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TheScheherezadeFeint
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female
United States
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I would take her to dinner, and then an erotic poetry reading. Then we'd see how the evening was going...
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Well said, AprilDawn. I agree entirely. It really does depend, but I do it when it's necessary.
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I've experienced this as well. A user once used some very... impolite terms for... people like me in reference to the question I posted as a comment. I removed it to avoid causing a fuss, but anymore, I almost wish I had stood up to them, just because it didn't make me feel good to have my ability to speak my mind abridged. Of course it wasn't, and I was the one who backed down, simply because I had never stepped up. That said, it's annoying, but some people are just assholes, and Lush has a few of them. Most of them get filtered out by people realizing it, but others are pretty much on the DL.
I think the closest I ever came to challenging a score on one of my stories was by responding to it myself in another comment above it. The user was polite enough to send me another message, and we discussed most amiably, I should say. I mention this because I suspect it's the furthest anybody should really go in terms of trying to find out more about a specific reader's opinion if anybody was wondering about the other side of this. It's certainly where I've chosen to draw the line, but it's also just my opinion.
I think the closest I ever came to challenging a score on one of my stories was by responding to it myself in another comment above it. The user was polite enough to send me another message, and we discussed most amiably, I should say. I mention this because I suspect it's the furthest anybody should really go in terms of trying to find out more about a specific reader's opinion if anybody was wondering about the other side of this. It's certainly where I've chosen to draw the line, but it's also just my opinion.
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Taste depends so much on the man, and what he's been eating lately, and that's the biggest deciding factor.
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If he was wearing a condom, and he's removed it, sure. Otherwise, ick. There are certain things that just don't appeal to me, and that's one of them.
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No, not usually. Sometimes when I'm drunk I get an overwhelming, often irresistible urge to pee in sinks, though. I've always thought that was strange.
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I disagree with the general consensus here. I do not feel that it's presumptuous. At least not necessarily. I've bought toys as gifts for my partners over the years, and received them, and in my experience, it's a great gift. There's an appropriate time and inappropriate time to give them that gift of course, but if the toy fits their needs, it's amazing. I guess I wouldn't get her one if it was not your intent to use it with her. I could see it being insulting if you got her a masturbatory aid, but it wasn't a part of your partnered sex life.
The only piece of advice I would give to anybody looking to pursue this gift idea is simply that you have to be more than intimately familiar with what turns her on before you can get the amazing reactions you're after. Sometimes it's hard across the gender (sex) gap, since you don't have the same anatomy to feel. Even so, all women are different, so even for a same sex couple like my partner and myself, it can be tricky to get it right. Questions are good. Subtlety is not impossible to maintain if you want it to be a surprise, but you need to figure out what kind of toy would best do it for her. She may also not know. It kind of sounds like toys are not exactly her thing, or that she maybe doesn't have a lot of experience with them. For now, feel good that she likes it at all.
The only piece of advice I would give to anybody looking to pursue this gift idea is simply that you have to be more than intimately familiar with what turns her on before you can get the amazing reactions you're after. Sometimes it's hard across the gender (sex) gap, since you don't have the same anatomy to feel. Even so, all women are different, so even for a same sex couple like my partner and myself, it can be tricky to get it right. Questions are good. Subtlety is not impossible to maintain if you want it to be a surprise, but you need to figure out what kind of toy would best do it for her. She may also not know. It kind of sounds like toys are not exactly her thing, or that she maybe doesn't have a lot of experience with them. For now, feel good that she likes it at all.
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Cum, but not until after she does.
Meeting a stranger at a concert and slipping away together between sets?
Meeting a stranger at a concert and slipping away together between sets?
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My advice would be to do directly. Politely, and be understanding. He may not have any idea, especially if he's young. It's also possible he's a jerk, but I'm not in the mood to assume that everybody's a total wanker today, so I'll advise you assuming that he's not. He may also not know very much about your anatomy and how to stimulate it. Let him know that he can ask questions, and you shouldn't be embarrassed about answering them. Show him what you like and what you want. Also, point out some things that really don't work for you, so that he knows you have boundaries, and what they are, and that he didn't cause you to wince or squirm away because he's bad at something. Also beware, he will probably not be very good at doing the things you want at first, and there will be some that he's not into, at least at first. Make the learning experience a good one. Fun for both of you.
If on the other hand, he shows no interest in learning about your body, your pleasure and your needs, that is evidence pointing to the 'he's a jerk theory'. Anyway, I hope one or both of those pieces of advice help.
If on the other hand, he shows no interest in learning about your body, your pleasure and your needs, that is evidence pointing to the 'he's a jerk theory'. Anyway, I hope one or both of those pieces of advice help.
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I like to share, but absent that option, I'll usually swallow. Some guys just taste wrong to me, and then I spit, but I try to find a way to do it that's sexy.
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Had to stifle a little laugh at this one. Yes. I think most of us do. Of course there are some who don't, and a couple have identified themselves, but I suspect that there are a handful of guys who like to get worked up reading, but for whatever reason, words alone just don't do it for them.
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Yes... once or twice.
I assume we're not counting threesomes, foursomes, and larger groups.
I assume we're not counting threesomes, foursomes, and larger groups.