Hey all. I haven't logged in her in about a year and just now thought I would. I came to this tread to remove it but thought I'd drop an update for all of you who really boosted my confidence in this issue.
I left my husband in the following January. He showed me a side to him that I didn't want to believe was there a and I know I made the right choice. Turns out he was capable of serious cruelty. With a lot of reflection I came to realise that I never really loved him. I fell pregnant very early on and we just kinda made it work.
Anyhow.... That guy I was flirting with well, we got together some time after and now live together. Never in my life have I cared for someone for much besides my children.
Thank you all for the needed words.
I'll leave this up a couple days before taking down the post.
Thanks everyone!
I know there isn't really much advice to be given here. I don't really know what I was expecting, this place has always been great and it just seemed the the best place to get it out.
I started making plans today, and will be leaving after Christmas. I've been though hell and back in life, yet somehow this just feels like the hardest thing I've had to do yet.
I know he'll be hurt, but in time he'll come to find someone who loves him in return and treats him much better than I can.
Seriously how are you supposed to do this?
So the husband and I have been togther over a decade. We got together at the begining of our teen years, have a home, a family, built a life. I am almost certain that this man still loves me. But I am even more certain I no longer love him. The life we have is not one we built togther, but one I have carved out for my babies... he's just kind of there. He's never worked a day in his life and has no ambition and honestly I just don't see a future anymore. Love is about accseptng someones flaws, but you can only accsept so much for so long. I work my ass off in a dangerous environment to give him everything he wants only to come home to a crap hole and do everything indoors too. Then listen to him complain about how shitty everything he has is. I just can't anymore.
That's not to say he's all bad. He cares about me and my interests, he is rarely every snappy or nasty to me in any way. He is a phenominal Dad. Genrally he's a good guy, just with a lack of life ambition.
This has been a long time coming, I knew my love for him was fading about 2 years back. I kept it to myself for a year and just hoped it was self sabotaging. When I knew it was genuine I tried to bring it up with him in the hopes we could carve out some time for just us (mums and dads you know how hard that is). Start a date night, something, anything. While I didn't love him that doesn't mean I didn't want to want him. I wanted to fight for our family I wanted to be happy with him.
You know what he told me... "well I'm not willing to break up, so you can just be miserable your whole life". I knew at that point I really couldn't being myself to see him as I once did. I knew what I felt for him was gone for good.
Now he's been offered a job (and a damn good one at that) am I keep telling myself this time will be different this time he'll do it. This time it'll change. It's not the first time he's been offered god work either, never followed through though.
What I'm doing to him is cruel and I know that. I just keep fighting for that perfect nuclear family for our babies. I am so distant now. We don't talk and when we do I'm blunt with every sentace We certainly don't bump uglies. I snap at him all too often, and when I'm really pissed off I let slip how I feel in anger.
What worse is I'm starting to stray. There's a guy I'm sort of seeing. More just heavy flirting, he's made it clear he's into me but knows my situation and will walk away if asked. I haven't slept with him (although I could have) but when I'm really honest I know that what's left of any morals I thought I had are not going to hold up forever. - please no hate, this post isn't half of whats going on.
I know I need to end this, not for me, but for him.
I know he can't afford the rent on his own, and call me a mug but I'll happily leave and let him keep the house and even top up the rent for him. It keeps the family home here for our babies and that's what matters. I'll go 50/50 custody too. He may be a shitty husband but he's an amazing Dad.
I may not love or even like this man anymore, but he is father to my children. How in the hell am I supposed to rip his heart out by walking away!? He has been my whole life for almost half my life. Just because I no longer love him doesn't mean I want to see him in pain.
I know its a long post, and I guess it's a lot to donwith venting to real people anonymously. So if you're still reading... thanks.
Any advice at all is greatly appreciated.
Lovehoney every time! Fantastic site. Amazing prices and even better quality than Ann summers. They also have videos on their toys, that demonstrate it, so you really know what you are buying.
Got locked out the house, was waiting on some one coming home to let me in. This guy saw me smoking a cigarette and asked for a lighter.... 10 minutes later -literally- I was fucking him in the bushes of a nearby field.
I've done a lot of things considered 'slutty' but I think that ^^ takes the cake. The lad just wanted a light. LOL!
How strange; reading these replies, it seems most men have an issue with this. Of all the men I've been with, not one has had an issue with this at all. I didn't know it was a common thing for guys to have an issue with their own cum. A guy 'cleaning up' doesn't do anything for me in itself. Him licking up his own cum, isn't really a turn on, nor is it a turn off.
I've been with men of all sizes, and in my experience if he knows how to use what he's got, then size is irrelevant. That said, as personal preference goes a good 8-9" with enough girth to hurt. If nothing else the sight of a big Dick gets me going!
Thanks all! I'll check out the links provided. Xx
Hey guys. Just wondering if some on can help me out please? I'm working on a story about a young woman who is 'being taught' about sex. What country does lush base its consenting age on? Here in the UK, it's 16 years old, but I'm not sure if that's OK with lush rules? Thanks in advance.
Hey guys. Just wondering if some on can help me out please? I'm working on a story about a young woman who is 'being taught' about sex. What country does lush base its consenting age on? Here in the UK, it's 16 years old, but I'm not sure if that's OK with lush rules? Thanks in advance.
Nope! Pubic hair is fine, but a hairy shaft is an annoyance. The subtle art of removing a pubic hair from your mouth in the middle of giving head WITHOUT him noticing what your doing, is a pain in the ass! No, better just keep the shaft shaved.
Never mind this post. It double posted. Couldn't work out how to delete.
Mine was stolen, but I like to think of when I gave it away as my first. It was with my closest friend. Just a one time deal, but he was experienced and I can honestly say it was how every girl imagines her first time! Pretty vanilla, in a bed and missionary HAHA! Even though it was something I would now consider rather dull, I still look back on it as one of the best romps of my life. X
My favorite is my Tracey Cox Supersex G-Spot Vibrator, It's nothing all that fancy, but it has enoug pro's that I've found it to be the best one I own:
It gives some pretty powerful vibrations
Its made from this luxury material, that has a almost silky feel to it.
Its quiet
Its small enough to pop in my bag and be hidden nicely, but not so small that it's no fun.
It has 10 setting to play about with
And it's 100% waterproof!
It's just a great little toy for an all-rounder!
I also love my swoon Release Vibrating Wand Massager and a couple doc Johnson silicone dildos that I have of varying sizes.
Due to the contraceptive I'm on, I don't really get periods. Just 24 hours of light spotting every 6-8 weeks. (The Mirena IUS implant, just incase any ladies would like to know, and I was very heavy before having it done)
That said, I do still get everything else that comes with the monthly; cramp and the 72 hour, prior to the spotting, of a pure unbearable, un-tamable, unquenchable lusting desire for any, and all things sexual! It's like a ravenous hunger deep within me, and there's nothing I won't do for a throbbing bit of man-eat between my legs in that time. And I'll let you into a little secret... the orgasms I have in those 72 hours are nothing short of an all out nuclear implosion, that fills every fiber of my squirming body. A force so strong, it penetrates my very soul, a tsunami within me, filled of feverish delight!
So yes, the monthly comes with one hell of a libido! And yes, it makes sex better... for me anyway!
As far as when I did bleed heavily goes, there has only ever been one man I was comfortable enough to do it with, and even then mostly in the shower. It's hard to feel sexy when you've got a Gorey version of Niagara falls gushing from between your legs.
Go for it! Me and the OH have someone like that and it works. The other guys comes over from time to time and we have some fun, no strings attached. So long as it's all emotion-free then it is great.
From my experience, there is one thing that makes me feel exposed and naked, even if i'm fully clothed. I always wear a chain round my neck, not always the same one but, always some kind of necklace. Without one I feel naked. Perhaps just the lack of something that is always there, is what does it.
I do not tan, no matter what I do. I go from snow-white to lobster-red back to snow-white. My tan comes out a bottle. Since its fake, I tend to go for all over tan, to look as natural as possible. I do like tan lines on women though. Not sure why but mmmmmmm!
Neck! Do that, I'm yours!
Been there, done that... great fun!
I haven't but I would in the right circumstances. Obviously there is always the chance of meeting some one dangerous. If I were to, I'd have to have been talking to them a while as the liars always mess up their story sooner or later. Id meet them a couple towns over from my own and in a hotel. Make sure the staff know the situation and tell some one where I were going and that id text them every day at a certain time. So yeah I would meet some one, but id be seriously cautious and do it as safley as possible.
No offence intended, but maybe try to figure out why her drive has gone?
Kids maybe? Maybe you need new moves? Stressed out? Worry (could be over anything in life, not necessarily sexual)? Maybe she's put weight on and isn't happy in her own skin?
I don't know you, and I'm not saying it is any of those things above, just possible examples of things that could cause lack of drive.
If you can work out why it's gone, you can start to fix the issue and it might come back.
Talk it out with the OH. Ask him how far he would like to see you go. Tell him how far you would be willing to go. Find out if he would like to take part, rather than just watching. Oh and make sure the other guy is on the same page!
I started out the same way with my OH. Handjobs with his mates in front of him. Anyway after talking it many times a year on and well, lets just say we have no limits. I've even slept with the guy when the OH is not about, with the OHs consent of course.
The only way to find out what you are all willing to do is to talk it out and build up slowly.
Enjoy!
I can honestly say I've not been paid for sex in any way. Never have I been given cash for any act, and neither have I accepted gifts from a man or woman. If a guys were to give me gifts I would not take them. If I were to go for a meal I'd pay my own way. I wont even take a drink from a guy at a bar... Well only once on the worst day of my life and it got spiked... Go figure! Lucky he'd taken more himself and wasn't much of a threat. Anyway no I've never been paid in any form for sex.
Mine was stolen so if you take that into account... Pussy ass mouth
If you ignore that then pussy mouth ass
Doggie is one of the best positions for hitting the g-spot. It is also great for deeper and harder thrusting. In other words, it just feels the best.
job! probably in his 80s. Curtains closed, lol.