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Sensei
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Thanks, RD.
I think the idea of being a TPE master is one of those things that sounds easy, until you realize what doing it *right* takes.
On the surface, TPE gives the appearance that the slave gives service to the master. But what is not obvious is that the master must *provide* for the slave. And for true slavery, that means *everything*. If your slave's full time life is being your slave, then you're going to have to house, feed, clothe them, provide medical care... And that's just the beginning of their physical needs. You also need to discover and understand what they need and desire on your relationship and provide it for them.
Again, if you fail at this, then they will not give themselves to you. And if they don't give themselves to you, you don't own them, and you're not a master at all.
If you're not willing or capable of *giving*, then you're not worthy of *receiving*.
I think the idea of being a TPE master is one of those things that sounds easy, until you realize what doing it *right* takes.
On the surface, TPE gives the appearance that the slave gives service to the master. But what is not obvious is that the master must *provide* for the slave. And for true slavery, that means *everything*. If your slave's full time life is being your slave, then you're going to have to house, feed, clothe them, provide medical care... And that's just the beginning of their physical needs. You also need to discover and understand what they need and desire on your relationship and provide it for them.
Again, if you fail at this, then they will not give themselves to you. And if they don't give themselves to you, you don't own them, and you're not a master at all.
If you're not willing or capable of *giving*, then you're not worthy of *receiving*.
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Quote by southerncock78
I am looking for everyone's opinion on sex slaves. I decribe sex slaves not as a normal pet or slave you see with in the BSDM world but as a a person used for nothing but sexual acts for the pleasure of thier master and is not interacted with other than for sexual pleasure.
With that said Please voice your opinions on owning sex slaves.
It sort of depends on what you're talking about.
First, you didn't outright say so, but it should go without saying that if there's any hint that what you're describing is non-consensual, then that is immoral and illegal.
With that as a starting point, then the conversation diverges into two branches: One is "scene" based relationships, the other is TPE. It sounds to me like you're talking about the former - where there is no relationship other than two people getting together for D/s scenes. That's great fun, for sure. I can't imagine there's anything negative at all to say about it.
The other branch is TPE - it's implied by your use of the word "owning."
As I said before, "owning," where there is consent involved by the owned, is exactly like a prison with no lock on the door. The only way such a prison could possibly hope to hold a prisoner is if it's a gilded cage. In other words, a place where someone would *want* to stay. The master in a TPE relationship must create an environment that is desirable for his submissive. He must meet all of his submissive's needs. If he fails, then his submissive will not stay.
Knowing that, then the issue becomes what to do when you aren't having sex. I've never heard of anybody who's vision of life for themselves is solitary confinement punctuated by sexual servitude. The TPE relationship dynamic can include formal protocols to govern how the slave lives their life - how they dress, how they speak, and so on. But those protocols need to have room in them for the slave to live life as they desire it, or else it's not going to work.
For example, I know of slaves who have not used the first person singular tense in years (in other words, instead of "I" or "me," they say things like "this slave" and use third person verb conjugations). That works for them. But at the end of the day, they behave that way because they want to, despite the fact that they are under "strict" orders to behave that way.
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I agree with you there. The women of Lush don't fall into the cum averse category.
All of them? Even the lesbians? Well, I guess for them it's a moot point. Still, I ask, can you can categorically say that every straight XX chromosome that visits here is not in that category? If so, then I humbly apologize for wasting everyone's time.
As I said at the start, there are women who love it and know perfectly well what to do. They're not the target audience. Even so, hearing additional perspectives too has value, and I appreciate it.
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I've actually experienced this. I've been with someone who was grossed out by cum. Seeing cum would make her wretch and gag. Even if it was after sex, laying beside her naked in bed. Just seeing the last drips ooze out of me and she'd have to go in the bathroom. It actually is a pretty shitty feeling.
*This* is what I'm talking about.
Not about her being nauseated by it, but his reaction to her's. The ego-crushing that I spoke about earlier. It's why I posted to start with, and why I titled this thread the way I did.
I'll sum it up one more time. If you love your man, and if you don't like sperm, then come up with a plan so that you can deal with it without making him feel guilty for his own orgasm.
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Sorry, but I was really freaked out! I really thought he was ill, and he couldn't talk or anything. That's actually pretty frightening. Afterwards, he said, "Oh yeah, I do that. I guess I should have said."
And I wasn't meaning anything mean by what I said to Milik, I think it's a nice bonus that his ladies have liked it, even with such a traumatic journey.
It's fine for you who have all this experience and what you want and how you want people to deal with it, but there are some of us who have yet to experience it and are worried that how we spontaneously react will be upsetting to the person we are reacting to.
Well, my sarcasm sense has been wrong before.
I'm sorry I lashed out a bit at you.
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Thank you for replying, Sensei. I will try to be grateful next time he collapses and can't talk to me
My sarcasm sense is tingling.
- a word of advice from a lass: please warn a lass when it's her first time that it all comes out all over the place like that. Just saying.
I promise, the next time you're blowing me, I'll warn you when I'm about to come.
Milik, I like the sound of there being nothing to clean up - I'm worried I'd gag when I try to swallow, and I'd be mortified.
I'm sorry that the rest of us don't have an on-off switch. I'm also willing to bet that Milik would have rather not have had the cancer even if he has the benefit of mess-less orgasms.
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So, my question is this to you guys .... is going down on your lady a turn off?
Oh, HELL, no.
I am a D/s dominant. I could tell my slave to do anything I want.
I eat her *frequently*.
I get off on controlling her pleasure, and there's no better way than that...
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Quote by ChelseaSmile
Okay, this question has probably been asked before. However, I was wondering.. why is it a "turn on" for girls to swallow? Personally, I swallow. I've just known no other way. But, why is it hot?
It shows *appreciation*. When a woman does *anything* for her man that gives the impression that she *loves* his orgasms and its products.... well, that's just magical.
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Some of us don't actually know what to do with it.
Well, some girls really *do* lick it up, but I can imagine that that's not for everyone. I'm not so chauvinistic as to say that you have to - or even that you ought to, but I *will* say that if you give your man the impression that you regard his sperm as a gift... well, any man who doesn't appreciate that.....
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There is a tribe of indigenous people in New Guinnea whose cultural belief system is that semen is the source of the male warrior strength. As such, the males will consume each other's semen in the belief that they are strengthening themselves through concentrating their male power. They do not "give" to the women of their tribe, except to procreate - a powerful validation of their belief system, that the male power is even capable of making new life.
Now, I'm not suggesting that their world-view is optimal. Far from it.
But, ladies, unless you want to join a convent or be a lesbian (both of which are options I do not mean to dispairage in any way), then please understand that when a man has an orgasm, he's going to make about a tablespoon of milky white viscous fluid. I am told (I wouldn't know), that it tastes salty and a little bitter. If our cocks are not inside something, it's gonna shoot all over.
Have a plan.
I promise you, your man doesn't have one. His mind is occupied.
Some girls love semen. And that's wonderful. They probably know exactly what they want to do with it. Some of you don't like it. Some of you think it's gross.
Well, ladies, it may be gross to you, but it came out of us when we were in a moment of extacy at being with you. I swear to you, as a man, there are not many worse things a woman can do to a man's ego than make it seem like their orgasm is an inconvenience. A hassle. "Oh shit! Don't get it all over!"
For the love of God, use that feminine sensitivity of yours!
Now, I'm not suggesting that their world-view is optimal. Far from it.
But, ladies, unless you want to join a convent or be a lesbian (both of which are options I do not mean to dispairage in any way), then please understand that when a man has an orgasm, he's going to make about a tablespoon of milky white viscous fluid. I am told (I wouldn't know), that it tastes salty and a little bitter. If our cocks are not inside something, it's gonna shoot all over.
Have a plan.
I promise you, your man doesn't have one. His mind is occupied.
Some girls love semen. And that's wonderful. They probably know exactly what they want to do with it. Some of you don't like it. Some of you think it's gross.
Well, ladies, it may be gross to you, but it came out of us when we were in a moment of extacy at being with you. I swear to you, as a man, there are not many worse things a woman can do to a man's ego than make it seem like their orgasm is an inconvenience. A hassle. "Oh shit! Don't get it all over!"
For the love of God, use that feminine sensitivity of yours!
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I actually just wrote a story that included a blind girl, for what it's worth.
I've got no actual experience, it just seemed to me to be an interesting challenge.
It's called The Feel of Sunlight
I've got no actual experience, it just seemed to me to be an interesting challenge.
It's called The Feel of Sunlight
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Quote by Shylass
Are you serious? And what about when you end up in hospital? Will you love that too?
It's posts like these that make me want to run away screaming and labelling the whole BDSM scene as abusive, even though I am sure that would horribly offend people who don't act like that. I want to understand, but this? This makes me want to ... I don't even have the words for it.
Don't let your concern turn into YKINOK.
We can't tell from here that this is not a healthy relationship, even of the dynamic is heavier than you or I are used to.
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1) 50 Shades of Grey:Considering reading this. So sort of a question for mistresses/owners: should puppies/subs be reading this?
This is something I need to discuss with my mistress/owner I suppose but wanted outside opinions. Thanks in advance.
No one can really answer that for you except your mistress.
But if you want to be the best pet you can be for her, my best advice is to try and ask yourself, whenever faced with a decision in her absence, which way would she want me to choose?
The more you can internalize her thoughts and wishes, the more you will become her's.
2) Is it normal/accepted/appropriate for a puppy/sub to be in love with his mistress/owner? B/c I love the hell out of mine.
I can't imagine a relationship that has the level of commitment, trust and service that true TPE implies wouldn't be a deeply loving one.
In some dynamics, expression of that love may be expressed differently, of course. That's to be expected given how different TPE is from what the vanilla world tells us is "normal."
But in the end, TPE is a symbiotic relationship. The owned gets as much or more from their owner as they give.
I'd like to plug my story "The Training of Lucy," if I may. It speaks directly to this very question. Particularly in the epilogue.
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I know I'm not a gal, so my opinion won't matter as much, but I am 6'0" and my wife is about 5'7" or so. I just can't imagine a more perfect combination. When I hold her, she has to look up and I have to look down a little for us to gaze into each other's eyes.
It's just SO perfect. So, I think a height difference of about 5-6" is important, and I think I can safely speak for her on this too.
It's just SO perfect. So, I think a height difference of about 5-6" is important, and I think I can safely speak for her on this too.
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and yet, baseball is the national past time, a sport that lasts 3 hours, often ends in a 1-0 score, and pretty much is made up of two guys throwing the ball back and forth - soccer is WAY more exciting then that.
Additional examples don't disprove the first. :)
But if you want boring, nothing holds a candle to golf.
Poker used to be the most awful spectator sports, but when the added hole-card cameras, that changed 180 degrees.
But I digress.
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Jackie Martling has a joke that this reminds me of:
Q. Why do women fake orgasms?
A. Because they think we care.
Ok, ha ha ha. Very droll. But looking beyond the crass humor of it brings forth the underlying question, which for your circumstance is framed thusly: why is he frustrated with you that you are not having an orgasm?
He's to be commended for the fact that he *wants* to try hard to please you. But trying too hard is not going to make it happen, and that's what it sounds like the frustration is leading towards.
My advice? Try oral. Maybe you can teach him to use his mouth to make it feel good in the same way that the shower head does? If that won't work, then get a shower head that's on a hose and get him in the shower with you and let *him* control the spray. Your goal is to get him *involved* in your orgasm, even if it isn't his cock that's doing it.
Q. Why do women fake orgasms?
A. Because they think we care.
Ok, ha ha ha. Very droll. But looking beyond the crass humor of it brings forth the underlying question, which for your circumstance is framed thusly: why is he frustrated with you that you are not having an orgasm?
He's to be commended for the fact that he *wants* to try hard to please you. But trying too hard is not going to make it happen, and that's what it sounds like the frustration is leading towards.
My advice? Try oral. Maybe you can teach him to use his mouth to make it feel good in the same way that the shower head does? If that won't work, then get a shower head that's on a hose and get him in the shower with you and let *him* control the spray. Your goal is to get him *involved* in your orgasm, even if it isn't his cock that's doing it.
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I actually often times will start with a title, right after I come up with a basic outline of the story. Sometimes as I'm writing the story, I'll revise or replace the title, just like I'll revise or replace some of the text of the story.
But that's just how I roll. That doesn't mean that it's THE way to do it.
But that's just how I roll. That doesn't mean that it's THE way to do it.
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Try this...
Girl Names : Q
http://www.justmommies.com/baby-names/girls/q
Who knew there were so many girl's names that started with Q?
You know, I think you may have indirectly done it for me.
I saw Quinn in that list. I had always associated that name with either TV producer Quinn Martin or comedian Colin Quinn - both men (in looking it up just now, however, I discovered that Quinn Martin was not his birth name), but then it struck me.... Daria Morgendorfer's sister was named Quinn - it is indeed a girl's name!
So, I think I'll nix the Chinese thing and just go with Quinn.
Thanks!