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I have never had the fortune of dating the person I loved, since I met her 7 years ago she has maintained a relationship with the same man but I've loved her all the same. If I'm incredibly lucky I can go weeks or even months without thinking about her, but every time I do the feelings come rushing back. I wish you better luck than I've had trying to move on.

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You may be being too hard on yourself. I'd like to think that if someone was pointing a gun over in our direction you would at least scream get down before you try to save yourself. That means that you do have some form of natural affection. Therefore, able to love.

If how you feel about yourself is an absolute, I would guess that in your case age would not play a role in your ability to truly love someone. In love there is a certain amount of give and take. You seem to agree with this. I've always been the type of person willing to extend myself on the behalf of love from an early age. I have always desired what it offered in return. I basked in it, both from my lovers and from my children. Even when it only lasts for a short while, I wish that type of happiness for other people. Without it, I think they have missed out on one of the truly beautiful things that makes living worth the effort. And, life takes effort. Someone that loves you does not request that you abandon yourself for them. That isn't what love means. But, you can't be so obssessed with maintaining your seperate identity that you can't let someone close or even bother to extend your inner self to them. (Hmmm, I feel that may be grounded in insecurity verses inner security. My opinion though, so it's not worth much.) Nope, then you will never experience love and I feel sorry for the people that may try to love someone like that. Specifically, I feel sorry for children that find themselves parented by someone more interested in "saving themselves" than extending everything that they are to their offspring. That is the sadest type of love to do without. I'm not trying to be mean or judgemental. You may have had something in your life that made being selfish in that area of your life necessary, rather for sanity or just survival. Those types of situations do exist and they are sad as well. You can't judge someone until you have had to survive that way. I'm blessed, I have not.

But , you know yourself. And, if that satisfies you, you are fine--I suppose even happy. Of course, that would possibly be why you started this thread? Are you happy.

Be true to who you are.

I told one of my students one time: There is nothing wrong with being a dog [in relationships] as long as you let the other person know that's what you are. Then whatever happens you can say, "I told you I was a dog. What were you expecting?" You might want to consider that as you move forward. It would have saved your wife a lot of time, and you too. Sometimes that's what a woman wants at that stage in her life--a dog. Then those two people are perfect for one another. I'm not saying your a dog. No, that's just an example.

I think too much. It's just a stupid thread.

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I think that your "idea" of what true love is changes as you get older. I can honestly say that I was truly in love in my early 20's. It was the kind of love that made your heart ache. I would have willingly sacrificed anything for him. Was that type of love a good thing for me? No. I still love that person. We can talk to each other on a level that we can't talk to other people because we "know" each other in the deepest sense. I don't have to explain why I do things, because he knew me when and knows how it has shaped how I evolved. We have a child together.

Of course, after you have children love takes on a totally new shape. Just the thought of the love I have for my children can bring me to tears. They taught me how to love, just not to fall into it. I'd fight to the death for them and everything I have is theirs.

I've been married for 1 year, second marriage for both. Both of us swore off marriage a long time ago, disillusioned and hurt. We were friends with benefits for quite a while and fought hard to just keep it that way. But, we were being monogamous and wanting to be together more than apart. We lived 2 hours away. Is it love? Yes. Mature. Truly supportive. Healthy. Sexilicious. Respectful. We are good together and independently. That's love. Money isn't a problem--Gawd that helps.

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Yes, I have. And after 20 some years, she died. I often pose the old question to myself: is it better to have loved and lost, or to never have loved at all? and my answer is obvious to me: to have loved and lost…

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This one is still up. You didn't get many replies to your original post, so the post moved down the list as people replied to other posts. Those posts rose to the top position. Just as this one will when I click the post button.

And yes, I have found true love.

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Women . Even when explained by women. But im still trying to learn.

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Wind - Sounds stupid, but it just blows my mind (no pun intended) that it just starts or dies down...

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Racism. I've heard all the explanations and all I can think of is "Why so ignorant?"

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The concept of morality
Seriously, science says that our ways of thinking was earned from billions of years of evolution. And that morality was a concept that we discovered in order to strengthen our bonds with the society, making us higher than animals. But if so, then why do we question things that does not even affect our survival rate? (e.g gay marriage, prostitution, animal abuse, cloning, manliness, honor, chivalry)
It doest make sense at all

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sorry Courney.. earth and ALL other objects in space started off as gas... collection of matter in the form of gas which then cooled.. over billions of years... and so the sperical shape... the main driving force of course being the gravitational pull..

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I thought I had found it too. Same as you though, I was just fooling myself.

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I love to look at CD's as they really dressed up...and would love to suck a cock...just haven't yet...what am I...I think I'm bi//

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I'm not a vary out going person, I'm vary quiet till I get to know you really good. I've had a lot of close friends that are girls but none that want to go that step further they ALL say we ought to just stay friend. But I don't want that because If we just stay friends we will never see what could have been. I'm about to be 20 and never had a girlfriend or been on a real date. It bugs me but I know it kills my parents and my older brother. And I'm afrai that my yunger brother is going in the same direction as me and I don't want that for him eather.