The lazy answer when I'm horny or when things are fresh is - just give it to me, every fucking minute.
But with a bit more thought and nuance - well, let's have enough to give us the dopamine and connection we need, but not so much it sullies our ability to pursue other fulfillments in life. Could look like twice daily when on vacation, but just twice a week in a busy work week.
My first thought would be - did we fall into some kind of financial (?) trouble, and is there really no other way out? If he wants to share me for pleasure, then we probably did/do not understand each other enough. I get turned on from thinking about having to share him for his pleasure though - we've talked about it; he's not keen (been there, done that in past relationships) and think it's really just me finding some way to love him a little less. He's not half wrong, but I also don't think what I feel would diminish if that were to happen.
This one's interesting. Straight cis-female here; have oral-ed and been oral-ed on by both genders in my younger days.
From a sensations standpoint, my experience (which I'm sure isn't representative of the wider pop) is that a girl going down on me feels akin to a cat lapping milk, while a guy doing it feels like a dog lapping water. Force and suction can get more powerful with a man, but it's psychologically more mind-bending when a girl does it. It's all pleasure at the end of the day.
I'm curious if there is a difference, for any gay vs straight men, when a guy vs a girl does it for them?
We all have our slut phases, I'm sure - mine was both chemistry- and curiosity-driven. But even while mildly exploring, have always had the niggling feeling that 'this isn't it'. There was always this fundamental desire to please and serve just one, and to have that reciprocated. Might be an individual preference/realisation, rather than a general female thing.
With a steady experienced partner, it's nice to know that he's sown his wild oats - and hopefully, you have too. So neither of us is under any pressure to fulfill any persisting sexual fantasies (you are each other's fantasy, if anything). Nothing in either of your pasts could or should compare to what you have in the here-and-now. It's all water under the bridge, and an interesting insight into the person they've become.
When someone demonstrates growth or development in their skillset - doesn't matter if it's public speaking, problem solving, or just playing the clarinet. If you've had a hand in that, even better.
Or, when someone is just genuinely enjoying whatever it is they're doing - working, training, having a shag...
Female reader here.
Am into stories that either exploit or challenge the female psyche - and perhaps you can create subtly different ones based on the characters' lived experiences, cultural setting, etc. But even if a male author were to paint a stupendously horny female character for the sake of arousing himself, don't think it could go far wrong - we all like pleasing our partners at the end of the day.
In real life, do we need to have a reason to have sex?
Think so. However deep or superficial that reason may be - whether logical vs emotional, built up vs spontaneous - there is always provenance to desire and the eventual encounter. That just needs acknowledging, whether implicitly or explicitly. Just as it's hard to navigate this stuff in real life without context + chemistry, I'd more likely enjoy stories that allude to these.
