As for the male chauvinist thing... don't forget, there are a lot of mistresses out there that possess gentlemen of their own. D/s is practiced by any number and variety of gender combinations.
What does a concert violinist get out of playing?
He certainly gets some amount of physical exercise. Holding that posture is certainly not an easy thing.
There's the music, certainly, but the music doesn't come from the violinist directly - it comes from the violin.
The violinist derives fulfillment from the process of creating the music, and from the beauty that his exertion coaxes out of the instrument.
My own feeling, as a dominant, is that the control I exercise over my submissive is the same control that the violinist has over his violin. And the result of my exercise of that control is the pleasure I bring out of her.
This may, in fact, completely fail to resonate with you. And that's ok. I don't like mushrooms. I shake my head and chuckle at people eating them sometimes. But I draw the line at telling them that they should stop eating those disgusting things, because clearly my opinion on the subject differs from theirs.
I am one of those guys who is guilty of being difficult to talk to, so I know what you mean.
This is going to sound like it's a bit out of left field, but not too long ago I read the famous "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" book. I had always pooh-poohed it as just so much pop culture relationship-babble, but it really, really does ring true. If you haven't read it, it may help you communicate better with him.
There is a bit of a fine line to draw. To some extent, as a submissive in a D/s relationship, you should sublimate your own self to be more of what your master desires you to be. But at the same time, no true dom wants a sub who is a complete cipher devoid of any personality. But as I said before, you can start walking that line even without your husband knowing you are doing it.
I would just like to add - as neutrally as I possibly can - that everybody and every relationship is different. If I were not charitably inclined, I might find myself calling YKINOK.
You may not do it (for any value of "it"), but out of 6 billion plus, I guarantee you someone else does.
First and foremost, I would suggest talking with him about it. Relationships that involve power exchange must start with a strong foundation of open communication.
Apart from that, it rather depends on whether you want to have bedroom scenes where you submit to him, or whether you're trying to start a full time D/s relationship. If you're trying for a D/s relationship, you can prime the pump, so to speak, by acting the part now. Try to make him and his happiness your first priority. Try and anticipate his needs and fulfill them without his asking. Be his "girl friday," so to speak. Not to put too fine a point on it, but if that sort of thing doesn't sound fulfilling to you (that is, if you don't anticipate feeling pride and fulfillment at serving him), then you might not really be looking for a D/s relationship of that sort.
In the end, the best approach would be to talk to him, but failing that, if you'd be more specific about the sort of relationship you're after, we might be able to give more concrete advice.
I just heard back from them, and they took down the plagiarized copy of my story at my request. Maybe they're not so bad.
Of all of the Shakespeare plays to pick, I think The Tempest makes the most sense.
I am surprised, however, that they didn't pick some of his standalone sonnets.
It's one of those things that was once on my "bucket list," but I don't think I'll ever get an opportunity, unfortunately.
I think that's an interesting start... I have an idea that meshes with that...
The driver for the conflict is that the two are rivals on different teams in a roller derby league.
When they play each other, they are fierce competitors, but they're on-again/off-again lovers too.
Her birthday suit and her collar.
A few authors (I'm one) are getting together for a cooperative project. We are planning on each writing one chapter in a larger work. To avoid complete chaos, we are going to start with a plot arc in mind. For the basic premise, we have decided to turn to the readers.
The story will be erotic, but we'd like your ideas to be less to do with the category bar to the left side of the home page, but rather what the story might be *in addition* to being erotic.
And... Begin!
I agree with that. One key part of punishment is that once the guilty party has been punished, then the slate is wiped clean. Neither the disciplinarian nor the penitent can dwell further on the incident. The cuddle time afterwards is a way for both parties to reconnect and to wipe away with love any potential for any hurt feelings on either side.
I second Secretary. It's really the best and only - hardcore or not - for me.
Of all the ones I've written, the one I would probably recommend would be "Extremely loud and incredibly horny." But that one isn't my favorite. My favorite is probably either The Machine or The Demerit System.
If you want to meet someone for an IRL relationship, I would see if there is a BDSM community of any sort where you live. Of course, it's rather easy for me to suggest that, since I live in the SF Bay Area, where alternative sexuality is almost expected. But I dare say that if you can find your way into one of America's 20 or 30 largest cities, you'll have no trouble finding a "munch."
A munch, if you're not aware of the term, is a meeting of BDSM folks in a vanilla setting. It's a place to meet like-minded people in a safe and non-sexual setting. From there, you can meet people and perhaps find out about local play parties or tutorials or discussions or what not.
From there, I dare say you should be on the road to the relationship you desire.
If you're looking to connect with your local community, there's a website I'd like to suggest, but I believe it's against the forum rules to link to other sites. It's initials are "FL". If you're interested, and don't recognize that cryptic reference, PM me and I'll fill in the blanks. It's not a big secret or anything, I just don't want to fall afoul of the rules here.
Well, the only thing I need to add here is, "Successful troll is successful."
