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Shylass
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female
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Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Magical_felix
I think there should be a common sense test that new members take as part of the sign up process... Nothing crazy, 20 questions or so. If they miss more than 5, no forum privileges. Its a fair system...
I would LOVE to see your example questions...
I see words, but... 
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Gfire
I am totaly suprised by these answers. I love it!!! Of course I am in a lesbian relationship so that probably tints my opinion. But I loved it when I was dating guys too so I have a hard time understanding why any women would not love the feel of soft lips down there just trying thier best to make her happy. Color me confused.
Some things can't be explained for some reasons:
Quote by littlemissbitch
i dunno speaks of deeper issues to me maybe..
I do think the lass has given a good enough answer, though - she feels uncomfortable (Number 1 in thecore's list). For a lot of people, those reasons to do with anal sex would be an, "Okay, fair enough". I don't see why that doesn't apply here too. We don't have to always fully understand a reason for it to be a valid reason, in my opinion. I think it's awesome others enjoy it, but she clearly doesn't.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by thecore
Do any you you refuse cunnilingus or know any women that do?
My wife does, citing two reasons:
1. She just doesn't feel like it is a sexy part of her body. She feels like it smells bad, etc. even right after showering and even though I tell her that being down there really turns me on and is pleasurable.
2. She wants to get straight to sex after foreplay, because, she says, it feels way better than oral has or could ever make her feel.
I've talked to her about it many times, because I really do love to do it. I know I'm not horrible at it either, since I did it with other women before marriage and received good feedback. Could I do better, sure, as could anyone with a bit more practice.
I have no problem bringing her to orgasm in other ways, but sometimes this really bothers me.
Absolutely, I never, ever, ever want it, thank you. I don't want to say my reasons, and whilst it's really sad that she doesn't want what you would like to do for her, and find it such a turn-on for you, maybe she just really, really doesn't want it? Is that so wrong to not want a particular thing? She may not want to share her real reasons, or she may have done so already, as you have listed. But whichever it is, she doesn't want it, and in my opinion, it would be kindest of you to accept it, sad as it may be for you.
Gingerbread Lover
Oh Winkyyyyyyyyyyy! You don't know me but I've seen you posting before and you make me think of Tigger who is completely bonkers (but in a good way). And who does Tigger hang out with? Pooh (a fat little munter obsessed with where his next sugar rush is coming from), Piglet (the faithful but slightly annoying sidekick), Eeyore (the Gloomy Gloomster), Rabbit (who reckons he's a bit cleverer than the others), Owl (who gives his opinion without being asked), Roo & Kanga (who display the "not now dear" and "But I wanna" characteristics of parents trying to control their dizzy kids), and Christopher Robin, who wades in when eveybody else has got into a pickle and got... uh... pickled.
I have no idea with where I'm going with this, but if you can identify with Tigger, even he needs to recharge his batteries sometimes, and his mates can get a bit same-old, same-old.
When I get fed up of the fishing forums (and you have noooo idea how ,uch fishermen can act like a bunch of bratty teenage girls bitching in the playground), I just wander off, and do my own thing for a bit. Maybe I go fishing and write a stupid catch report with gingerbread men pictures in it just to annoy them... Maybe I go out for a walk... Maybe I read an actual book for a bit... Maybe I simply can't be bovverred to read the forums for a bit and just message friends. But to sum all that up, I do something different for a bit until I feel the lure of the life again.
I do hope you have enjoyed the thread so far - I know I have - and find fun here again (when you're ready).
I have no idea with where I'm going with this, but if you can identify with Tigger, even he needs to recharge his batteries sometimes, and his mates can get a bit same-old, same-old.
When I get fed up of the fishing forums (and you have noooo idea how ,uch fishermen can act like a bunch of bratty teenage girls bitching in the playground), I just wander off, and do my own thing for a bit. Maybe I go fishing and write a stupid catch report with gingerbread men pictures in it just to annoy them... Maybe I go out for a walk... Maybe I read an actual book for a bit... Maybe I simply can't be bovverred to read the forums for a bit and just message friends. But to sum all that up, I do something different for a bit until I feel the lure of the life again.
I do hope you have enjoyed the thread so far - I know I have - and find fun here again (when you're ready).
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by gianna99
i've no clue....
Do you mean profile/album pictures? Personas that are completely different to the real person who has created it? Those weirdy mannequin sex dolls some people like to have as their life partner with their own account (sorry if the word "weirdy" annoys anybody but they proper wig me out, okay?)?
And most importantly, does it matter? I can see how it would, and how it wouldn't. But I mean, fudge, I'm still struggling with "How do we know dinosaurs existed and God doesn't; what if He/She/It does and just planted the bones to confuse us?"
So trying to guess what "fake" means in this thread, let alone who actually is fake, is a bit beyond me right now, sorry. 
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Magical_felix
From my experience this is not a simple answer and is entirely a case by case thing. No girl will ever think "oh okay he writes porn stories on some fucked up sexy mybook dot com type shit... That's kinda cool, not really my thing but its cool I guess. Just a hobby." Then move along to talking about her favorite fucking sushi roll or some bitch at work who is hating on her or whatever. They will either think it's fucking awesome if they read it and like it and ask you to read their writing. OR they will read it and be like, "oh, that's something hehe" And be creeped for a bit.
So I would say that the right time would be when you are close enough to your partner that farting and pissing in front of them, if it is necessary due to unforeseen circumstances, has become something that can be done without batting an eye by either person. This is the type of closeness that transcends freaky fuck stories. So under those circumstances, the partner will think it cool and want to read it or think it dumb and just kinda think it's whatever. I will also say that whenever people have found out it has been because I leave lush open on my computer sometimes and I have been caught... I would probably never tell a girl about writing erotica unless they confessed they did or wanted to or they openly watched porn and loved it or were just twisted enough from my observations that they would like that. But mostly, I think It seems dorky or perverted to people that do not understand it or have read it before.
I agree with clum that erotica does not spice up a sex life. Not for me anyway. So do not mention it for these reasons.
Also, one more thing. Relationships are like chess not checkers. If you have been with a woman for a long time, I would call a long time a year or more. So say you started writing two months into your relationship and you have now been writing for about 10 months or so and you decide to tell her because she's a perv and she'll like it and she does when she reads it and she's like, "OMG you have a hidden talent I want to fuck.. now.. and you know where I want it." And you have a good night, week, month... But then she realizes that you could keep a big secret like fucking writing stories, decent ones, from her for a long time, what else have you kept secret? Then that seed of mistrust is planted. That can happen too. This is a complex thing and the more I think about it the more I think it should remain a secret under any circumstance really.
There is sooooo much I could reply, but I can encapsulate it all in this:
Thank you for your replies, everybody.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Mazza
it took me a while to work out which was which too - then one day, my lush was running all slow and when I was mucking about with activity feed it refreshed all funny and I could see which feeds were showing and which were not...
What Fugs says is correct - the dark gray parts are the ones which ARE selected - the blue text shows that it is NOT selected (does that make sense?)
Totally regretting posting now!! hahahahah
I really appreciate that - I read Fugs' post too many times and got all confuddled again.
Quote by WellMadeMale
I nominate Mazza as Gav's 2nd in command - for when he must vacation or otherwise enjoy a life beyond Lush.
I mean, if Gav has a life beyond Lush.
He's so invisible and undetectable I cannot decipher.
I bet he's watching you...
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Fugs
Hello Shylass
If you wish to hide your 'Add a friend' in your activity list, it needs to be highlighted in grey as in your picture example - so the answer is not.
In your picture it shows that everyone will be able to see when you score a story and when you comment on a story and no one will be able to see what you do, as everything else is set to hide.
Gingerbread Lover
Quote by Pixie
If you hide it, no one can see it. So it sounds like you need to mark the show box.
Yes, but I am confused as to whether it is grey or blue that is the set one. Which one is marked? The one I last clicked which then shows grey, or the one I didn't click, which shows white and blue?
Based on this picture, can people see when I add a friend, or not?
Gingerbread Lover
I'm still trying to work out how I score the stories I read.
Is it based on the writer's ability to put me into the situation? Do poor grammar/comprehension/annoying writing styles bring it down one or two points? Is it a good use of descriptive words, or the ability to shape their characters so I can "see" them in my head? Is it purely a scientific launch into, "and this is what they did when they shagged"? Sometimes I think a story is a bit crap, but the writer has obviously spent time and effort into it, for which I mark them higher. Sometimes the story is wonderful, but characters or certain words used make me cringe and I struggle to read it, for which I have to find some kind of balance in my scoring.
I also try to leave a comment to explain, without being too critical or gushing. Sometimes I simply score because I cannot put it into words. I don't mark down for the category it is in, I try to avoid those altogether.
How do you mark stories you score? What do you take into account or dismiss? What makes you mark lower or higher?
Is it based on the writer's ability to put me into the situation? Do poor grammar/comprehension/annoying writing styles bring it down one or two points? Is it a good use of descriptive words, or the ability to shape their characters so I can "see" them in my head? Is it purely a scientific launch into, "and this is what they did when they shagged"? Sometimes I think a story is a bit crap, but the writer has obviously spent time and effort into it, for which I mark them higher. Sometimes the story is wonderful, but characters or certain words used make me cringe and I struggle to read it, for which I have to find some kind of balance in my scoring.
I also try to leave a comment to explain, without being too critical or gushing. Sometimes I simply score because I cannot put it into words. I don't mark down for the category it is in, I try to avoid those altogether.
How do you mark stories you score? What do you take into account or dismiss? What makes you mark lower or higher?
Gingerbread Lover
I've been thinking (I do that sometimes).
For many of you, Lush and sex and porn are not a big deal. For maybe a few, it is.
And I was thinking, is there ever a right time, or even a need, to "confess" to being on Lush and writing stories - particularly if some of those stories are real life memories?
If I met somebody and had a relationship with them, I would want to know if they wrote (stories) on here, because it is obviously intrinsic to who they are. But likewise I would be terrified that they would use their experience with me as material (good or bad). Generally "looking at porn", is something normal a lot of people do, I believe, so I doubt I would be as bothered by that unless they needed it all the time.
Sharing that I write on here would be a massive, vulnerable step for me, because I have been more honest about my inner self in my writings than I ever have in real life. Plus, with the memories I have written down, whilst I am fine to share them with an unknown world of people (that wonderful anonymity!), I am not comfortable with the thought of telling a real-life partner, "Okay, so I write stories about sex, and here's everything I've done sexually; read that!" Of course, I wouldn't need to give them a link, but if they asked, I would be incredibly uncomfortable not to, balanced with the awkwardness of giving in.
So what are your thoughts on sharing your Lush life, if you have any? I would be very interested to know, please.
Ta muchly.
For many of you, Lush and sex and porn are not a big deal. For maybe a few, it is.
And I was thinking, is there ever a right time, or even a need, to "confess" to being on Lush and writing stories - particularly if some of those stories are real life memories?
If I met somebody and had a relationship with them, I would want to know if they wrote (stories) on here, because it is obviously intrinsic to who they are. But likewise I would be terrified that they would use their experience with me as material (good or bad). Generally "looking at porn", is something normal a lot of people do, I believe, so I doubt I would be as bothered by that unless they needed it all the time.
Sharing that I write on here would be a massive, vulnerable step for me, because I have been more honest about my inner self in my writings than I ever have in real life. Plus, with the memories I have written down, whilst I am fine to share them with an unknown world of people (that wonderful anonymity!), I am not comfortable with the thought of telling a real-life partner, "Okay, so I write stories about sex, and here's everything I've done sexually; read that!" Of course, I wouldn't need to give them a link, but if they asked, I would be incredibly uncomfortable not to, balanced with the awkwardness of giving in.
So what are your thoughts on sharing your Lush life, if you have any? I would be very interested to know, please.
Ta muchly.
Gingerbread Lover
I be confused!
If, for instance, I want people to see when I add a friend, do I make sure the "Show" box is coloured grey, or the "Hide" box? I'm going bonkers trying to work it out!
If you can and will help me, I will love you forever. From a distance, if that's what you prefer. But somebody, pleeeeease help!
If, for instance, I want people to see when I add a friend, do I make sure the "Show" box is coloured grey, or the "Hide" box? I'm going bonkers trying to work it out!
If you can and will help me, I will love you forever. From a distance, if that's what you prefer. But somebody, pleeeeease help!
Gingerbread Lover
No, I absolutely freak when people try and start it with me. It's not at all what I am comfortable with or wanting. Quite often people start off by asking me questions which I am happy to answer, and then suddenly there is a point where I realise things are not a simple question-answer session and I am panicking because it is clear they were leading me furtively into something else.
I wish people would read my profile before chatting with me without me having to put things at the top like, "NO CYBERING - BOG OFF IF YOU WANT TO CYBER". Some of them see me as a "challenge", trying to "teach" me how to be comfortable with it. It's one of the main reasons why I hardly ever appear as "online".
I wish people would read my profile before chatting with me without me having to put things at the top like, "NO CYBERING - BOG OFF IF YOU WANT TO CYBER". Some of them see me as a "challenge", trying to "teach" me how to be comfortable with it. It's one of the main reasons why I hardly ever appear as "online".
Gingerbread Lover
The closest I got to getting horny whilst sitting on a container of sorts was whilst I was sitting on a seatbox staring at a very sexy fisherman who was offering me chocolate. But he didn't have a duffle bag. He did have a duffle coat, but he wasn't wearing it at the time.
Gingerbread Lover
I don't shave my thighs because I can't actually see or feel any hair on them. Like someone else has said, I'm naturally blond (albeit dark blond) and have hardly any hair in certain places, so I just do armpits and lower legs, and trim y'know.
Now I'm paranoid about having hairy thighs but not realising it.
Now I'm paranoid about having hairy thighs but not realising it.
Gingerbread Lover
Normally I get the one idea, mull it over to get my setting for a day or so, and then sit and just write it in two or more hours.
At the moment, though, my creativity fell out somewhere and I am partway through writing one story with one sapling and one seedling growing stronger. I just can't motivate myself to write, I have to wait for the mood to strike. It will annoy me if I go on to one of the others before I have finished that last one.
At the moment, though, my creativity fell out somewhere and I am partway through writing one story with one sapling and one seedling growing stronger. I just can't motivate myself to write, I have to wait for the mood to strike. It will annoy me if I go on to one of the others before I have finished that last one.
Gingerbread Lover
Absolutely! The feedback I have had from my stories and posts etc on here has led to me posting a picture that is on here, but lost in albums on Facebook. It has now been re-posted in honour of National Cleavage Week, and recieved many heartfelt thanks. The fact that people here have made it a point to encourage me and value what I have to offer (not actually physically, but in general), has made me think outside my own gloomy little world a little, and I am beginning to come out of my indrawn shell somewhat, just because I started off by posting a story that people were so kind about. It's made me feel normal.
Obviously it would take a whole lot more to have direct effect on my real life in how I act and react to real live people, but I am already thinking more postively in my own way on my own, and... enjoying it!
The fact that people here have made it a point to encourage me and value what I have to offer (not actually physically, but in general), has made me think outside my own gloomy little world a little, and I am beginning to come out of my indrawn shell somewhat, just because I started off by posting a story that people were so kind about. It's made me feel normal.Obviously it would take a whole lot more to have direct effect on my real life in how I act and react to real live people, but I am already thinking more postively in my own way on my own, and... enjoying it!