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Mazza
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 54
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Mazztastic
Quote by Magical_felix
So as you are scrolling on the homepage the tag "step sibling" is what is ruining your experience. One little tag on a story. Got it.
I'm not sure how you came to that incorrect conclusion.
No, you haven't "got it" and I'm guessing you won't, you seem to have missed my point completely.
Anyway MF, we're hogging the thread here, so I will step back.
Feel free to PM me if you're not done yet xx
Mazztastic
Quote by Magical_felix
So like what? The story includes "step sibling fucking" in the title or something? And you are not able to scroll past that? That is what you are saying?
No, that's not what I said.
I can (and do) choose not to read the stories by flicking my middle finger and moving along.
The category was banned.
I would prefer to have the choice not to see them at all.
I think I've made my position quite clear.
Mazztastic
Quote by Magical_felix
If you say they aren't tagged and you don't read them... How do you even know they are there then?
The BDSM and reluctance are as thinly veiled as a step sibling story. It just offends your sensibilities where a reluctance story could offend someone else. Everything is bound to offend someone.
I know that they are there because I see them when I open the Lush Stories home page. That's one of the points I made before - I can't block them now - did you not understand my post?
And yes, offends me, always has. I make no apology for that.
The category was banned but is now insidiously back on the site, I think that's a real shame.
Mazztastic
Quote by Magical_felix
You can say that about most of the categories. Like, take reluctance for example. You take out a couple lines here and there and it might as well be . If you put the lines back in, it is now reluctance.
Just don't read step sibling stories if you don't like them.
I don't read them, but I also would rather not see them on my personal version of the Lush home page. At least, when it was a bona fide category, I had that option.
In BDSM and reluctance, there seems to be a difference in that it is role play or whatever and it's generally well tagged and I would be hesitant and careful in my reading of those categories, but the whole psuedo thing is pretty blatant.
At least reinstate the banned genre, or please make it a category that can be blocked. I personally don't want to see it and I don't want it sneaked in the back door (fnarr).
Mazztastic
Quote by sprite
We made a call - Legally, is defined as sex between blood relatives. As it was, it was becoming too much of an onus on the mods to separate 'degrees of ' so we decided to "black and white" it. As it stands, we do not allow stories with sexual interaction between blood relatives. Anything else falls under .
"technically" that may be the case, but I'm sure you are aware what has happened here - it's just psuedo/step/soft/ - remove the "step" and it's the same as it was before the ban. Too much onus on the mods? Either you allow it or you don't - now, you are allowing it, under a changed name. It's easy - if it's between relatives, step or otherwise, then (in my opinion) it falls under the category - to call it is a cop out.
Honestly, I think it's a retrogade step and as I mentioned before, you can't even block it any more - or is there a way to block step that I'm unaware of?
I thought it was a brave move to remove the category, which I applauded, but now it appears to be back, sneakier, but just as strong as ever...
Allowing step is very far from black and white in my opinion. It's simply allowing a softer, more palatable (UGH) version of it to appease those who demand it.
You might as well reinstate the original category and at least be honest about your stance and allow those, who don't wish to see it, a way to not have to see it.
Mazztastic
Quote by Poppet
I could not agree more with Mazza. So many people were so excited, glad and grateful to see this genre go. Now it seems to be coming back, slowly but surely in its own way. It's all the same thing, in the end. The grey areas of this genre should be included of not being allowed to be on the site either.
At least you could block it before, if you wanted to - how can you keep it off your page now??
Mazztastic
There are some great suggestions above, but I'd like to add my two cents as well...
In addition to the extra work and responsibility that kids can bring, your attention and focus shifts to that and often times, sex just can't be as important as it was before. Your head is just full, too full, of all the other stuff you have to deal with now - helping out and being understanding is a good way of being supportive.
But also bear in mind that giving birth has physical effects on the female body. Women are much more likely to feel less sexy - that could be because of extra baby weight, flab, stretch marks or scars, breastfeeding or maybe having had their vajayjay completely stretched out of shape, torn, cut, stitched etc etc - sorry, but that's just a fact and sometimes you just don't feel as pretty, or as pretty down there...
Sometimes there are huge feelings of disappointment and failure from giving birth - it may seem silly but honestly, if it doesn't all go as planned (and that may be something as simple as needing an assisted birth, with forceps or venteuse deliveries, or not being able to breastfeed or whatever) it can cause real mental blocks to libido. The tricky thing is that you (the woman) might not even be aware of this until months or even years after the fact.
Encouraging your partner to hang out with other women who are in the same position, with kids of about the same age, is very very helpful (mother and toddler groups, breastfeeding support groups etc). Women tend not to want to go on and on about their birth or stuff that follows, for fear of boring friends and family, but their peers will be going through the same sort of things, and talking about it is a good way of raising self awareness about how they feel, normalising what they're feeling and generally making them feel better.
Many women benefit from counselling after childbirth (usually a year or so down the line), but if you suggest that (simply because of a lack of sex) then you're probably not going to get a great reception. Spending time with other women will encourage them to talk and get there faster and realise if they actually have issues or problems around it.
Do help her out. Make her feel pretty and wanted, more than just a wife and mum - it's easy to lose your identity after having kids and it can take a while to find yourself again. The idea of dating and courting her is a good one. Make sure that she gets some time to herself too. And remember, it can be really tiring looking after kids and home, and maybe even juggling a job in there too - she'll likely need extra time to rest and recover, put her feet up for a wee while.
Make time for her, listen to her and encourage her to talk. Becoming a mum is a huge life change in just about every way you can imagine. It's easy to get lost, forget that you're still a woman (if that makes sense). Help her adjust and I'm sure she'll come around. But seriously, getting her talking to other women and you is pretty much the best thing of all to get back to normality. Patience
In addition to the extra work and responsibility that kids can bring, your attention and focus shifts to that and often times, sex just can't be as important as it was before. Your head is just full, too full, of all the other stuff you have to deal with now - helping out and being understanding is a good way of being supportive.
But also bear in mind that giving birth has physical effects on the female body. Women are much more likely to feel less sexy - that could be because of extra baby weight, flab, stretch marks or scars, breastfeeding or maybe having had their vajayjay completely stretched out of shape, torn, cut, stitched etc etc - sorry, but that's just a fact and sometimes you just don't feel as pretty, or as pretty down there...
Sometimes there are huge feelings of disappointment and failure from giving birth - it may seem silly but honestly, if it doesn't all go as planned (and that may be something as simple as needing an assisted birth, with forceps or venteuse deliveries, or not being able to breastfeed or whatever) it can cause real mental blocks to libido. The tricky thing is that you (the woman) might not even be aware of this until months or even years after the fact.
Encouraging your partner to hang out with other women who are in the same position, with kids of about the same age, is very very helpful (mother and toddler groups, breastfeeding support groups etc). Women tend not to want to go on and on about their birth or stuff that follows, for fear of boring friends and family, but their peers will be going through the same sort of things, and talking about it is a good way of raising self awareness about how they feel, normalising what they're feeling and generally making them feel better.
Many women benefit from counselling after childbirth (usually a year or so down the line), but if you suggest that (simply because of a lack of sex) then you're probably not going to get a great reception. Spending time with other women will encourage them to talk and get there faster and realise if they actually have issues or problems around it.
Do help her out. Make her feel pretty and wanted, more than just a wife and mum - it's easy to lose your identity after having kids and it can take a while to find yourself again. The idea of dating and courting her is a good one. Make sure that she gets some time to herself too. And remember, it can be really tiring looking after kids and home, and maybe even juggling a job in there too - she'll likely need extra time to rest and recover, put her feet up for a wee while.
Make time for her, listen to her and encourage her to talk. Becoming a mum is a huge life change in just about every way you can imagine. It's easy to get lost, forget that you're still a woman (if that makes sense). Help her adjust and I'm sure she'll come around. But seriously, getting her talking to other women and you is pretty much the best thing of all to get back to normality. Patience
Mazztastic
Unionist knuckledragging fucks.
Flag burnings, stabbings, riots, civil unrest. What next?
Is THIS what we fought for?
Is THIS what it's all about?
NO, you fucking ingrates use any fucking excuse to cause trouble, unrest and fear. You are so fucking shortsighted, so fucking thick. Bringing it back to fucking religion with your cunting bigotry.
This was a PEACEFUL movement. I can only imagine how much worse this would have been if it had gone the other way.
You are a disgrace to your country. I am ashamed to share this land with you.
Drop dead and rot in Hell you stupid, stupid bastards and while you're there, enjoy your shafting.
Flag burnings, stabbings, riots, civil unrest. What next?
Is THIS what we fought for?
Is THIS what it's all about?
NO, you fucking ingrates use any fucking excuse to cause trouble, unrest and fear. You are so fucking shortsighted, so fucking thick. Bringing it back to fucking religion with your cunting bigotry.
This was a PEACEFUL movement. I can only imagine how much worse this would have been if it had gone the other way.
You are a disgrace to your country. I am ashamed to share this land with you.
Drop dead and rot in Hell you stupid, stupid bastards and while you're there, enjoy your shafting.
Mazztastic
Quote by MadameMolly
I'm not sure if this has been suggested or not, but how about a Preview button when adding your forum signatures. There is a preview button for everything else you post so I was surprised when there wasn't one available there too.
I've definitely brought this up, maybe more than once lol
It's frustrating to have to go and view forum posts to see if you got it right or not...
(I usually take two or three tries before I get it right lol)
Mazztastic
Quote by Seras_Victoria
They're actually sitting on my bedside table waiting for me to read them.
I read them years ago, but by the end, I was a bit bored, I think it was because I read them back to back... I should have taken a break between them...
Of course, that was before I joined lush.