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Shylass
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female
United Kingdom
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Gingerbread Lover
Sorry for waffling. 
When I first joined Lush, and realised there were profiles, I was horrified and deeply embarassed! I couldn't believe the amount of nudey photos on not only walls, but in private albums.
I was stunned that there were people in the world who are confident to show themselves with their Happy Bits on full display. I was brought up to be modest and cover up. I cover up even more than my parents taught me anyway, for a couple of reasons.
I am absolutely in awe of anybody who is confident enough to show off their body. The furthest I went until just over two months ago was a cleavage shot with a gingerbread man in it, and then an even more daring one (for me) with a daisy in it.
Since I joined Lush, I have gained some confidence in my writing, and I decided I wanted to try and find some confidence in my size and body too. I have noticed several ladies not only my size, but bigger, post full-on Happy Bits and naked pictures of themselves. The feedback they get is lovely.
In the forums, however, it is a different matter. People generally want to see a certain size and shape, and ridicule people who are my size and shape when pictures of them are posted. Those poses that get laughed at would get wanked over if the body shown in it was what people on Lush overwhelmingly want to see.
The pictures that I dared to post are available only to a very small group of friends, in order for me to learn to be a little more confident about myself, and to discover where my boundaries are. I have pushed them way beyond what I dreamed I could manage. I even had to ask two girl mates to check if I was setting myself up for a fall before posting them. I didn't advertise their presence, either. They are there if those certain friends are interested enough to discover them.
I didn't do it for comments and ego-stroking. I just wanted to see if I could learn to feel sexy and more comfortable about the piece of crap I feel I am. There is only one picture I thought better of, and removed it. I was worrying about it, which was not the point. Boundary found.
I decided very recently that I don't want to explore my album further for fear of being ridiculed. I don't think that those people who have access to the album would say anything mean to me, but I know what they will be thinking, and it's too upsetting and worrisome to me to try and push myself any further.
I don't like to look at at personal pictures of other people, save to admire their confidence at a glance. I hardly ever comment on them either (I usually don't look that closely, as I find it excruciatingly embarassing).
I always feel that Happy Bits shots are... Odd. Like, what do you want me to say, when you ask me to comment (I refuse to look when I get asked to). Do you want me to lie and tell you I get turned on? I don't, I want to run away. Do you want me to compliment you on a piece of flesh nature gave you? "Wow, wonderful appendage you cannot alter there..."
I think it's wonderful that people feel happy to share their body, and wonderful that others like to look. Me? No thanks. I'm more interested in the character that flesh holds within it.
When I first joined Lush, and realised there were profiles, I was horrified and deeply embarassed! I couldn't believe the amount of nudey photos on not only walls, but in private albums.
I was stunned that there were people in the world who are confident to show themselves with their Happy Bits on full display. I was brought up to be modest and cover up. I cover up even more than my parents taught me anyway, for a couple of reasons.
I am absolutely in awe of anybody who is confident enough to show off their body. The furthest I went until just over two months ago was a cleavage shot with a gingerbread man in it, and then an even more daring one (for me) with a daisy in it.
Since I joined Lush, I have gained some confidence in my writing, and I decided I wanted to try and find some confidence in my size and body too. I have noticed several ladies not only my size, but bigger, post full-on Happy Bits and naked pictures of themselves. The feedback they get is lovely.
In the forums, however, it is a different matter. People generally want to see a certain size and shape, and ridicule people who are my size and shape when pictures of them are posted. Those poses that get laughed at would get wanked over if the body shown in it was what people on Lush overwhelmingly want to see.
The pictures that I dared to post are available only to a very small group of friends, in order for me to learn to be a little more confident about myself, and to discover where my boundaries are. I have pushed them way beyond what I dreamed I could manage. I even had to ask two girl mates to check if I was setting myself up for a fall before posting them. I didn't advertise their presence, either. They are there if those certain friends are interested enough to discover them.
I didn't do it for comments and ego-stroking. I just wanted to see if I could learn to feel sexy and more comfortable about the piece of crap I feel I am. There is only one picture I thought better of, and removed it. I was worrying about it, which was not the point. Boundary found.
I decided very recently that I don't want to explore my album further for fear of being ridiculed. I don't think that those people who have access to the album would say anything mean to me, but I know what they will be thinking, and it's too upsetting and worrisome to me to try and push myself any further.
I don't like to look at at personal pictures of other people, save to admire their confidence at a glance. I hardly ever comment on them either (I usually don't look that closely, as I find it excruciatingly embarassing).
I always feel that Happy Bits shots are... Odd. Like, what do you want me to say, when you ask me to comment (I refuse to look when I get asked to). Do you want me to lie and tell you I get turned on? I don't, I want to run away. Do you want me to compliment you on a piece of flesh nature gave you? "Wow, wonderful appendage you cannot alter there..."
I think it's wonderful that people feel happy to share their body, and wonderful that others like to look. Me? No thanks. I'm more interested in the character that flesh holds within it.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by lengthxwidth
Anika! If I was in that restaurant, I would have to excuse myself and go up to the guy and let him know that his girl should be treated with respect and he should probably excuse himself. I would probably wait until I saw him go to the boys room and follow him in there. It is absolutely a disgrace, especially to that nice girl. He might be a nice guy but someone should take him under their wing and teach him some proper etiquette.
Maybe I'm old school but that is the way I was raised and the woman still should be treated like a princess....
You sound like a complete delight to go out with, picking on complete strangers without knowing the whys and wherefores of their private situation.
Not.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Jack_42
It might have been her younger brother.
The only thing I expect from a lad in his looks, is that he is clean. I don't mind what his style (or lack of) is.
Just because I have a hole a lad might want to stick his willy in, it does not mean I get to "make the rules". In my opinion, that's something we should do together. Obviously, not everybody agrees with me, just as I don't agree with them.
My standards of whether a lad is worth getting to know rest on how he speaks to me, and those around us. If he smells clean and fresh, then even if he's wearing tatty clothes and is comfortable with me, it's very likely I'd want to cuddle up with him.
We all have different standards of what respect is. Mine does not include what he wears. It would be nice that he wanted to make an effort for me, but I would far rather he was just himself, in his usual clothes (although I don't like suits very much; people in suits scare me). I would rather get a bag of chips each, and wander along the beach, or walk in the woods with our cameras, than go to a poncey restaurant. Maybe that's the difference?
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by DirtyMartini
My netbook didn't have Word until recently...around Christmastime or so, it crashed, and I lost everything on the hard drive...I now have Word, but I have yet to write anything with it...I had always used MS Works Word Processor since September, 2009...if I have to submit something as a Word doc, I can copy and paste into Word Pad and it gets saved as an RTF...
You don't really need Word...the only time I ever really needed it was when I took on a book editing assignment, and I had to go to the local library to use Word...
Like Miss Mazza said, Google docs is great too...from what I hear anyway...though I think it's called Google Drive now...no?
Anyway...I think there might be a similar thread somewhere in the forum Miss Shy Daisy...I sort of remember describing my writing process before...though it was probably like three years ago...
Let me think about it and get back to you here...
Actually, my reason for starting this thread was to show the process I go through of editing and proof-reading my story. It wasn't actually about how I write a story, even if it seems that way. And I still manage to get mistakes I missed in there. I was hoping some authors might put a little more thought into submitting something coherent and even vaguely publishable, as opposed to some of the drivel that graces the story queue.
I think I can speak for all the mods (here and on the blue site) when I say that we all appreciate authors who take the time to check their work instead of expecting us volunteers to do it for them...
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by PRIVATEER
Hello Shylass, Nice to meet you, Couldyou please help me, I have joined this Forum and I am a Page Member, I`ve tried to join other Pages but I get no answers from them and I not raise any help, so I can only feel they do not want my Membership, anyway, I got in the door here and I wish to search the place out in an effort to learn the direction I will head In, and I believe the Feedback
from Readers and you Other Authers {Dare I call myself that ;-}} as well, But there Is one small problem I need help with at the moment! I have tried Three Times now to Upload a Story,
Which is" Part 1" of a 3 or 4 Part Story of my Love, courtship and Marrage when I was a Young Sailor in 1960, Yes I`m 69 years old, still as Sex crazed as ever, and still a Bloody Rogue to boot!
Can you help me please with simple Instructions on Uploading please!
Happy New Year to all of you,
Best Wishes,
John Richards.
"Email richards13@bigpond .com"
Hello, PRIVATEER. Sorry for not getting back to you before now.
If you wish to submit a story, please go to the main site pages: http://www.lushstories.com/
Click on the upper left hand corner black button that says, "Submit Story".
It will then give you the tools with which to submit your story.
Choose your category, give your story a title, add your tags, and add a one liner if you wish.
Write your story within the field for your text,
Click on "Continue", proof-read your story for spelling, punctuation and grammar. Please take care to keep within the site rules in your story.
Submit your story, and wait for a free mod to check it for you.
I hope that helps.
Happy New Year to you, too. 
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by ranbir
hey i read my forum today and i just wanna say that i asked this question in forum just for fun and little kinkyness but i found some people finded it offensive so please im sorry and meant no disrespect for ladies here on lush and people who responded to this forum question i m extremely thankful and hope more responses to come thank you
You have to remember that there are thousands of people who read these threads, and not all of us like to share personal details, particularly when asked so seemingly abruptly.
Had you worded your first post like the one I have quoted, you might have found us rather more forthcoming with our details.
Your apology is happily accepted, thank you
But I'm still not going to tell you how big my bazongas are. 
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by LOVES4PLAY
Shylass, I thank you for correcting my oversight & screw-up... Sorry about the unwanted noise, but I'm hard of hearing, also bothered by failing eye sight, so the capitals are easier for me to read.
I will try to refrain from duplicating this same unacceptable act of rocking the boat. Thank you again.
Quick question, do you like/enjoy humor??
Wishing you and yours a very HAPPY NEW YEAR, filled with love, good friends, and excellent health... Joel
You're very welcome.
Have you tried experimenting with the colour of your browser, and using the Control button in conjunction with the +/- buttons to make the words bigger or smaller? That way, you won't be accused of shouting at people, but will still be able to read well.
Yes, I love humour, particularly bad puns, cracker-worthy jokes, and farting.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by LOVES4PLAY
Wow, as a lover of humor, these answers have made my day and I'm still smiling.
Had I read this yesterday, I would have had an excellent answer to this question:
What important lesson have you learned in life?
The answer is, "Never ask a question on Lush forums".
Love, Joel.
Also, people take offence when other people write in all capitals. It's the virtual equivalent of SHOUTING!
But it's okay, I fixed it for you. Happy New Year!
And this is for the misfit mineral lass:
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Trinket
I'm quite offended by your sarcastic tone. You did receive some sarcastic or witty posts on your thread however it WAS an odd question to post on 'ask the gals' forum on an adult site! The wording of the question didn't make it obvious what type of answer you wanted either.
As for beautiful minds..... answering one question on one forum in the whole of cyberland with one word is unlikely to indicate whether a person has a beautiful mind or not, and what makes you an expert on what constitutes a beautiful mind? What qualifications do you have that give you the right to say you know the correct answer to that particular question? You're not God, are you? Perhaps you might find answers more to your liking on a spiritual type site.
More gingerbread for that man! It's the sweetest way to greet the New Year!
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by crazydiamond
Well said Missy!! (but i swear you laughed at my accent down the phone hahaha)
That wasn't laughing, that was my concentrating noises as I tried to place your multi-accented speech.
And you do sound sexy (NIAGW).
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I think I feel sorry for the guys that post in Ask the Gals...... poor sods have no idea what they're in for...
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by molotov
Allow me to add some context before I pose my questions please.
I'm new to actually being a participant in Lush and to the type of site that it is, but not to sharing intimate ideas, experiences, and fantasies. In the past, I've done that with females after i've already met them in person through everyday activities. So, the sharing has been done over the phone, msn/ voice messages, and even via text. I have found that naughty sharing via voice (either messages or real time) is much more interesting, intimate, and powerful than by typing. The girls all agree.
So, my questions are:
1. Why is their no voice messaging built into lush? Is it just a matter of bandwidth cost?
2. Why are girls online who enjoy naughty typing, so reluctant to voice chat/voice message via programs like msn/ ?
I get that people are, and should be, reluctant to give out phone numbers (don't do it!), but with the ability to easily block/delete people, and to remain anonymous, why not use or msn, etc? Actually, I feel a lot safer after I hear someones voice as it lets me know who i'm dealing with better.
Answers appreciated. Thanks.
Welcome!
There is no voice messaging on Lush because it began as a story site. Chat and what is known as "black boxing" and personal chat are added extras (currently not working properly at all times, but being fixed as quickly as possible). There has been talk of new, exciting developments in 2013, so stick around. I believe video chat might have been mentioned at one point, too...
As to why I won't voice chat, I'm horribly shy. I stumble over my words, get so nervous I either can't shut up, or can't say anything at all. I just don't feel safe. I don't even talk to family and real life friends on the phone if I can help it.
I voice chat with four people only, and then only sometimes. They are very close, dearly valued friends who I trust not to laugh at me for my foibles and idiocy. There are a couple of other friends I would love to talk to, but I haven't found the courage.
I wouldn't want to give my details out to some stranger with whom I'm going to share orgasm time with. I don't do that, it's not something I am comfortable with doing. I am very private about many things, and I need my space. If I ever did it, it would be with somebody I felt owned a piece of my soul. And I hate giving up pieces of my soul, because they get trodden on.
And finally, being rude about somebody's avatar is not very kind. There are hundreds of women who want to get into that particular member's underwear because of it, I hear. Kind, strong people always fare best on Lush. They are man or woman enough to know what they want, not be fazed when they don't get it, and react positively in the face of getting the opposite of what they hoped for.
Oh, and for a member to agree with another member's point of view is just as valid as if they had said it themselves. It does add value, because it shows shared opinion without repeating something in different wording. You don't have to agree, but this is a forum; it's what it's for.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Nikki703
How do you get negative posts? And Im not sure Eggnog will do the trick!! LOL
I heard that a double negative makes a positive, and I think a lot of us may have been positively confused by all of Remember's posts (alternatively, the deleted number of his posts turned his number to minus figures, but that's too plausible to be true).
As for needing a little time to decide if I want to sleep with a guy the first time we meet, which is what I think the poster means, no, not at all. I need a LOT of time. During that time, he will have to demonstrate an unconditional love of cookies, fat girls, and that his hands are large enough to form a human bra for enormous boobies (so when I run for chocolate, it doesn't hurt as much, because he can run with me and hold them up).
However, the poster doesn't like my contributions, so it's obviously not what he meant at all.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Thoughful_doug
Have you learned anything new by following these forums ? Have you tried anything that you have learned here ?
I have learned unbelievable amounts of things from the forums. I joined up so I could ask a couple of questions, and have gained a huge wealth of knowledge.
Even better, through it, I have made some wonderful friends, and re-discovered my love of writing. This time last year, if you could have told me even a tenth of what I have learned, how many stories and poems I would be about to write, that I would become a mod on a sex stories site (!), that a story I wrote would be published in an e-book (!), and best, how many genuine friends I was going to make, I would never have believed you.
Sad as it may sound to some, Lush has transformed my life, in many ways, and I am better for the wealth of riches it has brought me.
On January 7th, I will have been here for a year. If I am lucky enough to be here for another year, I will be truly blessed indeed.
As for trying out what I have learned on a physical level, the opportunity has never arisen (snigger), so I don't know about that, sorry. I know a lot of theory, though.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by baddieguy
I have seen this happen a lot of times!
also has happened to me.
You have a good conversation going on and once you realize this guy comes from India/Pakistan there is no reply...
It is very annoying!
Hmmm... So you joined yesterday, this is your first post here, and already you are labelling all of the women with whatever your label is. Methinks you've been here before.
I don't care where a person comes from or what tone their skin is. I care about their attitude and how they speak to me. And I don't care for the attitude of your post, either.
This thread is not going to last, I can tell you that much.
Merry Christmas/Tuesday!