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Just visit a Lush chat room, doesn't have to necessarily be the BDSM one...but any given one. You'll see the discrepancy. The fake ones put on airs and try to establish their domship above all else and to anyone willing (or unwilling) to listen.

I've met some cool doms here. They're more lax about it and less in your face. Don't get me wrong, it's not something they conceal, but it's not something they feel a need to throw around, either. If it comes up, it comes up. They really have nothing to prove to anyone. They're confident and generally amiable people. Real doms exude power and passion, and they seek to satisfy mutual needs. It's not about one-sided control, but mutual surrender. At least that's what I personally think it should be.

Then there are the blowhards with short tempers. The ones that think that since they've convinced themselves that they're a dom, they can throw their weight around and DEMAND others' respect. They use it as a crutch and are really nothing more than insecure bullies spoiling for a fight. They're also kind of obsessive. The fake doms are ALL about control. And a bit masochistic. More so than usual. What I mean by that is that you'll always see them finding ways to punish their sub, and a lot of them make it known to the public that their sub is being punished, at least from the online perspective from what I've observed. What I mean by that is if they're not talking to their sub, they'll make it known. Or they'll find some way to mention their sub is being punished, even while their sub is in the chat room. And it doesn't have to be physical (in a virtual sense). It's more of a mental thing. They get so far inside their sub's head...it's fascinating in a scary sort of way. You'll recognize them easily. Their relationships don't last long, and nearly every time you see them they'll have a different sub (or set of subs, as lots of them like to have a collection of subs). They have irrational fits of rage when things don't go their way. They'll probably threaten you via their bios (something along the lines of 'So and so is my sub, upset them and feel my wrath!!'). They'll probably play up who they are in real life and present a 'larger than life' image. And as I said, they have short tempers. They're more like children than anything, in my opinion. These, again in my opinion, are the phonies, the posers, and the wannabes. A lot of them are probably betas in real life and choose the internet dom life to compensate.

But internet aside, you can apply this to real life dom situations, and the results would most likely be the same. Of course there are exceptions, but the signs will be there, nonetheless.

For instance, take fictional dom Christian Gray (or is it Grey?). He seemingly had it all. Wealth, power, etc. But he had severe emotional issues. Issues that he took out on what's-her-name. And if it were real life, you could assume he also did it with any sub he had before her.

I said all of this just to say that the fake ones are easy to spot if you look closely enough. The control aspect is more important to them than the relationship aspect. The fake ones want you under their thumb, and they wanna keep you there as long as possible. And they make it extremely difficult for you to get out. They'll play with the emotions of their sub to get them to stay and convince them that it's all love and such, and then fall right back into the same abusive, controlling pattern.

I'm not just speaking based on assumption. I've seen it unfold right in front of me...on several occasions. As I said, it's terrifyingly fascinating to see the grips these type of doms have on people.