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Lisa
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female
Australia
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Hello. 
I think the perfect sized breasts and penis are the ones left up to the reader's imagination. If you describe the way they feel, taste, respond to touch etc you don't need to worry about measurements. Each reader will have a different preference, this way you can please them all.
I think the perfect sized breasts and penis are the ones left up to the reader's imagination. If you describe the way they feel, taste, respond to touch etc you don't need to worry about measurements. Each reader will have a different preference, this way you can please them all.
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You need to de-sexy-ify him. Every time you see him, picture him ten years down the track sitting next to you on the couch in his holey underwear, belching out loud after he slams down beer number twelve. That should do the trick.
Not saying all men turn out this way, but it'll help to picture him like that!
Not saying all men turn out this way, but it'll help to picture him like that!
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Ultimately his life is his responsibility, but it wouldn't hurt for people to show some compassion for a fellow human being.
Even if they weren't sure whether or not he was serious, did they really need to keep pushing him to find out?
Common decency seems to be becoming a thing of the past.
Even if they weren't sure whether or not he was serious, did they really need to keep pushing him to find out?
Common decency seems to be becoming a thing of the past.
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There's a prison in the city I'm from where inmates used to be buried standing up in the old days so they could supposedly never be at rest. They were also buried just metres from the fence so they'd never know freedom. It was meant to be the final, eternal punishment.
I don't know why it matters to me, but I think I'd prefer to be buried lying down. I know once I'm gone, I'm gone, but I still want to be lying down!
I don't know why it matters to me, but I think I'd prefer to be buried lying down. I know once I'm gone, I'm gone, but I still want to be lying down!
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
As for my opinions... I stand by my original "nice guy" post. But as I mentioned a few times in this thread already, the term "nice guy", even as it is referenced by wiki is a "social term", not one that is meant to be taken literally. We all want to be around people that are 'nice', myself included. But the social term has come to represent a lot of things that "most" women don't want (ie. insecure, emotionally needy, a doormat, boring, or overly self-sacrificing). That's not the definition of "nice"... that's the definition of the social term representing the kind of guy that many women complain about.
I agree with that!
It'd just be nice if a different term could be used instead of turning something positive into something negative. 
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Quote by Dancing_Doll
OK, let's all pause for a moment so that everyone can step away from their computer and go take their blood pressure medication.
When everyone has stabilized, it might be worthwhile to look up the definitions of "irony" and "satire", which will help you to understand the nature of this article. Uhmm... I thought it should be obvious to "most" people that you're not supposed to take the website "Heartless Bitches International" as a literal translation.
Sense of humour anyone? Fail!
Ha, my blood pressure's fine!
The writer may not have intended for readers to take her article seriously, I'm still not sure about that, but there are many women who share her opinion. You made similar comments yourself in Javier's "Nice Guys" thread (Ask the Gals section):
To me, a bad-boy is just someone that has a distinct POV and isn't catering to anyone by expressing it. He's not a PC guy that tells you what you want to hear, and he's not going put himself on the back-burner in order to cater to all your whims and indulgences the way a "nice guy" would. I like guys with strong personalities that stand out from the pack. Girls tend to equate "nice guys" with being boring, mainstream, and lacking a distinct POV. The reason is that they want to be liked. The bad-boy doesn't care if he's liked. He acts first, without an agenda, and is confident about it. He doesn't give a shit if you like him... and that's sexy! In many ways the 'bad-boy' is more authentic that way. And that just translates to confidence, which is universally sexy.
I dated a couple of "nice guys" in my days, and while they did everything right and very much by the books when it came to dating, there was no depth or edge to their personality. I tend to equate the "nice guy image" with a more shallow personality (not in terms of being superficial, but just in terms of life experience, interests and opinions). Their goal is to not "rock the boat" and to have people like them, and this takes precedence over their own authentic needs and wants. I tend to respect a guy that has the balls to be his own person, and not hiding behind a facade of being politically correct and nice *all* the time. The non-conformist guy probably has an interesting mind, is likely a bit sarcastic about life, and generally is more stimulating to be around. I'll admit I tend to see the "nice guy" image as being somewhat one-dimensional, and I have always been better suited to a more complex guy.
Your definition of a nice guy and mine aren't alike at all, but since we base our opinions on our own personal experiences, I couldn't expect them to be.
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I disagree with her description in the article. Nice doesn't have to equal boring or clingy. Neither does the word "bad" in bad boy have to mean a man who treats women poorly. It's just one part of the person, not an entire personality type.
Nice is definitely one of the traits I look for in a man, along with quiet confidence and knowing how to treat women well. "Spineless" holds no appeal though.
Luckily the two don't have to go together.
Nice is definitely one of the traits I look for in a man, along with quiet confidence and knowing how to treat women well. "Spineless" holds no appeal though.
Luckily the two don't have to go together.
