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Over 90 days ago
Lesbian Female, 37
0 miles · Seattle
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Marx Sister
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not sure i understand? why can't you have both?
This.
My somewhat longer answer is summed up by noting that the two are wildly different experiences. Both can be good. Both at once can sometimes be better. For that matter, more than one romantic relationship, more than one FWB, or any combination can also be good – as long as it is ethically handled, i.e. everyone involves knows, everyone is responsible about their health and communicates well. At the moment I have two partners, but have had as many as four, or three and an FWB at different points. I'll admit that it can be a lot to handle in terms of emotional labor and scheduling, but in my experience it is often worth it.
Returning to the original question, it's a different experience and often leads to a very different type of sex. Sometimes when both parties want companionship and sex but don't have the emotional energy to invest in a romantic relationship (especially if either of them are particularly attached to the relationship escalator), it can be the best option. The trouble comes when one person is trying the FWB thing while hoping for romance (either secretly or openly), but when everyone is truly on the same page it can be amazing.
Marx Sister
Once when I was 19 or 20. It was a fucking terrible choice, but I made a lot of those at that time. Not sure how fast I was going, because it was a car from the late seventies, when the speedometers for street vehicles sold in the U.S. had to end at 85 mph. The road was extremely rough, and almost grooved horizontally due to heavy equipment being on it that shouldn't have been, and we were only hitting the tops of them, putting our traction somewhere in the 25-50% of normal range.
Should have died, but didn't get a scratch. Guy next to me hit is head on the door, which isn't trivial in a Chevy Nova of that era, but he was ultimately fine too. This was the same car, I actually played Ship's Mast at roughly the same time and place... Analyzing some of those anecdotes from a dispassionate point of view, I guess I was kind of a danger slut back then.
This has been another installment of Weirdly Public Self-Reflection, with Aurora St. Claire.
Should have died, but didn't get a scratch. Guy next to me hit is head on the door, which isn't trivial in a Chevy Nova of that era, but he was ultimately fine too. This was the same car, I actually played Ship's Mast at roughly the same time and place... Analyzing some of those anecdotes from a dispassionate point of view, I guess I was kind of a danger slut back then.
This has been another installment of Weirdly Public Self-Reflection, with Aurora St. Claire.
