I've stopped talking to people before for various reasons, including lying to me, being abusive (in various ways), disrespecting a plea to leave a certain subject alone, and taking me for a fool. I might be one, but I don't need to be treated like one.
I also stop talking to people who tell me to leave them alone, or anyone who tells me to fuck off because they don't like the opinion they asked for.
I would leave Lush if a partner asked me to, but I like to think that if I ever was with anybody, they would respect this part of my life.
I don't trust anybody any more, but I have a small circle of close Lush friends that are very dear to me, and the only way I would stop talking to them would be if it was clear there was no redemption for the relationship.
DavidA, your friend may have left for many reasons, including lack of internet access! Sad as it is, not everybody wants to stay in our lives, or sometimes, thinks we're worth it. I've had plenty of people decide I'm not worth the effort of talking a situation through to find the truth, but if that's the case, perhaps it's just as well. There is nothing I can do to make their lives better, of more enjoyable, if I am not worth their effort. In the case of not knowing, I would say, cherish the lovely times you had, and hold those memories dear. Nobody can take that away from you.
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Gingerbread Lover
I was always taught to put two spaces after a full stop when typing, and so that is how I do it. *Affect Yorkshire accent now* When I were a lass, *disaffect Yorkshire accent, unless from Yorkshire*, we were all taught it, and it's what we did.
However, not everybody does, and a wonderful, but unfortunate, mod has just needlessly been through an entire story of mine and removed the "extra" spacing after full stops.
I looked it up, and this was the first link I found:
http://desktoppub.about.com/cs/typespacing/a/onetwospaces.htm
It looks weird to me without the double spacing, and I often have to go back through stories I have edited for people and take out the extra spaces I put in. It's always about half the way through that I realise I was subconciously doing it.
I also find it weird how we don't need to tab in for a new paragraph here too, but that's something I got used to easily.
So, do you double space or not?
However, not everybody does, and a wonderful, but unfortunate, mod has just needlessly been through an entire story of mine and removed the "extra" spacing after full stops.
I looked it up, and this was the first link I found:
http://desktoppub.about.com/cs/typespacing/a/onetwospaces.htm
It looks weird to me without the double spacing, and I often have to go back through stories I have edited for people and take out the extra spaces I put in. It's always about half the way through that I realise I was subconciously doing it.
I also find it weird how we don't need to tab in for a new paragraph here too, but that's something I got used to easily.
So, do you double space or not?
Gingerbread Lover
Title: "Rise and Shine."
Category: Oral Sex
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/oral-sex/rise-and-shine.aspx
1. What first inspired you to write this particular story?
Recently, I'd been finding writing more difficult, and I realised it's because I needed a new challenge. I decided to start thinking about what my readers would prefer to read, as opposed to just writing for my own exploration and enjoyment.
Not long ago, I did a story called, "Wank Fiction", which is not at all the sort of thing I would normally do (I find it incredibly embarassing). It seemed to be received very well, but I didn't know if I could give my lovely readers something just as... "wanky". This latest story has, once again, taken me right out of my comfort zone, but I wanted the challenge of trying to expand something that seemed to work once already, to see if I could do it again.
2. How did you come up with these characters?
A fab friend of mine has been challenging me to think way outside my comfort zones, and think about myself in situations people on Lush like to read about. My background hasn't given me much to go on, but I have been learning and exploring how I feel about things.
I wrote this story, and its partner, as if I was within the story, thinking about making the main character more "human", more real, than nearly all my other characters. I don't know how close to reality the two characters are, but I tried to make them "real".
3. How does it differ from some of your other stories?
Most of my other stories, with three exceptions, are generally about characters and subjects that I wanted to explore, to see how I felt about what I was writing about, or try to gain an understanding. "Rise and Shine", and the previous story, are more about trying to give my readers something they can have some Happy Time over. My other stories were never consciously intended to do that.
4. What was the most challenging thing about writing this piece?
I abhor stories written in first or second person, present tense. I really, really hate them. I even try to avoid them in the moderating queue if I can. But I noticed that many Lush members both write in that style, and seem to say a lot of positive things about other stories that are. I wanted to explore the immediacy of present tense, and like I said, try to make my characters manifest in reality so that people could maybe get a bit (y'know) over them.
I don't know if I will write any more in this style, but the challenge has been exceptionally stretching.
5. Anything else you want to tell us about it?
I'm still learning and exploring. I don't think I will ever reach the standard of a few of the authors on here that I admire and respect, but I do hope that with their challenging and encouraging me to do this, I will be a little closer to maybe achieving for other readers what they can.
Category: Oral Sex
http://www.lushstories.com/stories/oral-sex/rise-and-shine.aspx
1. What first inspired you to write this particular story?
Recently, I'd been finding writing more difficult, and I realised it's because I needed a new challenge. I decided to start thinking about what my readers would prefer to read, as opposed to just writing for my own exploration and enjoyment.
Not long ago, I did a story called, "Wank Fiction", which is not at all the sort of thing I would normally do (I find it incredibly embarassing). It seemed to be received very well, but I didn't know if I could give my lovely readers something just as... "wanky".
This latest story has, once again, taken me right out of my comfort zone, but I wanted the challenge of trying to expand something that seemed to work once already, to see if I could do it again. 2. How did you come up with these characters?
A fab friend of mine has been challenging me to think way outside my comfort zones, and think about myself in situations people on Lush like to read about. My background hasn't given me much to go on, but I have been learning and exploring how I feel about things.
I wrote this story, and its partner, as if I was within the story, thinking about making the main character more "human", more real, than nearly all my other characters. I don't know how close to reality the two characters are, but I tried to make them "real".
3. How does it differ from some of your other stories?
Most of my other stories, with three exceptions, are generally about characters and subjects that I wanted to explore, to see how I felt about what I was writing about, or try to gain an understanding. "Rise and Shine", and the previous story, are more about trying to give my readers something they can have some Happy Time over. My other stories were never consciously intended to do that.
4. What was the most challenging thing about writing this piece?
I abhor stories written in first or second person, present tense. I really, really hate them. I even try to avoid them in the moderating queue if I can. But I noticed that many Lush members both write in that style, and seem to say a lot of positive things about other stories that are. I wanted to explore the immediacy of present tense, and like I said, try to make my characters manifest in reality so that people could maybe get a bit (y'know) over them.
I don't know if I will write any more in this style, but the challenge has been exceptionally stretching.
5. Anything else you want to tell us about it?
I'm still learning and exploring. I don't think I will ever reach the standard of a few of the authors on here that I admire and respect, but I do hope that with their challenging and encouraging me to do this, I will be a little closer to maybe achieving for other readers what they can.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by MakemeBad25
I am just curious too ask if you this
since im a virgin and and very unexperience - all i do is watch porn and rub myself
But are their other things a girl/guy too do sexual withou going too far and still have sexual fun together and get off
i ask this cause i have been dating this guy for a few weeks now and i want too to take things up a notch
but i dont know how and dont know what things we could do besides Kissing and holding hands
and of the thought of do more than kissing and holding hands excites me
i am very curious too what i can do too make this special guy in my life feel good
any advice for this 25 year old virgin
Thank you and sorry for sounding so weird about it i feel embrassed asking but i really need
some tips and advice since im not ready for sexual intercourse
i know i want too try oral with him but what are some other methonds too making him feel good
and me feel good of course, that is if im good too him lol ;)
PS you can chat with me on here just PM me when im online i love meeting new people
Try this for you, if you're still floundering about : http://www.lushstories.com/stories/masturbation/how-to-make-a-virgin-orgasm-in-under.aspx
As for making him feel good, I heard that giving him a good ol' lubed-up hand job is a bit of a stunner.
I believe it's all about communication and exploring together, discovering what you both like and are comfy with. I think it is, anyway.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by G3ntWithHandcuffs
It was just a question that i always wanted to ask a true erotica fan. What is a type of story or story feature that you never (or rarely) see and would really love to see it in a story?
Why do people not write sexy stories with people eating gingerbread cookies in a sexy way?
And I LOVE humour. I really want to see more humour. I laughed my backside off when I read Elitfromnorth's Dealing With Death series http://www.lushstories.com/stories/first-time/dealing-with-death-part-i-2.aspx (which I hope there will be more of, hint hint), and even read the lesbian story without cringing once (sorry, it's really not my thing) because I was laughing so much.
So, cookies and humour. That's what I would like.
Just a quick reminder, please keep all posts within the Lush Terms, thank you. http://www.lushstories.com/terms.aspx
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by perd
I'm pissed because I'm 20 and have only been drunk once, had sex once, never been in a relationship, never done drugs and so on. My friends basically say i've never lived. They think I"M the stupid one for wanting to be single. WTF?! I mean excuse me if I don't see that sit as important. Sex can't be that great and neither can be leaning against your girl or being held by a man. I tried it once, didn't work. it ended in a mess I still don't understand. And that wasn't the first time I gave my heart out like a fucking idiot knowing it could never happen. But i held her in such high regard I thought she'd be different.
people are truly blinded by love. Two of my friends were dating and living together for over a year, when they broke up they basically said it was a waste of all that time. If they knew it was a waste then why do it? PS the break up was caused by a nother 'friend' having her own relationship issues and fucking up their's. There can be no amount of pleasure worth that pain. The teasing, the lying, the arguing, such work for something that won't ever last.
You asked a question. We answered, based on the information you have provided. You didn't like the answers. Deal with it.
Attitude is everything, and you have clearly demonstrated yours.
You aren't the only one to have suffered, been hurt, or watched others go through pain, anger and needless crap. But it's how you deal with those things and respond that show the sort of person you are, and it either makes you stronger, or just embitters you.
Good luck.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by sliltrim
within 12 minutes i found 23 viewers but no one could give reply is this beyond understanding??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
I saw the requirement for the response you would like to receive, and decided you might not like my contribution, especially if you decided it wasn't my real opinion. So I didn't offer one.
Plus, it's not even 8am here and I haven't had any coffee yet.
Gingerbread Lover
Currently, despite having clearly written in my profile that I no longer accept friend requests from people who don't give me a reason to, people are still sending me a request with no message or even vague hello or PM.
I have no idea who you even are. Am I not clear enough about what sort of reason I would need for adding you? Is it my mistake for not clearly saying, "I no longer accept friend requests from people without a message of introduction, at least"?
It couldn't possibly be the fact that they didn't read my profile, could it? Trust me, if I did add your anonymous friend request, you'd find out that I am actually pretty shy (and extremely grumpy), I don't like rudey pictures on my wall, I barely ever post any pictures back, if at all, and I won't chat with you. Still wanna be mates? Thought not.
I have no idea who you even are. Am I not clear enough about what sort of reason I would need for adding you? Is it my mistake for not clearly saying, "I no longer accept friend requests from people without a message of introduction, at least"?
It couldn't possibly be the fact that they didn't read my profile, could it? Trust me, if I did add your anonymous friend request, you'd find out that I am actually pretty shy (and extremely grumpy), I don't like rudey pictures on my wall, I barely ever post any pictures back, if at all, and I won't chat with you. Still wanna be mates? Thought not.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by orangefox444
If the opportunity arose, and you felt that any such myth/stereotype/misconception/presumption or assumption (relating to women) is perpetuated in society, and you were given the wherewithal to debunk this myth.
Which myth would you choose to dispel and debunk?
The myth that if I act like a bitchy, grumpy, teary cow, and have cravings for chocolate, then I MUST be on The Blobb.
It isn't true. Sometimes I act like a bitchy, grumpy, teary cow with cravings for chocolate just because I am a bitchy, grumpy, teary cow with cravings for chocolate. It really can be that simple.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by perd
What does that have to do with what I wrote?
Whilst it might not be the answer you were looking for, actually, our mood and mental health can have a huge impact on our relationships, how we view people and the world, as well as ourselves and our ability to deal with ourselves and others.
It's no secret that I struggle with depression. When I am feeling particularly poorly, I can only see the negative. I don't trust anybody, and if anybody did ever want a real relationship with me, I feel like it wouldn't be worth their while for various reasons, although I wish it would be.
We often observe others treating partners negatively or spouting off about them. I think this is because we are more likely to be vocal to others about the crap. We miss the secret smiles and joy between couples, because they are busy living it. But when we are low, we also take more notice of the things we find difficult or want to run away crying from. The nicer things don't stand out so much.
I would love to take a risk of sharing my life with somebody, should they exist for me, and whilst I have been burned horribly by somebody, the treasures I can only dream of might actually be reality. I would give everything I had and risk it all for that hope, to experience even a day of joy of being loved and loving back.
In my darker moments, I wish the world away. Trinket had a very relevant point, even if you can't see it.
Gingerbread Lover
I have so many, for so many different reasons, that I shall never be able to pick just one.
However, this is my current favourite, because I find laughter one of the sexiest things ever, and to know I made somebody else laugh is a great thing for me:
"I laughed so hard my butt plug fell out."
However, this is my current favourite, because I find laughter one of the sexiest things ever, and to know I made somebody else laugh is a great thing for me:
"I laughed so hard my butt plug fell out."
Gingerbread Lover
Thank you very much for your replies, everybody. I do truly appreciate them.
I always wrote just because I loved to write. But when I joined Lush, and a vast new world opened up to me, I suddenly realised that I had to not only explore a subject I knew very little about, but I had to think about the reader too.
When I write a piece, it hasn't actually been with the intention of giving somebody Happy Time, but to explore experiences and feelings I haven't had a chance to myself. I've used my writing on Lush to try to understand other people and what makes them tick, with a view to trying to see if that's something I feel comfortable with or can identify with. Lush has been a sharp learning curve, some bitter, and some sweet, as I grow to understand more about people and how sex of various kinds affects our lives.
Obviously, there are a few stories that are all me, and quite a few of my poems, but on the whole, my writing is about things alien to my own life and way of thinking. Maybe the impasse I have reached is about trying to think about how my writing affects the individual reader now, and what they want to read, as opposed to just exploring the world from my own little brain cell, and hoping that people like the result of the exploration.
You've all given me a lot to think about, thank you. I won't be insisting on comments, you've all confirmed what I thought, thank you. I figure if somebody cared enough about it, they would tell me, and I love those of you who do.
And Keoloke, mods have to be entered
into the queue too, and verified by somebody else. You can get to the top of the queue as a Gold member though, just so you know. 
Here are some cookies for those who want them:
I always wrote just because I loved to write. But when I joined Lush, and a vast new world opened up to me, I suddenly realised that I had to not only explore a subject I knew very little about, but I had to think about the reader too.
When I write a piece, it hasn't actually been with the intention of giving somebody Happy Time, but to explore experiences and feelings I haven't had a chance to myself. I've used my writing on Lush to try to understand other people and what makes them tick, with a view to trying to see if that's something I feel comfortable with or can identify with. Lush has been a sharp learning curve, some bitter, and some sweet, as I grow to understand more about people and how sex of various kinds affects our lives.
Obviously, there are a few stories that are all me, and quite a few of my poems, but on the whole, my writing is about things alien to my own life and way of thinking. Maybe the impasse I have reached is about trying to think about how my writing affects the individual reader now, and what they want to read, as opposed to just exploring the world from my own little brain cell, and hoping that people like the result of the exploration.
You've all given me a lot to think about, thank you. I won't be insisting on comments, you've all confirmed what I thought, thank you. I figure if somebody cared enough about it, they would tell me, and I love those of you who do.
And Keoloke, mods have to be entered
into the queue too, and verified by somebody else. You can get to the top of the queue as a Gold member though, just so you know. Here are some cookies for those who want them:
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by overmykneenow
I really don't care about votes but if people want to leave them because they can't think of anything to say, then fine.
I think you're at a stage where you only learn from people who criticise what you do - this isn't an easy place to be. Don't for one moment think that all people read our stuff and them analyse it really closely - maybe you've got a little too (dare I say it)... Lush. Thousands of people visit this every day - not all of them are on your friends list.
I had a conversation with a lush friend this week, who was utterly incredulous that someone had marked a friend of hers with a 4, for what she thought was a sublime piece of erotic fiction. I spent the next 20 minutes ripping apart his frankly slightly above average (in my opinion) piece because that's how i saw it. Would i send him that critique? not at all - I don't know him and neither would I begin to guess how strong/fragile his ego would be.
Learn to live with the fact that "I didn't like it" is an answer in itself and doesn't need any more explanation. Live with it - if you make some people happy with what you do, you don't have to be more needy.
I personally can't understand the whole turning off votes and comments thing. If your stuff is good, people will comment and score - if it's not so good people will score it down. Hiding away from that certainly won't help you.
"I just didn't like it" is fine. It takes a lot for a writer to get me to comment, personally.
I'm not trying to be up myself, I just enjoy writing when I am able, and like a hobby or sport, I want to get better at it. If I produce utter drivel and nobody tells me how to make it better, it's like the terrible auditions on X-Factor (which I love!). Kind-hearted family and friends lie to them, and then they are often humiliated. But they are so brave! I love them for it.
But I think the worst offenders are the mediocre ones. They don't add much, they just fade into the background and are forgotten.
I don't think there's anything wrong or needy about wanting to be better at writing. I'm not asking for the earth, I'm just exploring options.
Thank you for your replies, everybody.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by frogprince
I always comment. I try to leave a reason why or what I found right or wrong. I realize it is the only way we authors are doing a good job that appeals to the audience. Lately I have been getting more comments. The comments are good and in most cases are what I expected. There are people who mark me low and do not leave a comment. If I don't really want to comment which is very rare a forced comment will make me cancel. As you can atest I do make comments. I feel it is very important to leave a comment.
You do indeed, and it is much appreciated. Thank you.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by TheDevilsWeakness
I'm not a fan of it...
I usually comment before I score and it irritates me when I'm prompted to leave a comment when I already have.
Also, sometimes I just don't feel like leaving a comment.
If I score a 5, I usually say why I did.
If I put a 4, it usually means I like it, but not enough to leave a comment.
If I feel the need to score it with a 3... I'd much rather send a PM.
But not everyone's the same...
Thank you.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by seeker4
I'm sometimes in a bit of a hurry so can't really give a good comment, so the forced commenting can be a nuisance, but I also appreciate the prompt, esp. since it offers you a chance to input a comment without going through a whole second process. I answered "Don't mind it".
Thank you very much for your reply.