Do you always approach really attractive/beautiful girls or do you go more for the girl-next-door type? Men who complain that women don't notice them often do the same thing themselves, they overlook the not-so-glamorous ones in their efforts to snag the hottest women.
It's easy to blame women for your loneliness, but it won't help you find someone. You seem to think your niceness is what's holding you back but if you really take an honest look at yourself and the way you approach women, you'll realise it's something else.
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Lisa
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Quote by ShesHotBro
Okay, so I know most women would take one glance at this question and roll their eyes; But, if you can give us men a few tips, I'm sure I speak for us all, when I ask.
What do you women want?
Discuss. (:
It'd be easier if you tried to stop worrying so much about what women want and focus more on what you want. You'll find a woman who suits the real you that way rather than having to mould yourself to fit someone else's view of perfection.
As long as you're a kind, decent person who treats everyone well you'll come across as genuine. If you reserve your good behaviour just for women you find attractive (not saying you do this, but there are men who do) you'll come across as insincere and look like you're only being nice to get what you want.
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I'm thoughtful and affectionate but I wouldn't call myself romantic. I'm more likely to stock the fridge with my husband's favourite beer or make him a meal he likes than I am to write him poetry or leave love notes for him. Unfortunately, I'm more on the practical side and romantic gestures don't come naturally to me.
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Sooooooorryyy!
There's some truth to it, though. Okay, I don't want to sound pessimistic, so here's real advice: be yourself and write stories you enjoy. And stick to it. With time, things will pick up. People will read one, then onto another, and so forth. Just give it time and keep to it.
I looked at your profile and noticed you don't vote or comment on other people's work. Not trying to sound harsh, but it's hard to expect something from others that you're not doing yourself. It really does help if you put yourself out there, get to know people and start talking about writing, either here in the forum or via the comments on stories themselves.
You could even find people who have the electorate and commentators badges on their profiles and read their work. They're more likely to return the favour.
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Authors who are published in print books have the same problem. Readers flock to books written by well-known authors because they've read and enjoyed that author in the past. The author develops a fan base through their writing and readers often become very loyal.
Some success is through promotion, some through the story itself and other times it's just because the book has a great cover that grabs the reader's interest.
There's a lot more involved in getting read than just the writing.
If you want to receive more comments on your stories a few ways to do this are:
~ Read and comment more on other writers' work.
~ Write often so your name becomes a common sight on the homepage.
~ Get to know more people around Lush and add them to your friends list. Each time you publish a new story they'll get an announcement on their profile page, so it's a subtle way of advertising.
Just keep at it. You'll get there!
Some success is through promotion, some through the story itself and other times it's just because the book has a great cover that grabs the reader's interest.
There's a lot more involved in getting read than just the writing.
If you want to receive more comments on your stories a few ways to do this are:
~ Read and comment more on other writers' work.
~ Write often so your name becomes a common sight on the homepage.
~ Get to know more people around Lush and add them to your friends list. Each time you publish a new story they'll get an announcement on their profile page, so it's a subtle way of advertising.
Just keep at it. You'll get there!
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Quote by Olivia
So you’ve just taken that big step from dating to actually moving in together. Congratulations! Maybe you recently got married, or maybe you’ve just decided to live in sin. The pitfalls to avoid are the same. Here are my Top Ten lists of mistakes that women and men make when they decide to move in together. Feel free to post your own suggestions in this thread or comment on the ones made!
Thank you for posting your list! I agree with pretty much all of it, but I'd like to add that it doesn't just apply to people who've recently moved in together or just got married. I still like to keep an air of mystique about me even after seventeen years with my husband.
I think familiarity breeds intimacy in some ways, but in regards to bodily functions and grooming habits, there are some things I just don't want or need to know. Watching him stand at the sink and shave is one thing, having him come into the bathroom to pee while I'm in there is another. 
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I did the compatibility test (just for fun, I swear!) (Um Hmm, sure Lisa) and ended up with Hans, who has lots of...personality
I too was on that list briefly. They booted me with in the first day.
Said: You don't quite stand up to our standards
I think not being up to their standards is probably a good thing. 
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I did the compatibility test (just for fun, I swear!) and ended up with Hans, who has lots of...personality.
Hans of Hannover Germany
"German sailor seeks mermaid".. During my long hours out at sea I often wonder if my soulmate is near or far. I have been successful at werk but not in love. Yes, I've had too much schnitzel but I have a sexy attitude and I'm not shy about my body.
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If you embrace your baldness and don't try to cover it up with a combover (as DD mentioned) or toupe, it makes a big difference. If you have confidence you can pretty much carry off most looks, apart from the ones DirtyMartini posted! Bruce Willis, Vin Diesel etc all look better with shaved heads.
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My worst date was with a guy a friend of mine knew. She played matchmaker and suggested we meet up. We talked over the phone first and he seemed nice enough, so I agreed to go out for dinner with him the following Friday night. He turned up still dressed in his dirt-caked work clothes and took me back to his house so he could get ready. I didn't realise he still lived with his parents and three sisters. He left me alone with them for over an hour while he showered and dressed. They interrogated me the whole time while I watched the clock and kept checking the hallway for him. He finally ushered me out the door and we got back in his car, where he pulled a can of deodorant from the glove compartment and unbuttoned his tucked-in shirt so he could spray it on. He overdid it quite a bit and I'm an asthmatic so I had to wind the window down to breathe. The dinner was one of the most awkward ones I've experienced and I was so glad when it was over.
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I have a baby who doesn't like sleeping during the day and a dog that needs walking or he'll destroy the backyard, so they're my reminders to exercise. Going out on long walks every day, rain or shine, keeps everyone happy.
When I was running seriously I used to track my times on a spreadsheet so I could see my improvement.
I also have a friend who cycles and logs his kilometres travelled. He uses Google maps to see how far those kilometres are taking him around Australia. It seems to keep him motivated.
When I was running seriously I used to track my times on a spreadsheet so I could see my improvement.
I also have a friend who cycles and logs his kilometres travelled. He uses Google maps to see how far those kilometres are taking him around Australia. It seems to keep him motivated.
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This thread depresses me
Aw, don't be depressed! Not all marriages are like that. You only hear about bad marriages because people make noise when they have something to complain about. Those who are in happy marriages are just busy getting on with life.
I wouldn't change anything about my situation. Each year that passes strengthens my relationship with my husband. I'm glad I have him.
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Quote by DirtyMartiniQuote by Lisa
Diet Coke is sexy. The shape of the bottle, the fizz of the bubbles, it all really gets me going.
I can see a story idea in the making there Lisa...
"Turned On By A Diet Coke"...can't wait to read that one...
It won't be written by me! I had enough trouble just putting those two sentences together.
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I'm doing lots of walking at the moment and slowly bringing more running into my exercise routine. I had a stress fracture in my leg a couple of years ago from running and want to avoid getting another one.
Outside is my favourite place to exercise too. Even though it's getting really cold now I still love it. I came back from a long walk yesterday and it took half an hour for my face to defrost.
Outside is my favourite place to exercise too. Even though it's getting really cold now I still love it. I came back from a long walk yesterday and it took half an hour for my face to defrost.
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So this last weekend I was home alone. I took advantage of this time to have some special time for myself. I got the lotion out and took all my clothes off and went at it on my bed. I got into the moment and never noticed that someone walked into my room. So finally after I had cummed I opened my eyes and saw my friend's mom standing there. Once she saw that I opened my eyes she just said "hi, your parents just wanted me to check in on you this weekend and it seems like your doing fine so I'm going to go." This is the first time I've been caught and I'm older (18) so I'm pretty embarassed. I don't know if I should say something to my friend's mom or talking to my mom about it, any advice???
You were given some pretty good advice last time you posted a similar question (it's on your profile under forum posts).
http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst10857_Caught-Masturbatinghelp.aspx
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Quote by Mistress_of_wordsQuote by Lisa
It's similar to fan-fiction in a way and it's under someone else's name so I'm not responsible for the style or content.
The whole urge to write fan fiction puzzles me. I find it a shame that there are people with talent and creative energy but that they can't plough that into creating something that is original and theirs, and instead feel the need to piggy back on someone else. I know that's not their reasoning usually, but it is still the outcome.
I think for established authors or tv shows, fan fic is easily differentiated from the original author/source, but somewhere like Lush, we're all on the same level. I'd find that nerve racking if someone wanted to do a story based on one of mine, regardless of whether they do a better job or a worse job, it would reflect back on me.
That said I did have a friend offer to embellish one I'd written for him, and that I would have been fine with. That I would have seen more as a collaboration I guess.
I think readers sometimes fall in love with the idea of certain characters and they can't bear it to be the end of them when they reach the final page in a book or story. Writing the characters into new scenarios allows the reader to continue on where the author finished off. I don't know if that's actually the case, it just seems that way to me.