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and pit nocky!

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hahaha I asked her first

Easy, I'll send you both a PM and see who has the answer that confuddles me least.

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aww dont say sorry! this is the rage cage...this is what its for!

Thank you for replying to me separately.

I really like devilled eggs, and I would have been proper worried you meant me...

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I've noticed that most (myself included) Don't take away the subs ability to interact with people. They can still chat in the chat rooms and talk to whoever they want. Most Master/Mistresses just don't want there subs playing with others (and I'm guessing about everyone else but me here) because they feel should either be given as a reward on special occasion or kept just between the 2 of them. Why some would take away the entire ability to make friends and have innocent fun is beyond me and not something I would ever do but if the Master/Mistress & sub in question are ok with it then I'm not gonna judge.

To share a personal story I'm a switch and back when i was a sub i had a Mistress who wouldn't even let me online unless she was and i hated it. my friends thought I left them and I was not happy. Needless to say she was not my Mistress for very long

Thank you very much for replying. Am I allowed to in here?

When you say "play", do you mean the cyber sex stuff? Sorry for being thick.

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I just have a quick question (after some background)... I know that all of us have different tastes. I don't like stories, for example, unless they are excellent. But even then only if a friend wrote it or an author that doesn't normally write , will I read it. So I would imagine that I wouldn't be a good judge on deciding if an story is worthy of recognition. I don't read them so it would be like asking a vegetarian to tell you which sausage is best.

I know the mods are all intelligent and capable people BUT they are still humans. I find it hard to believe that all the mods are connoisseurs of all the genres... I find it even harder to believe that a group of humans as big as the group of mods wouldn't have any personal gripes with any authors or anyone on here. I mean we are all human. And lush members and mods alike have shown in the past how petty they can be when it comes to just not liking someone for whatever reason.

Not saying this is what goes on but it does seem that the mods tend to get these ribbons more often... Maybe they are mods because their writing stands out and it's only logical that the mods would have the lion's share of the ribbons. BUT to someone that is wondering onto lush it might look a little strange that the mods have a disproportionate amount of ribbons and the fact that the mods are the ones that vote UNANIMOUSLY on these picks might make the EP ribbons appear bogus or not as prestigious as they should be... Just my thoughts. I mean, I'm sure that none of the mods would want to be the one mod that denied another mod a ribbon right? I mean they have to work with these people? Why stir up shit over a ribbon? Makes me feel they would be more inclined to give a YES for a mod.

What I'm getting at is this... I feel that if the mods all have to vote unanimously on a story for it to get a ribbon.. What chance do non-mods have at getting ribbon. Non-mods that have the audacity to state an opinion that not everyone is going to like? If just one person out of so many can just say "NO, didnt like it." An excellent story wont get a ribbon? Because of so many damn variables? So the opinion of every other mod isn't as important as just one mod that maybe skimmed the story, doesn't like the author, doesn't understand the genre etc.? Doesn't seem fair to me.

I would imagine that a 75% vote or something would be more realistic.

This is just my opinion. I'll also be the first one to tell you that this site is private and anyone that doesn't own the site can go suck a dick... But I am serious about what I said above.

With regards to the Honour system, if both writers acknowledge on submission it's shared, how is that naughty? If one wishes to share some readership with one who didn't contribute, surely that is up to them? Or are we talking plagiarism here?



With regards to mods getting ribbons, at least one person I know was not a mod when they co-authored a ribbon-winning story. I am not a mod either.

I do understand what you're saying, Magical, but I also wonder how many of the mods received their ribbons before they became mods. Perhaps a writer worthy of getting a ribbon is also one who has the skills to be a mod or verifier? Maybe it is simply a natural progression for some? I do see what you're saying, but I haven't seen everybody's natural progression through the site.

With regards to reading a story, perhaps some mods are able to put aside personal distaste and literally see, as I do, stories from a technical point of view, rather than the emotions/feelings/thoughts they can provoke in others? It's not ideal, but it is a basic skill. I would presume they do that for stories in categories they struggle with?

I do think that less than 100% agreement is more likely, though, and I would be interested in the response from Admin. However, with so many stories online (how many is it, by the way?), with relation to the amount of EPs there are, maybe that's really what it takes. I find it hard to see it as something achievable, personally, but it can be done, it seems. I once heard the EP described as the "Oscar" of Lush - maybe it really does have to be that hard.




I said "hard."

Oh, and I LOVE pork and apple sausages! But I love Quorn too. Can't I be a meat-eating veggie-lover? I heard there's a few of those on Lush.

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There are indeed "perpetual virgins" but some can be pretty fake. To be directly honest, I don't trust people over 25 or so who are still virgins. There are usually very good reasons for it (religious morality, emotional instability, unreasonable significance accorded, odd personality, etc), none of which appeal to me. What are you "saving yourself" for and why? Virgins aren't very good at sex (no experience!) and I place no value on being "the first". I know some people get that extra thrill at popping a cherry, but to me it matters more whether the partner can please and be pleased without getting hung up on guilt trips, getting overly-emotional because they just opened their hymen, or getting "weird" because it's their "first time and so meaningful".

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Alright... I've deduced Guest is Gav!

I saw Guest lurking around the Gold Lounge...
Guest can't be a lurker that hasn't joined the site since you need to be a Gold Member to be in there!

Tsk, tsk, tsk Gav... I SAW YOU!

It's cos I found out what he likes to do in his spare time!




I don't care who you appear as, Gav! I'm still calling you Fred!

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I would have never noticed that in million years, though I've been told I had a problem with tenses...or maybe I've been having a problem with tenses in the past...or maybe I will still be having a problem with tenses...

Not really sure...this whole situation is making me tense...

Maybe your batteries have needed replacing for a while.

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Good point Shylass, but the bit that frightens me is in red,"my parents barely let me do anything let alone have a girlfriend..." Dude, what are they going to do to you if they find out you are a member of Lush !

I wasn't allowed to watch Top of the Pops, go to discos, and stay out late at the weekends. I wasn't allowed my hair (on my head) trimmed until I was 15, or my ears pierced until I was 16. I didn't have my first pint until I was 18 (and that was FUN!). My brothers were allowed out, and went. But me? No.

You can't pick your parents unless you are rich, divorce them and get pretendy new ones. Their house, their rules. Some people have a huge inner battle against the way they were brought up, whilst others were glad about the way they were brought up. For those who fight against it, either guilt and trained habits die hard, or they go right off the rails and don't give a toss. It's just a different lifestyle or culture, and finally exploring and enjoying new found freedom and independence, if one is able.

Great Neptune, if I ever got discovered on here by family, there would be all of God and Satan to pay for eternity a billion times over, and I'm 35 with only one parent left in the world! Let the poor lad enjoy his Lushlife, I say!

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Seriously, that is the one thing that makes me physically cringe grammar-wise in speech. Everyfink else I ain't even bovverred about, but that...

I LOVE you for changing it, Clum, thank you. Mazza, please be inpressed I have not pointed it out to you before, I was trying really, really hard. Innit.

*EDIT* Remember, Clum: You can't be perfect, or you would make the rest of us feel inferior.

Clum, just to make you feel better, I made a spelling mistake (not on purpose), and I can't believe nobody else noticed it!

DLizze, come to think of it, I would also be very likely to say "its batteries need replacing". However, I was using the tense Clum used. And now I'm getting all confuddled, and I have to look up gerund, and I never knew that about the Extra Space. No wonder it always looked weird to me when I wrote it without! Ta for that!

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Now i'm 19 and still a virgin and i'll admit i've never kissed a girl. Why is this so looked down upon by most people? It's not my fault that my parents barely let me do anything let alone have a girlfriend or go out and meet girls. Just wanting your opinion on this. Thanks. Oh and please don't even try to Flame me or make fun of me it gets really old. :l And yes i've had girlfriends before i've just never done anything.

Am I the only who thinks this is slightly off-topic? I am interested in the answers to the question in bold, personally.

My answer is that I think it's looked down on by most people for a few reasons. Mostly, because they are either narrow-minded or judgemental. And the reasons for that are because they cannot believe some people have self-control, some people cannot understand a different lifestyle or culture, and some people cannot understand that not everybody has the same opportunities in life as them.

It used to be the case that people frowned on sex before marriage. Now people are frowned on for not shagging every available body. One day, I would love to see a world with people who say, "You're a virgin? And...?" or, "You sleep around? And...?" Why does it even come into equation? Why does it have to be a deal? Because people are involved.

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Example

"It's this old back massager; I think its batteries need replaced."

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I would totally have put an exclamation mark after the title. "English is a crazy language!"

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That's probably true for most. I'm thinking about taking away the option to vote on my stories. The score can tell something other than satisfaction level with the writing quality and doesn't address the path to improvement.

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I love this thread...

Maybe we should re-name it The Shylass Rage Cage

Sorry.

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Thanks for the comments. especially from Shylass. I hadn't considered the possibility that so many of the views could be from guests, but still, it seems that with views of most of my stories in the high hundreds and sometimes over a thousand, a lack of readership isn't the issue, but a lack of inspiring feedback is. I'm not soliciting feedback, I'm just trying to understand what the lack of it means. I don't want to pull feedback by means other than inspiring those who view my stories to say something. When I read, I'm generally not good at giving direct feedback, because I often read the stories while I'm not online because of privacy issues. But then I don't go back and follow through with a vote or a comment. I follow favorite authors instead and as long as I'm following them, that means they're keeping my interest.

But maybe I'm getting a relevant message. So far, I'm getting responses from authors and not from those who are exclusively readers. Maybe there are just so many readers who are very passive and don't even comment in this forum.

The other possibility is that people like your stories so much that they have intense Happy Time, and are so exhausted afterwards that they have lost all ability to type?

*EDIT* You may find that authors respond because they have more detailed opinions and know the value of comments and responses, whereas some (but not all) readers like to read-and-go.

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Now i'm 19 and still a virgin and i'll admit i've never kissed a girl. Why is this so looked down upon by most people? It's not my fault that my parents barely let me do anything let alone have a girlfriend or go out and meet girls. Just wanting your opinion on this. Thanks. Oh and please don't even try to Flame me or make fun of me it gets really old. :l And yes i've had girlfriends before i've just never done anything.

You may or may not be interested in this thread I started: http://www.lushstories.com/forum/yaf_postst21610_Is-It-So-Hard-To-Believe.aspx

It's kind of asking the same thing, but in a different way.

As you have seen, a lot of people automatically make assumptions about you based on one snapshot, a few sentences, a tiny little glimmer of your life. They have no way of knowing YOU or what YOU have to offer. We do not all think or act like everybody else on the forums - all you see is one tiny sampling of the people on here.

Parents do have a huge effect on our lives, whether they have been part of it or not. And yes, our appearance means a LOT to others. I have learned in the forums, that the people who matter don't care how I look. But the majority of people on here do. That's why I don't have my photo on here. It isn't just because I don't want to be recognised. I know all about my looks, and what other people think about them, and what THEY think I ought to do about it.

But as far as I am concerned, a person who gets to know me has two choices. They can love the way that I am, the person that I am, and the character that they get to know, or they can decide they don't want to know me because of how I look. If it is the latter, they can sod off. I don't want people like that in my life anyway.

I am 35. I never had a boyfriend (and all the gorgeous, attractive, many-partnered people know why that is, or so they think). I once heard it said that ugly people always say it's what's inside that counts because it makes them feel better.

And I can honestly say I would rather be with a person the world considers ugly on the outside, but beautiful on the inside, because it is the inside that you communicate with. Gorgeous and judgemental people will say that's because it's all I can get, and in a way, it's true. But I would rather be with a person who is my Shrek, because Shrek is a hero to his Fiona, and whilst he is not perfect, he Loves despite appearances, and even better, Loves because of them. he sees a person as a Whole, not in bits. An ugly face is beautiful to me because I view it differently to the world. To me, it's just a shell that houses the person I am communicating with.

Yes, there are certain things we should do, like look after ourselves, etc, but they are only things people have to do to be healthy.

You are now making your way in the Big Wide World, as we all do at some point, and I understand about issues with being in social settings and even going out of my bedroom on some days. I didn't even have my first kiss until I was 32! Without wishing to be patronising, you have a lot of growing time, and things you will have to experience. You also have a LOT of people to meet!

You will meet many people in life, and now is the time where you can explore the man you are becoming. Do not allow yourself to be battered down by the cruel and criticising comments of people who don't know you. Instead, note down the kind things people say to you (I write mine down in a notebook, and whilst I don't believe them, it helps a bit). Then when people criticise, you can hold the two things together, and find the balance between them. But don't let others' views of you shape you as a man. Let them merely smooth off rough edges or toughen up the more delicate parts of you. Explore what you think about the world and people in general, and go with what your conscience tells you. Learn to use the intelligent part of your brain to help lead the emotional part of your heart, so that the two make you more intuitive and discerning.

My best advice to you is to hold some things in your heart, get to know people in your own time, hope you don't meet judgemental people, learn to recognise people for both their good and bad, and do as I am trying to do - Hope for the Best. Because for some people, the Best arrives. And I sincerely hope it arrives for you. Life has yet to happen for you, you are only just on the beginning of your path. You will learn that some people think your path should look like theirs. That's crap. Your path looks like yours, and you are only just starting to travel down it. Use your own map, and let them use theirs. If you travel alongside others as you go, brilliant! But make sure you only follow where you wish to go, not the way they think you ought to.


Good luck!



PS Sorry for waflling!