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Lisa
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female
Australia
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Nooo, I'm definitely not a snoop. The reason being that in a lot of cases, ignorance is bliss. I don't need/want to know every little detail about someone else's life. Often a bit of mystery is a good thing.
If I was worried my partner was cheating on me or I thought one of my kids was doing drugs, I'd have to come straight out and ask. If I snooped for an answer, with my luck I'd end up jumping to the wrong conclusion!
If I was worried my partner was cheating on me or I thought one of my kids was doing drugs, I'd have to come straight out and ask. If I snooped for an answer, with my luck I'd end up jumping to the wrong conclusion!
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I don't know if it's changed much since I was single. There was definitely a difference in the way we communitcated. We didn't text each other or connect over the Internet. It was all done through landlines, like WMM mentioned, or actually going to visit one another. Sometimes we'd use carrier pigeons.
More often than not though, we'd go out as a group of friends and occasionally pair off. When I met my husband, we did have traditional dates, where he'd call me and we'd organise to go out. He also met my parents and used to pick me up in his car, but it was all pretty casual and comfortable.
More often than not though, we'd go out as a group of friends and occasionally pair off. When I met my husband, we did have traditional dates, where he'd call me and we'd organise to go out. He also met my parents and used to pick me up in his car, but it was all pretty casual and comfortable.
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Unless the person was interrupted half-way through, as a reader I'd assume they'd finished what they'd started.
If it's an important part of your story, I think detail's needed to draw the reader into the scene. If it's not important to your plot or character development, then it's not necessary for the reader to know and should be left out.
If it's an important part of your story, I think detail's needed to draw the reader into the scene. If it's not important to your plot or character development, then it's not necessary for the reader to know and should be left out.
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If I signed the contract, I'd basically be putting all my trust in a man I'd only just met to treat me well during our first time together. What would happen if he suddenly started trying to make me do something I didn't want to do, or got too rough and the situation became dangerous? I would've legally freed him from any responsibility.
I'd move on as soon as he presented the contract. There are plenty of other willing men out there who don't need to whip out a legal document in order to jump into bed with a woman!
I'd move on as soon as he presented the contract. There are plenty of other willing men out there who don't need to whip out a legal document in order to jump into bed with a woman!
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Quote by LadyXQuote by Lisa
This probably sounds shallow, but my husband and I made an agreement when we first got married not to let ourselves go.
That's not shallow, that's really really great, Lisa.PYnBGlwL98P9gvxU Congrats to you, seems like you have a good thing w/ your man.
Thanks. So far, so good!
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Quote by Dancing_DollQuote by MrNudiePants
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Sometimes, though, people can't help but get out of shape. You get injuries, illnesses, and maybe you just don't have the support system that you need to rehab yourself. Or maybe you do, but because of your injury, you can only go so far before pain makes you quit. Trust me - I know ALLLLL about injuries that limit your activities. If someone you love has a life-changing illness or injury, you can't turn your back on them. You have no choice. Love keeps you in the relationship, even though the person you're with now may not be the same person you fell in love with, physically. You make do, best you can. Maybe because the person you fell in love with is still in there.
I agree. If I was in love with someone and something had happened to limit his mobility, whether it was injury or illness, I would not walk away because he changed physically. That would be beyond his control, and its a shallow relationship if you were to punish someone for that... after all, these things can happen to any of us.
My issue more comes when someone is able-bodied and just ends up relegating themselves to a lazy lifestyle because they just can't be bothered to make the effort anymore. That's when the frustrations would begin on my end... and if there was no effort to change things around, I would probably start to lose my patience.
I agree with that. Some things are out of our control.
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This probably sounds shallow, but my husband and I made an agreement when we first got married not to let ourselves go. The entire package was what attracted me to him and him to me in the first place. If either of us lets the physical aspect of our relationship slide, it could be construed as a form of false advertising, I think! 
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Fifteen years ago I'd probably have considered implants if they'd been free, but the older I get the more comfortable I am with how I look. Also, becoming a mother helps to fill out in those areas, so I'm okay with it now. 
As far as cosmetic surgery to look younger, I really don't like the idea at this point in time. From the examples I've seen, most women don't look younger, they just look like women who've had work done.
Ask me the same question in another ten years, though, and I might have changed my mind!
As far as cosmetic surgery to look younger, I really don't like the idea at this point in time. From the examples I've seen, most women don't look younger, they just look like women who've had work done.
Ask me the same question in another ten years, though, and I might have changed my mind!
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Quote by PrincessWriter
Got a message from Admin, I guess my stories are no longer good enough to be published on this site. I am taking that as a good slap in the face, and I think it will be a long time before I write again for a while....
*Sigh*
Princess, that doesn't mean your stories are no longer good enough, it just means that particular story required a little extra work. You would've been given a reason for it being removed. Just use that as a guide, tweak your story a bit and resumbit.
Stories are never removed to discourage authors from writing. They're removed to encourage writers to submit their best work.
Don't let a minor rejection put you off.
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I'm really not sure I could do it, but I guess I'd never know for certain unless I ended up in that situation. Being in a committed relationship where we've agreed to only be with each other, a move like this could have the potential to ruin everything we've worked for.
Also, I can't detatch my mind from my body. I wouldn't be able to shut off my brain and pretend it's just sex and it doesn't matter. Not when I know what it would do to my husband. I'm not sure why, but it doesn't work that way for me.
If I was single and put in the same situation, my answer might be different.
Also, I can't detatch my mind from my body. I wouldn't be able to shut off my brain and pretend it's just sex and it doesn't matter. Not when I know what it would do to my husband. I'm not sure why, but it doesn't work that way for me.
If I was single and put in the same situation, my answer might be different.
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Quote by cummliness4
I posted the question and I don't remember this being posted as a chat room post, do you? I asked for advice from the gals, not the guys. I guess I should have expected this. Ladies, please note that all of the guys who posted something on here instead of sending you a personal message with their thoughts, have huge egos and are probably more desperate than anything else. They N E E D their comment to be seen by others instead of just enjoying your advice.
Just my two cents, but I assumed your opening post was a question posed on behalf of all the men of Lush:
Ladies! What can we say that will attract your attention? We like you, of course, so how do we get to know you enough to get off with you when we log on? Is patience the key? Please let us rub you in the right direction!
It looked to me like you were trying to perform a public service for all the male members here, so it didn't come as a surprise that lots of men posted replies.