Yes, back in the mid-2000s, so just missed out on the wonders of smart phone apps by had alot of fun anyway. I've published a whole series of stories about my experiences, but here's some things I learnt regarding safety, fun casual meetings, and meetings with a more romantic intent.
Safety:
• Always meet in a busy public place like a train station, at least the first time (I always did this)
• Tell someone you know and trust where you're going etc. and have done way of checking in. You don't have to tell them the details, day is to buy something if you don't want to say it's a date or whatever (I never did this - I was lucky and had no problems)
• Don't be ashamed to back out if you feel uncomfortable
• Remember that just because you (or those you're meeting) discussed something in chats or your profile, doesn't mean you have consented to that forever - you can change your mind
Casual fuck meets:
• As a single guy, I found it was easiest to meet with guys (single or couples), then couples with a bi guy, then hetero couples, then single women. So naturally, most of my advice is based on meeting guys.
• Unless you are just meeting guys, don't send cock pics unless asked, don't offer to send cock pics, and don't have then prominently on your profile. If you are just after guys though, go ahead, sometimes a nice cock was all I needed to want to meet someone.
• Don't lie. It's annoying, apart from anything else.
• Exchange more than a couple of lines before arranging to meet. It makes it less awkward.
• There can be exceptions, but generally don't start conversations with your must complex, niche fetish fantasy. Sure, you want to dress as a school girl, be spanked, fisted and your elbows sucked (I'm sure someone does) but unless their profile puts those high up the list, maybe keep that suggestion for after you've met a couple of times - it's actually more likely to be realised then.
• Have a drink when you first meet, but guard it and don't get drunk.
• Respect boundaries set by people. A few couples with bi guys mentioned that quite a few guys they meet with claiming to be bi just seemed to be interested in the woman, even though they'd days she would just be watching...
• Don't be too picky on physical appearance and age - I started off trying to only met with young guys my age, but of course we were all as reluctant to host as each other. Once I accepted slightly older guys it was much easier. And when I accepted an advance from a much older couple (30 years older), it led to a really hot meeting that totally changed my attitude. If your not sure, have a few wanks thinking about them, and the prospect might grow in you.
• If you a guy trying to meet with women, don't act offended when they don't respond, say no thanks, or back out. They get inundated with requests, they can't respond to everyone even if they to. You might be being rude without meaning to. Also there's the misogynist violence is sadly still very present in society, so many are understandably weary. If you also may with guys you might want a separate profile - not too hide your sexuality, but because we generally seem to look for different things.
Meeting for romance:
I didn't have any luck with this, but then I didn't try very hard. I did make a couple of penpals, which was nice. I also made quite a few friends through political sites, and one very good friend that came very close to being romantic via a band fan site. Based on that I'd say you're more likely to find romance through a special interest site or Facebook group than a dating website, but people are different, so...
Yes, enthusiastically, and have done so back in my single days...
Taking "wife" to mean longterm partner of the opposite gender, yes, she knows. She knew before we got together due to one of those silly "I never ever" drinking games, so obviously she's OK with it. She likes me to tell her stories of being with guys, and I've shown her assume photos of what I got to before we met... Before her I slept with far more guys than women, and tended to be bottom, so it wasn't a phase or anything.
But, we don't have an open relationship. We talked about the possibility of my meeting guys early on in our relationship, and she said she was fine with it, but I got the impression she wasn't too keen, so I didn't push it. Then we started talking about having kids, so didn't want to risk getting anything that might affect fertility. Now we have kids, so there's barely the due us to have sex, let alone arrange meeting guys.
Maybe when the kids are a bit older we might revisit the possibility. To be honest, even if I never have sex with a guy again, I'm fine with that. I miss it, obviously, strap-on dildos are fine, and cunnilingus after cumming inside her is hot, but there's nothing quite like a real cock in your arse or receiving a mouthful of someone else's cum, but it's just sex, not worth souring the rest of our relationship for. I mean, I have a thing for women with dark brown skin, but it would be a bit out of order to insist on being allowed to sleep with them as a condition of our relationship, I don't see my lube for cock as that much different.
Yes. I'm bi but our relationship is closed so it's the closest I get to the real thing now. We don't use it very often at the moment (we have young kids...). It's different from the real thing, I won't say better or worse, just different. OK, the real thing feel better if done right, but I never had the level of emotional attraction with a guy, just the physical attraction.
For those wanting to try it, or tried it but not had much luck:
The first one we tried was a set in the Vac-U-Lock series, that included the leather harness, two plugs for the wearer and a probe dildo to fit on to the back. The harness was a bit fiddly to get on the first time, but OK. The attachments for her we not great, and awkward to space to be comfortable and insert without the bit that goes in the back touching the on that goes in the front, if you see what I mean. The dildo for me I found too pointy and not thick enough, but that's personal preference. The base also dug into my partner a bit uncomfortably. A bit of extra padding stuffed between it and her skin helped, but still, I don't think I would recommend the system for strap ons.
The other accessories do help make the dildos more versatile though, e.g. handles, suction cups, turning two into one double ended etc. The quality of the attachments varies - the pink jelly one it came with went weird and oily after only a year or so. The UR3 "realistic" one, whilst it felt great, soon got a very strong chemical smell, so I threw all those out. They have since introduced some silicone ones, which I've replaced them with, they seem good. The smooth purple one is probably good if you are turned off my cocks, and feels pretty good even if you aren't. The realistic ones aren't bad, though obviously the texture isn't exactly perfect.
What we have bought but have yet to try together is a Feeldoe (well, the Realdoe version). She's meant to be able to hold it in just with her internal muscles - we'll see, some modified undies might help if not. There are also some more expensive and fancy looking harnesses around now that let you use any dildo with a flat base - I recommend looking at sex toy blog reviews to find out the best available at the moment. We may try them at some point, once the kids are old enough for us to arrange time without them...
Nadia Nyce. She didn't make a whole lot of movies, but wow! Not many other porn stars from an Indian-Mancunian background, at least that I'm aware of. And she really seemed to love it, so either a good a actor or very sexually confident.
Yes, although I hate the term. Happy to lick her clean for the next guy, too... Not had that many times, but it was always hot.
I love it. Before and after penetrative sex. A very intimate kiss. I don't get why you wouldn't, if you like humans with vaginas at least.
I do, but haven't had much of a chance since we had kids. It's purely an erotic thing for me, rather than feeling that I am a woman. Apart from the difficulty of finding time for the actual dressing up, I'm hairy and not too keen on how I look when hairy and dressing up, but there's even less time to go and get waxed and do all the after care. I did it once, way too much hassle, at least with kids, I don't know how women put up with it! I would shave, but after a few hours there's enough stubble for it to feel unpleasant for my partner. Now I do have some women's pyjamas I wear, but that's more because it's hard finding cool, short shorts for pyjamas for men, rather than specifically for crossdressing, and they're comfortable.
Before that though, I did dress up quite a bit, both with my partner, with previous partners (of various gender) and alone. I liked costumes, like French maid, nurse, those cute Japanese sailor school uniforms, and also figure-hugging dresses. I have all those still, so once the kids are a bit older and we have time... I like lingerie, though mainly as part of an outfit to be slowly undressed to, and I prefer there to be enough room in them that I don't bulge out in a comical fashion.
Playing with other guys crossdressing was fun before I met my partner, and she looks hot in guy clothes, so, yes, I definitely like cross dressing.
My entry is called "The Mercy of Schoolgirls", but despite being a member of Lush for over a decade, I haven't frequented the forums enough to get the link posting privilege either. Should be easy to find, I hope it's as fun to read as it was to write.
It's my first ever entry in a competition, and my first published story in almost ten years. I've read a handful of the other entries, and all I can say is, good job I'm not competitive! Good luck everyone!
I'm a big fan of spankwire for homemade/amateur stuff, though recently on my phone I've been using xvideos and xhamster for other stuff, especially more, er, specific searches. Naturally lush beats them all if you want to read, but even better is watching my partner...
Love it too, especially for getting warmed for round 2... And that with any gender ;)
yep, done all of them and would again. er, only if they wanted it though...
i go for sheer lacy panties as a rule, though thongs are good too, as are any panties that feel nice on her when my wandering hands reach them... i get off on feeling the. get wet, reaching inside them and peeling them off. the occasional surprise of no panties can be good too though!
i think i did actually manage a couple of times as a teenager after lots of practice walking my feet down a wall above my head. only the tip though... and it may just have been a dream! if it was much easier then i probably would at least as often as i masturbate as i really miss sucking cock since being with my gf of 5 years! but like everyone else i'd rather it was her or more generally another person. and from the sucking point of view i'd rather suck someone elses - sharing is always better.
i agree with those saying enthusiasm is the key for a good blowjob - eye contact, moans and other sounds, and even just a nice genuine smile when you pause for breath are all huge turn ons. as is the giver getting off themselves, whether from touching themselves or the from the receiver's own efforts - which is why i don't agree with the person who doesn't like 69s. i find the sharing of pleasure more than makes up for any problems of angle.
it is all personal though, so asking what your partner likes is important- if they're shy about sharing, don't put too much pressure on them, maybe try something and ask teasing if they like it- most guys will open up about what the like once there are lips on their cock!
so the following are techniques i enjoy being done to me during a blowjob, i others may not:
changes of speed, so fast hard sucking for a bit then slow and light, letting me calm done, drawing it on. generally the longer i'm held at the pre-orgasm point the more powerful the orgasm when it comes
careful tongue work all over the head but also shaft
very very gentle nibbling of the shaft and even the tip if no skin is pinched, it's a trust thing
gentle cupping and squeezing of the balls with the hands
massaging the shaft with hands whilst sucking the tip - some above seem against this but as long as it'not the entire bj i love it
massaging betweeen the balls and the anus is usually fine with most guys and stimulates the prostate, but i'm more than happy to go the whole way if their nails aren't too long and have a finger of two pushed inside me. the point is not to push in and out but to curl your fingers back towards you and stroke his prostate. don't spring it on him un announced, but if he lets you the orgasm from that combined with a blowjob is about as powerful and long as it gets - i recommend he be sitting or lying as my legs normally turn to jelly!
i also like my hands to be tied so they have total control to tease me and i can't give in to the temptation to hold them sucking til i cum!
hope that helps!
