a simple task on this site), the only posts I had found said a few days to a week (these were older posts). Unfortunately, there was no resource available suggesting otherwise until another member commented with a link to a specific forum post.

I would like to make a suggestion that a specific number of FAQs be posted under their own heading. Certain things like estimated time to publish would seem like a very useful tool. Honestly, I had given up and stopped looking. I have only recently learned that the site is volunteer moderated and each story is reviewed manually before being approved. I apologize for my impatience as I expected it was more like other writing sites I have used. Given the limitations of such a system I will adjust my expectations accordingly and limit my product.

What is the deal with posting stories here? I wrote and posted a story almost three weeks ago and it is still “currently being reviewed”. The story was only 1,000 words and was not controversial in any way. I have written another story, currently in “drafts” because I apparently can’t post again while one is being reviewed.

Why would anyone bother to post with those parameters?