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Mazza
3 weeks ago
Straight Female, 55
0 miles · Lanark
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Mazztastic
Quote by barella_gurl
pointless reply but thanks.
Oooh, rude reply! Just thought I'd bump your thread and possibly send some more posters your way...
I responded to your question and offered a suggestion that I thought might be helpful... Sorry you didn't see it that way...
Mazztastic
Quote by dpw
All I can say is that you are the one that is showing maturity. I've got no children but my belief is that you don't pass the mistakes of parents onto children.
In my case there has never been any animosity after a break up. Mine were almost always engineered by me to have the least impact. No cheating on my part, with one exeption I just knew I wasn't in love with them. The one I was, I was scared of the commitment. Idiot!
Thanks D - I've had a few messages about this, which is nice.
To be fair, I'm not doing it out of maturity, being the good guy or any sort of philanthropic duty but rather because I know that nothing good can come of making things worse by badmouthing, even if that means that it shows me in a bad light. The people who know me, I hope, will simply see things for what they are. I've been in worse situations.
At the end of the day, I just want what's best for my kids and that is NOT having two parents at each others' throats.
Mazztastic
Despite everything that's happened, I'll do my best not to put my ex down - certainly never ever in front of the kids and I've made a HUGE effort to make sure that mutual friends and family continue to treat him with respect. I feel that's important as he will continue to be a part of my life, because of the children. I also know that it makes it easier for other people in our lives to deal with our split (that's obviously not my primary concern, but it does help, I think)
The down side is that he doesn't seem to be extending the same courtesy and some of our "friends" and his family have completely cut me off... My tendency is to withdraw in difficult situations and I think that people find that hard to understand.
I am finding it hard to just keep my mouth shut, but honestly, apart from perhaps persuading people who probably weren't as close as I thought, I just don't see the benefit in getting into it...
The down side is that he doesn't seem to be extending the same courtesy and some of our "friends" and his family have completely cut me off... My tendency is to withdraw in difficult situations and I think that people find that hard to understand.
I am finding it hard to just keep my mouth shut, but honestly, apart from perhaps persuading people who probably weren't as close as I thought, I just don't see the benefit in getting into it...
Mazztastic
I did have an arrangement with a friend for a while...
We get/got along very well and were both in a situation where we didn't have a partner, so we decided to try a sexual relationship, as and when it suited us.
We had a few very nice evenings and the sex was amazing to begin with, but then got less good, for various reasons.
We decided not to pursue the sexual side of things and just continue with our friendship.
We get/got along very well and were both in a situation where we didn't have a partner, so we decided to try a sexual relationship, as and when it suited us.
We had a few very nice evenings and the sex was amazing to begin with, but then got less good, for various reasons.
We decided not to pursue the sexual side of things and just continue with our friendship.
Mazztastic
Sorry if I've missed it, but do you guys have children? Going through pregnancy and birth can significantly alter the way that a woman can feel about her body and appearance and also the way her partner feels about her (and also the way she imagines her partner feels about her).
It can be a huge trauma that changes everything but not always in a way that's easy to define or explain.
You mentioned your own trauma too, and I'd suggest that this could have had a negative impact as well, although I don't know what the details are.
There are usually underlying causes and like some of my fellow lushies have suggested, I'd think that talking to a professional with a more detached view might be helpful.
It can be a huge trauma that changes everything but not always in a way that's easy to define or explain.
You mentioned your own trauma too, and I'd suggest that this could have had a negative impact as well, although I don't know what the details are.
There are usually underlying causes and like some of my fellow lushies have suggested, I'd think that talking to a professional with a more detached view might be helpful.
Mazztastic
I don't think it would really bother me?
I guess I'd respect his choices and admire him for not conforming and getting a prosthetic?
I don't know, but I really don't think it would bother me.
I guess it's somewhat similar, though less noticeable, to women who have a breast or breasts remove and choose not to have prosthetic/reconstruction...
I guess I'd respect his choices and admire him for not conforming and getting a prosthetic?
I don't know, but I really don't think it would bother me.
I guess it's somewhat similar, though less noticeable, to women who have a breast or breasts remove and choose not to have prosthetic/reconstruction...
Mazztastic
I thought it might be helpful to post a short explanation of what anorgasmia is, for those of us who don't already know...
It sounds like you've explored the medical/mechanical side of this and, assuming that they don't come up with any physical cause, I'd be inclined to think that it's more of an emotional thing.
From an holistic POV, I would recommend a session with a Tantric therapist - Tantric massage is capable of giving the most wonderful, intense orgasms and enabling a person to "let go".
I'd also think that some sort of counselling based therapy might be helpful for you in finding the "mental/emotional" causes of the problem - I'd be prepared to bet good money that there is one and if you can find a good therapist, I think they'd be able to get to the root cause quite quickly. I feel this approach is certainly better than drugs and medication and long-term, tends to have much more permanent results.
I've not personally treated anorgasmia, but I have had excellent results in the treatment of libido problems and sexual dysfunction.
The therapies which I've found to be most successful (and these are the ones which I personally practice) are: homeopathy (there is a huge talking side to this therapy, which is cathartic and very freeing), Reiki - just from the POV of finding blockages and balancing, EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique - this therapy is very effective in removing or at least reducing mental and emotional blocks in situations like this.
If I can be of any assistance, please feel free to PM - I'd be happy to put you in touch with someone in your area, or talk to you in further detail...
Anyway, best of luck with your situation
Anorgasmia is a type of sexual dysfunction in which a person cannot achieve orgasm, even with adequate stimulation. In males, the condition is often related to delayed ejaculation. Anorgasmia can often cause sexual frustration. Anorgasmia is far more common in females than in males and is especially rare in younger men.
It sounds like you've explored the medical/mechanical side of this and, assuming that they don't come up with any physical cause, I'd be inclined to think that it's more of an emotional thing.
From an holistic POV, I would recommend a session with a Tantric therapist - Tantric massage is capable of giving the most wonderful, intense orgasms and enabling a person to "let go".
I'd also think that some sort of counselling based therapy might be helpful for you in finding the "mental/emotional" causes of the problem - I'd be prepared to bet good money that there is one and if you can find a good therapist, I think they'd be able to get to the root cause quite quickly. I feel this approach is certainly better than drugs and medication and long-term, tends to have much more permanent results.
I've not personally treated anorgasmia, but I have had excellent results in the treatment of libido problems and sexual dysfunction.
The therapies which I've found to be most successful (and these are the ones which I personally practice) are: homeopathy (there is a huge talking side to this therapy, which is cathartic and very freeing), Reiki - just from the POV of finding blockages and balancing, EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique - this therapy is very effective in removing or at least reducing mental and emotional blocks in situations like this.
If I can be of any assistance, please feel free to PM - I'd be happy to put you in touch with someone in your area, or talk to you in further detail...
Anyway, best of luck with your situation