There you are, deeply engrossed in nibbling your lover's ears, feeling her lips on you, when from the row behind comes the disconcerting pop of a can of coke being opened, the smell of onions on their burger, and the rustle of popcorn being taken out of the bag.
I would make a simple rule, only bodily parts, belonging to the people in the theatre, should be allowed in!
Let the fun begin.....
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OldGeezer
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 77
United Kingdom
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I think that to watch a woman masturbate is one of life's sexiest scenes. If course, I mean that she's doing it for me, as well as herself. And if its OK with a partner, then it just has to be OK on her own. Midn you, I always like to join in...eventually......hehe
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The key is the change - why? So he's looking at porn, and changed his mind about letting you share the watching. And you can't get him to talk about it.
Has your sex life changed as well? doing different things? if so, then he might just be wanting to spice things up a bit more and take the credit.
If not, and if you can't talk about this without fighting, and have really tried hard to get him to explain, keeping your cool, then what future do you have? It might be hard, but I think you have to face this down, unless you want a secretive bloke, one who you know you cannot trust.
Has your sex life changed as well? doing different things? if so, then he might just be wanting to spice things up a bit more and take the credit.
If not, and if you can't talk about this without fighting, and have really tried hard to get him to explain, keeping your cool, then what future do you have? It might be hard, but I think you have to face this down, unless you want a secretive bloke, one who you know you cannot trust.
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I don't think that stories need be explicit, at least not always, in fact, maybe only sometimes. For me, a good story is one in which my mind is used by the writer to "fill in the blanks" to an extent. That might be a situation, the weather, the way a building or a bedroom looks, and can also be about exactly how the sex taking place would feel to me, if I were taking part.
So, I don't need instructions, in the way some writers think explicit sex should be. Far better to let me think myself into the scene, so much more erotic.
As for videos, I agree with Debs entirely, and as one who is more dominant than anything else, its not about the cum shot, but about how you get to that point, and when I think of deep throating a lover, then it is she who lets me do that, that is her submission, and the more aggressive aspects so often shown don't need to be there. Why confuse dom-sub with force and agression.
As to where the cum goes, if she wants to have it in her mouth, fine, but otherwise, I far prefer to shoot over her breasts, so much nice to share that way! Or of course, where nature intended it to go, as what I do dislike is the fucking to the point where the guy has to cum, and then he pulls out and shoots it wherever. My lovers have always told me that when the sperm hits them inside, that is what they enjoy, and the way they want it to be.
So, I don't need instructions, in the way some writers think explicit sex should be. Far better to let me think myself into the scene, so much more erotic.
As for videos, I agree with Debs entirely, and as one who is more dominant than anything else, its not about the cum shot, but about how you get to that point, and when I think of deep throating a lover, then it is she who lets me do that, that is her submission, and the more aggressive aspects so often shown don't need to be there. Why confuse dom-sub with force and agression.
As to where the cum goes, if she wants to have it in her mouth, fine, but otherwise, I far prefer to shoot over her breasts, so much nice to share that way! Or of course, where nature intended it to go, as what I do dislike is the fucking to the point where the guy has to cum, and then he pulls out and shoots it wherever. My lovers have always told me that when the sperm hits them inside, that is what they enjoy, and the way they want it to be.
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69 is a great position for arousal, but if it comes to cumming, then you really do have to give your lady all your attention. Anyway, my lady loses all focus on everything except herself when she cums, and it is great to see and share, nothing better than to lose herself in the moment.
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Also going back to the original question, is it a turn on?
From my perspective, the act in itself is not a turn on, I don't get any sense of added power, or stimulus, or whatever. But if my partner in sex wants your semen over her body, then who am I to deny her. My wife has never liked cum anywhere else other than in her vagina, but happily my long term lover has rather different feelings, and is happy to have my ejaculate anywhere. When she does, I find myself enjoying it greatly.
I've asked her what it does for her, and she has told me that it signifies something for her, some inner need that she cant exactly verbalise adequately, that she enjoys the feeling of power that she gets whe sees me enjoying doing it.
She's married as well, and says that she hasn't done anytging like this with her husband., and its only with me that she gets these feelings. Maybe we just release each others inhibitions and that itself is the real turn-on.
From my perspective, the act in itself is not a turn on, I don't get any sense of added power, or stimulus, or whatever. But if my partner in sex wants your semen over her body, then who am I to deny her. My wife has never liked cum anywhere else other than in her vagina, but happily my long term lover has rather different feelings, and is happy to have my ejaculate anywhere. When she does, I find myself enjoying it greatly.
I've asked her what it does for her, and she has told me that it signifies something for her, some inner need that she cant exactly verbalise adequately, that she enjoys the feeling of power that she gets whe sees me enjoying doing it.
She's married as well, and says that she hasn't done anytging like this with her husband., and its only with me that she gets these feelings. Maybe we just release each others inhibitions and that itself is the real turn-on.
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Interesting set of responses.
Sure, money isn't everything, but look at how almost all the male top soccer players, tennis players, etc.... have great looking gf's. And ageing pop stars have such nubile young gfs or wives.
Is that where all the personality has gone? Hmmm...doubt it.
Now power is another big draw it seems.....if a politician gets divorced it is usually for a much younger model.
Oh no, sorry, I'm just too cynical, it must be true love.
Sure, money isn't everything, but look at how almost all the male top soccer players, tennis players, etc.... have great looking gf's. And ageing pop stars have such nubile young gfs or wives.
Is that where all the personality has gone? Hmmm...doubt it.
Now power is another big draw it seems.....if a politician gets divorced it is usually for a much younger model.
Oh no, sorry, I'm just too cynical, it must be true love.
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I was delighted when my doctor told me not to run or jog because of knee damage. Non-impact excerise was what he recommended 
.....and yes, that is on the menu, but I also walk now - usually do 25 miles a week, some short but at least one 12 mile one which over our hills keeps the blood moving.
.....and yes, that is on the menu, but I also walk now - usually do 25 miles a week, some short but at least one 12 mile one which over our hills keeps the blood moving.
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My first car was a 1937 Hillman Minx, in grey with red leather seats. Iy had been my Dad's and then my brother's and I had it when I was 19.
Sadly I was an impecunious student at the time, and it needed lots of work done - like new tyres, new brakes, floor needed welding, sunroof leaked.......so it had to go.
But lost of great memories of journeys made, including one when the lights failed. Luckily there was a moon, but the 35 mile drive home was an interesting one - and no police around either.
Sadly I was an impecunious student at the time, and it needed lots of work done - like new tyres, new brakes, floor needed welding, sunroof leaked.......so it had to go.
But lost of great memories of journeys made, including one when the lights failed. Luckily there was a moon, but the 35 mile drive home was an interesting one - and no police around either.
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Most of the advice has been about communication and psychological issues, but it could just simply be hormones, early menopause consequences and others. If she is willing to talk openly to you and her Dr, maybe there is a medical solution, or at least something to help.
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As most have said, work with her, if she is worth it to you. That includes you doing more of the work, but from my (not so vast) experience, if you give her a great oral orgasm, she will be more likely to return the favour,and then you can coach her along.
It all depends really though as to why she is rubbish - lack of practice (give her that!), tuition (do it gently and bring her slutty side out), inhibitions (work on the easy ones, but you might need help for her, but at least get her to see the need), and don't underestimate the value of a good sex manual, book first an dthen videos, maybe then to real hardcore porn.
Evets, if you can't talk about sex to your wife, then see a counsellor.
It all depends really though as to why she is rubbish - lack of practice (give her that!), tuition (do it gently and bring her slutty side out), inhibitions (work on the easy ones, but you might need help for her, but at least get her to see the need), and don't underestimate the value of a good sex manual, book first an dthen videos, maybe then to real hardcore porn.
Evets, if you can't talk about sex to your wife, then see a counsellor.
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There are various techniques for doing so. The most reliable is to start on a series of exercises of the guy's PC muscles. Then it is possible to contract them so that ejaculation does not happen. Applying pressure to the perineum can also stop it to some extent. I woulddefinitely NOT suggest any anaesthetic creams as you wouldn't want the poor woman's mouth going numb!
Of course one of the best things for control is the brain, so with good pyhysical control and good mental discipline, a guy can learn to last for a good long while.
I just wish I had paid more attention to my lessons...hehe!!
Of course one of the best things for control is the brain, so with good pyhysical control and good mental discipline, a guy can learn to last for a good long while.
I just wish I had paid more attention to my lessons...hehe!!
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Thats a shame, Cupid69. I don't think that it can be "sprung" upon anyone. A cock ain't "made" to be up there, but of course it can, and there are so many nerve ending there that it needs to go there well.
My recipe is:
1. Lots of foreplay, make my partner orgasm, ideally orally first, fingers in vagina, stroking.
2. When nicely hot, and hopefully dripping, spread her juices lower, touching and circling her asshole.
3. Repeat as many times as she needs, testing when the time is right by applying slight pressure with a finger. When she is ready she will let you slip it in.
4. Then play there, lube if necessary, gently, stretching. Repeat until she wants more.
5. Next time, relax her - a bath, or wine and candlelight - and when she is starting to press back onto your fingers, then she is ready for you, so tell her you want her, and do it. If she is fit enough let her control it all cowgirl style. If not, then choose whateve ris most comfortable for her, and go slow, lube and slow.
6. When you're in, just, hold here, let her get used to you. When she is ready start to slide deeper.
7. All the time, listen and follow her lead.
8. If that all goes well, don;t push things, but every week or so, do it again, and you'll find she'll want you there, and then you are both really ready to enjoy.
Cupid69, if you wnat to know how good it can be...
My recipe is:
1. Lots of foreplay, make my partner orgasm, ideally orally first, fingers in vagina, stroking.
2. When nicely hot, and hopefully dripping, spread her juices lower, touching and circling her asshole.
3. Repeat as many times as she needs, testing when the time is right by applying slight pressure with a finger. When she is ready she will let you slip it in.
4. Then play there, lube if necessary, gently, stretching. Repeat until she wants more.
5. Next time, relax her - a bath, or wine and candlelight - and when she is starting to press back onto your fingers, then she is ready for you, so tell her you want her, and do it. If she is fit enough let her control it all cowgirl style. If not, then choose whateve ris most comfortable for her, and go slow, lube and slow.
6. When you're in, just, hold here, let her get used to you. When she is ready start to slide deeper.
7. All the time, listen and follow her lead.
8. If that all goes well, don;t push things, but every week or so, do it again, and you'll find she'll want you there, and then you are both really ready to enjoy.
Cupid69, if you wnat to know how good it can be...
