Usually various BDSM scenes, mostly spanking and paddling and such. I've rarely experienced that in reality.
I mentioned on another thread that my ex-wife really needed a spanking at times, but the one time I seriously tried it, she didn't like it. Some of her transgressions were not minor ones.
Sometimes I still fantasize about me or someone else doing that to her - but we're both much younger in those reveries. I did imagine one of her recent bossed spanking her, so she would truly be mature in that. I've also thought about the leader of a religious cult she was in and also, well, her own dad. She's much younger in those. Sometimes I picture that she actually likes it, which is pretty implausible.
My ex-wife richly deserved it at times, but the one time I seriously tried it, she hated it. Like two whacks and she was out.
I never thought to ask her to pull a dom act on me. I wonder if she would if she would have gone for it.
I rarely use autobiographical events because, frankly, much of my real life hasn't been that exciting. Often I will use a small fantasy that becomes the premise for a longer plot. Often, it's a "what if" question.
What would it be like to be set-up on a date with a girl is turns out to be really kinky? What would it be like to be a cab driver who picks up a cock-teasing passenger? (I drove a cab once but that never happened.) What would happen if a college classmate was also a part-time hooker and she offered a deal? What would it be like to be seduced during a job interview by a female manager? (He should have known when the second appointment is on a Sunday evening.)
How to develop the characters is another story, but they are rarely directly based on real people.
The settings, the locations: now those are usually based on real geography and real buildings.
I discovered that many years ago in my teenaged years. It used to be on ABC's Wide World of Sports, among other places.
I must have stumbled into it one day while waiting for something else. These women had the most beautiful strong legs. And they had these little skirts that would go flying up to reveal their really cute panties. My favorite bit was when they would skate backwards and stick their behinds out.
It was just so incredibly sexy. I almost couldn't believe they were getting away with showing this. The weird thing was that I picked up some knowledge of figure skating.
I want to confirm the details, since they may be different from another site I am on.
I assume the edited story goes back for verification before being posted? So I have to through the same process of editing, saving drafts and then submitting the final version? I can't quite picture that the new draft is there at the same time the old version is still in place.
(The other site is a bit irksome in that one has to submit a new file - a replacement file in effect. I had to learn to keep one around case I did want to edit it. But nothing changes until the moderators clear the new version. The readers of course would never notice unless there is an author note at the top of the changed text.)
Are the votes and comments retained? Is it advisable to write a note to the moderators informing them of what is going on?
I hope this is clear. Thank you in advance!
I admit, this is my peculiarity perhaps, but I don't get the camgirl thing, either regarding the men who watch them or the women who perform in them.
The point must be that, as opposed to conventional porn (filmed or photographed), the woman is actually "there" and one can actually "talk" to her and maybe get her to do some things on request.
So it's a digital peep show. I never fantasized about peep shows when they did exist, much less patronize them. Anyway, the woman isn't actually there and no one is truly talking to her. The latter can be seen in the endless. meaningless "chat" that is displayed on the site.
Conventional porn has the advantage of not having pretenses about itself. It's a product, and makes no bones about it. (Although more and more of it is free; I guess they're going for advertising revenue.) One doesn't usually have any idea of who the people in it are. There are porn stars, although usually they are under a nom de porn. It anything real comes out about them, it's usually after they have retired and written a tell-all book about it. Of course, there are many amateurs exhibiting themselves, but again there is no pretense of interacting with them.
I also don't understand the women who do these things. They must love the validation it gives them. Somehow having countless (thirsty?) guys praising them and obviously jerking-off about them gives them tingles. As I said, the chat is worse than pointless.
That's my take on it.
For an avatar image, what would be the file size and dimensions of something that would fit well? I do see slight variations in what's actually been used here.
I seem to be pretty flexible on that. I will go for women who have some "chunk" on them, although that is not a requirement. There is an upper limit on that, but I can't easily define it. It probably depends on her other qualities too. I am certainly not adverse to petite or slender women.
I have walked the walk on that; my ex-wife was not a willowy lady. Her weight did vary on times depending on what diet she was on.
I guess the answer is on here somewhere. I accidentally double-posted.
I guess as a man I can still respond to relevant issues on this forum.
Anyway, I'm so old that what I actually do doesn't matter anymore.
When I write about BDSM, the couples involved are usually switches. It seems more interesting that they take turns, and try to top each other (no pun intended) in the role ideas they come up with. Often the women are more imaginative in that then their partners. Even when the woman plays at being submissive, she's sometimes the one who cooked up the scenario and proposes how it will be done. I have a couple of upcoming series that will emphasize that.
